Sugarcoat

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  1. I’m sorry you’re not a part of the virgin gang
  2. Negative in what way? I struggle with practically zero libido so can’t know how I would feel expressing my sexuality
  3. Human sexuality is such a fundamental part of our lives I think sex can be very healthy and not draining spiritually, when a bond is formed. But if that works for you each to their own
  4. You’re good at writing about it. We are always lost in the movement it seems
  5. That sounds like a lovely experience Edit: Lol I’m the only reply. This forum must be filled with sexless virgins 😂(like me)
  6. Hehe
  7. I think it can go both ways. Porn can be just a reflection of desires and kinks that were already there, or it could create new ones by exposure, or at least feed them.
  8. Eckhart is old and cute
  9. I don’t see it as a trap either. Less but consistent meditation has its benefits
  10. Hahah it’s not something I’ve noticed. I think I’ve been pretty much the same since half a year back or something but maybe not
  11. Y’all be invested in this forum as if it’s paying your bills
  12. Maybe he means it’s not gonna get you to god realization so it’s a mistake thinking it will. But science says even short meditation has benefits, but maybe not for the mystical experiences, there you need more is my guess.
  13. Porn can easily make you desensitized so you need more and more, perhaps more hardcore stuff to get off eventually. The key in my experience to take care of your reward system is to not orgasm to it too often or to the hardcore stuff. The key is in the orgasm. If you can just resist orgasming to it, then you’ll save your reward system, it’s like the orgasm is what etches the neurological pathway in place that makes you rely on the porn and desensitizes you. So my point is if you ever try to quit porn but you end up watching it and getting turned on, don’t think “I failed so I might as well continue” because as long as you don’t reach orgasm, even if you edge, you’re not wrecking your reward pathway so you’re fine if you just stop before the orgasm My pseudo science hehe
  14. I am in the way of god Meaning the self is in the way of god. I can’t see god as long as I’m here.
  15. Is heaven a physical place or realm of some sort? Or an internal state? Or maybe both
  16. Is heaven a physical place or realm of some sort? Or an internal state? Or maybe both
  17. It takes a great mind to recognize a great mind. — Me
  18. 1. From whose point of view? From “gods”? Because some type of suffering just seem negative and doesn’t make life more interesting imo. 2. That’s true. I’ve heard cases of people awakening under deep suffering. But the chance is really small unfortunately it seems. It happens to only a few people, most suffer without awakening. 3. Evolution how? I don’t really understand. Like if we take chronic illness for example , do you mean that people die from illness and those with better genes and health survive so that’s evolution. 4. that’s right, the hard work it takes to get to the top. That’s a struggle we could choose.
  19. I see your point. I think the answer is quite nuanced and it depends on the suffering. For example the suffering you feel when you don’t wanna workout but do it anyways, it’s “worth it” becuase you’ll be closer to your goals if you do workout. The suffering you feel from a heartbreak, is that worth it? Maybe you learn from it not to become too attached or something to someone . So in that sense it was worth it. The pain from a chronic illness? Maybe not worth it. Maybe some things are just bad and don’t offer any worth. So it depends
  20. Trying to adopt a mindset to see struggle as essential or worthwhile somehow is a sneaky way of trying to struggle less. So you’re trying to reduce the suffering at the end of the day. Nothing wrong with that as it’s the natural reaction. I’d say struggle just is, suffering just is, and whatever mindset you adopt about it is just an extra add on to make you feel better somehow
  21. Ok I see