Sugarcoat

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  1. I’d have to come up with a lie, maybe I could say I’m sleeping at my friends house. But honestly I’m done with all that hiding I wanna do it when I live alone. Because occasionally my mom checks my transactions too lol
  2. I swear. I started really low. But yea a trusted trip sitter would be ideal. I want to try common psychs that you mentioned yes. Someday probably when I live alone I will.
  3. Yes but my parents found it and threw it away lol.😅 And I live at home so I don’t wanna risk it and try again. I did 5 Meo lol (maybe not the best idea for a newbie like me) and dmt . I just did a little bit of it, because I was afraid to take a lot. And my technique of administration wasn’t the best because I’m a newbie so some probably got lost But one day when I live alone I’d like to explore it more!
  4. That’s such a mature grounded response. I’ve wondered to myself how it works for men when they desire women, when they feel desperate, seems to be several factors at play, but as you said development level probably plays a role.
  5. Yea i agree! It’s like a spectrum of degrees
  6. I agree. So you think that it can go both ways, that both are traps? Some people think they are experiencing non duality but are just intellectually knowing it on a concept level (their mind making them think they’re actually experiencing it) , while there are others like me who think the opposite: that they are trapped in duality and that it’s so “obvious” that they ARENT “experiencing” non duality. (I do think like this as I’ve said not gonna lie) I lowkey feel like making a post about it. Asking people if they think the latter is a trap.
  7. One thing that can cause non ideal breathing is a distended belly (what’s usually called bloating). Something that contributes to the bloating is the diaphragm being contracted (being down) and pushing on the abdominal contents. This makes breathing more shallow as the diaphragm is not going through as complete of a range of motion. So if you wanna improve breathing it’s crucial you get rid of any abdominal bloating. I used to struggle with bloating massively and managed to cure it and I feel significant improvement in my breathing
  8. Yea because women are much less likely to catcall etc so the type of attention they give is better, women don’t pose as much of a threat to men in general
  9. It’s helpful if you’re trying to lose or gain weight, to get a sense of how much to eat. You can lose weight without tracking simply by reducing portion sizes in comparison to what you usually eat and perhaps reduce meal frequency which is what I’m doing . Tracking calories can also help if you’ve already lost /gained weight and reached your goal weight, and now are trying to figure out how much to eat to maintain weight. I think it would be cool to one day reach a point where you can somewhat eyeball amount of calories because you’ve tracked so extensively for a period, I doubt I’ll ever reach that point but it would be cool, makes it easier to control your weight.
  10. Oh I misinterpreted what you said earlier, I thought you meant it’s not obvious for other people that ~I~ have a sense of self, as it is obvious to me, but you meant that’s it’s not obvious for them if THEY have a sense of self. To that I would say, if you stop someone on the street and ask them “do you feel like you exist” I think 99% of people would answer yes to that question. I think for most people it’s obvious that they have a sense of self. That’s why I wrote how I don’t get how it’s not obvious for people and how they deceive themselves with thinking they have “reached”” non duality “
  11. If reality is absolutely without limit, undivided, no separation actually exists, isn’t that a limit of reality? That it can’t create real separation and limits. Just a thought.
  12. You can’t really judge women’s suffering by just observing them a little. I don’t know what you’re basing it on, but I can mention some things, women are more likely to experience chronic pain. Women might struggle with getting a guy that wants a relationship. Women might get sex but they might get bad sex, porn centers men’s pleasure and men can sometimes focus on their own pleasure or go over women’s boundaries, women suffer harassment and rape more than men. Women might get more attention from men but it’s not always good attention. Women might feel they’re doing unfair amount of household work in comparison to a man (if she’s not a housewife) they might feel like they’re being like a mommy to their man (I’ve heard this from some women). Women might be better emotional intelligence wise than men and feel like men don’t meet their emotional needs. Woman have pressure on them to be pretty and they obsess over appearance, have eating disorders etc Im not minimizing men’s suffering, men have some areas of struggle for example loneliness that is greater than women’s. But in general both sexes have suffering, can’t really say one suffers more like that. I understand you feel burdened by your struggles, I have my own struggles too that I feel burden me. But I’d say it’s not fair to turn it against women, that’s just extra frustration, it’s not helping your issues to compare your struggles to women or hold on to this idea that women have it easier, whatever it’s based on, even if let’s say women did have it easier , what does it help to compare and resent? It’s not productive. It’s a way to not directly deal with the problem at hand Btw I am a bit surprised this topic didn’t get taken down because of the title. But I’m glad it didn’t, I would like for this forum to be a place where we can openly discuss topics even if they come off as “offensive” or controversial.
  13. Awesome work keep it up Maybe Leo says there is no best state of consciousness because there are an infinite number of them. I don’t know that but I think he has said so
  14. Ofc, it’s my own self I’m talking about so ofc it’s not obvious to anyone else
  15. Cool but jokes aside it’s very hard to embrace suffering I’ve been trying to
  16. There could be various reasons for this. One is that we humans are made to be active in nature, we are not really made to be inside much, so it’s natural some get seasonal depression or feel low when inside too much. It could be fomo, fear of missing out of activities you’re imagining you could do outside, or comparing your life with other people, or what’s possible for you. It could be you’re not very comfortable being alone with your thoughts, the inside of your apartment doesn’t give your mind enough stimuli, so whatever is going on inside becomes more obvious and it’s not comfortable. Meanwhile in the past when you played games that was a lot of stimulation to distract your mind. Just some thoughts It’s healthy to be outside I like to take long walks that’s something you can do so you get the recommended daily step count.
  17. How is that possible? What kind of freak are you
  18. Yea it’s just a mental clip trying to picture infinity but it can’t
  19. If someone’s mind is all about non duality it could def change perception of reality so it’s mistaken for “it”. My “obviousness” is just a description of my experience. It’s obvious that I feel like I’m here. Someone said non duality is this experience without the doubt about it. That was new to me but it resonated
  20. That’s how I use the word at least but some use it to describe the entire reality. To me consciousness is duality. I’d agree
  21. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m not having the best time either so I can relate kinda
  22. I don’t get how it’s not obvious for someone that they have a sense of self still. Like for me it’s so obvious I still have a sense of self and haven’t realized non duality. Like how can you fool yourself this way Like it’s so obvious that you’re trapped in duality when you are