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I am stoic and indifferent towards everything except physical suffering. It’s not something I try or want to be, it’s how I am. When I used to masturbate and watch porn in the past I would engage a lot in the imagination of sex I am naturally disengaged i don’t try. It doesn’t achieve intensity quite the opposite. I didn’t understand what you said anyways.

Maybe the self arose that way. I don’t know. But for the person it seems to just plop up during childhood . That’s what I think he talks about, how it appears in one persons lifetime. I don’t think he denies science as a relative truth

He didn’t say it’s a concept he said it’s an experience/appearance which id agree I call it a “sense”

😂😂😂ok I get it

You’re funny. I’d listen to your talks if you did them

No that’s why I asked him

Yea there seems to be an extremely small percent of humans living permanently open to the absolute. It’s like the brain creates the self so something very deep in there has to be shaken maybe spontaneously or through extreme practices and drugs .

Jim Newman , Tony parsons, Lisa cairns are three examples of people who seem to me to be genuinely speaking from that place of “no self” or “source” or non duality, I cannot know with 100% certainty, but it’s just the way they speak, it’s so direct and clear and with no hesitation, it doesn’t sound to me like they’re speaking from a place of having read about non duality then adopting it as a world view. The self seems real to me yea, so I can’t say it’s illusion. They all mention how the self “veils” oneness His message is really simple yea and basic,

73: Women will literally tear all the way through their anus during childbirth yet still decide to have a second and even third child

Who ? Schizophonia?

I didn’t notice you posted this lol

To cope with “real” you mean to cope with reality? By lack you mean I have a sense of lack? So the desire to be stoic is part of my self imagine and it generates manly sexual fantasies because it’s manly trait? Im trying to understand you

Depending on how important gains are to you. But most importantly for gains in progressive overload. And proper muscle activation, gotta feeeel the right muscles when you’re working out.

I think as long as you progressively overload meaning you increase the weight and/or reps(or sets ) you’ll make progress and get stronger.

I have thought about this recently. If something appears exactly as something, then it’s the same as it being it. But I guess it’s infinity seeming limited, because even from a materialistic science perspective, science hasn’t found any actual limits right? Even if you realize your nature, you still have a brain with preferences, and you can still feel physical pain right? That’s why you wouldn’t wanna go to Russian prison for 25 years What you described as your balance sounds amazing

From what I’ve heard someone like Jim Newman seems to be in such a selfless state. He has said things like “killing babies doesn’t matter”. He doesn’t say he is “teaching” either. I bet he doesn’t care.

I don’t understand

I don’t do it anymore. I used to watch it just because it made me horny. I would watch hetero or lesbian porn. Mostly I enjoyed hetero. And i liked to watch it filmed from the male pov, and I imaged what the male felt, I stepped into his shoes, and felt horny by imagining how horny he felt, so it’s like I lived through him, for some reason i couldn’t get horny imagining the woman’s pleasure (only sometimes in lesbian porn)

I remember when I was younger and would watch porn from time to time, what made my horniness much greater was imagining a context to the porn, and like imagining things to add to what I was watching, like a layer of imagination on top of the porn. if I tried watching the porn without imagining anything at the same time, I wouldn’t get horny, like straight on watching with a neutral eye I could also get off from just my imagination alone.

Toxic masculinity is insecure masculinity at its root, it’s masculinity that feels threatened

Isn’t this limitlessness you talk about “no self”? But you mean you don’t wanna be in that “state” permanently? Or can a self be included in this limitlessness, but it’s seen that it’s just an appearance and not absolutely real? That’s a thought that just came to me. Maybe one could juggle both simultaneously

How you know it’s impossible? Because this brain is designed to have sense of self or? How about people like Jim Newman talking about non duality and how there is “no position” , him and few others seem to be permanently devoid of a self. But maybe there’s still some self/ego structure in place I can’t know for sure. They seem to be at peace so that would be desirable imo It would be cool as you say to have no sense of self at will, I’ve not been able to do that. Why would a self be necessary for challenges? Doesn’t the brain still work without it?

I don’t think internet in general should be controlled except for the basic things like banning child porn etc

I’ve never really heard of it being a restriction on porn in the first place (except for maybe North Korea or something), so how come they were able to compare before and after ?

Yea I think everyone has the right to be so called “unhealthy” and it’s up for them to fix that. It’s similar to how I don’t think we should ban unhealthy food but I still don’t think it’s a good thing. As a comparison to porn (it’s not always bad but it can be used unhealthily). Society should provide help for people who want to stop those unhealthy habits, and society shouldn’t promote them , that’s society’s job imo