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One thing I’ve noticed about a lot of people is that they seem quite engaged with what they do in the moment (especially if it’s interesting like travelling) Meanwhile i can be there and feel like im just neutrally observing what’s going on and not feeling engaged nor interested in it. So when people talk about what’s relevant to a specific current situation, you might think it’s just them sticking to what’s “comfortable” to ask in order to strike a convo, and that might happen sometimes, it probably does! But also at the same think I think significant amount of people are genuinely interested in the questions they’re asking you. What seems “fake “ to you might just be an “average” mind being “average”. People are in a way genuinely average it’s not just all insecurity. I’m drawing broad generalization here ofc asking “basic “ questions doesn’t automatically make you “average” and it’s not even clear what that term means I think we shouldn’t concern ourselves too much about how others are unless it’s harmful and focus more on how we are. If we are being authentic or not. So if you are bored of small talk you have the opportunity to be authentic and to lead the convo in another direction and see if the person is open to that. It might lead to them opening up too. I think making a rule that you’re gonna stop something very common socially “asking questions” is a bit too far and sounds like you’re just reacting egoically to situations. But I think it’s worth to evaluate yourself, how you are socially , and try to align that more to how you wanna be, more authentically , even if it’s radically against the norm (might be scary) for your own fulfillment and depth of life. But be careful to not be swept away by som egoic reactions that come in the moment …

Our regular exams are not multiple choice in our country. Rather you answer with text or calculations

If we consider sleep, nutrition, weekly exercise and some socializing as non negotiable for well being, then my impression is that you could fit all those things into your schedule and still become relatively rich by being ultra disciplined and using the rest of the time (as much you need) to use your mind and working smart and hard. People think that working a shit ton, in fast and challenging ways is automatically stressful, no! It’s not inherently stressful! It’s how your mind does it. If your basic survival is tied to it (like you’ll end up on street if you fail, ok exaggeration but you get the point) then yes it’s harder to not stress. Also if you’re like many that create this mental attachment and especially identity around being this person with money and who “ succeeds” then yes it’s also gonna be realllly hard to not stress! So it’s gonna affect your well being. But if you drop those two factors then you can actually use your mind a shit ton and fast without stressing. And you’ll see well being is possible simultaneously Call this a foolish example, but pretty much all my life I’ve had almost excellent grades. For example in my recent exam in uni I got second highest score out of all the 50 people in class. But guess what, I was never stressing about it🤷🏻‍♀️ I am a weirdo, I actually find studying somewhat meditative! It’s about your mind, not the work.

You can evaluate for yourself what category you fall mostly in, are you the one who feels challenged when being alone, or with other people, and let that guide you regarding what situation to seek out for growth. So personally I find it easy to be alone. I am able to get sufficient stimulation from other activities than irl socializing. I don’t have much fomo at all, because I don’t create/crave much of an identity around being someone who “has a life” (in conventional sense) - this could be aspect of why you feel “left out “ (or I am completely wrong here) You may try to identify what are the blocks and neurosises inside you that are obstacles in your journey (could be for example internalized peer pressure like you mention) and does it help you to be alone to overcome them, or does it help you to socialize to overcome them. Or it can be both in different situations . So then you actively seek out the kind of situation (in this case socializing or being alone) that gets you in the direction you wanna develop in So you can see alone time and socializing as an opportunity for growth, and use accordingly . If you’re into that kinda approach to life . But also don’t obsess neurotically about it, if you miss either (socializing in your case or alone time) then understand sometimes life circumstances happen and we are put in sub optimal situations. Take this moment as it is and see what can you do from this moment, rather than stressing about what could’ve been….

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I stand by it it’s just i feel it rather sounds like something a mom would say

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You’re good too thanks and yes I’d agree

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I could answer but maybe it’s sensitive topic for him so ill let him answer

Omg that’s so cute to me that you put in this effort to figure this out 🥺😭 I have been wanting to try healthier desserts, I wanna try this sometime

I think humans first and foremost seek well being. It just happens to be that living a lie can hurt so it can make it seem they’re seeking truth. If you found out enlightenment would cause you hell, would you still pursue it? I think a big factor in the motivation of this pursuit of “truth” is because you think it’s gonna make you happier. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe it happens to be that truth does make you happier (if enlightenment is like som say). In a way that’s good news for us because then we can fulfill that need for well being while at the same time feeling like we’re pursuing the highest thing

Yea I guessed that I just got a funny thought 😆

Congrats 😊 There’s lot of opportunity for growth and development in relationship, that can increase stability, communication and long term happiness. It’s nice when both people are open to try to improve.

That water bill 😭

That’s great! I sometimes bring my arms over my head and back to release some tension in my upper body and it helps to a certain degree so I can see how that video can help. My neck/spine issue is related to compression of the spine. So the number one thing that has helped me the most is lifting my head straight up with my arms and holding for a long time (it decompresses the spine).

I dont think people intrinsically value Christmas in itself, its real meaning, unless they’re genuinely religious. Plenty celebrate, enjoy and value Christmas for the events that are used to celebrate it, in particular the gathering of families. It may come with emotional attachments, nostalgia, comfort etc But those things you could do any day, so I’m similar to you, im indifferent to Christmas in and of itself, I mostly just like being on holiday (meaning not having to work/study) during that time.

It can be held as ideal, but it’s important to be honest with yourself when you do judge, believe/disbelieve something or even hold it as true/not true. If you are presented with any kind of statement, you might notice that for many things you will lean in one direction or the other in terms of if you believe it or not. It’s like how it’s rare you’re truly neutral about something, for most things you’ll have a preference, even if it’s subtle, for it or not. You can adopt a kind of meta view that anything you experience is still happening within your limited perspective, so it might not be absolute. It still doesn’t disprove things like “trans fat is unhealthy” in this “relative” reality but it can create some form of detachment to your views because you recognize for example that a lot has to do with definitions …

I am also like this. When my body feels stiff, it distracts me mentally, makes me less present and attentive to what’s going on outside me, makes it harder for me to sit still to study and focus. I have problems with my spine, so I am extremely tense in my neck/traps/jaw etc 24/7 But 30 minutes neck stretching a day is the only thing that has given me significant improvement Not only that, but I feel uglier when my body feels off. The combo of increased blood flow from running then stretching is best imo. You feel softer and more like your body is able to be used and assist you properly in life instead of distracting you with unpleasant sensations

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Unborntao using the forum to practice his openers

Maybe everyone knows of it already but it’s one of my favorite songs ever

Well I didn’t read the responses talking about rayman I just saw the post about gta 6 so I remember playing older versions in my past and i remember the strip clubs so i assumed gta 6 would have it So I joked about the delay being unfortunate because i wanted to visit the strip club And then you said rayman, meaning if I wanted to visit the clubs in rayman too, i didn’t know what it was so i googled and it said its a game. So i joked that “that too” meaning yea i wanna go to the clubs in Rayman too Hope you can sleep now jk

Well never make a joke again then #burn

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