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Hahaha you have your limits I see

You had me until this part

I’d be on a direct flight to France if it works out for me😏

It was good info thanks. But it seems better as a supplement because you’d have to eat a tonnn of soy to get that benefit from food right it’s not so sustainable. I imagine myself going to the pharmacy and being like “hi so do you have something here to make me more horny” What if I would buy a bunch of supplements for libido and make myself like the ultimate cocktail hahaah or I can just make a thread on actualized about it. Oh

I’m so sorry but the mention of “Mr Girl” reminds me of this guy who was a sexual predator and went under the name “Mr Swirl” as he used a swirl filter for his face to stay anonymous 😂😂😂

Never heard of it. Thanks. Might be worth a try. I found the supplements online I think

So it sounds like the form/structure becomes “transparent” and the absolute shines through . Like they’ve said you realize yourself beyond the self, doesn’t mean the self goes away

Ok I see

Who is Mr girl?

I see what you’re saying I think

Now u making me curious. I don’t think there’s a reason to ban this thread for example

Gonna be hard when you have me and @Schizophonia here jk😹

To connect to your topic, it seems obvious to me that the amount of porn videos would be a reasonable amount, matching the amount of people who have made porn. You’re kinda making a super natural claim, like there’s more videos than humans who have produced them (there are because one human can produce several videos but you get what I mean)

I imagined how the guy felt and focused on his pleasure. Sometimes very deliberately focusing my attention on his dick and imagining how the strokes felt to him. (Lol tmi but I don’t care) I liked it because it was like I could feel his horniness, it was more “animalistic” and “forbidden” and “dirty” , I think that adds to the appeal. (A woman’s horniness in contrast seeming more “pure”) It was also like I intuited that his horniness was very strong perhaps stronger than the woman’s, and so I could feel that through imagining being him.

I was just asking I have nothing against it. I have no experience in this so I’m not the best person to talk but in the past I was shy and it took a lot of exposure and mindfulness combined with it, to finally overcome it and become confident . So be kind to yourself but push yourself accordingly

You want to have sex with women you barely know you mean? Like pure causal hookup

Really imagining myself in guys place. it can be fantasies devoid of myself

@Schizophonia there’s also a kind of horny in my experience that is detached from self concept. Where you can for example step into another persons shoes . For example how I used to be able to get horny by imagining how the guy is feeling, has nothing to do with my self concept. It’s also when it’s the raw physical sensation that is at focus, then it’s just about “getting off”

I see. The things I said could be seen in spiritual way too so it fits this section…

Maybe if you build a deeper connection with a woman beyond looks, where you two really click then that helps overcome the awkwardness if you get what I mean I don’t have to explain myself. That’s the first thought I had. It’s like how a woman might feel secure and relaxed with a man that she knows and bonds with rather than just superficial knowing after just having met. Another thought is if you found a virgin and you could learn together lol.

I just added some thoughts about porn that someone could gain value from damn….

When I was younger and watched porn occasionally I would watch it in a very focused way, focusing on different aspects of it and also imagining like an additional layer of imagination on top of it, adding like a “context” to it, to add intensity for me. I tried a few times to watch porn without doing this. Simply watching it with a neutral eye, not focusing on anything in particular and not adding my own fantasies to it. I noticed I wouldn’t get horny then, it just became neutral to me. Another thing I did is I had some sexual fantasies that felt taboo. So I would refrain myself from indulging in those fantasies , with the hope of neuroplasticity taking its course and me eventually not having those fantasies anymore after a long enough period of time had passed. i found though that even if a year + had passed, they didn’t go away. So one day i did the complete opposite. I just let my mind roam free, and I completely indulged in the porn and the fantasy tied to it, in full intensity. And what happened is that I kinda exhausted it, and I saw how this idea about neuroplasticity was just a belief I held, so that dissolved, and eventually I was free from those fantasies counter intuitively. just some thoughts

I can kinda relate. I dissolved myself so much there’s barely anything left of me . I miss my self

I feel I can know things on relative level which is based on direct awareness, direct experience, in particular something about myself

If you look inward enough you’ll start to dissolve all the layers of yourself. Be careful