Sugarcoat

The first part of the sentence is where I lean too in my view. I’m open to the idea that other type of form are related to self (like maybe the brain producing it). Partly because of my own inner experiences But isn’t there something untruthful about the self? You guys talk about non duality being truth so much, the average human walks around experiencing that they’re super real (meaning separate) isn’t it something illusory about it? It’s cool that you’re spiritual but still able to incorporate science concepts into it. I don’t see those things as completely contradictory either. Even if the experience of consciousness/self awareness seems so different from an object doesn’t mean it’s independent of it

Oh ok that was my guess.

When you say “you had multiple consciousnesses” you don’t mean a single person somehow having access to multiple consciousness but rather reality being expressed as multiple consciousness?

What forum is that?

If we agree self is illusion. And that oneness/non duality is true. Why would reality be limited to produce only one single illusion. Might as well say why would reality be limited to only producing one single experience (the appearances you’re experiencing now, this screen, the noise etc). The illusion is the separation (I don’t know this but let’s say), so it’s this separate experience, so we can’t say “oh it’s all one because what we mean by solipsism is that there is only one universal self” , because that’s not the illusion, that’s oneness, two different things. From what I’m understanding, solipsism is talking about the limited self being only one of that kind. Because if not then it’s just another way of talking about non duality. But you could say that you only have access to your own experience/self, so from your perspective when you experience another person it’s another aspect of your singular experience. But that’s not the same as concluding there’s no illusion happening from any other perspective, in another person, just that you won’t have access to it directly. If I can feel I exist why couldn’t it happen somewhere “else” in all of infinity? I haven’t read so much of the thread just adding some thoughts hopefully I’m not just saying what’s already been concluded 100 times…

Lube?

Why does this post feel like it all boils down to you not wanting to use condom? 🤣 You can be with woman who is on birth control. I haven’t googled this but I guess with some birth control it’s safe enough to skip condom in terms of pregnancy risk Also even if she happens to get pregnant. Make sure whenever you’re with a girl, that she doesn’t want kids or that she’d never have kid if the father doesn’t want it. Maybe it feels weird to bring up if it’s just short term. It’s kinda like asking if someone is tested for std. But I mean its better than being unwanted father… If she is set on that, in worst case if she gets pregnant she’s gonna 100 % have abortion (if country allows abortion, if not then its bigger problem and stronger precautions when having sex are needed)

Eheh Thanks for the tip

I have mentioned before a interview of some guy who apparently managed to overcome (as in not experience it as suffering anymore if I remember correctly) the pain of trigeminal neuralgia through extreme mindfulness practice while he had it. Trigeminal neuralgia is considered one of the most painful conditions, causing pain some describe as 10/10. I’ve seen video of woman hysterically crying and shaking in pain. It’s something that I think about, if you transcend pain you have like unlocked a new level of freedom in life that’s like super human

Another solution is to just meditate on the toilet. My family isn’t so fond of it, but hey, they dont exist, so

Good to know

Do you allow toilet breaks? I did when I meditated for longer. Maybe it interrupts god awakening tho.

I respect the reasoning because I mean, behind the screen you might as well some mega mystic yogi who possesses an exceptionally rare psychic ability that makes you concerned that the state will find you and try to use you for experiments or something, what do i know I had to GOOGLE what tin foil hat refers to, lol

I propose experiment to test validity of your claims. Get a training watch that measures stress. If it’s not “at rest” 24/7 then I don’t believe you 😆

I feel I have to experience something significantly negative from my fellow google to care to switch Its like how people need their nearby forest to be on fire from climate change to finally care about it

Do you truly live by this or is it more a saying, an ideal?

Ok I see

What is hand orgasm? I have experienced some brain awareness too Have you practiced this, if so, wouldn’t you agree it’s “advanced skill”?

But what if your goal is to overcome something you feel is limitation so it’s actually moving you towards more freedom, or maybe you’ll say we should drop the idea of having limitation to begin with?

I did upwards an hour meditation almost every day in parts of high school and to be honest I didn’t find it much helpful in spiritual sense except for creating a temporary calming effect that was good for mind and body, but it didn’t last long I was quickly back to my normal mind later after the session. If you find yourself significantly stressed then it’s good but I have assumption that unless you’re gifted you’re gonna need a lot of more time to get it to give you spiritual transformations, deconstructions. I might be wrong but it’s an impression. Also depending on how your mind operates, when you work on every day things, it can create flow state and be partially meditative too. Like if you’re reading a bunch of material it can put your mind in concentrated state. Or if you’re cleaning you could do it with zero distraction and it can be calming. Not spiritual transformation but mental focus and calm, if it feels necessary.

It makes sense what you’re saying. Maybe I’m just strawmanning a little. But I mean a guy who has average job, average ambition, decent confidence can still get decent woman, he doesn’t have to be top top man with all things going for him like top 10% men. But yea I think confidence in particular matters a lot, maybe more so than career and money.

But do you really think most women want the top guys really, I mean a bit “above” them is one thing, but if a woman is average or below in her “development” etc, then maybe some of her ego feels insecure if she feels they guy is “too good for her”, she might feel inadequate, or that she can’t match him. I don’t know.

Good post I might add more thoughts later but this came to mind. When I’m inauthentic it feels wrong and it bugs my mind I don’t get how people can do it for so long, repeatedly with different people and still gain significant satisfaction. Being authentic is one of my primary sources of satisfaction, or maybe it’s more that it feels like a bare minimum for me, connecting with someone on false basis wouldn’t be able to compensate for that for me Not trying to sound like angel or something im not that, it’s just a sensitivity to oneself I think.

I don’t really understand what that need for extra privacy is about, that goes beyond what regular sites like safari or whatever provide. Maybe I’m just so unaware of what goes on online. Is it about like the Internet gathering data about your preferences and adapting ads to it, or is it a concern about private info leak, or ?

I think a healthy expression of this desire would be to seek out girlfriend and/or sex. It doesn’t have to be explicit like going out and approaching, it could be just socializing with people you encounter in life, school work etc and when it’s a female you asses the vibe and flirt if you feel interest. If you for example use porn a lot it could create addictive tendencies, also certain social media is very sexualized so it could strengthen it too. So i think it’s to be used sparingly, as long you feel it’s in your control and it doesn’t feel like it’s numbing you to real life. Also certain problems like mental health issues, emotional things, can make us more likely to resort to quick pleasure to feel ease. So if you generally work on trying to be healthy mentally then a healthy libido would usually follow. Although some naturally have higher libido so it’s not always dysfunctional but it could become problem in similar way as some people have higher appetite and can get fat easier. So it requires self regulation an awareness to find balance