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It seems different women have different difficulty in orgasming from purely penetration so yea

I know the feeling. I used to have big nose but I underwent rhinoplasty so now I’m content with it. I feel nose is worse because it’s the middle of your face so it affects appearance so much. Especially as a woman it looks less good to have really big nose

How can you single out a single race like that it’s so much diversity lol

That to me sound like some subtle homophobia hahaha . It’s like saying “well both man and woman are Homo sapiens so fucking a woman is like fucking a guy ahah”

I kidded but yea I’ve heard too that penis and vagina have similar origin when they develop in pregnancy

Does it help you come to imagine her pussy as a penis?

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I shall be skinny 👹

We are aware of thoughts but simultaneously they kinda make up our self. It’s like how we are aware of reality but our mind can also affect how we perceive reality so it gets intertwined with our perception

I can also find myself in a loop

I’m not always sure where that urge comes from. It’s hard to identify sometimes if it’s real hunger or simply boredom and a desire for quick pleasure. In the latter case, I don’t expect those urges to dissapear completely, because nowadays food is tasty and the brain knows, so it’s maybe unrealistic to expect to not crave it even if you’re relatively full. I just wanna stick to eating my plan irregardless of them Yes I will try that. I don’t think it’s a problem to eat sweets occasionally either, it’s just sometimes I overeat on them. Sometimes I can be attracted to the idea of limiting it severely though I don’t feel guilty from pleasure, rather that it feels messy, kinda depleting when it’s excessive in the moment, and sometimes it takes my focus away from tasks Yes I’d agree. It occasionally interferes when I procrastinate sleep and study to listen instead. I sometimes daydream when I listen to music and it makes me more absorbed in my thoughts which I don’t find as an optimal state

I’ve had the exact same thought. Like if something exists there’s a logic to it no matter how twisted it might be, including supernatural and all that

I see. I recognize it’s just words for me now and maybe intuition too but I like discussing it anyway

That’s an interesting observation. Because I have came to a point in my life I have overcome shyness, I don’t feel afraid to talk to people. But I still find myself just an uncomfortable around some people. The best is to be authentic, and simultaneously keep developing yourself so your authenticity improves

Ok I notice we occasionally use words without knowing the proper definition. I googled addiction and it sounds more severe than I have. So I could perhaps say I am mildly addicted . “Unthinking indulgences “ is good description, because it’s like you’re acting from impulse Acting from impulse is in a way one of the nicest feelings, because it feels effortless and natural. It’s just sometimes our impulses drive us to do things that might interfere with obligations and can feel like our mind is all over because we’re so stimulated So id like to get to a point where my impulses feel more balanced Yes it’s a good mindset. Even if it takes some time the craving will probably pass

@Schizophonia I agree I think daydreaming and using music to support it, is partially caused by an unstable or lacking sense of self irl and that you’re not expressing yourself how you want and are insecure. So it’s important to work on those things I will try and see what benefits unhooking myself gives me

I am able to stick to my diet plan significant amount of time. But sometimes I overeat on weekends, on sweets for example, and sometimes I find myself going back and forth to the fridge and snacking Regarding music. It gives me significant dopamine. So almost immediately upon waking I crave it. And I find myself listening when I’m on my way somewhere. When I’m getting ready for bed. Sometimes I’ll procrastinate studying and instead vibe to music So basically it is a problem to a certain degree. It’s not super major. But I feel I wanna get to point where there isn’t such a frequent urge to indulge . By addiction I mean I feel a very frequent urge and it can feel hard to stop

Some non dualist say “the self never happened/the story never happened”. As if it’s not even something arising in reality because it doesn’t exist. I don’t know ofc . It’s just deep to me…

I feel occasionally when i don’t click with someone , a factor can be that I don’t feel fully comfortable around them , or I’m not being fully authentic (not that I’d automatically click with them if I was fully authentic but basically I can’t know) . But maybe you’ve passed that stage. Otherwise I agree

I can only speak for myself but id say I have a relatively deep mind and I enjoy deep convo but I am currently hooked on certain addictions like social media. It does affect my mind ofc, I could probably be even more interesting if I unhooked from those things (I’m working on it) but it’s possible for them to co exist So I think it’s worth to be the one to lead convos where you want them to go, in a way that feels fitting, because you might reveal things about the person you didn’t expect… I definitely agree. Yes. You both have the factor of just having to expose yourself to enough people in the right places to increase the chance of finding someone that matches you, and also importantly expressing yourself authentically so people have opportunity to connect with you authentically, if you play that down you can form shallow connections instead …

I’ve also passed my phase of social anxiety in my life and developed enough social skills to be able to socialize and attract partners (but I’m still very much introverted) I think when you come to this point it’s mostly a matter of just exposing yourself to more people, at the right places, taking opportunity to talk. Maybe you do that enough already so sorry if I’m stating the obvious. But let’s say you’re a guy like yourself and you go to nightclub then maybe chance is very low you’ll find a woman of your wavelength , but if you look at the right places the chances are higher. Also maybe obvious again, but have you tried to have deeper convos with women or do you more just vibe as usual and kinda wait for them to show signs of depth. Because sometimes people might reveal it when someone else goes to that place first.. idk. Like you might not notice the depth of someone if you don’t initiate that type of convo first I hope mods don’t remove this topic thinking it’s offensive or something because it’s genuinely interesting and we need to be able to talk about flaws of humanity, in respectful manner ofc🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️

Death is not guarantee of something better. It could be worse. Or the reincarnation cycle could just continue, so staying the same. So really think deeply about it. You could start with what feels most accessible to change. Something like your mindset if that feels doable, how you think about external circumstances. If you’re in physical pain it’s a trickier thing.

I think it’s based on how you feel. If you feel energetically stable throughout the day without excessive caffeine or if you’re in mania or something then it shows you’ve gotten enough sleep. It’s hard to lie to yourself, when you feel tired you’re most likely gonna feel it. And it’s the first sign of sleep deprivation, other less obvious health effects come later so tiredness is the easiest predictor I have recently changed into going to bed exactly 8 hours before waking. So I’m getting a bit less than 8 hours of sleep because it takes a little time to fall asleep. I’m gonna try and see how I feel. I think you could just experiment with it, if you wanna save time it’s good idea, then if you feel good you know it’s enough One tip tho is to reduce stress level as much as possible because the more peaceful you are the more restoration your body gets throughout the day and you’ll need a bit less sleep

Yes I think it’s good idea I find one challenge with socializing tho is that if you’re not naturally very social (gain a lot of dopamine from social interactions in general) then you’re gonna be quite selective about which people you click with, you’re only gonna gain significant satisfaction and feel flow when you click with someone So when you meet people you’ll gonna go through a lot of convos that you feel aren’t flowing so good and you don’t click with them. And at times it can feel discouraging. But you gotta keep going because eventually you’ll find that person you click with well

Some people say, and I have thought along these lines, how it all kinda boils down to the brain, its chemistry etc then secondarily the body (for psychological health). Even someone like sadghuru sometimes can say something like how you are like a chemical soup. But then don’t make the mistake of limiting this chemistry to the physical. You could say the mind/psyche/personality is manifestation of this. But also it goes the opposite way, so the mind etc affects the inner chemistry. So a bad mind means some kind of bad chemistry, but it doesn’t mean to fix the bad chemistry you should fix the physical (like your hormones or get a medication or something). It could mean what you actually need to do is fix your mind. And in turn that will balance the chemistry. So when people exclude physical health and just speak of the mind, they might not agree but the mind plays into health, so it’s actually linked and they’re speaking of health too It’s just a matter from which side you attack it. By changing your mindset, challenging your fears, meeting and talking to people, meditating etc, all those things change the mind and it will in turn change your chemistry . So don’t be fooled by thinking you have to deal with the chemistry exclusively via the chemistry itself…