Sugarcoat

I relate to you regarding being a saver and I’ve had a little troubles with family regarding money. what I have realized myself is that this frustration, fear and negativity is not caused by their behavior, but rather it is coming from my own insecurity/lack of trust in my own ability to communicate with these people and set boundaries .

Yea that’s understandable. Those things you do for your health tho like you said obsessively , do you do them because youre drawn to it or more do you believe they will be healthy for you so you do them no matter if you’re in the mood or not for it

Maybe you’re doing things because you believe you should somehow rather than being naturally attracted to it, then you would have like needless energy for it

Sure

So I have this neck hump right. And I’ve suffered from it for years, by it causing severe muscle tension leading to jaw and tmj pain etc. As I’ve become more aware of my body I have noticed clearly that this is not a soft curve that can be corrected through exercises and good posture. Those have gotten rid of the pain yes but haven’t moved the curve as it is my spine causing it. The main problem I have noticed is that my thoracic spine lacks proper curvature, causing the curve to be compensated for higher up creating the neck hump. I went to a physiotherapist recently and he confirmed all my suspicions. Nothing he told me was new to me. There is no way this neck hump can correct itself if my thoracic spine stays lacking in curve like this. It’s not physiologically possible through my own independent scientific analysis. I wonder, is there any way to create more curve in it? I’ve googled and I’ve seen different movements and stretches but they don’t seem strong enough. I’ve tried my own semi psychotic methods such as pressing on my chest to try to force the spine back, laying on a ball on my chest for the same reason, moving my spine in weird directions, violently pressing on it etc, all to try to induce this curve, but damn it is rock solid. So I’m asking here as I suspect crazy people like me might exist here who might have some ideas to share. Anyone knows? Cmon I’m trying to have a sexy spine for my soon up coming vacation. How hard can it be…. I will be seeing chiropractor after and hopefully he can help me but my patience is running out I can’t live one more day with this subhuman deformity y’all ?

Preach. And part of this awareness is also being able to sense when something is a belief/mental . So who knows maybe something is unhealthy in FACT, but how you experience and relate to that, wether that’s a belief or actuality requires awareness to recognize , lol or am I completely off here

Wow wow. I can’t convey to you in words how deeply this resonated with me. You posted this at just the right time. It’s what I’ve been intuiting all along and I thought I was the crazy one…. I thought I was the one who was confused this is extremely profound . Thanks for sharing this gold, bless u from the bottom of my heart

Now that you mention. Maybe it’s time for me to try yoga after all. There must be a reason so many in spiritual communities talk about it

What is this “real” mathematics called? . I’m a highly visual thinker but struggled with the math in school and have thought its not my strong suit but now since you made that distinction it got me curious.

Interesting observation! my spontaneous thoughts : people of “lower consciousness “, since their ego is more “dense” they cling more hard to certain beliefs and ways of thinking. This is direct limitation to their intelligence as intelligence requires openness to be able to blossom and develop otherwise it is tied and limited to whatever suits the persons identity and survival if that makes sense. So the mind is bound up instead of being more loose and free to make connections etc So perhaps it is the opposite - higher awareness/enlightenment leading to more intelligence instead of higher intelligence leading to higher awareness /greater chance for enlightenment ??

Beautiful. Have thought about this too recently, you put it into words elegantly.

The more standing the better I find so not bad advice i hang upside down sometimes too just a tip it’s great

wow I love that description that’s my experience a lot of the time

I guess it depends what you do w that “consciousness “

C’mon dude. Just do it. I just turned 20 myself let me tell u the fact you’re on this forum lowkey suggests you’re above most guys, especially our age lol . So if they can talk to girls so can you sometimes I’ll go to a bar or club because some friend or relative wants to so I just follow along and despite my desperate attempts at being as open minded and optimistic as possible I cannot help but be underwhelmed each time. Just like you I’m not there for guys I’m there to hang w friend but I’m still open and chit chatty if someone comes to us but whenever some guys starts to hit on me they’re always wack or maybe funny at most not to be rude or anything . And still if it’s just friendly company it’s still underwhelming and I’m drained after every night out if I was out and some “actualized “ dude started to talk to me I’d probably be filled with pure bliss in my soul so please don’t hold back

Creativegod

I totally get what you mean the thing is that your “productivity “ etc doesn’t depend on your solitude - rather you are the one who is using solitude to grow yourself so that part of you that uses solitude to grow yourself is more fundamental than the circumstance of solitude as there are people in this world who spend time alone without growing themselves So what I’m saying is that socialization is not an obstacle to your growth - but rather it is how you use socialization that determines your growth in the same way it is the way you use solitude that determines it So you don’t lose anything when socializing, as the thing that makes you grow is this intelligence in you that uses outside situations, not the other way around ; outside situations allowing you to grow. And you’re asking how to do it. I’m going through this myself so idk many answers yet but we’re in this together just so u know ?

well I was trying to help you to become more aware of and dissolve that ego you talk about by trying to trigger it lol ?? and I don’t mean macho ego. That’s not the vibe I got. What I mean more is that when she’s telling you her story - your reaction to it, according to your description was to see her as this poor girl you want to help, something like that, so you have created this role for yourself in a way (what I meant by ego, it’s not bad I’m just highlighting this dynamic) And that is understandable since that is what she is conveying to you and ofc some empathy is natural ! Nothing wrong with that. But then you feel all this pressure to find best solution , what to do etc . But you might miss that the deeper problem here is these insecurities in her that is the foundation that attracts negative situations. I’m not saying it’s her fault absolutely not at 12/13 I can’t blame anyone! I’m just saying, if your girlfriend continues to be insecure like that, unfortunately she might find herself in more bad situations. So the deeper problem here are those insecurities . And those are up to her ultimately - not you. so no need to feel pressure on yourself to fix it and find perfect solution . As that isn’t really helping her, but rather the opposite it strengthens her “helplessness” in some way even And then ofc the tips others say about trying to get justice in some way through for example contacting uni etc that is reasonable because of course such people like that guy deserve some consequences one could say But the deeper solution here isn’t dependent on wether that works or not is what I’m saying.

Yes that’s what I understood. I was confused tho about what age they are now , so how long ago it was and I was mainly referring to this overall pushover/low self esteem tendency that he describes about her, which is something that might last long after the incident if one doesn’t change fundamentally. I was also around that age when I sought attention from guys btw , so it’s still valid point for me

Yes. I was mainly referring to this overall pushover/low self esteem tendency that he describes about her, which is something that might last long after the incident if one doesn’t change fundamentally. I was also around that age when I sought attention from guys btw , so it’s still valid point for me

Good job feeding your little grandiose ego about yourself being some hero guy who’s going to save your poor little girlfriend. That is honestly all you’re doing here with this, feeding your own ego but believing it’s coming from some deep compassion. You’re not really helping her at all with this. She has deep problems within herself that she needs to get her shit together and solve herself. By playing into this role of this savior guy you are simply confirming her weaknesses once again rather than helping her. and this is coming from a woman who herself has a history of people pleasing and seeking validation from guys in my teens. No body but herself can bring her out from this, sure you can support her in the process but the way you want to do it is just feeding into the same pattern sorry to break it to you. @integral was onto something here with those replies. It’s not about blame, it’s about seeing the role she has in this and how it’s up to her to change it fundamentally

How does he react when u point this out I’ve also been dealing w stuff like this. In a way it’s a challenge to grow how one deals w people

That’s how it be sometimes!

Thanks u too!

Your sensing is something else haha