Sugarcoat

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  1. What is up with people so casually suggesting escorts and prostitutes as an alternative there is something about it that ignites a rage somewhere inside me how can you not see clearly how incredibly exploitative this industry is and how buying sex is contributing to this exploitation . Don’t people have empathy for the suffering of these people (mostly women), or are people just so blind to it.
  2. I see you projecting your own insecurities
  3. You are already channeling sexual energy through this post and your profile even if you might not be aware of it yourself Imaš vec to u sebi
  4. I bet you can’t beat me . This post was just me sugarcoating it a little
  5. Typical neurodivergent people to not have proper melatonin regulation
  6. That’s not the energy you’re giving off tho haha gotta work on that
  7. Okay good now you have more clarity. So entire ego isn’t problem because perhaps it’s possible to have positive and peaceful ego , now how can you get there? Perhaps more achievable than no ego - and it leads to your goals (no negativity) well….. It’s possible to not be affected by that..
  8. How about narrowing down even more what you don’t like. Ego is very broad term. What is it about your ego you don’t like? Who said you need retreat for that
  9. I don’t understand what is the suffering in this disconnection? I’ve had these “mental illnesses” for a big portion of my life. You are still connected to something, some world and some sense of self although it deviates from norm and is perhaps more diffuse, because if you weren’t connected to any self /world then you wouldn’t be able to recognize this “state” as a thing. It needs contrast to exist
  10. I’ve experienced what would be considered derealization /depersonalization for a big portion of my life. In a sense you could say it has been my default state. In my case I would say it’s more neurological rather than relating to poor mental health. i would say this with derealization/depersonalization you still have a sense of self and external reality it’s just that this deviates from the “normal” sense. It’s not the same as “no self” and “no world”. You still have a quality to yourself and the world but it’s just different also in my experience - when I had my awakening to awareness / “shift “ - the depersonalization and derealization continued but the fundamental way in which I related to it changed you could say. The shift was more fundamental than those things Also those things don’t have to be a problem either. Conventionally they are associated with suffering - I’ve never understood this. I’ve had these “mental illnesses” for a big portion of my life but it has never caused me significant suffering…what is so scary about things not feeling super real ? Haha I don’t get it ? also …in order for you to recognize these states. You have to have some real sense of what “normal “ reality is that stands in contrast, perhaps you have memory from the past or something, so there is something that seems real to you, but you don’t seem connected to it. You cannot walk around and experience “nothing seems real” becuase if nothing seems real then you wouldn’t be able to recognize it. You have to have some sense of something that seems very real that stands in contrast. So in these mental states you still are connected to “realness” in some way, perhaps it’s buried deep in your psyche, but it just seems further away from your access or something . “Awakening” contains all of this and is more fundamental I would say
  11. don’t you enjoy your own presence ? dancing to music might help
  12. this post was mainly humorous for me. But I mean for what a lot of people here call “enlightenment “
  13. I keep mentioning desire over and over again so you’re def onto something here
  14. if you desire enlightenment - like you seem to do - doesn’t that mean that you sense there is something desirable about it to you? what is desirable about a “change in the context of existence”? it’s almost as if you are missing something to your definition of it. Isn’t the first step to getting what you want, knowing what you want? You say : “Nontheless, a clear and present state of mind is certainly mere conductive to awakening then being drunk for example.“ if you attain a clear and present state of mind - doesn’t any desire for something to come as a result of it disrupt this very state? It’s almost paradoxical then
  15. People seem to experience that they can tho - that’s the part I’m trying to poke holes at here. I’m trying to say that you can seek anything but enlightenment , not that I know what it is, which is exactly my point, as anything we seek is something we have somewhat defined and thus ~know~ what it is You say : “It's just that most people don't because they are stuck tightly to the dream. They have survival needs and they only care about surviving in this dream as the self. “ Is it anything a self has ever done that isn’t exactly this? You seem to suggest most people are like this- and then there are a few of us that aren’t and thus are able to awaken. All selves ever only know dream and survival. A self cannot try to end itself as that’s just it trying to know the end of itself. It’s a desire for ~something ~ masquerading as desire for nothing. This kind of rhetoric evokes an attempt in people to try to end this “survival game”. But that is also the survival game. Trying to get out by the same means you are in it in the first place. How can I say this. I’m trying to communicate something. Basically. You won’t loose anything by engaging in this dream, because you’re already doing it and it is the only thing you can do.