Sugarcoat

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  1. Eckhart Tolle was asked what he thinks about alcohol. And he said something along the lines of how if your state of consciousness is so fragile it’s affected by a few drinks then it’s nothing high (something like that) and I think a correlation could be drawn to sex. If you develop a solid high state of consciousness and mysticism, a little sexual desire and sex here and there shouldn’t be enough to wreck it if it’s really stable in you
  2. You sound reasonable and normal. Yea I don’t really have good tips but just you’ll have to figure out what feels most worth it for you to do. You’re not alone with feeling an urge to explore others outside your relationship because the person you’re with affects your experience so it’s normal to want different types of experiences. You’re young too so it might feel too early to settle down and you might wanna explore yourself and others more. It can be tricky but it’s important to be honest with oneself full heartedly about one’s desires which it seems you are, because you don’t wanna be living in a lie, in denial of your true desires
  3. It was nothing special 😂😂😂😂
  4. What I’m going to say is coming from a virgin so it’s to be taken with a grain of salt😂 Maybe figure out how your attraction works for you. Are you someone that values physical appearance in attraction a lot or are you more oriented towards personality or a nice mixture of both? You specified “physical” type so I’m guessing you’re talking about appearance. If you find you tend to be really attracted to a particular appearance and it makes you extra horny it could be worth exploring. An example could be how some guys are very looks oriented, seems so more than women are, so they genuinely can have a more ecstatic experience if they sleep with a bombshell vs a more average woman. So if that’s you then maybe it’s worth going for it. You’d have to weigh in your mind what feels most important to you, exploration or your current relationship. Or communicate this to your partner and see if they’re open to have something more open LOL maybe that is not something you’d want
  5. @Schizophonia I mean that as you say in infinity there’s probably a lot of things happening at once so in some dimension of reality there exist valentinE and me doing lesbian things
  6. It’s probably happening
  7. And female is opposite of male so you might as well be gay 😂👍🏻
  8. I might start exploring what my mind does when I suffer to see if there is a difference. It seems resistance is deeply unconscious so it can be very hard identify and undo, it’s like we are working against our biology because we are wired to resist pain and mental suffering. Shutting the mind is hard . We can do it by focusing directly on a sense perception for example pain, or like breathing in meditation. Then you gotta return to it over and over when you get sucked back into mind.
  9. It can both be hard to treat yea..
  10. I don’t have human relation suffering anymore
  11. Why you say allah in particular?
  12. Yea who knows what is true. I agree with him I’ve always since young age been very disturbed by all the suffering that exists. Recently I’ve been introduced to the idea about how resistance contributes to or even causes the suffering. Shinzen young talks about it. It’s a tough pill to swallow but it would be cool if there exists legit ways to overcome suffering. That’s everyone’s goal at the end of the day as humans in this form.
  13. I think physical pain can be equally as bad as mental, just depends on the degree. Yea it’s best to try to heal it. But in cases it can’t be healed the possibility of transcendence/acceptance can be explored. I recently saw a YouTube video of a guy with trigeminal neuralgia aka “suicide disease “ (one of the most painful conditions) who transcended his suffering through extreme mindfulness practice. It’s incredible but the caveat seems to be that it’s very difficult to attain. Shinzen young whom he studied talks about it
  14. I am member in forums where people vent about their diseases and pain. So it seems those that claim they’re not suffering are exceptions. I try to have open mind to possibility of transcending pain but it seems extremely difficult to do.
  15. I have experienced in my own experience that dissolving layers to the self gets rid of mental suffering. But physical suffering is another puzzle to solve. We have so many people nowadays with painful diseases how do we solve the problem of pain. Seems there’s no escaping it. Some say it’s the resistance to pain that causes the suffering but I’m having a hard time identifying that resistance, it’s a tough pill to swallow.
  16. Yea that’s the thing. If we end suffering in this life maybe next life we’re back again with a new self , suffering . Damn man no way out of this game. Might as we’ll focus on this life it’s hard enough
  17. What do u mean by wanting a hero?
  18. People will talk crap about the rat race and normie life and be on their little actualization path only when they get to a ripe age to settle down with a partner for the normie life LOL SIKE🥸💀😂
  19. I have came to a point where I genuinely feel my only fear is physical pain. Genuinely I have dissolved my other attachments. I used to have social anxiety , not anymore. I used to be afraid of the idea of being stuck in eternity, not anymore. I actually don’t have a strong sense of time. When you are calm inside, why would it matter if it lasts forever? It’s only when you suffer you don’t want it to last. I used to be claustrophobic, but I don’t feel like that anymore. I mean, I don’t find myself in small spaces so I can’t know how I’d react, but the idea of silence in a small space doesn’t scare me. It seems almost impossible to overcome the fear of physical pain. I heard a story of a man who overcame it but it seems extremely hard to attain
  20. But sometimes we don’t accept
  21. I agree with this on a very fundamental level. Like I’m not scared of people, I’m scared of reality, infinity, all the horror it can possibly create and does create. Human is a particular form that manifests in particular ways But then on another level, I don’t see this as excuse to be passive. At the base a human is just reality in motion, and it’s gonna be how it is, but what’s included in this manifestation of reality is the possibility for the human to change. And I think that’s what we should focus on. Us humans have one problem and that is suffering. It’s a commonality for all of us in society. Our focus should be how can we reduce suffering for all. Even if that means changing our very relationship to suffering and even embracing it, if that counterintuitively relieves us from it.
  22. How to embrace suffering ?