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When you indulge too much in the modern easily accessible pleasures your dopamine system gets “drained” and you end up not being able to enjoy it as much as if you did it more sparingly. I think a balance is key, sure if you wanna go the extreme route and unhook yourself from the pleasures all together that would probably create a richer experience of life as more mundane things will be enough to give you some “dopamine”, but I think it’s nice to include some of that pleasure but sparingly and if you do it sparingly you’re able to enjoy it more than if you do it too often because you’re not draining your dopamine. That’s ideal imo. A simple example is if you eat sweets too much it stops being as tasty. That’s how it works for the brain. Maybe I sound too obvious lol. Sometimes I be like that

I didn’t know what else to say honestly hahah😹I don’t understand how “just ignore them” is narcissistic/arrogant

What you seem to want more specifically is the ability to be detached. So that’s like the main thing you’ve identified from the ascetic monks mindset that you wanna adopt. So focus on that one. Sometimes just staying away from the things and people we are attached to forces us to eventually let go of the attachment, but you said you wanna remain the lifestyle you have, so that might not be an option. Observe your mind when it acts in attached way that is one step, it’s hard to be neutral observer but it’s possible

I see

100 g bark, i didnt weigh the yield so I cant answer that but it was just a little bit

He over exaggerated for fun. It actually went well. The only con was that my parents eventually found my stuff and threw it all away. That’s a bit of a story

What you’re describing is the average human. And yes they are ridden with so called low consciousness tendencies. But there is a way to elevate that through having a healthy ego. An ego isn’t always a bad thing, it’s judge mental and neurotic tendencies that’s kind of built into its design can be improved through creating a healthier ego. Because at the end of the day almost everyone will have an ego, and then might as well have a healthy highly developed one. Because even those few people that tap into non dual state (I think the flow state can be non dual too) always return back to the ego after, so might as well improve it. A ego is always gonna have its judgments and neurotic tendencies but it can be greatly reduced. So you could develop a kind of “highly conscious” ego. That’s a bit of a paradox but in a way it’s possible. An ego that has experienced the loss of ego for example, when returned to can be more “conscious” than before. That’s how I see it.

When you say being present it sounds to me like you mean a calm, non emotional, stress free, state with less thought. And yes from that frame of mind one can make better decisions. It’s easier to use one’s intelligence when one is calm and collected aka present

I’ve tried to extract dmt from mimosa hostilis root bark at home, and it worked, although I didn’t get that much dmt from it, but I vaporized it and it worked (I only got a small effect from it because I’m a beginner when it comes to vaporizing or psychedelics in general so didn’t have the best technique) @Schizophonia was the one who showed me the tek I needed to buy some equipment . In general it was a fun project to undertake imo

Hahah thats good you tagged me because I do have input in this

If she didn’t care about losing you she wouldn’t go to the date at all. With work is different because you have an obligation to work

Ok

Doesn’t the price vary too?

Ok you’ve got some input from real life experience. Maybe it varies though depending on the escort and the circumstances surrounding their “work” , what got them in it, how “luxurious” they are etc

Ok so they don’t have to “be good “ to please the customer so they just do the bare minimum you mean?

When I say good in bed I mean the physical pleasure aspect. It’s just my assumption because their job is to please their customer and they have a lot of sex with many different people maybe they become good at that physical aspect of sex, but what do I know

”just ignore them” is more specific referring to people meanwhile “just let go” is more general and can be used for anything they both have their place.

This works if you don’t desire any emotional connection through sex, and authentic sexual tension/connection, or feeling desired. Which to me seem like the best parts of sex, but if you can do without them and only desire the physical part then yes escort will get you that, and probably in a good way too because the escort has a lot of sexual experience so will be good in bed. So it has its pros and its cons. Also you don’t get that personal development that comes from the process of attracting women

You live there not us so it’s hard to judge. You gotta look around and see if there’s an abundance of women (women you’d find attractive). It’s a start, you don’t know how your gaming is gonna go before you try, you could land a girl early on, if not, if you start getting close to a thousand approaches and feel you’re running out of attractive women then maybe it’s time to try a new place, but that takes a lot of time so before you get there your little city will do

This story taken out of context sounds like you’re the one being petty. Because being a little late is no big deal and as has already been said they don’t owe you an explanation. But we don’t know what she has done previously so it’s hard to judge, but this alone is a reach, you assuming she doesn’t respect you because she’ll be late

So you don’t struggle with getting horny it’s that the horniness doesn’t make you hard? That’s tough. Maybe you’ve done this already but you could write about it on Reddit to see if someone can relate. I live with practically zero libido so I can kinda relate. I’m at peace with it but I understand you are not

Must be very fulfilling to know the other person is only sleeping with you because you paid, with zero connection…

For sure

My guess is that meditation calms both the mind and the body on a physical level. So normally when you go about your day you might be heavily engaged in your thoughts, but when you sit down and meditate you are trying to observe your thoughts neutrally so less engagement in them so they can calm down from that. And it calms the body on a physical level and stress can be stored and maintained through tension in the body so staying still calms that down and can dissolve that tension

I’d say sit down for a while and really contemplate what it is that you want. Also don’t have pressure on yourself to be passionate, being less passionate (which I have been lately) is another way of living, it might be a more relaxed mindset and approach to life, nothing wrong with that. Doesn’t mean you have to settle for mediocrity you could still pursue something beyond mediocrity without having a burning desire for it, at least having some interest, that’s what I do as I struggle with feeling that strong passion too. So you could take upon something without feeling that strong passion, to at least be moving in a more desirable direction in life. Sometimes we might fear that we are getting too old to succeed in life or if we’re not passionate enough we won’t have enough motivation to succeed but that’s to me just unnecessary suffering for the most parts and could come partly from ideals from society about what’s the ideal life etc. So deconstruct those too if you have them, so that you can find for yourself what you truly want regardless of what feels like a hindrance and what society says. It seems to me some brains are more visionary than others. Doesn’t mean you can’t be if you don’t have this type of personality but I’ve always had a vivid imagination naturally and some I’ve talked to just don’t seem to naturally. You might have a desire for something you feel would boost your ego, you could try to identify that. Like maybe you have some idea of some self image of being a certain way that seems cool to you. Like maybe being rich. That could be a part of your vision and doesn’t have to be dismissed as just ego stuff