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The ego is very good at finding something for itself to create a pleasant identity from. So for example if you’re ugly it will create pleasant identity out of something else that it can for example being funny or good at a certain craft or expertise. Being more beautiful doesn’t equal being more happy. One can get attached to one’s beauty and suffer the constant maintenance needed or fear things such as weight gain etc.

”The number one thing valued in women is physical beauty” Ive been saying this

The ego is limiting, it attaches itself to stories and identities and automatically must judge whatever is in opposition, so it indeed stands in the way of love sometimes, and by letting go of it we can embrace more of this love.

For me the ego is just the entire human self that is a mental construct of the brain

If your version of being authentic doesn’t “work” it’s because you haven’t worked on yourself enough.

Is the goal to be yourself or to study someone else’s techniques and try to emulate it?

So dating apps are very looks based. But there’s always people at every level of looks to match one’s own level, so below average people can still get matches. Also who knows but basically around 50% of the population is above average in looks by definition so maybe they are dominating in the statistics

What stops you from doing cold approach in a city if you want to?

I’ve shared it before here in this forum but I feel it’s even too weird for this place so I don’t wanna share it again… it’s not really spiritual either Very cool sharing, unlike anything I’ve heard before. Yea I don’t know for sure exactly what’s going on with you, but I think as long as it’s not causing you too many problems it’s something worth exploring. If it ever becomes too much you could reach out for help either by doctor although maybe they can’t help because they deal with conventional things, but just in case if it would be a misunderstanding from your part on what’s going on it can be worth a try. Other than that it was a good idea of writing about it here since there can be some knowledgeable people here although I’m not so knowledgeable in this matter at all so I don’t have too much to add. I myself am fascinated with my own experiences of for example sleep paralysis, some energies, dreams etc so it’s an area to explore. Also finding some spiritual teacher within this area could be a possibility. Other than that I think it’s a good idea what you said before about focusing also on more practical things in your life such as making money and finding friends (if you feel that desire). To create a kind of balance and then you could explore these unusual but interesting phenomena’s on the side.

So I’m not the only one with some seemingly insane things going on… May I ask though how do you know it’s kundalini energy? I’m open to this. So each mudra means something and the kundalini talks to you by making you do involuntary mudras throughout the day you mean? Apart from speaking through your mouth, so it’s your voice speaking?

I think this is blown over proportion. Many people like to club so obviously there will be clubs left as there is still major profit to be made from it. The demand is still there.

White chocolate is tasty in small amounts

You’re saying you’re the best source?

Be wary of who you listen to when it comes to nutrition.

Ok I see

That's not what not owing someone means

Haha ok. I get your point. But Id still say those two things mentioned aren’t comparable

You think being violated is comparable to not finding a partner?

You def have a point in this. It sounds counterintuitive but I myself have experienced how the mind can amplify things.

This might sound like very basic and mainstream advice and I know you’re struggling financially so this might be a difficult option but consider medication being able to help you. I’m on meds and have experienced for myself how significant of an effect those chemicals can have. Sometimes a strong medication can help. It’s not something that will fix everything, the tips everyone else gave was good. But it can be something that can help calm you down for example. As an addition to everything else you might be doing to try to help your situation.

Ok then we are on a similar page👍🏻

Don’t know if I should laugh at this I see your point here. There is ofc a problem with some men struggling with loneliness. The question is then how that problem should be handled. Ofc anyone can feel free to try to help somehow but because relationships is a special area in that it deals with the access to women, in that sense we don’t owe men relationships, in fact nobody owes nobody it. When it comes to loneliness I think a lot of responsibility is on the individual themselves to try to change themselves somehow and work to satisfy that need on their own. Seeking help in therapy if needed etc. There’s not really a fixed trait, maybe in extremely rare cases, that hinders a person from finding a partner. Even if you are handicapped you can find love. There is a lot of single households yes. I don’t really get what you’re saying here. You think sex should be regulated? I think we as a society have responsibilities towards the world and other people for example in terms of climate change everyone (in the west especially) has a responsibility in this. But when it comes to dating and loneliness I think it’s different. The reason is that there’s so many millions of people out there, if you can’t find NOBODY then the problem is usually you. So you need to change something about yourself. If someone has severe mental issues they might need to seek out help for example.

You do you ofc

That’s good. Keep it up.

Being consistent is most important I think though even if you do a small amount