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You mean forward sexually? Then maybe my theory isn’t true😹

This is kind of a wild guess from my part But maybe some Brazilian women idealize white men, see them as extra attractive because it’s a societal ideal. And also they think that white men come from more liberal countries and thus are more sexually liberal so they feel more comfortable being that way with them So it’s a little bit of fetishization but it goes both ways, some white men fetishize Brazilian women so they wouldn’t mind it, it’s “mutual”

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That’s why I included in my reply that sometimes the best thing to do is to not try at all because trying to overcome emotions can sometimes cause unnecessary turmoil. I did this myself in the past when dealing with social anxiety.

It can make you overly aware of the feelings making them seem greater but I found it key in overcoming the sticky feelings and identifications and stories associated with them. Sometimes we need methods more than “just be” when we’re so entangled in something “just be” can seem like it just leaves us at the same spot not doing anything.

I found for myself with social anxiety that its about more than only exposure. You have to be very mindful while you do it, incredibly present with the fear to dissolve it. Basically great self awareness. Notice all the subtle ways you try to avoid facing the fear, such as looking away, being fake in how you talk, tensing up in the body, talking just to talk, basically all your avoidance mechanisms and go against them, by for example forcing yourself to talk when you feel held back, you can even be a bit fake to gain some momentum, holding eye contact even if it feels uncomfortable, relaxing your body, breathing deeper and focusing on breath, actively focusing on the other person. Basically learn all the ways your fear expresses itself in your behavior and actively, mindfully go against it in the moment of it. Sometimes counterintuively though making effort might not be the best thing (depends on the moment) because it can cause additional psychological strain that just adds more overthinking to it all, so there can be times when its more appropriate to not try at all, but just doing what comes naturally (even if its being more quiet) and still observing the fear to help it dissolve, and hopefully you can find that natural flow. Also this is a bit odd but it requires a bit of self dissolution to completely transcend some psychological fears, because youre dealing with a negative idenfication that needs to be dissolved for the fear tied to it to dissolve. To do this requires self attention which is synonymous with self awareness. In my experience

One thing I could suggest is to become genuinely interested in your own reactions (it’s a part of being interested in your own nature overall) So whenever a negative reaction or prejudice arises you have a genuine interest in its nature, and can observe it from a neutral view and analyze it, how it came about, what it is etc. You allow it to arise if it does without suppressing anything. This way you’ll be potentially breaking it down. Understanding that you are a human being and it’s natural to fall for prejudice sometimes, having some compassion for yourself about it, but it can be worked on and dissolved for good. It’s important to be interested in the actual truth of the matter, so that it overrides emotional biased thinking.

Sometimes we engage thoughts because we feel they’re useful somehow in some twisted way, like you feel you gain some weird sense of control over the situation by keeping notice of how others are doing in relation to you and comparing. You have to really see the uselessness of such thoughts and be too concerned with your own shit (working on yourself etc) to waste mental energy comparing yourself

Ok. The reason I asked was if they had noticed any particular differences between the genders (if they had switched)

That’s cool you’ve been able to make observations from it. Sometimes we underestimate the role biology plays in psychology Maybe this is a sensitive question you don’t have to answer this but are you switching genders is that what the hrt is for?

What has it helped you see?

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@Something Funny ask schizo

I know I still asked

Is that a good or a bad thing

Caloric deficit feels kinda spiritual too for some reason. Like you feel lighter . Maybe it’s not comparable to fasting though.

Once it happened I spontaneously asked myself, where is the I, and for a moment it was like I couldn’t locate myself. I’m not fully sure what that experience was but it felt kinda cool It only happened once though. Nowadays I have a hard time believing something like contemplation could penetrate this self-structure that seems so strong

Intuition in terms of what direction in life to take tends to be connected to what feels expansive for us. So it feels more true because it’s aligned with our newer higher selves vs the old .

The human self is inflammatory and we are full of tension in our entire system because of it, it’s heavy and takes energy to maintain. When you start dissolving and releasing all that tension you’ll start to see your health and energy levels improve. But it’s too weird to talk about.

The answer is obvious

That’s great you’ve realized that. I haven’t.

Maybe it is so

Yea for now it’s just all words for me

If “I” awoke then there wouldn’t be a me there to “not want” it. So it would be all good

I get all of that conceptually but it doesn’t shake this “sense of self” , I dont recognize it for real