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Depends on what it does to your mind when you listen to it. I used to in my past maladaptive daydream to music so wanted to abstain from it to quit daydreaming and save myself time. But if you don’t do that and instead music does something like bringing you peace or help you focus then it’s positive. I do believe in the power of a dopamine detox though so if music gives you a high and you abstain I think there’s benefits. It’s like the brain is being forced to adapt to less stimuli, so eventually you’ll need less to get that dopamine, or the brain will be forced to find other ways to give that dopamine, like maybe you start singing yourself to replace the music.

David Goggins is a great thinker for me

Deepest existential question

It requires strength to laugh at misery when you’re in the midst of it

Its what it seems they are saying in this thread

Lmao what😹 did “he” ? I know “he” liked me as a person but not beyond Also I’m confused because candle sent me a private message about a disagreement between “him” and buck edwards so for me it seemed like two people. If not then that’s crazy lengths they went to pretend

Same

Yea. That says enough

I would do the same, only telling people who seem interested, or if they ask. I don’t think speaking about it necessarily sounds like you wanna be more interesting, if someone takes it like that it suggests to me they are insecure

Yea

Who knows

I feel neutral most of the time so that makes some sense. Maybe those upset, euphoric, manic states are more stressful thus require more energy Is it supposed to make me tired? I don’t feel that at all

That feeling is there to push you to become something more. You could see it that way and use it to fuel you. Or if you want to settle down for mediocrity that’s fine too

I can relate to this. When we identify as a person who is a certain way or does something it becomes like a self fulfilling prophecy so we’re more likely to gain momentum and maintain it

I see you’re being scientifically rigorous

People might have some hippie or monk stereotype in their head that is about mumbo jumbo spirituality and mental masturbation armchair philosophical existential questioning. And they judge this stereotype and associate it with you when you say you practice meditation. There can also be an inferiority complex involved where they feel threatened by these people who go deeper like “how dare you be deeper than me”, as if there’s a complex about their own depth and how interesting they are as a person.

@Salvijus Same, I don’t even think their writing style is so similar

That may be true but then we have to take into consideration the quality of women that they attract. A woman who is primarily attracted to a man’s power, money, status, or for being a manipulative player will probably be more shallow, perhaps insecure in herself, immature. It’s similar to how a woman with good looks will attract more men, but those that are primarily drawn to her because of her looks will not be as high quality. So those people attract more in quantity, but not necessarily in quality

You mean that he had a bad childhood causing issues with self esteem which makes them overcompensate by trying to be for example smart and successful to gain self esteem? Or aquire wealth because they had little of it in childhood

Things like status and wealth can in some cases signal that the man has traits such as being ambitious, a leader, confident, charming, depending on how he acquired that status and wealth. So it’s like a woman might not be attracted to those things in and of themselves but rather what they signal about the man. Because it takes a special person to get to the top with status and wealth, although ofc not in all cases you can get there by being phony and exploitative too. A comparison could be like in high school if a popular guy is liked by many girls. Is he liked because he is popular or because of the traits that made him popular (for example charismatic and good looking)? Could be both. Because it can be like a boost to one’s own self image to have a successful partner. Same with having popular friends. And vice versa.

Infinity casually spawns an infinite number what you just said #lit

Iron😎 Yea I’m more careful after the warning

Legend as in legendary or as something that isn’t real? Its not important 😹 Last time I got a warning point when meantioning blood pudding gotta be careful

What you can gain from experience is largely on you. What you manage to squeeze out of it. What you bring with you when it’s all over. What lessons you gain. You don’t have to be like your friends that return to normal if that’s not for you. Don’t think your results must be like theirs. So you want a lifestyle change it seems? It’s possible to make one long term. Traveling could become a full time thing for example. It will be worth it depending on your purpose for doing it.

Maybe the expectation you hold on yourself to laugh at it contributes to that inner turmoil. Like you criticize yourself for not being socially calibrated for not laughing contributes to the negative feeling Maybe you define yourself by some external metrics like your performance, looks, contribution etc and you feel unworthy because you have an insecurity in these areas and the person is speaking to those insecurities. Your sense of self is not independent so it partly relies on external validation. Like your brain is too extroverted. But it’s good you’ve worked on your personality to form stronger confidence so hopefully that can become a foundation you can stand on for good self worth irregardless of other people The most basic kind of self esteem is a self worth for simply existing and being human. Doesn’t need anything more, this nobody should be able to bring down because it’s a permanent quality of you