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Maybe this is just our version of more "relaxed" expression, rational and sloppy expression can develop at same time I find

I dont understand that either

You have your own sciencey language kinda

Thanks. I have this tendency where I tend to naturally try to imagine how reality is from someone else's perspective. I think it's based on this ability to "pick up" on others inner world activity, which is being emitted too more or less. So its just seems clear to me, yes they have an experience, but my own is still distinct and limited to what I am able to perceive. Something like that.

Rare occasion: being able to understand your posts

Emotion is a bit confusing word to me, sounds like some wave, but you, and I've seen this before, seem to describe it as more fundamental to experience, assigning it to all kinds of movement inside or something.

It's cool how the more shifts I have its like when I read things I read them with knew eyes every time and it can be more and more mysterious what it means or the opposite I believe they have had some profound breakthrough from their mind but not this overall holistic multi level transformation so thats why they focus on the mind as if thats the main thing only

This forum is so much better than tik Tok

Stop trying to invade the poor squirrel with your presence

"No one to guide you" *posts content from spiritual teacher saying it*

But you can “dream them up” and they can “exist on their own” at the same time. Those two don’t contradict each other. What I mean is, whatever you are experiencing from your “pov” is its own thing, and their pov is its own thing too. You act like your experience is proof of how reality works or something

Why do you assume, that the dream quality to your experience is proof of others lack of personal experience? What if that “dream” quality is simply your current point of view, it doesn’t say anything about others point of view. I can say this as someone who has had all kinds of shifts in the quality of my experience

What changed about the quality of your experience?

I can relate to that description of that separate sense. And I agree it’s probably the basis of that unease I felt as a child and we talked about, because it wasn’t related to a particular worldly event. To me it’s a sign of higher self awareness if you’re able to be so sensitive to feel that continuous anxiety about “simply existing” , as a child before you develop more specific problems, but still that underlying sense of unease can remain..

Someone whose “goals are aligned” with you, and is “open to new perspectives”, sounds like someone that is actually “developed” enough so you can connect with them . The word “development” is quite loaded with assumptions so I get what you’re saying, i don’t think of it as “rigidly” either, it’s very broad imo . But the way I interpret it, I think it matters a lot to be able to have genuine connection. Conservative women are a somewhat broad group so yea some of them you could probably connect with because you’re open, but some would still be too “closed” in their ways I think, so even if you’re open and understanding it doesn’t guarantee she will be receptive to it. But maybe you’d even like that extra “challenge” haahah

”I’m all alone, no other experiences” *immediately goes to forum and writes post with hyperexcitable tone*

You saying that makes it almost seem to me like there’s an agitation in you to express some tendency you clearly see. Maybe I’m unclear but I’m just in general kinda skeptical to when people are concerned like that, I tend to guess it’s something about themselves actually (not bad thing), but that’s also based on my personal experience

Theres a difference between just finding someone hot (just good looking) vs feeling attracted to them because of that “isolated” characteristic you perceive

Yea I’ve also been thinking how there’s something questionable about the way he talks about women too, in contrast to how he talks about the “higher things”…..

If you're significantly attracted to a woman youre not so far above her level of development as you may think, is my impression. Maybe you're just being playful here but I just saw opportunity to express this point of view that I've thought about in general

"which one of my mental categories do I place her in hmmmm"

Spiritual men want a woman who’s not attached to her appearance but she’s still very much good looking Show me the most non dual man around …..if he ever thinks of this I promise he’s not thinking of some hairy yogi with sagging breast and atrophied gluteus maximus…..

I see Ok, but how about the experience of being "involved", I think I'm mainly referring to mental activity here if I'm interpreting my experience accurately. So feeling a little "push and pull" dynamic inside, and how it seems, yea, that it's me that is center of that and involved in it, and at the affect (maybe wrong word grammatically) of it, but not the main controller no. That to me doesn't seem like "a thought or idea" but rather, as I said, some kind of sense of involvement and being intertwined with the mind. So it connects to the point about the chooser sense, not the same but I guess its same place where it originates

Yea it makes sense

Those deranged marriages….