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@impulse9 that is lovely what you wrote..I started telling myself that and it feels really nice.. @supremeyingyang Cause I felt like I absolutely need my relaxation time. Like no matter what I do, I still feel that if somebody actually asked me: what do you want to do most in life? or what do you think is most needed in the world? Then If I should be really honest, I would answer: I want to do nothing (I dont mean watch TV, I mean nothing, stare, be outside, walk, move..) and If I should answer what the world needs the most - for people to do nothing. Stop the crazy activity, you are destroying nature..everybody has to have their own business now (which I admire!!) but at the same time I look at that and see that people are creating more and more stuff for which there is not actual demand (including me) and so you have to work really hard to CONVINCE people that they need your work when in fact they maybe dont..I dont mean to piss off anybody, I also want to have my own business, but this is just this negative side to it for me.. Anyway, that is how I feel and so to me life purpose is still nice and I enjoy it a lot, but there is still something that I enjoy way more and that is doing nothing. And so in my head I am always making this division work vs not work. And so maybe I need to drop this and just enjoy myself equally no matter what I do and stop thinking about it like this, as it is maybe harming me. I hope I explained it..

@Ineedanswers I finished Bc in psychology and I make psychology related videos for my channel. It is not going to be monetized any time soon (or I am not sure if even ever) and so I am looking for a job. I wanted to go into marketing full time (I thought it could help me with my channel), but it seems that I dont have enough experience for that :-( and so I am looking into HR positions (which look better for me, but I am not sure if I want to be in HR longterm..) and also I checked some customer support options (mainly by email and twitter), cause it was well paid. But I researched it more and people compared it to call centers and that this job is basically a nightmare, so now I dont know. I completed couple of tasks for this one company and I liked it, but I dont know.

@supremeyingyang Yeah, I was actually talking about all the work, not only the one that is forced. Cause I have this (maybe bad) habit of dividing my time into working (whatever work, it means producing something, being active) vs relaxation (reading books, doing sports, cooking, going in nature, meditating....). And I always struggle with balancing these. Maybe I shouldn't be dividing my time so strictly, but then again, if I don't rest properly, I feel my productivity is going down. So I don't know...

@Yarco Wow, thanks for your input. What you wrote sounds amazing, but I am afraid, I am far too away from that now :-) I am in a phase where I am building my skills in my LP, so I dont even monetize it yet. But what you wrote about the rates sounds reasonable. may I ask - what type of work are you doing?

@supremeyingyang 20 hours, that sounds good that you can arrange your life like that. I totally understand the introvert part, like so much of my energy is burned on these small talk types of interactions..

@Raphael So basically you work part time..that is cool. I have to work 40 hours per week and THEN work on my LP and I don't sometimes have enough energy or enthusiasm. I felt like I am doing something wrong, cause sometimes I read about entrepreneurs who work like 60 hours in a week :-/ I guess I have limits and if I fill them with regular work, then there is not much room for something else..maybe it would be better to work part time I guess.

@supremeyingyang I agree, sometimes it is good to think more about what you are doing instead of blindly doing more and more. 40 hours is ideal in my opinion. If I work something around that, I am at the optimal energy level..

@Michael569 you work quite a lot I must say. Do you ever get tired? Like, I mean, don't you need like a day off to reset and refresh, and stuff like that? I noticed that when I rest, after that I get flow of new ideas, etc. Anyway, thanks for your answer! I will look at the book by Seth Godin. EDIT: I now realized that I probably understood your answer wrong. You meant that you work in total 9-12 hours per week? That is like one working day per week?? For some reason I thought you work this amount in a day..

Hello guys, I know it is hard to say and every week is different, but if you average it out: 1. how many hours per week do you work? is it sustainable not to burn out? 2. Do you have free weekends? If not, how many hours do you work on weekends? I am now looking for a job, which is not going to be my LP, but I am still doing my LP on the side. However I am worried, cause for some time, I did not have a free weekend at all. And even when I have free time, I still feel like I should be doing something. My health deteriorates a lot, when I don't have free time. I heard this podcast and this person said: "My friend who is a freelancer said they do that (also) because of the freedom. And I asked them - when was your last vacation? And they said - 5 years ago." So I was thinking - is going to 9-5 job really a slavery? I mean, I had a nice job from cca 7:00 to 15:00 and then I had the whole afternoon off to wander off in nature and do sports and cook and such. I was happy with the money, to be honest. And I had free weekends. Since I started working on LP, I feel like I became this rat who just never stops. I mean I like it, but the whole point is that I do it diligently, not only when I feel like it, so I have to pick strength for it. Especially if I do it after regular work. Do you have that? If so, how do you cope with that - considering proper rest and such? Thanks for your input and have a lovely day!

@charles mishra Honesty is key in my case..I still feel like I am pushing myself a lot towards things I don't really want, because I simply have to..like with new work now..I guess these bigger things require some more time, but still..thanks for your input

@peanutspathtotruth I was wondering about this, it is true that when I acted upon my feelings, it was much better than any thought or "intuition" I might have gotten. I think I will start there and as you said, it takes some development. I am making this a priority now, since this affects pretty much my whole life. I feel like once I put this in place, everything else will become much clearer. Thank you so much for your thoughtful answer.

@flowboy Thank you so much for your kind words. It never occured to me that what I thought of as my mind, emotions and intuition could be divided because they are words of different people.. I just thought that I fragmented the voices, so that I have to connect it again together. This is totally new perspective for me, I have to grasp it, you gave me a lot of food for thought. It is maybe so soft that it doesnt even speak :-) I am beginning to wonder if maybe none of the voices is mine. So that is gonna be a lot of silencing :-( Meditation I do regularly, but setting up an intention and taking some time off from everything is probably a good idea. I will look into the shamanic breathing. Thank you again for your kind answer, there is a lot for me to take from that...

EDIT: if you dont want to read it all, please skip through it to last paragraph where I ask questions. thanks! Hello guys, I would like to share my situation and ask for your thoughts on this, please. I have huge trouble making decisions. It started in my childhood: My mum: do you want ice-cream? which one? Me: chocolate. My mum: really, chocolate? what about vanilla, or strawberry? Me: well, vanilla then. My mum: really? dont you want both vanilla and chocolate? or vanilla and strawberry? Me: I dont know what I want.. And then it would follow with my mum putting me on piano lessons and I hated it since the very first day. My mum would never say: "you have to go there". No. She would tell me: "it is totally up to you. But remember, one day this could be useful. Maybe if you want to be a teacher or something. Think about that." And so I kept dreading this for 5 years (!!!) and one day I just couldnt take it anymore and I quit. And so the problem is, that in my head, I was executing someone elses decision, but at the same time I was feeling as if I decided this myself and also I was feeling overall horribly about it. I started thinking in longterm, like what consequences will each decision have in the future and calculating. I was making decisions based on rationality or whatever and it led to some miserable experiences. On the other hand, I feel I have discipline, in case I have to do something not fun or I have discipline with my fitness and eating. So that is good. However, I tend to listen to other people and their advice. For the last 4 years I have been going to this holistic teacher and he pointed this stuff out to me. However, I felt like he (maybe unconsciously) started doing the same thing my mum was doing, and that is pulling me in some direction. He told me that I could go to college and study psychology and so I did, but now I feel like this wasnt my decision and I dont really know what to do with it, if I want to continue now. He also told me that I am not ready for relationship and some other stuff. I felt like I am just listening him, instead of myself. When I told him this, that I need some space, he stopped talking to me. I guess I hurt him in some way, it makes me feel horrible to be honest and like I am again on the wrong path. Because some stuff, which he told me, wasnt bad. And so I am trying to connect to my intuition and feelings, but many times I feel like my mind is telling me one thing, my feelings are telling me other thing and my intuition is telling me something and these are never in tune with each other. Also, I am not sure that I listen to my intuition correctly. I mean, it comes to me in form of thought, but how do I know it is intuition and not only a regular thought -my rational mind? Also I feel like rational decisions arent all bad, there are advantages to them and sometimes my intuition was right and sometimes it was pulling me to do something stupid and I just felt like it is a joke. I feel dashed or fractionalized, having these voices and energies within me pulling me in different directions. And also if some other people start to tell me their suggestions, I start feeling even more dashed. Sometimes I am so paralyzed by making a decision, that I dont make any at all. And it doesnt feel good, no matter what I do, it doesnt feel good. I feel like somehow I am on completely wrong path my whole life. Now I am deciding if I am ready for relationship, I have to start a new job, but I dont know which job, I dont feel good about the options I have, plus I talked to my mum this weekend and she feels depressed that I am over thirty now and I dont have kids yet etc. I know it is not my problem that she feels like this, but..again I question my life choices. I mean my lifestyle is rather unusual. My question is: How do I make decisions that Im gonna feel good about? Which "voice" should I listen? My mind, feelings or intuition? I know Leo has a video about intuition, but I didnt feel like it is tailored to this particular problem. Is there any other video about decisions that he made, that I just overlooked? Thank you so much for your thoughts on this. Have a good day and sorry that it was so long.