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There is a big difference between being uncomfortable and trying to prevent someone from doing something and threatening to leave over it. What needs to be understood is that porn is imaginary and the man or the woman is having imaginary pleasure, vs the real pleasure that is had with a real partner. In porn, there is no true reality of another human being, all of those actors in porn movies are of course people and exist but it's not human to human interaction. One could stimulate him/herself only with the mind by imagining certain scenarios or reading erotica. So the having a lot of male friends is not a valid comparison as those are real people. As a guy would you forbid your girlfriend to read erotica or romance novels for instance ? I wouldn't because it sounds absurd. You can't really extrapolate that it means he desires to have sex with other women but you kinda can so I understand the point. And of course, he will always have desire for sexual intercourse with other women who are not you. It's just something you need to accept. It's very naive to believe you would be able to pleasure and satisfy a man to such a perfect extent that he would cease any sexual desire towards any other woman. It's simply not realistic. In the same way, how would you feel if your man forbid you from reading romance novels or any sort of erotica fiction ? What if he told you you were a traiterous monster for watching Bridgerton because you should be perfectly satisfied with the love he's giving you and you should not be imagining falling in love with someone else ? Would you not run away immediately ?

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@Adam M Based on what do you think she's yellow or turquoise ? She's not acting like someone developped at all. Turquoise you can throw out of the window immediately and stop idealizing her. What is the actual reason of her not liking you watching porn ? Because I can't find a good conscious reason for that. It seems that it's somehow deeply tied to her survival agenda if she's so deeply hang up on it. Does she have some trauma and does not like you desiring other virtual girls ? Are you not having enough great sex ? The deal is you cannot really say it's her boundairy, because it's something she would have established right away, as in : Oh I will not date someone who watches porn, sorry, is this currently something you're doing ? Yes ? Okay this is not going to work bye. if she's violating her boundairies retroactively that's on her. At present, I cannot understate how manipulative her stance of "you have to stop watching porn or I will leave you" is. The problem is, is that if you comply with it and she ignores your interest in the matter she simply does not have your best interest at heart, and once she knows she can make you comply with that, she could make compliant with pretty much anything and will over time domesticate you. It's a very controlling stance and it's not as reasonable of an expectation for instance as "I expect you not to cheat on me and if you do I will leave you". Is she controlling in any other way ? Her behaviour indicates that she's absolutely not worthwhile as a girl.

Ah, certainly. Altough I can imagine someone making them out of fun for the pure irony of it.

I know it's meants with very hostile intent but the meme's are actually quite funny if you don't take them seriously.

It's pretty much always the same story, a guy wants to have better social social skills and to have a nice girlfriend and at the same time never does any actual work to change and allow it to happen. This should be a wake up call for you. That's why I think they invented "right action" - you do what is right relative to the result you need to get, regardless of your objections, arguments and how you feel. It doesn't feel natural ? Well though tities you're doing it anyway. It doesn't matter. You don't really have a choice, either you step up and take action or you simply stay miserable. So simply have a longer chat and ask her out. Then have a date and otherwise realize you need to take more action to tackle this situation and do so.

@StaffyDoggo Stop overthinking this or making a big deal out of it. Dating is very harsh and requires you to man up, including doing things you're not comfortable with. If you have not yet destroyed all of your chances by doing nothing while you had already 5 opportunities, you need wake up and lead, so just ask her out for a coffee next time you see her. It's incredible to me that you have not chatted about anything personal after meeting regularly like here she's from, what she does, those kind of things. Just do it and learn from the experience. You can't stay stuck on small things like that forever.

Did you setup an instagram for the social proof to make game easier ? I don't see any other reason, as most of your following is on youtube and you wouldn't engage in instagram for the "fun" of it

@Someone here Quite simple. Are you from the US ? If yes, move to an European country, like a massive city such as Lisbon/Madrid/Barcelona, perhaps Brussels for international english speaking jobs, but still I would recommend to choose based on : - Size : the bigger the better - job opportunities (especially homeworking) - the weather By itself, this will allow you to gain massive experience as you will need to : move, find a job in another country and learn a new language. Next, since you are now in a massive city, do massive amounts of pickup to get laid and find a girlfriend. Also, since you're in europe, enjoy at least 20 paid leave days (sometimes up to 30 and even more if you work 40hours per week) to travel the world. Now, after reading this you most likely already have 20 different objections, similar to how people introduced to pick up have 100's of them - they want that nice girlfriend, don't want to be single and miserable and at the same time don't want to do the work to make it happen. Execution is very hard work and realize that if you don't do something bold like that, you will be stuck with your usual results as 99% percent of people are. Understanding what you have to do is not difficult, the difficult part is actually doing it. Also new experiences don't happen at an abstract theoretical level, but at a real life concrete level : moving countries and having different physical experiences is way more valuable than for instance new ideas from a new book you will forget. You need more constrast. Forget about finding your passion or w/e other abstract thing you will mentally masturbate about for ages, just do more stuff so that you have more experience to understand yourself better.

I would perhaps be a bit more nuanced. It's not your friends so you don't neccessarily have to love all of them nor like all of them either. And if it's damaging influences your boyfriend should be able to descope them by himself, otherwise that's indeed a red flag. In general other parties should not be able to stir up drama in your relationships but that does not warrant that you have to get along/like all of those parties. As long as you don't have them

Do not date nor be exclusive with a girl before having sex with her. She can't be your girlfriend if you're not sleeping with her. Period. That's your first mistake. Then, don't date crazy girls. If she's traumatized so severly she cannot have sex you do not want to deal with that whether it's true or not. Given all of the crazy stuff she's doing for me she's just completely broken and acting out. Run. Erase her from your life and find someone normal.

I would say being stuck in a certain stage of development (looking at you stage orange) and not seeing beyond it and interpreting all of existence according to your current level of development without leaving any alternatives. Interpreting a certain teaching not for itself but trough a biaised certain lens, such as learning buddhism trough a scientific paradigm instead of learning buddhism or any other teaching trough, or the opposite, learning a practical stage orange teaching trough a green spiral dynamic lens. I see this most often with people stuck in stage orange not able to see trough the limitations and the opportunities of the higher stages.

@Vrubel If you meet a girl during the night the best way is to try to pull her the same evening. One night stand style. Don't theorize about numbers from x/y being flakey, it depends. Simply take action, get feedback and fix what you're doing to take even more action. Don't fantasize about girls you've just met, even been on dates with, etc, until you have sex with them. And by that I mean litteraly you are inside them. They can throw random shit tests when you're the most relaxed and unguarded and that will play tricks on you. You need to invest the bare minimum in a girl (including thoughts and fantasies !) and as Leo said get more girls. More more more ! If you're building an actual real connection in real life and you have some chemistry girls will be more than happy to see you again. I think you misunderstand the complete lack of good options that women have in general. Yeah, it might seem that they have a lot of options, but are people that you are not attracted to really options ? Imagine you have a master degree and expect to earn a six figure salary, and all of those shitty jobs with 15k per year salaries are harassing you daily ? Why you considers hundreds of those jobs even a real option ? Of course not. Of course. And of course if girls flake you there are not interested. You should never invest so much upfront. Just go out more if you can't stop thinking about a particular girl. And to re-iterate the point: go out more !

I've done quite some research on coockware and I must say at this stage the healthiest version might be cooking your meat on a wooden stick over a campfire. More seriously though, the following options seems to be healthiest: Stainless steel Iron cast Ceramic Now, the problem is: For stainless steel, it could leech nickel and/or chromium into your food. How big of a risk is that ? How would I select a stainless steel which doesn't do that ? For iron cast there are two points. Pure iron cast does leech a little bit of iron, which you want to avoid the surplus of. Enameled, is it even safe in your experience ? I've read that it can leech lead into your food, so I'm very scared about that one, altough for certains brands it's mentionned that it's only in the exterior because of the paint (e.g. Le creuset) For Ceramic and porcelain it depends because some of their paint seems not to be okay as well. Hence, how did you, ladies and gentlemen, find cookware that was completely free of undesirable side effects ? Any tips ?

I would go for a stainless steel wok. I'll still need to investigate about detoxing chromium and nickel though.

It looks to me like you're just looking for a justification not to do it - trying to dismiss it since it would yield no results. If you're actually working on your game it's basically impossible not to make progress : even on a baby step level, talking to girls vs not talking to girls is a huge step forward. Imagine you've gone from sitting at home to having a 10 minute conversation with a girl at a party ? Good, something to learn here. This is like in the worst absolute case, like if you were a completely unsocialized hard case who has never seen the light of day, if you were able to go through a schooling process you ARE able to learn enough skills, social skills, how to dress, etc. to approach at a party and have a ten minute conversation. Even if it's very awkward at first you have gotten new feedback and experience and you can retrospect on it. Then, once you get other types of feedback, e.g. a kiss, you have managed to create attraction from scratch with a complete stranger. This proves to you directly it can be done. If you put in the work, step by step, it can only be a upwards spiral. Forget about your number of approaches, focus on taking consistent action and introspecting. The rest is noise. Consistent action is the actual difficult part. If you can go out and follow trough the steps you will improve. What should worry you is NOT TAKING ACTION.

But what about Nickel and Chromium ? It's not lead of course, but should we still detox and/or be careful about those ? Carbon steel is annoying because you need to season it so stainless steel is usually more convenient.

I mean at this point given how much you seem to love it you might as well sprinke it in your salads Actually

I'm not talking about teflon. We can exclude teflon out of the box, there is nothing to obsess about. If your pan is leeching lead into your food, I believe it's rather a big problem, don't you think ? Perhaps we should investigate that ? My goal is not becoming absolutely neurotic about it but finding the healthiest solution. Yes, I'm pushing it a bit but I'd rather be certain about lead and other major issues.

You need to check if you're actually compatible and if yes how much ? Would you get bored if you spent a full week with her without any distractions ? You really do not know someone, e.g. how she handles conflicts, her values, how she acts, etc. very deeply until you spend considerable time with her in different situations. One good check I would always do if I'm considering a partner is going on a short holiday with her to see how it goes.

But why would simply saying no lead to physical confrontation ? Why are we trying to normalize misleading and dishonest communication ? Yes, some very underdevelopped person might act out his emotions and beat the girl up for saying no but that's just criminal behaviour which I hope is rather rare. Can't we aim for a more conscious society where everyone can handle rejection (more) peacefully ? If everyone plays games we will justify playing even more games and becoming more cunning and devilish than average to meet our agenda's.

I mean how would you feel if I set up a pistol pointing at your house from my court yard next door, while I told you not to worry because I would never ever fire it ? There is a reason that's not legal and seen as aggressive/dangerous on a domestic level. Why would it not be seen in the same light internationally ?

Actually I found myself a good wing who was also practicing a lot during that time. You just need to find someone serious to game with 3-4 weeks a night, yes, it's rare but you need to find only ONE single person. I did go out alone for training purposes e.g. during my 30 day challenge because no one would go out as much as I did but it's not ideal and I did not pull during those nights where I was alone, but I had close encounters. There was one set where I opened 2 friends, and the other friend just LEFT us alone while the girl I was left with had a boyfriend. So I slowly escalated mind you, and at the end of the night, she kissed me so very hard, savoured each second of it and then ran away into the night. There was also another set where I did not insist further but both girls were from out of town and seemed to like me (I mean it was day 20 or something so I was basically running around on fire ) - they both were very friendly on the open so in retrospective it could have been a lay if I just stuck with them for the rest of the night. Overall gaming with a wing is WAY easier (or should I say convinient in a sense), especially with 2 sets. You can indeed push your limits not to feel creepy when you're going out alone, especially when not drinking, but you will learn as much with a wing. On the other side wings can be inefficient if you're stuck in a set helping them while you don't care about your girl. I wouldn't focus on the size of the set too much, just open the girl you like regardless of the situation, see what can be done and learn from that experience. If you fail, you can just reflect back at that situation and see how you can handle differently in the future. PS: I doubt you're in the same city as me (I'm in europe) but I would have gladly winged you otherwise

The issue is that you need someone solid enough not to blow your sets and if that person is not learning game it's basically impossible. If you want to pull a 2 set for instance you need a really good wing. Also, realistically, if you're doing serious game, you will screen for logistics and bounce if those are not good immediately (e.g. boyfriend) and other optimisation shenanigans and perform at an industrial pace no normie will sustain. You can't even ask someone normal to wing you because he will not know how to even approach a 2 set and what he's supposed to be doing. I've also winged complete beginners who would run away from litteraly fear 3 seconds after I opened the set Yeah, finding good wings isn't easy.

Yeah, I hate game were you cannot talk as well. Try to go for bars and other night game places where you have veranda's, spaces outside, etc. where you can actually have a normal conversation. This can be actually counter productive at a higher level. Albeit it depends on the style of your game. If it's clear it's a date (which it should be), all you need is to get to know each other and lots of fun, teasing, so she's comfortable with getting pulled on the second date afterwards. Don't escalate hard physically if it doesn't lead to sex. Kissing her during the first date will drop the tension a bit as well, so overall if you can stay man to women without kissing it's pretty fine as well. This is a moment where I disagreed with Leo's video : if you can escalate so hard as to touch her breasts/ass in the club, you should already be in your bed having sex given that amount of compliance. Once she's not run by her of the moment emotions she will feel slutty thinking about it and ghost you immediately.