Harlen Kelly

1 - The vast majority of men are inclined to sex variety not because of ''boredom'' or ''lack of fulfillment'', most men are attracted to the idea of sex variety because that is how the male mind works. Not understanding this will create unnecessary suffering. Does that mean a man has to always have multiple relationships and his partner has to accept it? No, he can definitely control his desires, but do not get it twisted, your boyfriend or husband is literally attracted to thousands upon thousands upon thousands of women weather you like it or not, and guess what? That will not change, why? Because that is how the male mind works. Men get attracted to women instantly and there is no limit to the amount of women a man can be attracted to simultaneously. Instead of denying and vilifying aspects of reality that you cannot change, you should strive to understand and transcend those aspects.

@Raptorsin7 So, you are comparing the desire for sex variety to rape and labeled it as ''degenerative behavior? And you think what you uttered is a smart, well-thought out, sophisticated statement?

Sure you do.

I literally burst out laughing when I read that!

Lol

@intotheblack Men don't owe you a monogamous relationship. Surprise, surprise. Wanting to have a monogamous relationship is mostly the female's agenda, not the male's agenda. Something else that needs to be understood is the following: there is nothing transcendental about the craving of monogamous relationships. If you desire a monogamous relationship, fine. But don't delude yourself into thinking that you are ascending or something by virtue of the fact that you want to have a monogamous relationship. Obsessing over the idea of a monogamous relationship is equivalent to obsessing over the idea of having big house, or the idea of having a lot of power, etc. It's just another delusion and craving of the ego.

@Manusia What happens when your ''soulmate'' decides to leave you or cheat on you? Do they stop being your soulmate after that?

@Javfly33 Take at least 1 hour 3 days a week and do 10 - 20 approaches, you will be fine.

@Consept Acceptance does not mean you tolerate abusive behavior or toxicity, that is just stupidity.

@kinesin You are not understanding, Unconditional love is not romance. Unconditional love can include romance but that is not what constitutes love. Something else that needs to be understood is that, you cannot ''receive'' love from somebody else, love is simply the fabric of reality and recognition of the other as you. This can be directly experienced and observed. You are confusing attachment with love.

@Preety_India You definitely can try but statistically the odds are heavily against you. It is possible to have a conscious relationship, however, that's pretty difficult to orchestrate.

@Hardkill Its WAYYYYY easier to pull 9s and 10s if you have a high social status.

@Preety_India Relationships are mostly survival. Romantic ''love'' does not equal to unconditional love or the recognition of the other as you. People go into relationships mostly to play out their unconsciousness and use the other person as an emotional crutch. That's the vast majority of relationships.

@Valach Always multiply the number she tells you by at least 1.5 if you want to know the real laycount, not that the laycount is a problem, just keep that in mind. This girl will FOR SURE AND 100 PERCENT CERTAINTY play with you. She will eventually dump you. Don't try to turn this type of women into relationship material. You can have fun with her, just don't get emotionally attached.

@Leo Gura Destiny: I am pretty liberal Jesse: BETAAAAAA!!

@SageModeAustin Guys who get laid usually are not obsessed with the whole nofap thing, why do you think that is? Masculinity and Femininity are behavioral patterns that can be altered with mindfulness and deliberate intention, not simply by ''retaining'' semen. That literally makes no sense.

@sourcetruth The primary reason you are repressing sexuality is not because of some spiritual reason, is because of your inability to get with the opposite sex, you consequently use nofap as a neurotic overreaction to cope. Don't kid yourself. Somebody who is developed and conscious would not be preaching about nofap.

@The Mystical Man

@Dlavjr Treat the thoughts about shame and how awful you were that arise as objects in consciousness, without attaching any special importance to the thoughts. The problem is not the shameful thoughts, the problem is your attachment to those thoughts, you are getting lost in the content of your mind. Just observe, and that's about it.

@Shiva99 You didn't close her and she wanted to be closed. When a woman gives you green lights to escalate physically and you don't, that is a HUGE turn off.

@The Mystical Man Have you considered the possibility that the reason why you got attracted to the idea of sexual repression was a neurotic overreaction because of your inability to attract the opposite sex? There is nothing sophisticated, advanced or conscious about nofap.

@Mellocean Hyper religious/dogmatic people tend to shame and repress sexuality, out of all the good qualities of your average fundamentalist, why would you adopt their repressive attitude towards sex? Do you think that the guy who is successful with the opposite sex is doing mental jerk-offs about no fap?

@CBN You might get banned if you link sites like that.

@Daniel Lopez Bro just get you a girl that is willing to step on your face, there are plenty of gals willing to do that!

@Jacob Morres You are looking for a fantasy and romanticizing attraction too much.