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In the past i've always thought i'd have kids at some point in my life. After studying personal development, I've never wanted kids more that I currently do but I've also never wanted kids less than I currently do. My main reasons for wanting to have kids: I'm so excited about the prospect of teaching my kids everything I've learned in personal development and teaching them how to create an extraordinary life. I really feel like i'd be doing an injustice to the world. I love the dynamic of a 5 person family rather than just 2 people. I feel like in my 50s and 60s i'd really regret choosing to not have kids. My niece and nephew bring me so much joy so I can't imagine how strong the joy would be with my own kids. My main reasons for not wanting to have kids: It takes up so much time, I didn't realise until I witnessed this first hand with my niece and nephew) (although they're toddlers so I have a biased view, I tend to think of parenthood as requiring that much attention forever: like changing nappies, having to feed them, bath them, and that whole process that takes hours each day) I do feel like I'm a very naturally selfish person with my time, I like to do what I want when I want and i love having that freedom, This includes travelling to different countries, just going for a walk etc. But also having time to meditate, relax, do lots of leisure activities, be able to put in all the hard work for my business, time to read books and continue personal development. thanks

I've began to look back through my childhood to work out where my fears, insecurities etc stem from. I've discovered some really minor events, and a couple of moderate sized events that have shaped my psychology. For example, when I was like 13, i had a group of friends I was close with at school, I was pretty popular up until this point, but after losing touch with them (my choice to distance myself from the group and play xbox) I then spent about 2 or 3 years trying to get close to them again and it didn't really materialise. So about 13 years later, I've realised I have a fear of rejection, I care a lot about what people think, insecurities about being unpopular, I feel like I keep a guard up with a lot of people in social situations, and I can be pretty quiet. So my question is basically: I do already feel a bit better from uncovering this from my childhood, but I'm wondering what the next step is? Do I just change how I interpret the situation? Do I begin challenging these limiting beliefs? Is there anything else, and in which order would you recommend please? thanks

Firstly, which colour of spiral dynamics does passion fall into? Specifically i'm referring to passion for a career or life purpose. (ignoring the contribution component for a moment, and just focusing on getting into flow states and being passionate about cultivating a craft) For example, Joseph Campbell following his bliss by going into the cabin in the woods and reading books for years. Would this be green, I wasn't 100% sure because he's not caring about helping humanity at this point, but then again he's not reading books for any materialistic gain. Secondly, for people that just get a slightly above average job, in the U.K say like £40-50k , working in a marketing role or something. I wasn't sure if this would be orange or blue. It's not like they're hugely career driven like investment bankers looking to make 6 or 7 figures, they probably just see their job as a means to pay the bills. However they probably still have some aspirations to increase their salary over time, it's not like they're working in a coal mine. I'm not really sure where the line gets divided. thanks

I'm confused on whether Leo is recommending that we use the satisfaction meditation technique (keep eyes open and try to be satisfied with the present moment) or whether it's recommended to use a normal meditation technique and try to include satisfaction into the meditation technique. For example, if I'm using the do nothing mediation technique, am I meant to bring satifaction into the do nothing technique? As opposed to completely dropping the do nothing technique and completely changing to the satifaction technique thanks

@RendHeaven like i said above..... it's not a topic that interests me. When I read about motivation, confidence, emotional mastery, they're all topics that fascinate me.

I want my life purpose to be about personal development, i have such an authentic desire for it, and I love creating personal development work. However, I care more about animals than I do about people (although i'm still a meat eater so maybe i'm hypocritical) I've thought a lot about ways I could combine the two, but everything that I can think, are topics that don't really interest me, i don't think i'd enjoy writing about animals, or veganism, or anything like that. My intuition is telling me that I should be writing about the topics i'm fascinated about: health, emotions, confidence, motivation, productivity. The only way I can think to connect the two would be donating some of my profits to an animal foundation, although i'm not sure if this is too indirectly related to contribution, as i'm not directly helping animals through my work.

Finished the life purpose course which is amazing, and just wondering whether we are meant to do all of the below practices everyday simulatenously? 1: Read Me sheet daily 2: Look at vision board 3: Contemplate: what is life purpose 4: Reviewing goals on a daily basis As this is 4 habits at a time, i thought the advice is always to start with one habit at a time. because isn't it hard to maintain 4 habits at once?

@JonasVE12 thank you, I think you're exactly right. It's not the vision that feels hollow, it's me that feels hollow. I think that I have some limiting beliefs around vision, because i've been failing for the last 8 months at trying to reconnect with my vision, that's lack of belief from my past experiences always occurs. When I think back, before I was intentionally trying to vision, I used to be able to vision a lot, whereas now that i'm trying to force myself to reconnect with my vision, i struggle

I've found my life purpose and my top values in life, but when I integrate them into a vision, my vision feels very hollow, it doesn't move me or motivate me. I've got a lot of aspirational things in my vision like having a big impact on the world, emotional mastery etc, becoming a millionaire etc, but i'm not getting the powerful motivation that I intuit I should be getting. This is the case both for visualization and vision This is something i've been struggling with for about 8 months and it's really affecting me psychologically. Does anyone have any advice? thank you

@Flowerfaeiry main fields are: confidence, health, emotions, productivity, motivation (once i've began to get the vision part down) and just foundational topics like delayed gratification etc. Mainly the younger generation who have the rest of their youth to use these mindsets and behaviours, but also older people too. Through online articles and online courses

@Flowerfaeiry personal development, discovering the most resourceful ways to think and act, and being able to provide these insights to other people.

@kinesin I need a compelling vision to keep me motivated and on track

I have about 10 different core principles that help me through problems. For example, I have one principle about dealing with fear, one principle about delayed gratification, one principle about confidence. From everything i've read in personal development, it's best to only focus on changing one habit at a time. So when these problems come up throughout my day, i'm really bad at applying these principles of mine because in my head I have this limiting belief where I think "even though I know the correct principles, since i've got ten principles , i won't be able to make this a habit" and then sure enough, I don't make it a habit. I've also tried just focusing on one principle, but I find that if I focus on just one, then neglecting the other areeas ends up hindering my progress for dealing with the area i'm trying to focus on. I really want to be able to deal with multiple problems similatenosly. I've just started to meditate, so hopefully in time that should sort things out, but even so, I don't want to go through life feeling like I can't balance multiple new things at once. Is there a way for me to use multiple mindsets/ techniques to effectively deal with the different neurosis and dysfunctions as they happen throughout my day? I'd really appreciate your advice thank you

@28 cm unbuffed what do you mean exactly?

I created a compelling vision but I'm struggling to reconnect with it and bring about emotions of passive and excitement. I've tried to visualise but I can't seek to soak up the positive emotion I've also tried to think of my vision throughout my day e.g whilst in the shower, whilst eating, whilst at work. but i can't really think of my vision anymore this way. (It feels like i'm forcing it which obviously is making it worse, and I know it should flow naturally, but it's not) Does anyone know of any books on reconnecting to a vision? As i'm not really sure what the issue is: I don't know if it's a limiting belief issue that's preventing me from being able to reconnect to the passion and excitement i'm looking for when visioning. I don't know if it's me being optimistic / thinking negatively that's getting in the way of being able to reconnect to the passion and excitement i'm looking for when visioning. If it is the case that I need to let it flow and stop forcing it, how do I do that? thank you

thank you for your help guys!

I live with 2 friends who I really like, but i've grown apart from the wider friendship group. I don't feel close to the people in the friendship group, and it's just super awkward when I see them. I don't want to be close to them either, they're into partying and drinking and i'm trying to improve my personal growth and build a business. I'm developing really bad anxiety, whenever they mention about anyone from that group coming round I just feel so stressed out about it. So 90% of the time it's fine because other people aren't at our house, but when other people do come over I feel so uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable if i'm chilling with them in the lounge, and I feel uncomfortable if i'm in my room rather than chilling with them because they're probably thinking wtf why is he in his room alone. So my options are a) move out - although in doing so I definitely think i'll become less close with my current friends because I just w b) just put up with the 10% of the time they're round (if so, is it better to just be in my room and keep to myself, or actually make an effort to try to enjoy the interaction when they're round) I need to speak to one of my friends about it either way, so maybe they'll understand my situaiton and help me with a compromise. I love the area I live, I love the property I live in, so it's a lot to give up, but at the same time everyone should feel comfortable in their own home but it's also kind of unfair for them to never have people round just because I don't want them to