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@Karmadhi Initially that is all that she has to do, but the roles equal out over time.

Leave her alone. She wants you leave her alone and to ultimately crash and burn and die. That's why she is pushing you away. Focus on other things and let her do what she wants to do how she wants to do it and let her deal with whatever consequences that happen from her own actions, that is true compassion imo. Getting involved and trying to change sick people just makes it worse in the long run. And no one likes the pressure of being changed by people who may not even know what the path constitutes for them. And who knows, maybe crashing and burning and going through that is what God wants for her life? Why this person out of the many others that could be helped? Are there other, better places you can direct your empathy? I would do that. Just like with anything else, compassion is something that has to be nurtured and you want to make sure you cultivate it in the places where your service is most beneficial. And to be honest, people in need don't like that, they will fight against it because the help is ultimately an affront on the personal journey of the soul - and she is going to push you away completely anyways, so take the first step in what you're ultimately going to have to do. I helped random people when I was a young woman and it NEVER works out. You'll get screwed over.

@flowboy Honestly, I relate to everything you said. I'm sorry I stigmatized you. I have... herpes of the soul and it's going through a flare-up and I do have underlying health anxiety. When I wrote what I said, I did not even think about people that would have it - my train of thought was how I would morally feel in this situation if I had a STD and , and as I was typing out my answers, a little voice in the back of my head says to me: "You have soul herpes... did you know?" Yes, I know! I was also imagining,honestly, what would happen in the absolute worst case scenario - of her catching it, and the relationship not working out and then future opportunities missed - and this person sounds very empathetic and so I was thinking, "That makes it way worse if the outcome ends up completely not in her favour." The thing is, I have read some of your stuff here and you don't seem like someone whos flaws outweigh the negative (it is that situational for sure.) - and so if this woman was mentioning a similar guy as you, and somehow there was the inherent knowledge of that beforehand, then my judgement would be different and so would what I write, but due to not really knowing anything about who she is dating, I went with the worst case outcome as the most honest advice. What was coming to mind for me, viscerally, was dealing with a similar situation in the past and it being sketchy because of the dishonesty. I got an STD once in my early 20's, it was something that antibiotics could cure. It was shocking because I don't really sleep around much, and I had just started trying to be more sexually open, and I knew all of the people quite well, - not strangers, and none of them was honest about it - I had to call people and tell them - it was really... not a fun experience.

My feelings on it are that "death" is an energy that can express itself and be recognized - like a viewpoint or an experience that should not be in your system at the wrong time. And perhaps that movies do this - that they lend a vehicle for this to prosper. I don't think that it is the movie themselves, but the collective energies that work through fear outside of space and time. I remember, even as a small child being able to sense this within certain areas of the house - and I would avoid those places. It would be like, a feeling, a distortion "in between" the lines of physical reality, and later in life as a teenager, some horror movies made this worse. "It's all in your mind, but you create everything." It's an archaic "first ingredient". I don't think that people are supposed to look death in the eye at the wrong time; I think that doing so unlocks the wrong things. I think that certain things need to be realized at the right time. I view horror movies as an evil attempt to unlock things in people when it isn't necessary. I don't know if it is a good idea to spread the "spirit" of such things - have any of you seen this thing when looking at something frightening? The collective awareness of chaos peeking through? The thing that works through people that murder and rape and addiction and lies? I have tried to get people to become aware of this phenomenon before, and people's inability to even see it is unsettling, but to be honest I think that much of spirituality has sort of made people blind to being able to see darkness and evil as the raw archetypal force that it is. It's not good. But it still affects you - it can run things in your life once the seed of fear has been planted.

I've never really enjoyed horror movies. I don't like seeing people scared or in pain or being scared, either. I think it can lower your vibration.

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