Nemra

I hope it's not that. You couldn't be too careful if you also considered that. Anyways. Good. Your will to find the solution is the solution, regardless of whether you find it now or 10 years later. I think this thread is just a reaction to your hopelessness, which is understandable.

@Sugarcoat Focus on the fact that you have the will to act. I think that you gaslighted yourself with spirituality. I'm saying this based on the way you explained your situation. Maybe, like you say, the problem is in your brain or maybe something else, I see that you want to change your situation. Stay focused on that.

Maybe you are bi or you are confusing it with acting gay or behaving in a way that is typical to gays.

@Princess Arabia The problem is, how do we know if it's consensual? It's difficult. How can we differentiate a person who likes that from a person who is really threatened, etc.? I think having safeguards against rape is important.

@Davino I don't see a problem if, for example, two people, one who likes to be raped by someone who likes to rape, no matter how much it could be horrifying for others. But I am against the rape that is not actually consensual, which is more prevalent. Rape wouldn't be so negatively viewed if it were actually consensual for people.

@Davino I would even say that if people liked and enjoyed that dynamic, then I don't see a problem. A person would be of low consciousness if they raped someone without understanding them and the consequences that it could have.

I think we are confusing people who have a rapist mindset with people who rape because of some lack.

Well, we also have to consider the low development factor. Sexual frustration could slow down your development. Even masturbation is viewed negatively.

@Moutushi Young men on the streets act like dogs there. It's no coincidence that random men and women don't sit mixed. Ironically, the repressive systems make the problem worse.

@Princess Arabia But who said prostitution is accepted and viewed as not negative there?

@Princess Arabia Well, I think people here were saying that it can lead to it, as those don't really think of the consequences beforehand. It doesn't mean a sexually frustrated person is a rapist by default. If you crave something you don't have access to, it can be challenging to consider multiple options or pathways before doing it. The important context here is that in traditionalistic countries, marriage should happen before having sex. Even if married, people are repressed. You don't really choose your partner. Even if you do, your family and relatives can ruin your life.

@Princess Arabia Why don't you agree that sexual frustration also could lead to rape? There's at least someone who has more power than someone else. If someone had sexual frustration, they could abuse their power. It's another matter to know which one is the underlying motivation. Maybe, it's both.

@bambi Do you remember when I gave a suggestion or, as you remember, an advice, and then you got sensitive and deemed not appropriate? Why can't you apply your rules to yourself?

@Sugarcoat Why do you feel disconnected, if I may ask?

@Sugarcoat Do you want to feel more connected to them?

@Sugarcoat Well, you said, "Sometimes I can barely hear my thoughts, so disconnected I feel from myself". You made a connection between thoughts and yourself. If you say you're not the thoughts, then you can't become disconnected from them in the first place.

@Sugarcoat Have you started to "hear" less of them, so much that you feel disconnected from yourself which is your thoughts? If on the deepest level you have no life then why do think that having the previous experience of your thoughts is you?

Having false expectations from the internet is the problem, which is difficult to know.

@bambi I wasn't saying that you do. But people can moralize on these matters by justifying what is healthy or not healthy for someone. Do you really think people are just making an assessment? Maybe you do; idk yet.

@Javfly33 Well, I think, in this case, if you had infinite money, it wouldn't have been a problem. People are wrong for shaming for these kinds of fetishes. But it can be exploitative because it's tied to money. Knowing people's intentions beyond pleasure is important. The solution is: understand yourself better and on a deeper level, and never listen to ignorant, biased people on this matter.

Do what's necessary to even have the time to explore your passions. You can do both of them if you really have time. The fact you can complain here about your life often tells me that you still have time to figure things out.

@NightHawkBuzz No, you don't understand what you're talking about, which is why you support criminalizing it.

You would also have been a slave without the internet; I think it would have been worse. Social media is a tiny part of the internet.

@NightHawkBuzz To be honest, if you don't run at all, people will be much safer. The fact that you don't understand that people don't turn themselves gay to be gay is enough. Did you turn yourself into being straight? You are confusing discovering yourself as gay with turning yourself to gay.

Thoughts keep coming to my mind like crazy. Thoughts all over.