AdamR95

@illbeyourmirror this is not true. Reality contradicts what ego wishes and visualizes all the time. What you visualize is more probable to happen but you still have zero control about it because you dont even control your thoughs in the first place.

If you would be so enlightened that you dont need to care about psychology then you dont need to eat, sleep, breathe etc. because you would be abslute formlessness. But you are here in a human form. So dont be so naive that you dont need to care about these things

@Preety_India But its still agenda they stay in these relationship because it gives them for example sence of purpuse or something else or they just cant leave because they would feel guilty. There is always agenda in relationship but in healthy relatioship its about satisfying both sides as much as possible. If i get cancer and my partner want to leave me because of that i would be happy if she does because i want her to be happy. I have a feeling that you think that conciouss relationship must be long term, exlusive, deep and intimate. But you can have all kinds of relationships on different values and it can still be highly conciouss. Someone can value more freedom and someone can value more comitment and both are equally valid.

We know about limitations of spiral dynamics but its same with every symbol, model or category. This entire conversation works with oversimplifications. And i think spiral dynamics correlate pretty good with this topic.

@illbeyourmirror If you identify yourself as a god than you have free will but that doesnt mean your ego has the power over that. Ego has zero power over gods will. In another words what happens... happens. And what happens its gods will, you can realise that you are god but that doesnt change what happens.

I think its not likely that someone in tier one can do game B.

maybe because for me having any game doesnt mean to be selfish, thats how i think of a game. But if we define game A as win-lose situation then i agree thats toxic.

So game B is meant to be win-win-win situation i guess, but in my opinion that is basicaly same as game A but in more conciouss way.

so Game B strategy is no strategy? is having no strategy more conciouss than having strategy? is something bad or inherently selfish about having strategy?

"Nice guys" are in the most cases unconscioss manipulators. Their lack of confidence makes them to use even more toxic strategies then bad guys. "Bad guys" are better choise because they have more confidence and are in average more honest and less toxic in relationship then "nice guys". But they are still mostly unconsciouss. But there are guys who are above this two categories and they are confident and have respect for women at the same time. That is the best choise but hard to find.

@Byun Sean i 100% agree with this @Byun Sean I can set as high expectation as i want if i am ok with possibility that i probably gonna have hard time to find someone who is like that. I am not speaking from place that i want to complain about relationships or want to jugde people, because i am happy in that area of my life. I just wanted to share my point of view about this.

My thoughts on unconditional love and relationships: I often see people confusing unconditional love with unconditional relationships. Everyone has its own conditions to accept a relationship and its a good thing because sometimes the most loving thing is to leave the relationship when its not serve you both. Everyone has its own prefeneces and in healthy relationships everyside benefites from it. When sucrifice is made it should be only because it benefites everyone in a longrun. When relationship doesnt benefites everyone its more loving to leave. Very often one side demonize preferences of the other side because he/she should love them as they are but thats selfisness and hypocrisy. We should respect each others preferences and undestand that we have no right to judge preferences other has. And the other person is free to leave if he/she isnt satisfied. And the last thing is there si no good or bad preferences. Someone has more emotional preferences and someone more physical. Someone wants exclusive relationship and someone dont. All preferences are ok if we respect each other and dont force our agenda on the other.

Even that isnt free choice at all. Ego thinks it is his free choice but it isnt. Its only gods will if you do accept it or not. If you identify your self as god then it is your free choice but at the same time "free choice" lose its meaning at that point.

Being active doesnt require free will. I think he meant that in relative sence. Even without free will its bad idea to have a victim mindset. If god doesnt or does interfere with itself is about perspective you take on that.

Only true free will is gods will. What people mean when they talk about free will is personal free will and that doesnt exist. Your ego doesnt have free will, your ego is gods puppet . You have free will in a sence if you identify yourself as god but this free will is different than what ego thinks free will is.

Its not silly at all. Hard things can be enjoyable too. You can make it enjoyable even when you start its all about mindset.

Try to meditate spontaneously during the day. Try to not see it as obligation but something you do just randomly without a reason. Try to meditate when you eat, walk, drive etc. I personaly stared enjoy meditation when i started do it spontaneously during the day. And try to not push yourself everytime you meditate because you can develope aversion to it. Push yourself when you feel like to, maybe like 80% being comfortable and 20% pushing yourself. Thats what works for me, you can try.

Thats another downside, you dont know that in beforehand. I am more good-looking than charismatic and i still had better success in day game. Even though i had optimazed my online game pretty much. I can get dates with average girls from online but its too much work and i still dont get matches from the top kvality girls but with these girls i can get dates if i approach them in real life.

Girls have much bigger standarts on dating apps thats fact. It can even lower your self esteem if you do online dating only. I did pick-up a hot girl from street and she had 100+ unanswered messages on dating apps. That girl probably wouldnt give me a change in online world even though most girls consider me handsome, in online world its not enough for them. In the vast majority of cases when i got dates from online apps it was with below average girls. You better put the work in real world than online apps, its much more fairer enviroment for most men.

Maybe you have been just extremly unlucky and you need to keep trying. Or maybe you push too hard and that makes you look desperate and you need to relax for while and try again later with a clear mind. Or maybe you overlook something and you need to look at it from a different perspective. I dont know man, just try something you havent try yet ,i wish you luck.

I agree but in some cases she can be testing you or manipulating you. However it doesnt change the fact that in all cases is better to let them pursue you.

Dont wory about that. Do your own thing and when she responds assume she is interested. If she doesnt then move on. And dont text too much, if she respond make a date. If you are not dating for atleast two months with a girl then keep the texting only for making dates.

Another way to think of it is that you could be stuck in 5minute loop for eternity and you would never find out because you lose your memories everytime when you come back. Now imagine that the loop is infinite and it has no start or end because every part of that loop is right in the middle of it. And the loop spreads in more than one dimension but in infinite number of dimensions.

There is no "before" the ilusion. Time exist only within the ilusion and time itself is part of the ilusion. Its strangeloop bending into itself and it has no start or end.

I noticed sometimes there is a question on this forum about something practical or something relative and half the answers to that question here is something along those lines: There is no you, meditation doesnt exist, everything is you etc.. Wich is true in absolute sence but it doesnt answer the question. We are here to live a human life for now and we need duality and relative sence of reality too because otherwise we cant survive. I think we should pay more attetion to whats the question about. Do you also sometimes want relative answers and keep getting answers to a different question?