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Good food for thought, Solana could go to 1000 USD within a year.

My biggest bag is Solana too, have you considered Avax?

A sense of humour is great when you're among friends and have different negative views, you sort of push back with humorous expressions but avoid any confrontation. You're disagreeing with them but also accepting them as they are when you're humorous.

Bring it to the guy and learn how to muster the guts to say "Stop treating your employees like trash, you can do better. Now can I get my refund?"

It would probably be a good time to test your sense of humor, if you're proud or supportive of your prejudice, then you could produce a half-joking statement supporting your view. For example if someone shouted down my preference for hot women, I could say "I'll take a hot bitch over Anderson Cooper anyday!" Something like that.

The million dollar question is right here. How to come up with a massive fucking action plan when you have zero motivation. In my experience when you're stuck in this type of situation, getting from where you are directly to some place that you'd really want to be is absolutely impossible, no matter how much time you take. I would say the path to salvation is not straight. You're stuck in a maze and you can't see what the maze looks like. I used to be a part of a goddamn cult myself. One of the best days of my life was probably when I was kicked out of the cult, but that was also when I was broken. I already spent all my energy trying to become what the cult wanted me to be, and it did more like the opposite. The cult had created the asshole. I was in a world of hurt and didn't want to go anywhere. I directed all the rage towards everyone who hurt me in the past, including my parents. It only felt natural to do so. What I could not see clearly was that the source of my hatred is actually based on me hating what I've become. I don't like myself and have no idea how to change myself. The internal conflict I had was me desperately wanting to get out from the place I was in, but at the same time I had too much negative energy to even move a finger. And this was the source of my suffering. So the counter-intuitive move from here is not to try to find a way towards the goal, which let us say is a more developed version of you. A more realistic move from here would be to find a way to become the monster that you are. Meaning that there is actually a way to become an asshole with everyone around you being very okay with it. What I actually needed to do was not to "fix my problems", but rather to find a way to embrace the asshole that I was. I needed to be, and I needed to be authentic. Now this is not easy, but it is doable. It requires the development of a neutral mindset which cleans out a lot of toxic criticism to the self, and a gradual acceptance to the level I was really on. Now I'm not saying to get rid of all the shame and self-hatred, we only need to get these emotions managable here as we need to feel into the shame and hatred as motivation for the next step. After I found a way to finally be a more real version of myself where I was at. The next step I would recommend is positioning. Get yourself into the environment where you have enough resources to become the more developed version of yourself. For me this was to be more productive at my job plus earn more money on the way. This process allowed me to rebuild trust in myself, although I wasn't addressing my issues directly but I at least I was being effective in doing something of value. The money I got also gave me the chance to develop hobbies that I enjoyed such as traveling which was a big step up from video gaming and porn. A lot of objective thinking was needed here as you can't feel your way into a different lifestyle. Then after much of step 1 and step 2 back and forth plus a lot of venting, I was able to position myself to a place where I could change how I was authentically (final step is real hard) and pursue what I defined to be the person I wanted to be. The grinding I went through also helped a lot in being able to drop a lot of fucking ego that I had and of course I still have much to do in this area. But like your environment can really boost you into feeling different about yourself. The hard truth is that you need to become the person you look up to in reality, it's sort of like the hero's journey. This would require a postive image of yourself into the balance of your overall identity. I think becoming a "good" person wasn't the right term to describe the goal, it should be to become a more developed person. This whole thing is really an uphill battle. There's a saying which says something like if you want to lift a heavy object you need to use your legs and not your back. Using your back in this scenario means using willpower and determination, but we all know how far that can take us. Using your legs means changing your mindset and behavior. To overcome this uphill battle, we need a mixture of getting some good footing and finding a suitable balance to push forward. Then there's the gradual change of objective which is another can of worms because like if you're goal is just things like money and sex, then you're fucking lost and never going to make it. The goal is your higher self, your True self or at least the pursuit of it. And the process is more important than the goal, you have to learn to enjoy the process of this change. The emotion of true hatred, goddamn it felt so real. The unfortunate truth is we have to change how we channel this energy, it's basically what Cloud said. To develop that change requires a lot of effort, pain, understanding, and endurance. Hope everyone who experiences this in their life can pull through.

Best way to go would to be the master of one first and then go after jack of all trades. But in reality it is hard to find that one trade you'd find value specializing in. Actual programs usually train you to become the jack of trades first because no one knows what you'll be doing in the future.

I wish I thought really hard about the questions you're thinking about right now before I went into college. In Taiwan, a college degree is a must if you want to get into any decent corporate job, at least it was 20 years ago. I hope things are not like this from where you are, that major companies would only recruit you if you graduated from a decent school with a specific degree for example in computer programming. I think there should be more high income skills to learn other than just tech in the United States. If I could start over, I would focus more on my social life in college where there are plenty of opportunities to meet people. Social skills are just so beneficial in the long run in almost any area. Enter a club, learn how to hold various events. I would also learn how to invest, and learn about obtaining a healthier lifestyle instead of just counter striking or world of warcrafting though the night. Come to think of it, school grades were the least important during college. The professors couldn't teach me anything that would amount to being useful in the actual work field. And after my first job, no one even cared where I studied when I got my second job, they only cared if I could do the job. And you mostly learn how to do the job after you get the job. Before I went to college, I thought that the classes and programs in school would take care of everything for me. How idiotic that notion was. I was fortunate only because I studied electric engineering and the college degree got me a mediocre job that did point me in the right direction corporate ladder-wise. I can be very certain that the college courses are going to teach you a lot of knowledge in the field of academics that would probably still prepare you for nothing in the jobs market. Better to spend your time being an intern at Google or Microsoft. However I still think the four years in college would be worth it. That's the best time to meet lifelong friends and even partners. It's the best time to tryout different areas of knowledge and see which ones you resonate with most. Although college can't train you directly for your actual job, it is still some form of training, maybe you could see it as learning how to learn or train yourself. And the degree still opens a lot of doors for you, at least when you're a beginner. In college, many students play video games all the time. The other folks go partying all the time. People get addicted to stuff because college just throws a lot of exams and assignments at you only to make you study hard. If you don't know what you want or what you're doing, you could get lost in a mediocre lifestyle real quickly. It seems like you're a very capable person, because you can get good grades whenever you can focus. I think that is a promising attribute to have. Only thing you need to do is to gradually list out the basic goals you want to achieve after you get into college, and keep things practical, no need to make an impact. Just go directly after what you want and live in the moment.

Totally agree with @mr_engineer, being a barber is your actual life purpose right now. It is probably the most value you're providing right now. A life purpose is often very basic, it doesn't have to be huge. Hope your transitioning to ecommerce goes well, what do you expect to sell?

Travel for 10 years and not worry about money? That sounds like the need for a lot of money, especially when inflation is a huge thing everywhere now. How about being stuck in wage slavery while travelling? You could go it Luke Korns style (https://www.youtube.com/@LukeKorns).

It is a big relief to unleash the darkness, but you need a higher method to channel that energy or else people around you will suffer your anguish. On one side I really do hope you get a few chances to place yourself in a "safe" environment to let it all out. However I believe a few times should be enough, if you let it out constantly it will become a habit and you might not be able to control it eventually. On the other side if you really want to get cured, you need to regulate this "dark" energy in some way. It is very very hard to make sense of objective reality, so if you're trying to find a solution from the outside world to understand, explain, or resolve your inner rage, that might be a VERY slow process. You might not even learn anything in the end. So what I would recommend is that you find a way to create a set of new meaning and purpose for your current life, a new set of goals that does not promote rage and chaos. Althought this is probably not what you want to hear, but one way to become a "good" person is to just declare you are one. Just declare to the universe that "I have become a good person now that I've learned the evil of the goddamn cult that I was a part of growing up. I condemn those false ideals and I shall pave a new path forward!" This method is sort of like a shellfish moving from a smaller shell to a bigger one, although the bigger shell cannot fit in the entire universe, it is a lot better than the older shell and that will suffice. There's not such thing as perfection in this world. When our old world view burns to the ground, we often fall into the trap of looking for a new and perfect one. But of course we never find it, because we've not capable of realizing and accommodating that "perfect" mindset. So we can only invent a better path and reward ourselves each step we move forward. Use this to divert attention from the negative energy and channel energy to new objectives. Restraining yourself from releasing your negative energy is actually very honorable deed that deserves praise and acknowledgement! Invent a new life for yourself, like one of my goals was to become rich and I have done so. You can also find your core values and achieve them!

Do you suppress your true emotions in your daily life now to hide your "dark" emotions? Also, do you have a friend who you could "curse god" with and like maybe smash things in a junkyard?

Wow, two years.... Hope you can figure things out with common therapy then. Therapy can allow you to be conscious of your situation and provide insight on where you could move forward. However lots of life experiences are required to excercise new sets of beliefs and feelings about yourself. Strong relationships will surely be a plus.

Maybe you've mentioned this before, but could you give a brief description of what it is that you do?

Look man, everyone here only wants to help you. You're very logical on your mindset towards women, however I'm curious have you approached or dated a lot of girls in the past year?

I think the internal bully is another part of the unconcious you. It is actually an internal version of you that does not like you. So the long term solution here is to be mindful of yourself and your surroundings. Learn to accept yourself as you are and everyone else as they are, only then will the bully not have an issue with anything and be quiet.

How old are you? And how did you get to this realization?

I think one way to move forward is to try to figure out what you really want first out of all the things you would like to experience. Of course getting what you want usually would require you to grow in some area, so then you try to find effective ways to improve yourself. You build yourself finally to get a taste of the pleasure you've been seeking, but afterwards you realize how short the thrill was and how fulfilling it actually is that you've become a bit different during the build process. And gradually you shift your mindset from pleasure seeking to fulfillment and community building. Hi @Consept, do you think this would work for people who don't know what to do in their twenties?

You should go to a place where opportunity is abundant and also has a great young community for social life. You should go to New York.

Probably can't blame the developers, AI feeds on Internet data to learn. Seems like AI has also learned human biases.

Hmm, you're right. I just feel that the original post has too high of a standard about people's ability to make sense of reality.

I just love where you're at in life man, and you're only 20. Really wish I didn't grow up in a church. Why determine which city you'll spend the rest of your life in? You could probably end up having real estate in both.

Come on, does it matter? As long as everyone is safe and happy, why not do or think whatever we want?

Well said, having a religion based on fear is such a bad place to be in, especially with many other options to explore in this century.

Hi @Sabth, It seems like you're mind is really stuck in deep emotions. There are internal conflicts within you that prevent you from moving forward. You have too big of an expectation of yourself, or maybe we should say you are too far away from where you want to be. You crave to be where you imagine you should be very badly, so bad that everytime you attempt to move forward, the slightest "failure" hurts you emotionally so much that in the end your subconcious would rather not move than allow you to try and change yourself. We need to tell you that you need professional help. We cannot provide an immediate solution to your problems. So please don't think that there is anything we can say that will somehow allow you to understand the root cause of your problems and make them will disappear immediately. This idea is not realistic, it is not going to happen. You need to do a lot of work to get out of this. Of course I believe because you are stuck, the only way you can express yourself is by venting on this forum. And thankfully we're all still willing to listen to you, at least for the moment. Although there is nothing we can say that will help you, I still want to make another attempt. Just want you to know two things, first thing is that what you to really need to change right now is not what you have, who you are, whether you're married or not, whether you're a hot confident girl or not, these surface level things. What you need to change is the basic set of beliefs you have on which every part of your identity is built upon. Let's put it this way, if your efforts are built upon sand, not matter how hard you try, your efforts will never sustain. You have to change your beliefs so you start building on a solid foundation, like a rock. So the second thing is that everything is relative, there is no such thing as ugly or being a failure. Healthy and happy people don't compare with other people, even though they know a bunch of people who are way better than them. No matter where you are, you will always only see those who are ahead of you. So you have to learn how to stop comparing and reward yourself for every tiny improvement that you make going forward. Life does not happen to you, it comes from you. The reason you feel stuck is only because you've defined yourself to always be a failure. Although this will be hard to realize but it is you who is trapping yourself. You need to change your mind and stop believing that you can't change your situation. Why don't you see yourself in this way: "okay there are many things that I want which I don't have right now, but hey I'm already in a bad place, I've got nothing to lose right? I can go forward step by step. Each tiny step is big difference. It is not like everyone is stuck like me, I just got dealt the bad cards in life, but if I get out of this rut, I would be so much stronger and better than everyone because anyone who is in my position would just be like me right now, and not everyone like me can get out of their situation. If I can gradually change, this will be huge!"