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just compare the policy implemented in the era of the trump administration and the policy implemented in bidens administration. I think that is enough to know who cares more for the country... even with leaving out the toxic and embarassing behaviour of maga

If you are interested in understanding that, I recommend you the book "The Evolution of Desire" from David M. Buss. In very short, because it gives cues to reproductive value.

I did for some years vipassana and also visited 3 retreats in the last years, had a daily practise but now changed my practise to TWIM (tranquil wisdom insight meditation). In TWIM the meditation object is Metta and the three main difference from vipassana is first, you don't "focus" on the meditation object but are just being aware of it (because focusing creates tension and craving simultaneously you are also aware of everything else that is present. With time you will notice that you mind wrapps from alone around the Meditation object because it is pleasant. Secondly, a big part of TWIM is the relaxation of the body. So every time you get lost in distraction, you release the attention from it but because there is still tension in the body, you also relax your body proactive. Third, you smile during the whole session, sounds silly but is actually an important part of the meditation. Tis meditation is basically a tool for going trough all the Jhanas until Nibbana. I myself only visited one TWIM retreat and have a daily practise of 40 minutes since 4 months so not that much experience but it seems like a pretty solid technique. Does someone have experience with TWIM? And if yes, how was it for you?

the entitelment.... so you are the one who decides what is a good reason for not replying? stop playing the victim and look what you can do different...

Hello Im thinking about changing my dating strategy. The last year I did a bit of pickup which peaked this february where I was doing it more intensily. in that month I had dates with around 8-9 girls and had sex with 2. after that, i stopped completely. I talked with some people about it and came to the conclusion that I want it to be more naturally and not put that much effort into it. So that I dont walk around with the goal(I had always a goal, for example: today im gonna approach 3 girls) of approaching anymore (because its kinda unatural and takes emotional energy) but just approach when it feels naturally and just from my lifestyle. The thing is, at the moment it kinda doesnt work and im asking myself why. I would say im attractive, i have decent social skills, I met a lot of people the last months, the past 2 years I had a sales job where I approached around 300-600 people daily(and was pretty good at it. I stopped it because I think old school sales where you try to convince someone to buy something is against my values and is a performance job whitch reinforces toxic patterns). Even if my pickup-time was fun and I did it with integrity… Im hesitant to go down that road again… I talked with someone who has a lot of experience in this field and this person also meant that my conclusion was right, after having done pickup fore some time and after having some success, one should leave pickup because you start to loose your capacity for being a normal person with girls and see girls more and more as sexual opportunities instead of letting go and be open to whatewher happens with the human in front if you. i should just being myself, pursue my other goals (creative stuff, spirituality, traveling a lot, life-purpose, dancing, and so on… and ask girls out who i meet…(for some reason, everytime I meet someone kinda attractive, I have an most of the time an excuse for not going further with things.) pickup seem superficial and i dont know if it is sustainable after some point (I can approach decent, I had good dates, I can be direct) I can do all that in the frame of doing pickup but when im just living my life without bothering about pickup(almost everyone I meet that was for some time into pickup btw, didnt really seemed fulfilled) , everything in dating gets kinda more difficult when you just life your normal life and dont invest in pickup and its. But I don't want to do pickup anymore, I dont want to go about my life and have always pickup in the back of my mind, I feel like pickup is just an endless hamsterwheel/addiction and I wantet to stop doing it before I would reinforce the toxic aspects that arise from that approach to dating, I just want to be myself and take dating opportunities when they naturally arise, I want to trancend pickup and I thought after some time that would happen, that I would come to a point where I just am and everything can happen (friendship, dating, sex, relationship… you know, like most normal people) … because in the end its VERY simple… ->hello…nice conversation…youre fun, lets meet for coffe… oh“honest compliment“….kissing… and so on…<-it pretty simple and im kinda frustratet that it this big deal for me but at the moment im questoning myself and am mabey im to lazy, mabey I should do pickup again, or mabey look where I should put more effort. Or mabey, I really just need more time and just need to find someone i really click with idk I hope you can make some sense of what I said and have mabey some advice for me😅? (im btw 23) What i am missing?

Thanks for your answer

Im not shure what you mean with „aloot“.. but I think I understand what you mean… its about knowing thyself and be rooted in thyself… the striving is…everything I do, I do not because of programming and conditioning but because it is coming from my truth

Thanks for your answer. I think I talked to people who do authentic game and that is why i stopped walking around with the intention of picking up and am trying to just be open, without expectations and am more sincere and im trying with that. The problem I faced was that pickup gave like a frame whitch kinda made everything more easy( im someone who can make a systematic goal , for example today I approach 10 girls, and follow trought it. Now life is more complicatet and dynamic…more voulnerability and authenticity makes it more difficult because the rejection and everything else is much more personal and I just dont have the balls to ask someone I have a sincere connection with out or to own my desires…At the moment im working with somatic experience, to be more in touch with myself and act out from that place and am meditating more so my actions can be more independetn of my toughts and feelings… im also trying to be very honest in my friendships(practise with them) and gave up a comfortable sales job because I want to go away from performance based stuff. Im going regulary to meditations retreats, want to do regular Circling meetings, I do dancing and have a always clearer life purpose… so what do you mean with I should work on more? I would love to have some inputs on that:))

So you mean I should just see where it goes and just contuine with my life, trying to work on voulnerability, authenticity and honesty.. instead on focusing on approaching again? Because at the moment the struggle is kinda not being really shure what I want and not taking the chances that are given to me… I

Where warcriminals reenacting their crimes. very powerful, it reaches even a point where one of the perpetrator starts to reflect and question his behavior. a victim of this war crimes confronts the "criminals" with their crimes. "It's like Nazi-germany would have won and the perpetrators who are still on power today would be confronted by the stuff they did in the second world war". two very insightful documentaries. the war crimes happen in the context of the military regime in Indonesia who seizes power around 1966 and where they kill in a timeframe of 2 year 1 million people. If you say you love humans/humanity. Watch these 2 movies as an invitation to see if you can even accept and love this part of the human experience. It will give your love more depth.

Hey. Im registered for going to an enligtement intensive retreat. Im pretty scared, mainly because I imagine that every experience I had, every shameful thing I did , every fantacy, every neurotic tought and just everything else I dont want to be exposed haha and im not shure if Im ready for this. What is your experience with enlightenment intensives? And how do you deal with that fear? Is it justified?

https://www.enlightenment-intensive.net/de/enlightenmentintensives.php

Thanks for your inputs! I understand that its about the contemplation but isnt the excercise also that you should talk about everything that comes up, no matter what? And isnt everything that comes up not also a layer you need to peel before you can go further?

I honestly dont care that much if I have an enlightement experience or not. I was at the Nomind festival and there we had a workshop about enlightenment intensive and someone told me that a retreat is like 5 years of going to a psychologist and considering the method, it makes a lot of sense to me. Im more interested in that aspect. But yeah, it will probably be different than I imagine

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6 days, with 3 days of dyads. I heard some peiple say it is the worst and the best thing they ever did. So it will probably be pretty hard

Thanks for this answer!

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Hello My name is Elias, and I can honestly say that Erik’s coaching was a great boost for my growth. I approached him in December and worked some months with him. My main goals were coming nearer to my vision, more authenticity and overcoming limitations in different areas of life. Working with Erik felt enjoyable and safe. In the coaching sessions I became aware of blockades, limitations, new perspectives, and new possibilities in regard to how to approach things. With Erik’s support, I discovered and actualized a part of my potential that before was more difficult to access or hidden. When I compare myself with Elias from December, I can say I’m more centered, more aware of myself, I’m clearer with what I want out of life, I trust myself more, I’m more disciplined, I’m much more aware that I literally can do what I want because I’m good enough NOW, I’m executing more, my social relationships bettered, and I’m in general more confident that before in social circumstances and life in general. My work in all these areas of course is not finished, but after the coaching I’m nearer and more in alignment to my goals than before the coaching! I also have a wider tool kit of techniques, an updated mindset and ways of approaching things that I still use after the coaching. I’m happy that I took the coaching and would do it again! PS: if you’re interested: my final talk with him. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQjD-N8qeoI

Do you know good meditation retreat places in europe? (beside the goenka retreat)

Hello I want to do a vipassana retreat in my vacations but i didnt found a 10 day goenka retreat in europe (for my timeframe) but i found the dhammacari vipassana-meditation centre in germany. this retreat goes 15 days (only for beginners) and is harder than the goeanka. my question. the technique here is not the body scanning, but the Mahasi noting. -> Has someone experience with this and would you recommend it? -also a question is. it is my first time and is 15 days mabey too much for the first time? i meditate daily 30 min

thanks , defenetly gonna check them out! , no, i first want to know more or less what it is, what i want to take out of coaching.

hello do you think it is a good idea to have 2 coaches, and see each one every two weeks? or is it better to have only one? i am thinking about getting 2 for having more than one perspective.