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And I have personally noticed that even many Russian “liberals”, sadly, still repeat and buy into many of the russian lies and propaganda. They are still better than the average russian though, but I was shocked at some of the things they say. Also, just because you keep saying and labelling yourself as “objective”, doesn’t mean you are.

Lol, I definitely know the history of Ukraine better than you do. Especially because the way history is/was taught in Russia, and even in Ukraine during the Soviet Union, was highly distorted and untrue.

This is actually a major point that these people don’t understand. Which makes them using the term “nazis” so much more laughable. That is why I keep saying, you have to be next level kind of stupid to buy into the “Ukrainians are nazis” propaganda.

What about puti-poo? How much more far right can it get? Lol

Ukrainian army has a noble cause though. After you’ve watched your cities destroyed, your women and children being raped, tortured and murdered, you don’t need to be “far right” to develop strong hate for russhists. Every morning (this was today) you see the news of russian missiles hitting multiple civilian objects and apartment buildings. You want to protect those poor innocent people dying every day.

Lol, russian propaganda much? Ukraine’s far right party only got 2% of the votes in the most recent election. That is less than most European countries. Generally, russia has far more nazis percentage-wise than Ukraine ever will. It is obvious though, that a country of 44 million will have nazis, rapists, murderers, thieves, pedophiles, drug addicts, etc. I truly think that particular part of russian propaganda - “Ukrainians are nazis” is aimed at the most stupid russians out there - the alcoholic wife-beater type, or the uneducated owns a toilet outdoor type. At least when they speak about NATO preparing to attack them, it can be somewhat believable..

Today, after the gym, I was really hungry, since I haven’t eaten since breakfast. On my way home from the gym, I picked up 14 honey-garlic chicken wings from a restaurant nearby, I didn’t want to cook since I’ve been feeling sick and feverish. I ate them all in one sitting, since I was super hungry. Then I started feeling bad, my mouth was burnt from all the sugar. I looked up the ingredients on the website of the restaurant, and it said one chicken wing had 5 grams of sugar! Sugar was the first ingredient, honey was like 6-8th… I feel horrible… My mouth still has a taste of sugar in it.. what should I do? I’ve had 70 grams of sugar in total! I’ve read that drinking lots of water should help. I’ve already had 1L of water. Is there anything else to do? I want to get that garbage out of my body somehow! ?

I’ve never bought or tried psychedelics before, however, I recently spoke to someone who does them, and they recommended blue meanies mushrooms and gave me a website where I can purchase them. What I don’t understand, is if mushrooms are illegal in my country, how can this website work perfectly fine?

Obviously there are degrees of healing, but there is also a huge difference between someone who has trauma and doesn’t realize it, and someone who realized it and has began healing it. Most of the people are in denial about their trauma, it’s actually a huge leap to get them to even admit they have issues, especially when things are going their way. Kind of like with narcissists, the biggest issue with them is that they don’t seek treatment - they are usually successful in their careers and have a bunch of codependent flying monkeys bowing around them - they don’t think there is anything wrong with them. Also it’s kinda like in AA programs, AA participants are encouraged to be friends with each other and help each other, but they can’t date for 2 years (or whatever the number is), because dating is different than friendships, and two broken people in romantic relationships where intense feelings are involved usually ends up creating a complete shit show. So, it depends on where on the healing journey you are - if you feel you’re more or less stable, you should start dipping your toe in the dating pond again, otherwise you’ll never learn what you like/dislike.

Having trauma and being healed from it is 2 different things.

This type of advice though, is the worst advice possible to give to this girl right now. I was this girl, and if someone told me that back then, all I would hear is “it’s ok to be around toxic people” and “you should give everyone a chance” - when this is the last thing someone in her situation should do. Its the concept of “I’m ok, you’re ok” There are 4 types of relationship dynamics: 1. I am ok, you’re ok 2. I am ok, you’re not ok 3. I am not ok, you’re ok 4. I am not ok, you’re not ok The fourth one is what this girl has. She should be aiming for 3 first. Then she can go to 1. Then when she’s healed, she can do 2. This girl has no idea what healthy relationships are. To have a chance at healing she needs to be around healthy people to finally see what healthy looks like.

Yea I don’t buy it.

I am telling you not to tell someone who has deep relationship issues: "I was able to heave them out of the depths of hell because I was able to interact with them in a mature way" This person is years away from being: "someone who can bring out the potential in people" She needs to focus on herself and leave any person who has any small hints of toxicity in them behind. Also, judging on your personal attacks and passive aggression on someone you know nothing about, I truly doubt you actually walk the walk. Your ego is triggered because I challenged your opinion, so you needed to lash out on me.

This is not true. You only think it is true because of your life experiences. There are wonderful, authentic people out there, who care for others and truly love and support the people in their life. You just haven't met those people because you're too busy thinking about some loser who thinks "cheating is ok". Even if you do meet those people, you don't recognize the gem in front of you, because you need the familiar drama and instability - remember that water always seeks its own level. It is actually very hard for people who lived their life full of drama to be drama free all of sudden, it feels uncomfortable, you literally need to learn to make peace with the peace. For people who have abandonment issues or other kind of childhood trauma, having no attention is worse than negative attention. And negative attention is what feels so familiar. Most of the time, the only kind of attention they would get as children is negative attention, and that is what they keep craving. When you come from shitty backgrounds it truly messes up your whole psychology. It's very unfortunate, but you will have to do a shit ton of work to fix your life, figure out what truly is "normal", rebuild your whole identity and worldview. You are already better off than many people, because at least you are able to recognize that the upbringing you had was not "normal". Many people come from abusive families and live all their lives thinking it was all their fault, and that their family is "good" it's just that there is something fundamentally "wrong" with them that they can't seem to get their life together. When you build a house on a shitty foundation, the smallest windstorm will be able to bring it down, you need to patch that foundation.

This is a bad advice, you never want to be in relationship with someone whom you are hoping you'll be able to "fix". It takes an enormous amount of effort and years and decades to fix yourself, it is impossible to fix someone else if they are not willing to put that enormous amount of effort themselves, which most people won't do if they are in a comfortable relationship

Because petting her on her head won’t help her understand how extremely idiotic her thinking is. What do you care about what I post mr lashes out on everyone and is super bitter in the forum, can’t mind his own business, and then excuses himself and asks for forgiveness because he just woke up or is having a bad day?

Omg what the f*** is this ???. I mean is this for real? Is this a troll post? It can’t be an actual person writing this ? I mean this person said in my post that it is “cringe” for a women to expect a man to be a gentleman and pay for dates, but she thinks it’s ok for a guy to “expect women to provide room for cheating in a relationship”? Holy crap ????

Omg! You need to stop being such a doormat low value chick… get the hell out of this forum, start learning about healthy relationships and healthy people, get rid of all the trash in your life that’s planting this garbage in your head.. build your self self esteem.. stop thinking about what some loser dude thinks about you and only think about whether that loser is worth your time.. don’t worry about asking “too intrusive” questions because you’re an absolute idiot if you don’t try to find out right away if the guy is full of crap or a decent human being.. and if some dude tries to tell you that “cheating is ok”, block his number and get the fuck out…you do understand there are dudes out there who think “beating a woman is ok” too, right? And many women believe them? Do you truly value yourself so little that you want to be around dudes like that? Why do you value yourself so little? Do you have nothing better to do with your life?

I have been looking online and I can’t find good information on this. Some sources say sparking water, like Perrier, is not bad for you, and even good for weight loss, but I am not too sure. Wouldn’t it expand your stomach in the long run and make you gain weight by being more hungry?

If laws of attraction, higher power, all that stuff.. if it all doesn’t exist - then is life completely random? Note, if it is completely random then it’s just super depressing and there is no point in anything. I like to live my life thinking there’s a positive reason for everything to happen. That all the challenges all the bs I have to go through is there for a reason (well and partially my fault too). Is this why everyone gets depressed after they reach a level of enlightenment?

What do you expect out of dating?

I have a big exam coming up, and there are too many things going on in my life, that it’s hard to focus. Is it safe to use Adderall for 1-2 months? I read one of the side effects of Adderall is insomnia.. I am already having trouble sleeping so I am worried it would make it worse. Also, should I be taking it continuously? Including exam date? Is the knowledge going to stay with me once I stop using it?

Thank you, I’ll look into this. I remember looking into it a few years ago and for some reason I remember thinking it wasn’t available in my country. But I’ll check again.

If you’re tired of your life, of who you are, of feeling bad for all the mistakes you made, horrible things you said or did, can you just start from a clean slate in this life? Put it all behind and move on from the “past you”? How can you do that? Is there some ritual? Is there anything you can do to forget the past, stop thinking about the memories, and live a brand new life never thinking about it?

How did you do that?