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I get that this is something very contextual and something one needs to learn for oneself. If anyone have any tips/mindsets that have helped them strike this balance between discipline and letting go of the need to having to do the thing however, feel free to share. Would love to hear your thoughts. @Leo Gura

@intotheblack Why women go to the bathroom together That's still on my top 100 questions for life

I'm looking for a lightbulb paradigm shift. Thanks for the recommended book. " enjoy the process". @UDT David Goggins is that you? @Nahm Push against craving. It's hard to know when to let yourself go and when to push. I feel like I need to do things and it's always a battle. I want to be driven by wanting to do it all the time ( on some level atleast) but than it's still hard because my subconscious mind tricks me that I shouldn't do this or that because than i deny the other part of me that don't want to do it, it's voice. Yeah, it's hard stuff. Thanks for the share. Could you consult CHING about when Leo's how to get laid series is coming out? Asking for a friend.

Thanks for the input. @Byun Sean Very good insights. Thank you man!?

Thanks!?? @Byun Sean How long did it take until you died? I also wanna die, any tips? Lol

I didn't know that, thanks

I meditated every day for one and a half year. I stopped because that itself became an neurotic addiction. Now I do it, but do hold it more losly. What I've found though, is that it's very easy to skip the meditation session now. It's hard, cause it feels like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I want to let go of this whole dynamic where I feel like I have to do something yet at the same time do stuff that takes me closer to where I want to be. It's a paradox, a paradox I've yet managed to solve.

Did you get awakened? ( just curios) How do you cultivate that kind of burning desire?

@Byun Sean Yeah I know, my problem is not that though. My problem is that I want to integrate work and play so that I do more of both and not do the whole " balancing act approach". Teal swan talks about it in these 2 videos. I want to do that but I don't get how.

Lol Good one. Working on it How do you do that? And what does livewire mean?

I think some use labels and some don't. Unless you're enlightened you will always manipulate, with or without using labels though. The real question is if that even is a successful relationship however. Depends on what a successful couple entails. Is a couple that has a neurotic dynamic going on but still love each other/ grow old together successful? If two want a really successful relationship both obviously needs to be enlightened and for that both has to been on the spiritual path in some sort of way.

bruh The reason for the outrage is never due to the outside world being wrong, only the inner world judging it as such.

@sleep By talking to people and making them frel appreciated, heard and seen. There are so many awesome genuine people out there.. You just have to find them. The thing with deep friendships however is that you have to be vulnerability and dare to open up about your struggles, feelings and emotions. If you do that with the right people, a deep friendship will start to take place.

@RendHeaven Great share man!

I appreciate that you did. @RendHeaven

By being interested in other people, asking lots of quedtions and trying to make them feel seen and appreciated.

On valentines day too ???

My life purpose is to give hope to people by giving them direct insights about themselves. I want to do this through public speaking ( Teal Swan style) + create and relese music that gives them direct insights about themselves. In other words I want to have 2 mediums for my LP? Is that okey, realistic and possible? I mean, you're preparing a book + do the actualized videos. It should be okey right? Both things tie into another. What do you say?@Leo Gura Would also love help and guidance from all of you guys and gals aswell. Thank you!

@Javfly33 Yeah I agree, letting go of the need to even be yourself. Still working through that myself. I misinterpreted what you meant + projected a negative narrative around not being yourself in the sense that it is wrong. I very often have tricked myself into being somewhere I have been not which by itself is based on an assumption that I still need to go somewhere. I still judge myself for not being myself. Thanks for expanding my conciousness around this (: Ps. What you just said is what the enmeshment trauma concept made me realize

Technically nothing ever happend, so what? Take what you can, leave the rest. Don't fall into the " not enlightened enough trap". Leo is not fully awake either - yet we are both still here. If you have a problem, dare to consider different solutions to your problem. Here is one potential solution. Investigate the term enmeshment trauma and see if it can help you. Don't tute your horn before you even tried it. Try it and see if you can find value from it. Or don't... you don't have to. It is simply a suggestion based on what have helped me enormously. All love mate. @Javfly33

Yeah I get that. I meant with the branching out of the mediums. Did you know you wanted to do other creative work in regards to your LP or were you in the beginning only planning to share your creative work through your current medium and nisch when you started? ( the long, detailed actualized vids) @Leo Gura

Gold. Thanks Leo! This cleared up a lot of my confusion. Did you know you wanted to branch out ( with books and stuff) when you started actualized.org or was it something that came organically with the process?@Leo Gura

@Leo Gura What do you say?

@Javfly33 I never said that you haven't grown or that it is black/ white. All I said was that I think you're not fully yourself becuase you still belive that that person is unacceptable.

By finding your authentic self and than learning to assert that person + to learn how to rely on yourself to capitalize on your best interest. Besides this, to learn to accept and feel your emotions and accept yourself as you are through the methods I mentioned earlier. I'll be honest with you bro, I don't think you are yourself, I belive you're tricking yourself to belive that becuase you're scared to not be yourself. I mean you said it yourself. Being normal is according to you not enough and you're scared of not asserting yourself ( not being yourself) I know this because I know myself too well. I mean don't you also beat yourself up when yu're not yourself, stressed and non assertive/ not confident?