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I´ll have to look out for that. I am 20 now, 25 is not that far into the future. It´s so hard to know what to listen to though.. Leo very often telling us that vegan, raw food diet is the best diet out there while some is saying Mediterranean diet is the best. Maybe the one doesn´t have to exclude the other one? what do you say?@Michael569 Btw, big thanks for your time, one can sense that you´re really passionate about this topic. Do you mind sharing how that passion emerged, I would be curious to know what makes you tick and why this is your " life purpose" ( why you have chosen to work with this, Thanks a ton man! Any specific book, course, channel or video that come to mind that you would recommend?

Contemplate this. Why do you want to stop wanting a relationship? Is wanting a relationship bad? Is anxiety bad? Is wanting to get loved bad? Is hating that you hate yourself bad? Accept that you don't accept yourself and that you hate that you don't accept yourself. Notice how your idea that you should accept yourself, hinders you in accepting yourself. Accepting means acknowledging everything that you feel. If you feel shit and hate that you feel shit... Accept that. If you fail to accept that, accept that you failed and that you hate that you failed to accept yourself. In that counterintuitively, you actually start accepting yourself.

Because people become aware of stuff they haven't thought about. What do you think yourselves?

Because of fomo, social anxiety and separation anxiety.. All of the 3 useally go together

@RendHeaven is our local expert and supporter when it comes to this subject. I suggest you read his how to deal with brake up journal (:

intellectual arrogance maybe but I believe that is more of a green or orange shadow.

It´s impossible to descibe. Noticing the difference is an intuitive process that needs to be felt and experienced. it can't be quantified or pin-pointed by the logical mind.

@Rilles So what are we doing here than? You yourself know experimentally that the masculine and feminine energy exists by direct experiece. Of course we all have different amount of this energi but what does that really prove other than that the masculine and feminine energy exsist?

@Rilles Turn your scepticism towards your scepticism. Right now you're trying to prove it doesn't exsist. Entertain the idea and see if you can notice a difference in energy between men and woman. Stop theorizing and trying to quantify it, investigate if you can feel some differences in the quality of the energy.

@Vido Been there done that bro. You might wanna look into the term enmeshment trauma. I think it might help you gain some clarity about your self worth issues.

Stop being with her and move on. The end.

@Richard Purdy This is not a twinflam relationship - this is a karmic relationship. I went through something similar last summer with a girl who was a covert narcissist aswell. I can't or understand your pain bro, but I've been somewhere similar.. and I know it is probably one of the most painful things to go through. Keep your head up man, this two shall pass. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/karmic-relationship

Well said fish. I Second this.

@Preety_IndiaPractice practice practice and read lots of books where this writing style is present. Also, there surely must exsist books and courses that are designed for this endeavor. Google and YouTube around, and see what you can find Also, do you mind sharing what the name of this brain disorder is? I am curious

Put your soul into your work

Are you also addressing the shallowness of guys who get rejected by girls because they are needy and not confident enough? That's the exact same thing, but the opposite side of it. Men are ruthless with looks and woman are ruthless with personality. Both men and woman are shallow af and will forever be. @Etherial Cat

@Etherial CatLike the guy's height? Short guys are seen as less attractive than tall guys just becuase they have bigger bones. Omg, how ShALOw. What are we? a piece of MeAt?

Good (: I am happy for you

@Preety_India It all depends on what the needs of both are and if it's communicated or not. My point is that Sexual intimacy is important in a romantic relationship. The important question however is how much is enough for both to be happy and that's were communication comes in so that both are satisfied on that compartment of the relationship. If it is not satisfied for both people than the relationship will not be as good as it could be and sometimes even lead to bigger problems that the two should deal with if they want to develop the most conscious relationship possible. For most people regular sex is an important need, that must be meet in order for the relationship to feel good. If one or both partners have another preference, than that's becuase of preference - not becuase the level of conciousness or emotional maturity.

The amount will vary. The point was, If you're not having sex at all on a semi regular basis ( whatever you both agreed you need) than problems will occur. When partners never have sex or super fucking rarly have sex and both are in their reproduction prime and there is no communication about it, problems will occur. Sex is also a basic need that doesn't disappear, unless you're fucking buddha.

@Preety_India Game B that Leo talks about is basicially tourquise ( or maybe yellow) daiting. Tourquise people basically doesn't exsist so it's kind of useless to debate how to create such relationships... Especially if we ourselves is not even there yet. That said, how to do green/yellow dating is an interesting discussion. I believe the most important thing for such relationships is understanding the other person and working on the problems that both have collectively and individually. Understanding and listing to the other partner is crucial, otherwise the misunderstanding will grow and come out In ugly ways. Otherwise, it will be hard to reach the deepest forms of intimacy and the relationship will fail sooner or later. Furthermore, I believe continuing having regular sex throughout the relationship is important and also counterintuitively having an dynamic where both parties are allowed autonomy, space and alone time.

I hear you and understand your point of view. I disagree on the, it's time to integrate the feminie again though. It's time to integrate the feminine and masculine at the same time and allow both polarities to fully express themselves. The problem is not masculinity or femininity, the problem is the need to repress any of the two. Men need to feel like they can be men and woman need to feel like they can be woman. Not true at all. This is true for woman, not men. Men need sex in order to feel that deep deep intimacy with the girl while girls first need to feel that intimacy that you're talking about to than have sex. It's the opposite dynamic. Than again, I might be completely deluded - so I would love to hear what personal experiences you've had that tell you the opposite. Wanna share?@intotheblack

@intotheblack No, the last generation was woman repressing their femine side becuase they had to become masculine in order to make it in the society. Now, the pendulum have swinged and woman/ the feminist movement do the same thing that men did to to the feminie energy becuase they was so hurt by the toxic masculine energy. Most woman here claim that the men in this sub forum have a problem with to much masculinity... Actually it is the opposite. Most men on here struggle with attracting a girlfriend, aka struggle with the masculine polarity. Of course the guys who haven't had success with woman are obsessed with sex. What else can you expect.. But that's not becuase they are not feminine enough... that's becuase they suck with woman which is becuase they probably struggle to convey the masculine polarity. Lastly... guys need sex for intimacy, girls needs intimacy for sex. Don't forget that... Maybe it is you that don't understand the masculine energy.

In which video did he say this?@Rick1

Very good insigths. Thanks What are girls seeking in one word? Love of course but in what form? Containment? Security? Able to Express? What's the first word that pops up?@Preety_India