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About conspiracy theory. I don’t know much about conspiracy theory. But there are many theories that scare people. For instance, sayings like “It’s very hard to break the class ceiling because the powerful and the rich have monopolized the resources.” I think these paralyzing thoughts, though they may be true to a certain degree, are not unbreakable iron. For me personally, focusing on my purpose and trusting that things will work out in the universe’s unique way is a more positive thinking I need to adopt. I find that the mind is always trying to find excuse. Original family, gender inequality, social expectations, education that does not encourage creativity, etc. can all be excuses. Though they may be significant factors in one’s life, there are ways to fix the damage they have caused. “Take 100% responsibility for your life.” This is something I need to remind myself of.

Yes, I agree. Ruminate on it from a positive intention: "What have I learned about myself? What have I learned about life?" Then move on with life. What doesn't help is to ruminate from a negative intention: "Why did it happen to me? I wish I could have done something to make it better." Everything is a treasure in disguise.

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: A lean and strong body. Floating effortlessly. 2. Positive self talk: Lean and Strong. 3. Praying: Lord, thank you for helping me find clarity about my purpose. Help me remember that I ultimately can find satisfying purpose when I seek after you. Lord, as I work to understand my purpose more fully, I pray that your joy would be present. I pray for grace and wisdom. Help me long to serve you above myself, even above others. Help me walk daily in dependence of you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 4. Mirror work: The universe is providing me with all the resources to fulfill my purpose. 5. Meditation: Mind power meditation by Bob Proctor. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 30 min stretching. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I lead the morning gratitude ritual in the Self-Love Group. I shared my experience in mirror work. Yanzi shared her growth in the trials and errors of cooking. A girl with bulimia added me and I helped her go through the improvements she can make in her diet. I encouraged Tania and Nancy to set up small goals and we'll keep each other accountable. I'm energized when I'm growing in a group. ---- Be an inspiration to others. Live the most meaningful life you could possibly live.

I love it. Expression is healing. I used to believe that I could resolve my emotional upheavals and trauma all by myself. Then I started talking about my feelings with a friend. It helped me clear my thoughts. After that, I went further to blog about feelings and started my chat group where people could share their feelings. Now I leave a message to my friends whenever I feel something strongly, even seemingly meaningless things. Emotional journaling also works wonders. I pick one thing that has caused emotional disturbances in my mind every day and write about it. With these actions, I feel that my brain is still churning out thoughts incessantly, but the emotions stirred up by them always have somewhere to go. It's the emotions that need to be channeled. You can't tell the brain to shut up. It's his job to chatter and nag. Good luck!

For me, Teal Swan's Self-love E-course has helped me a lot. https://shop.tealswan.com/pages/self-love-online-course She has a FB group for students of this course. To a certain degree, I think the community is more valuable than the course itself. We need a tribe to stay grounded. https://www.facebook.com/groups/tealswanselflove And I keep a self-love practice journal on this forum. Self-love needs practice. It's like learning a completely new language. This is the best practice you can do. Self-love is the raw material for any form of abundance in life. Best wishes for you!

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: wonderful interviews I carry with people who pursue their life purposes 2. Positive self talk: I'm living my life purpose. 3. Praying: I love today's prayer I found on pinterest. 4. Mirror work: Let's embark on the fun ride of life purpos. I manifest things I long for. 5. Meditation: success guided meditation. soaking in pretty well. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 2 min stretching before bedtime. I'll make it longer today. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I responded to a girl's food and emotional diary. She's become noticeably more positive about her body. She and another girl also talked about their shame and regret in bingeing. I said: "We are bound to fall hard from time to time. Accept that we are not perfect, make silly mistakes, do things that seem so strange afterwards. But love ourselves anyway." I felt drifting on a cloud after dinner, watching crime shows to distract myself. I need to have more specific things planned out for my life purpose to ground myself. ---- Pray for Big Things. Act on Little Things. It Makes a Difference.

－Shadow work can be wonderful. I do shadow work by journaling, especially about things that upset me. —Shadow work frees you. The biggest success of my shadow work is self love. I’ve never truly loved myself. Looking back on my life, I see how I kept making the same mistakes, running in circles, hating myself for it, yet not knowing how to get out of it. The conclusion I came to was: “I was too damaged to heal.” However, shadow work has dug out the truth for me. The truth is: “I do not love myself unconditionally.” Abusive words in my mind is a driving force behind all of my unexplainable actions. So I come to a new conclusion: “Unless I love myself unconditionally, weird actions, weird things and weird people will keep happening in my life.” That’s how a lot of positive changes take place. —Secure relationships. I deliberately let my shadow into the light in my relationships. For instance, I’m quite messed up in my finances. I let it be known to good friends. Instead of judging me, they encourage me to set good intensions, have faith and set a goal. For another example, I’m too quick to pass judgment on people before I validate their feelings. I shared my experiences, and some of my friends gave me feedback on how they felt when I offered unsolicited advice. This has helped me to be more sensitive and compassionate. A secure relationship feels like this: I’m not perfect, yet I’m loved. I feel a lot safer in my relationships.

-Attachment of argument. Insecurity, emotional reactivity and trigger. If I’m triggered, does it mean I feel insecure about my position so that I have to argue for it? I used to be easily triggered by people who believe it’s easy to overcome trauma. Anyone who feels traumatized are too vulnerable and dramatic. Now I have deliberately built different sources of emotional support. I only talk to people who can understand about my true feelings. I don’t argue in my mind about what’s right and what’s wrong. Truth be told, I don’t understand experiences that I’ve never been through myself. I was triggered by a girl who said I was too insensitive to her sharing her true feelings. I was quite surprised that she felt hurt by me voicing different opinions. Looking back, I was too quick to assert my view before I validated her emotion. So, I learned that people come to me with their problems not to seek my advice but my hears to listen. I need to stop offering unsolicited suggestions. -Notice the subtle feelings. Notice when you don’t feel good. Don’t disassociate: I meditate and record major emotional shifts every day. This has truly helped me to be more aware of my feelings. Yesterday, I was feeling empty after lunch. I used to numb this feeling with a lot of entertainment shows and food. I caught this feeling, and I listened. The voice behind this feeling is: “You won’t achieve anything. Your dream is too vague. You are too small to make it come true. People don’t find you special.” I ate some food but it tasted bland. I watched some shows that made me laugh. I talked to friends about my feelings. But I was aware for the first time how meaningless they could be. I felt even more lost after. So I decide to turn the emptiness into the opportunity to reflect upon myself by journaling. I’m becoming more and more sensitive to the feeling of fulfillment and emptiness. I notice something different in me. I can just sit and listen to Leo talk for 10 minutes. In the past, I couldn’t sit still and have my hands do nothing. I always pick up something to do while listening to him. So this is a sign of a more settled mind.

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: a beautiful house of my own, hanging out with my friends, cooking and talking 2. Positive self talk: I am a lighthouse of love. 3. Praying: Dear Heavenly Father, Today I come to you as humbly as I know how. I am praying Lord that you use me to fulfill your purpose for me in the earth. I know that there are so many areas in which I am gifted and talented but I am asking for you to reveal to be my reason for being alive. I know that at any given moment I could gain and lose those talents but I know it says in your word that your purpose will stand. What is it you would have me to do? Speak Lord your servant is listening. Amen. 4. Mirror work: I am here to fulfill a purpose. 5. Meditation: abundance guided meditation. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 10 min stretching before bedtime. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I encouraged girls to share their food and emotional diary with me to stop bulimia. I responded with compliment to a friend's sharing photos of her son. I received best wishes for my birthday from family and friends. ---- I am a hero on a hero’s journey. Stop living petty. Start living big.

Personally I find making changes by oneself is very hard. The old habit is too slippery to revert. But making changes in a community is a lot easier. That's why Leo has started this forum. He keeps reminding us that it's so easy to forget what one has learned. We need to be reminded by other people to get back on track.

Biological cycles change bit by bit. Perhaps you can take a more patient route. For instance, move your sleeping schedule half an hour earlier bit by bit. For me, what works best is stretching before bedtime and low-volumn guided meditation. It took me a lot of trials to find out what works best for me. Good luck!

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: a beautiful house of my own. 2. Positive self talk: Baby steps are good enough. 3. Praying: Dear God, We pray that you would remind us that that we are all a part of building and expanding your Kingdom. We ask that you give us a fresh vision for your purpose for our lives. We ask that you open our eyes, our ears, our hearts, and our minds to your vision so that we can live out our purpose. Remove anything from our lives that hinders us from discerning your vision. We pray that you would draw us closer to you as you bring us revelation to our purpose. Please reveal to us what we need to do today to not run wild, but rather be focused on your divine vision. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 4. Mirror work: I am a magicien. I manifest things I long for. 5. Meditation: abundance guided meditation. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 2 min stretching before bedtime. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I shared my vision with my friends. I gave a gift to a friend. I receive their encouragement for things I want to do. I share my vulnerability with people and get their kind feedback. I'm soaked in love. I am fully blessed. ---- You could stop telling the story about yourself which feels terrible, because and only because, it feels terrible.

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: light and strong body. 2. Positive self talk: I'm okay the way I am. 3. Praying: God Almighty, you created me and put me in this time in history for a purpose. I don't want to go another day without touching and gaining understanding about that purpose. You want and need to do something in my heart. I don't want to go on without that being fulfilled in me. God, speak to me. Speak to my heart like only you can and according to the way you know I will be able to receive Give me revelation, give me wisdom and give me understanding of your divine will, purpose and plans for my life. Please give me the grace, the ability and the revelation I need to be totally surrendered to you. Please answer me Lord , according to the way you've called and annointed me. Let me do your work. Please set me apart and save me from sin, from my world's system, and from the works of the enemy. So that your will and purposes can be fulfilled in my life Yes Lord, send me. Use me. Set me apart. Make me a vessel you can use. Make me a part of your army. Strengthen and anoint me so I can stand against the darkness in these last days. I surrender to your will, Lord. I am yours and you are mine, Amen 4. Mirror work: I want people who share deep connection with me. 5. Meditation: Boho's guided meditation for cleansing. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 10 min stretching before bedtime. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I gave a gift to Yoyoo. She gave a gift to me. She treated me to a big lunch. A girl was asking me about her abusive relationship and I shared my insights with her. Loki talked about her anxiety over job and I shared my insights. I'm a lot more comfortable in my skin. I'm more excited about changes than fearful. ---- Protect your life purpose, and your life purpose will protect you.

I was thinking the same thoughts as UDT. It seems you've been through relationships that don't meet your needs or even abuse them that makes you think whether it's possible to meet all of your needs on your own. I've had similar questions. The thing is, we need relationships and we need time alone. Both are essential human needs. In a healthy relationship, people meet each other's needs with pleasure, not through persuasion, not through moral standards, not through money, or any strings attached. The hard part is how to identify the compatibility and stop buying milk from a hardware store. It requires deliberate practice. To quote a personal experience, I love talking about detailed feelings, which not many people are into. The way I meet the needs is, on the one hand, tons of journaling; on the other hand, I share my feelings with a few friends. Those who respond with their own feelings, instead of stopping me from overthinking, are the ones I pick for meeting my needs. I hope it helps. Best wishes!

I'm keeping a self-love practice journal in the journal session. Things that work for me: 1. Self-love meditation; 2. Mirror work; 3. Gratitude journal; 4. Small gift giving; 5. Starting my own discussion group on self-love; 6. Journaling about emotions; 7. Sending love to people before I go to bed. If you look for key words such as "self love" "express love" on youtube, there will be tons of videos. Small habits create unbelievable results. Good luck!

Crying is very healthy, especially when you give yourself space to cry alone. It's a very responsible way to handle your emotions. I would suggest adding a comforting part to the end of the crying session. Your inner child wants venting and also your attention. You can do it yourself, listen to a self-love meditation, or find a soothing prayer you like. Take a hot bath. Hug a fuzzy toy. Write down your emotions. You can try it out and find your favorite ritual. Life is you playing hide-and-seek with yourself. There's a crying you. There's a comforting you. The comforting you call out to the crying you: "Jump, and I'll catch you." With practice, you will feel more and more grounded with yourself. Best wishes on the healing journey!

"Vision buddy" sounds like a good idea. I find myself tune out of focus from time to time. I'm thinking about starting it with a friend. Thanks for the inspiration!

I believe in all these points. But it's something to be practised. The brain is hardwired for fear-based thoughts and actions. So consciousness needs to create specific habits for it to raise vibration. Here are some of the practices I'd like to share with you: 1. Visualization and guided meditation. You can choose any theme, peace, money, relationship, letting go, health, etc. My recent theme is self love. 2. Gratitude journal. As small as possible to gradually wire the focus on positivity. 3. Praying. I use it as a way for setting my intention for the day. 4. Mirror work. I point out small wins to myself in the mirror. Mirror has strong reflection power. It's the most direct way of raising vibration. 5. Say "Thank you" every time I make or spend money. 6. Share my true feelings by writing blogs. That's how I started my own discussion group on self love. It has become a small but solid base for my own emotional stability. The most difficult part is letting go of expectations. You have to trust that the Universe manifest according to the level of your vibration, not exactly according to what you want physically. I've so far manifested deeper connection with people, more stable and positive self image, higher hopes on life, and a healthier life style. It's not much. But it's quite a big manifestation for a person who has been living off self-hatred for years. So it works. The law of attraction is a magic wand that human beings don't know exists or don't know how to use. Thank you for starting this thread!

It may sound cliche but it's about the journey. The flower is going to perish in winter but I can enjoy its blossom at the present moment. My friends are eventually going to die but I can enjoy their company in the present moment. I will die and but I can enjoy this life time of finding and living a purpose. From another perspective, nothing is lost. All the experiences are stored in great consciousness. Physical things collapse but consciousness is always expanding.

Congratulations Leo! Here's my question: How do you express love to your family and friends? Thank you and all the best!

It’s been six days that I didn’t renew this journal. My self-hatred has prevailed self-love and derailed my routine. When the self-hatred thoughts attack, it’s like a tornado. It comes very sudden. Everything is going well. Routines are being followed faithfully. I feel grounded and supported. I go out with friends and we have a good time. Then all of a sudden, I don’t feel like doing anything except binge eating, watching horror stories and numbing myself out. Painful memories, abusive self talk and triggers are abound and I feel all of these efforts are nothing but a joke. However, emotions come in waves. The tornado is gone. I’m back on my feet gain. The most difficult thing in practicing self love is to deal with disappointments. I know I’ll be tripped by the same program over and over again, each time a little bit more aware than the last until I can recognize it before it gets me. Now, I’m in the aftermath of the last tornado. Everything I’ve built has been torn down. But it’s not entirely a clean slate. At least I know what to do. So let’s start over again. Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: giving a speech in front of a large crowd. 2. Positive self talk: I love myself unconditionally. 3. Praying: Dear Angel, please, help me be good and kind to myself. Help me practise self-love so that I may live a life that truly shines. Guide me to love what I am and express this love in a ay that generously flows from my heart with joy and gratitude. Inspire me to build caring relationships with others from this place of self-love. Please, help me understand that I deserve to be loved not only by the people around me but by the most important person in my life: me. Help me let my self-love grow and blossom so that I may live a fulfilled and thriving life. Amen 4. Mirror work: I can build deeply connected relationship with people. I pick myself up after failure. It’s something to be proud of. 5. Meditation: I enjoy guided meditation a lot more than before. 6. Yoga mild stretching: 10 min stretching before bedtime. Stretching during working hours. 7. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I gave a 24 min talk to my chat group on self-love. I shared my thoughts on the disappointments in self-love. A guy shared in the group that he has been trying to accept himself but never really liked himself. I said liking oneself starts by letting go of expectations. Stop saying “I’ll like myself if I…”. That’s the most cruel thing you can say to yourself. It’s just disguised abuse. I feel a lot more safe in this chat group that I started. I don’t expect people to agree with me anymore. Feelings override right or wrong. ---- Never feel guilty for starting again.

I remember Leo said in an answer on the forum about limiting belief busting. He said you have to write extensively around a limiting belief in order to bust it. I'm doing it now. I'm also quite neurotic and love ruminating. So I started a journal called "Limiting Belief Busting" and write about one limiting belief every day. For instance, today, it's "I've wasted a lot of opportunities so that even if I have another one, I'll eventually flush it down the toilet." I find asking questions and answer them is very effective. That abusive voice you describe in your head is just an adult implanted in your mind when you were growing up. Replace him/her with a gentle, wise, compassionate and patient one. Reparent yourself. I'm cultivating a new parent in my head by this journal. I don't have to argue with the abusive parent. I just need to create one that I gravitate towards. By the way, affirmations do work. You can start by saying things that your mind does not find repulsive. For instance, instead of saying "I'm enough", you can start by saying: "I'm willing to heal." Personally, I write affirmations on stickers and put them on the mirror so that I can say them out loud when I'm in front of the mirror. This week, it's "I take baby steps towards abundance every day." Lastly, as Leo said over and over again, everyone is a unique puzzle.You have to experiment with your life. Almost for every piece of advice, there is one contradicting it. Both are valid. So, listen to what people say and try them out yourself. Even if something does not work for the rest of the world but it works for you, then it's Your missing puzzle. Good luck!

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: building a family. 2. Positive self talk: I'm always on my side. 3. Praying: Dear God, I open my heart to you completely: You know that I feel like I have made many mistakes, and I feel bad about myself and my actions. I need your help in letting go to shame, guilt, and regrets. Please help me to learn from my past mistakes, instead of beating myself up about them. Please help me to grow into a strong person with faith and integrity who takes the right action steps. Please help me to forgive myself completely. Please help me to love myself and be happy. Amen. 4. Mirror work: I am lucky. 5. Talking to my inner child: Please eat healthily and regularly. 6. Meditation: Forgive and let go. 7. Yoga mild stretching: 10 min stretching before bedtime. 8. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I shared my tips in recovering from eating disorder with a stranger today. She has started to keep a food and emotional diary. ---- Smaller habits. Bigger results. Thank you! I will!

I have similar issue with you. I'm dealing with painful memories that I wish never happened. What I find helpful are the following practices: 1. Do regular meditation in the morning and in the evening. I usually use key words such as "regret" "guilt" "forgive myself" "let go" "I am enough" "painful memory" "self-love" etc. and pick the one I like. The benefit of meditation is that it let the reasoning mind rest for a while and let me have a breathing space to feel things in a compassionate way. 2. When you find yourself tangled in the resistance, simply say: "God, please help me to understand the event in a different perspective." 3. Journal about your feelings. You refuse to look at it because you only see pain and hurt. But painful memories have many layers. Journaling about your feelings, such as "How was I feeling at that moment? What exactly happened? What can I learn from it? Why do I resist it so much?" can help you dig out deeper layers that benefit you. 4. Send compassion to people in similar situations. For instance, I used to feel deeply shameful about my eating disorder. So I joined FB groups and started my own chat group. I see how people suffer from it and I send my love to them. I know shame is exactly the hidden driving force behind addiction. Sending love to them is sending love to my past self. The thing is, people find it so easy to be hard on themselves. Sometimes loving other people is way easier than loving oneself. It's a good start to love yourself back nevertheless.

Small wins today: 1. Visualization in the morning: loving myself in the mirror every morning. 2. Positive self talk: I am taking baby steps towards abundance every day. 3. Praying: done 4. Mirror work: I am beautiful. I am enough. 5. Talking to my inner child: I want you to always on my side. 6. Meditation: Love yourself. 7. Yoga mild stretching: 20 min stretching before bedtime. 8. Expressing love to and receiving love from others: I shared my feelings today with a friend. I received a compliment from friends I met today. ---- Yes, I commit to a purposeful life.