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Oh, he told you that? ? i didn't know. Btw we talked about relationships too. We talked about the longest relationship he had. He also talked about girls and how he "screens" them for potential girlfriends in general. How, when he finds a girl attractive, he wants to find out everything about her, about her relationship history, friends she has... So he can see whay he's dealing with. So I doubt he would talk about all that if he is in a relationship.

Yeah. He seems like a good person. Could be. Well I figured so too. If he didn't enjoy it, we would end it in an hour or two. But who knows. Maybe he's just very social.

Well I think this too. Time for him to initiate a meeting maybe? I don't know.

UPDATE: Unplanned bad things happened meanwhile that prevented me from going out with this guy. So I had to postpone our meeting. However, I just came back from coffee shop now, where we had our "date" and it was very nice. We basically met live for the first time ever. He is very social, talkactive and pleasant to talk to. We talked for 3 and a half hours. I made him laugh couple of times. He made me laugh as well. I was smiling the whole time not because I thought I needed to, but because he made me smile the whole time. He payed for both of us, even though I offered to pay too. He would ask questions about me from time to time, however we mostly talked about him and his funny interesting life events. I would occasionally bring my own life situations, just so I could also talk about myself a little more. When I would share things about myself, I noticed that he listens very very closely, looks me in the eyes, doesn't interrupt me at all, but doesn't ask any follow-up questions. He holds eye contact though. Rarely looks away. For example he would mention his family and I would ask him whether he has brothers and sisters and he would answer but then not ask me in return. In the end, he offered to drive me home because it's cold and I accepted. When we came to our location I said "thank you" and I told him I had a very nice time tonight. He said "me too" and smiled. Then I kissed him (on the cheek) and then said bye. I have no idea what to do now though. I am not 100% sure he likes me (yet). Should I wait for him to send me a message? What should I do now? I am so unsure where I'm at with him.

Thank you ?

I won't be teaching him, he said he had long term girlfriend. I feel my attraction going ??? as time go on. Though, we haven't ever met before in person, so maybe he doesn't want to flirt with a girl he possibly will not find that appealing right after our "date". Basically like me lol.

I'm just indifferent now. Not expecting much. I will be myself, be nice and receptive and see how it goes.

Yeah I kinda feel bad. He could've just rejected my invite if he's this disinterested lol.

We are going out this weekend. Though I asked him does he have any wish where we could go and he was like "I will give it to you to decide, I'm not so choosy". I don't know man. I expect the worst lol. He's barely contributing , it's all on me. I am not used to this lol.

Did you guys flirt?

I will have him come and sit him down and be like "So.....(dramatic pause) I assume you know why you're here, right?" Lol.

Well honestly, the very fact you asked me out would tell me it's not just for friendly reasons. Because 9.9/10 people who meesage you on social media and ask you out usually look for something more (relationship/hookup) or at least you can be sure they find you attractive so they asked you out. It's not for friendship reasons. That's what people in my environment think so too. So I would get what's up immediately. Hahahahahaha omg ? I guess he is. We will see. He might get what's going on, he might not. But it's funny ? I might blew it, I might have already screw up, but oh well... If anything it will be a learning experience. And if I am too scared to flirt (which seems like I am), he might wanna do it for me when he meets me in person. But who knows. This is just me ruminating out loud.

Alright! No probs! True lol. Got you. Mm, so seductive lol.

Btw if we go to coffeeshop, he might be pressured to pay for me, even though he wasn't the one asking me out. If he was the one who asked me out to go to coffeeshop, I wouldn't mind because it was his initiative and idea, but as it's me, then I cannot ask him to go to a coffeeshop and ALSO expect to pay for me. I want him to want to do it himself lol. Maybe I'll just ask him "Where do you wanna go?"

If we go to one coffeeshop I want, there are sofas so this could be possible. We both have covid vaccine "pass" (new measure in my country) so we can stay in coffeeshops, unlike others who have not been vaccinated, so that's good lol. But though, I will see if I will kiss him on the first "date". I might not kiss him yet. Maybe we will just talk. But will see, will see.

Aw thanks! Will do.

@Shin Omg is he that clueless? Even when I ask him out, he might not get my intent, unless I explicitly flirt?

Thanks so much! I'm just not sure if he takes this as a date, or regular meet-up with a stranger he wants to get to know lol. I don't know what's in his head.

Okay, I asked him out, he accepted the invite. He suggested we meet on the weekend.

Well, see? So there is some truth to that. Though some tell me guys won't get turned off by being sexual with him too early, so I'm a bit confused right now tbh.

Thanks. It used to be so easy for me to tell whether a guy is interested in me. They were the one usually pursuing me. But with this guy, I have no idea. It's just mostly friendly. And maybe that's good, for a start. To get to know him as a person. But I am already, at this very moment, preparing myself for rejection lol. Btw what do I do after our first meeting in person? Do I send him a message or wait for him to do that? (I'm ruminating in advance lol) Oh yeah. Gotta make sure that he's reciprocating too. You're right on this one.

True. I see. Good to know, the last part. My personal experience has been different, but again I haven't been exposed to many different experiences regarding this stuff. Such as?

Well this is what basically happened. I was seen as "not girlfriend material" because I was being too flirty, even though I really sincerely liked that guy. I insinuated being sexual with him too. And he insinuated that to me too! But he was judging me that I was doing that. But he might have been projecting.

@Leo Gura I can flirt a little but I have a hard time to insinuate anything too sexual to him. I don't feel comfortable to do that. I need to meet him in person for me to be sure that I want him. Maybe we won't click in real life. Who knows. That's why I don't want to be "too open" too soon.

I don't know what I'm more afraid of - what you said is possibly one of the reasons, but I'm also wary not to be taken seriously/be seen in the wrong way. Cause it happened before.