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Ahahahahahaha. Okay. ? How do you know, huh? ? I actually did. And obviously regretted it.

So there are "nice" guys and Andrew Tate type of guys, nothing in between? ? Andrew Tate's "I am macho guy" energy just makes me cringe so badly. I won't be with someone just because he is nice, that's the bare minimum and not enough to form attraction. You wouldn't either.

I recalled a situation with a guy where he totally embarassed me in front of others. I felt so freaking bad. The feeling just came back a few minutes ago and I started crying. Crying because he set me up. We had a good conversation beforehand where we even confessed to each other that we would be together, and so I thought supporting him will be welcomed. But he totally turned on me and behaved weird. I took back my comment and said I will never comment again. Thinking about his weird behaviour that didn't make sense to me whatsoever, someone suggested he behaved that way because he was too ashamed because he showed me he cared (by confessing he would be with me) that he wanted to let me know that he actually doesn't care about me. Well, he successfully pushed me away, that's for sure. He would need to work extra hard to solve this out with me. He would need to work extra freaking hard because I am not doing anything anymore. Will let him suffer and overthink cause I didn't deserve that kind of treatment aftewards. He will regret this 100%. He will realize (if he didn't realize already) what he lost and will beg me to come back. ?

Well now I am curious... ?

That is why I am open to psychedelics ? Hahahah that's an involved version of me from the future

Yeah... I hate that I have to depend on someone to fullfill some of my needs. Like I can't love myself out of it. I guess I should just put focus on something I can control right now, instead of being frustrated

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Human trafficking.

Oh I won't speak to guys who reveal to me that they follow Andrew Tate. It's an instant "Goodbye" for me ?

But I can't be in my devine feminine energy and at the same time chase them ? I think they have to want to chase and work for the "prize". I need to make compromises then I think. ? Well, I don't know. From experience, older guys are not necessarily more developed.

@Princess Arabia Hahahah it's okay guys, I don't take things personally or seriously. Though I do demand respectful tone when having a conversation, but oh well, if not, ignoring is very easy solution ?

Nope.

So far I didn't meet anyone special when I went out. Cause I go out in places where people usually drink lol. But I might join some social clubs, I will see. Thanks ?

Come on, I don't go that much into detail ? Tbh just having an authentic energy around him is enough for me to fall for him. Even if he is not THAT handsome (with muscles and such). Like I got surprised when I found one guy who is totally not my type, attractive, just because he was so authentic and goofy.

I actually agree with this. But I would rather suffer because of this, than to suffer because I lowered my standards and let someone in that I didn't want to let in.

Kindness is a bare minimum, I don't even mention that. Writing kindness is as basic as writing "doesn't beat up women". Of course I want kindness and respect. Handsome is because I figured I offer good physiche as well, and I wouldn't wanna be with someone who has "beer belly" ? It also has to do with my reputation. Of course someone with decent looking face is okay. I was talking more about muscles and abs when I said handsome. Well ambitious as in, has goals, is passionate about something and is reaching for that goal. Does something every day to get to that goal. Adventurous as in, likes to travel cause I like to travel too.

I'm not gonna lower my standards because I know I am asking for things that are possible. Plus I offer a lot too so it wouldn't be fair to myself. From my experience, lowering my standards just lead me to have bad experiences with people that I didn't enjoy.

But I dooon't ? I would be lying to myself then ? Sure! Though I'm not sure are they living top quality lives or are happy about it. Maybe people who are asexual are perfectly happy that they are not having sex, but I imagine people with high sex drives wouldn't be too happy living life without sex.

@integral How can one not feel safe next to a moderator like you ? but yeah, @Sugarcoat is all good ?

Kinda counting on that. Cause I always go out, but places I go to don't really have guys I am into. I think guys I like are all online, in other towns or something ? Kinda answered that one in another comment but basically... Handsome guy, who is adventurous, plays an instument and is ambitious and open-minded ? These kind of guys can only be found in some kind of nature camps or something, I would assume. Or in the gym. Or on music festivals.

This girl used to be my closest friend but turned into negative person who gossips and finds fault in everybody but herself. And never admits her fault. When I point out hurtful thing she made towards me, she deflects and turns it around and blames me for something else that I did. Something small that she emplifies so she can have a good enough reason to blame me and make herself a victim. I am the "bad guy" in her story. Yes, I made mistakes, I am human, I apologized. But what hurts the most is that she forgets everything good I did to her and throws it all into the water and remembers mistakes I did. I noticed she sees bad and something negative in everybody. How do I deal with these kind of people? I work with her in group project in university.

@BlessedLion It's not a problem to put up energy and dress well, it's that finding guys I would actually wanna be/sleep with happens not so often.

Well, now that two people have pointed it out, I can see. ? Ohoo, pozdrav odakle god da si

I wanna stay true to myself and not get myself involved with people who do not appreciate what I have done for them and only remember the human mistakes I did, as if they are perfect and never do them. And people who see evil even in people with neutral/good intentions. People who behave they are always right without critically reflecting on themselves are not the kind of people I want to be associated with and they do not bring me inner peace. I don't care whatever happens anymore. If I put myself first and then something "bad" happens, that's the best thing that could've happened.