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Fr Fr In my opinion most of the stuff on there is straight up counterproductive (Probably due to the fact that Leo is a mediocre dating coach (Leo if you are reading this I love you its just you are wrong about a lot of the dating stuff))

Why is all this stuff about moderation in masturbation bro-science? I mean, I can see intuitively why moderation may have benefits, but it seems that no one here is interested in actual scientific studies. Can someone PLEASE point me to any case studies or any instances where someone has gathered evidence to support a certain amount of masturbation?

What is this whole concept about "state"? Always have the mindset that you are a 100/100 attractive male. Think about it, you are. You're the shit. You do cool shit, you look good, you know how to give a girl a good time. Always go into interactions with this mindset. This whole concept about state is poisonous, counter productive, and wrong. To maintain your frame, have a deep understanding of who you are and what you want. Make it so nothing in the world could ever make you doubt yourself, especially the shit test of two broad German girls. This is what women are fundamentally attracted to in my opinion. Always be self-assured.

Don't give compliments with the intention to boost the girl's ego or to make yourself look more agreeable. Give compliments in order to sexualize the conversation and move things forward. It's like talking to a close friend except you are being sexual (as in you are commenting on her looks, making sexual jokes, generally flirting). You don't just hand out compliments for no reason, but to let the other person know you like them and want to be close to them.

I wrote this and I think it's a good way to visualize the future. I think it will be interesting to some of you. The idea is to write about one good future and one bad future for yourself. A positive and a negative motivator to do what is right in the present. I encourage you all to do the exercise too. I think it will be useful to just about anyone. Future #1 - The good future This is a possible future 5 years from now if I do the following things: Stop wasting time with short term pleasures (youtube, video games, movies, tv shows, porn) Keep up with my responsibilities (get good grades in school, pursue current opportunities like research) Keep up with my health (meditate daily, work out daily and eat properly) Make new friends and maintain current relationships Keep up with reading and playing the guitar I am close to obtaining my PhD in physics. I'm working on research that I'm interested in. I am very skillful with my craft and I understand the inner workings of my field very well. I can communicate with other experts at a high level and I am amazed daily at the spectacular complexity that I knew was there. I am working in a respectable institution and my future career paths look ripe with opportunity. I feel as though my work is important and is really pushing the field of physics forward. I am proud of the work I have done so far and I really feel like I am living up to my potential. I'm excited for what's to come and I feel as though I'm only getting started. I have the ability to dream. I am inspired by the people I work with and feel uplifted by them. Physical movements are easy for me. I have reached the physical potential I always knew I could have. I can run a 5 minute mile without too much pain. My physique is sculpted and lean. Others compliment me on my looks. Girls I don't know pay attention to me as I walk into a room. I feel comfortable in my own skin. I could take anyone in a fight, but I don't have to because people don't really want to mess with me. I sleep easily. I'm flexible I have a circle of friends that I have a deep connection to. I'm either in a relationship with a girl I truly believe to be the most attractive girl I have ever met or I frequently go on dates with girls I find attractive. I keep up with my mom, dad, brother, and relatives and I know what is going on in their lives. I don't forget people's birthdays. People feel good around me and I feel good around them. I have the ability to make people feel important. I make new friends quickly and often. I can feel what others are feeling. I feel at peace when I'm alone. I can explore my own mind without loosing focus for hours on end. I wake up and go to bed in accordance with sunrise and sunset. I have ultimate piece of mind. I have the ability to fully appreciate the present moment. I am grateful to be alive. Reality feels magical. I can reliably become lucid while I am dreaming. I remember my dreams very well. I'm generally optimistic about myself and the world. I have a deep understanding and love of myself. I can sing and play the guitar with many songs I've memorized and I can do it well enough that others are impressed. More importantly, I deeply enjoy playing guitar and feel at ease when I can escape for a little bit by doing so. I am well read, I have read many of the books I have been interested in for a while. I don't feel in the dark with regards to my knowledge about the world. I feel mentally fit and stimulated. I can use my words quickly and with precision. I speak like a samurai cuts. I speak in a manner that is easy to understand, entertaining, and makes listeners feel smarter by listening to me. I'm quick-witted and funny. Future #2 - the bad future This is a future 5 years from now if I do the following things: Spend unreasonable amounts of time watching YouTube, playing video games, watching tv/movies/porn Let my grades slip and don't follow through on opportunities Neglect to go to the gym and eat aimlessly. Only make friends when the opportunity falls into my lap. Be lazy in my current relationships and offer no effort on my part Quietly forget to read and play guitar I'm in a mediocre university position earning $20 per hour. I'm not really an expert in anything and I'm not particularly good at anything. I kind of just took the easiest path and now I'm not doing awfully, but in my heart I know I have failed. I have completely forgotten about my dreams. I see no real opportunities in science/engineering in front of me. My heart is not in my work. I look forward to the weekends and watch the clock. I'm continually uninspired and seek to do the minimum amount of work possible in my job. I don't feel as though I have an identity. I have a faint idea/memory of what life could be, but I've never really experienced it so I don't really care. I feel numb and my life feels pointless. It doesn't really look like I'll be able to change my position ever. I feel both anxious and lethargic at the same time. Daily life is a workout for me. I don't really have much energy. My body is high in fat and I'm not strong at all. I am kind of disappointed every time I look in the mirror. When I talk to girls I come off as creepy. I can't really feel how my body is doing. I get injured easily and I don't really like doing outdoor activities. I get pimples a lot. I know a couple people that I talk to from time to time but we're not really friends. It's been a long time since I've had sex and there are no good options for me for a relationship. I don't have much of a drive to be sexually active because the porn keeps me sedated. I don't really flow easily in conversation and people don't really want to talk to me. My family doesn't really think about me that much. I don't feel as though I can talk to them easily. I feel cynical and jealous whenever I see others in a relationship or having a good time with friends. I don't have the confidence to talk to anyone new. People politely ignore me generally. Life generally feels dull to me. There is a constant tightness in my chest that I can't get rid of except by numbing the pain with a distraction. I feel all the time. I get very caught up in the day to day events of life. I generally don't feel secure and I'm constantly worrying about the future. I have no idea what dreams even are. I'm not in touch with my emotions. Sometimes I wish I was dead. I know there's something more to life but I can't see it. Life is kind of boring. I don't know how to play the guitar and I haven't finished a book in a long time. My thoughts are murky and speaking is kind of hard for me. People don't really understand me well. I have faint whispers of ideas in my head but can't make them concrete and certainly can't communicate them.

I absolutely love this channel. It's so raw and interesting. My favorite has to be the ex mob boss.

Might be different for other guys, but for me, the time a girl can really get me under her spell is when I believe she is a help and not a hinderance to my other goals in life. If a girl can see in me my dreams, and aspirations and gets excited about them, I want to just have them around all the time. Sexual attractiveness is important, but if your man is dating you at all, that means he is already attracted to you son don't worry about that. Other than that, be sweet, be kind, but also have clearly defined boundaries and don't let him walk all over to you. Be submissive but make him work for it a little. If it's too easy it is sometimes boring. Also be aware that guys are sensitive on the inside no matter how little they may show it. Words really do affect guys and what you say can affect him. Lastly, and probably most importantly, remember that not everything that goes wrong in a relationship is not necessarily your fault. It is indeed very important to take responsibility in a relationship, but there are some things you just can't control. Counterintuitively, the best mindset in general in a relationship is to not be in need of a relationship. Learn to be content on your own and don't need your guy. Love like you have never been hurt, but be able and willing to let go of him when that is the only option. Love yourself no matter what. Don't let your man's opinion of you change the only opinion that truly matters: your own. This will be the most attractive to any guy. Self love videos (please watch these, it's literally the key to a happy life. THE key)

Man I think it would be great to have a discord server or something for this forum. I would make one but if I posted it on here, daddy Leo would smite me in an instant.

Honestly, it might not be your fault! I think some of Leo's pickup advice is good, but some of it is... not. My favorite pickup teacher is John Anthony Lifestyle (Look him up on YouTube). Don't put too much pressure on yourself! Pickup is not a skill that takes forever to learn, despite what Leo might say about it. You don't need to go through some ridiculous amount of self help in order to get laid! Keep hope by reading success stores from people with a similar situation. To solve your problem specifically, I would say be more sexual on your dates. Talk to the girls like you would a friend, but make it sexual! Make sexual jokes, comment on her looks, touch her, frame it so that you will go to your house after the date. Only back off if the girl is getting uncomfortable. Ask for forgiveness not for permission. This will make your dates exciting for the girls and will move things along rather than letting them fizzle out. If a girl sees that you are not being sexual, she will see that you are not willing to be ballsy or maybe even think that you re not interested in her. So sexualize! John Anthony talks about this more in depth on his channel. Again. Highly recommend.

READ!!! GET EDUCATED!!! Education is the process of bringing out your internal knowledge, not acquiring it. Really brah just be well informed, think for yourself, and trust your gut. In my opinion spirituality is very valuable but intuition relies on you being able to think and that really only comes from learning.

Pick up a guitar. God I love these things. I started playing a year ago and practicing always feels interesting and fun. You're never to old to pick it up. When you start just go look up guitar tabs to some songs you would like to learn and star playing. Gaining skill with the thing is so fulfilling. You can do it for your entire life. It's really good for your brain in general. To me it is a healthy means of escape and an effortless way to invest in myself. It's something I can do completely for me.

Leo's book list has 6 good books on systems thinking. I would write them here but I might get banned. Besides, Leo's book list is a very good purchase.

Sounds pretty close to my own goals. How are you doing with them?

The following is a trip report somewhat relevant to my question. Skip to the end if you don't feel like reading. A few weeks ago I took ~4.5mg of mushrooms. This was my first ever psychedelic experience and I am still unpacking all of the things that happened. Many things about the trip were unexpected, but what stood out to me the most was how the intensity of my emotions was turned up %10000. I spent a large portion of the trip laughing myself to tears as if someone had found a very ticklish spot on my body and wouldn't stop for mercy. Every moment in between the laughing was accompanied by some exclamation of my sheer amazement of what was going on. I felt like a 2 year old in that I had lost all control of my emotions. Any time someone even looked at me it resulted in an explosion that sent me into a fit of laughing, crying and swearing. During the trip, I was watching the movie "Speed Racer" from 2009. If you've never seen it, it's about the most eye-candy over the top mix of drama and lights you will ever see. Suffice it to say, I was completely overwhelmed by this move. There is nothing that could have prepared me for the onslaught of emotions that came with every camera change, facial expression, action relay, and family drama. Perhaps the most striking aspect of the whole thing, though, was how I felt like I could feel everything that the characters were feeling. Each gentle caress of a lover, each victory celebrated, each fit of rage. I felt like the emotions were being telepathically transmitted to me so I could feel exactly what each person was feeling. This not only went for the people in the movie. During the trip I thought a lot about my friends, and every thought of a friend came with a deep love and appreciation. I felt like after so long I finally understood how some other people think, how they feel. For so long I felt like many of the people in my life did not show their true emotions and instead showed an emotion that would elicit a certain perception from others. During the trip I realized that people's emotions are real and for the most part they are not acting. It was a groundbreaking insight for me. It felt so good to finally be able to cry. At the end of the trip I felt very emotionally drained and kind of glad that it was over. I also felt like I had aged a few years because I felt completely okay with myself. This is probably due to psilocybin deactivating my ability for self reflection, but it felt good nonetheless. -end of trip report- This was a revelation to me because for a large part of my life I have been a pretty emotionally flat person. I am just not affected by things very much. Family member dies, my partner leaves me, my parents get divorced. "Oh well" I say. I have a hard time being affectionate and receiving affection. I can get along with people just fine but when things get emotional I mostly just react with confusion. I almost never cry during movies. I don't like watching horror movies because I don't get a kick out of the things that are supposed to be causing me fear. I feel as though I could lose everything in my life and feel nothing more than a vague sense of pain. Grieving for anything seems like an impossible task to me. It wasn't always like this. When I was a child I was extremely sensitive. I would cry about just about everything. Sometimes nothing at all. When I went through puberty I think something changed in my brain and suddenly I was all flat. At first I was grateful for this because my uncontrollable outbursts of emotion were actually pretty embarrassing for me. Now though, I think I would rather be embarrassed than unable to feel. I used to think of other's emotions with condescension and contempt, now I treat them with curiosity because I really really really want to know how people feel. I feel like I just don't have that ability though. I listen with utter curiosity to others with as much compassion as I can muster and 0 judgement. The fact of the matter though is just I don't get what they're feeling. I want so badly to be able to share the experiences of others, but I feel like I just can't do it. Lately (in the past year or two) I have been highly introspective and have been trying to figure myself out in order to try to become more emotionally intelligent, but this too seems like an insurmountable task that I am not completely capable of. I can't even feel my own emotions. There are so many times in my life I want to cry but I can't. It just won't come out. What the heck is going on? How do I fix this? How do I develop my EQ and make myself more able to feel my own and other's emotions? If you read the whole thing I very much appreciate you.

Growth. Discovering who I am. Trying to figure out what life is all about. It's more about pursuing the question than getting and answer.

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Maybe think about why you desire fame? What do you think you will gain form it? Love? Respect? Validation? Chances are you want fame for a deeper reason. Also in my mind there's nothing particularly wrong with perusing fame. Sometimes you have to "burn through karma" as Leo puts it.

Intuition is where you know something without really knowing how you know it. Example: "Do you know why my car sounds weird?" "Let me hear you turn it on" ... "One of your spark plugs is shot" "How do you know?" "IDK I just know" Another example: "Should we go with service A or service B?" "Service A" "Why" "Because service B will cause us problems later on" "How do you know" "I don't know" If this is not getting the point across, Leo has a decent video about this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1yA9KbPzQ0 As far as how to develop your intuition, I would just say don't be overly logical or rational, get a lot of exposure to art and music, and trust your gut.

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I think at some level you actually do care about high school. There is no downside to getting good grades really. Besides maybe time commitment. You not only get more opportunities for college, but you also LEARN MORE. Which is important. Yes even your dumb whatever class that your school is forcing you to take. It's all worth doing, and not just for the sake of a good GPA. So basically, let go, do the best you can. Let go. Do the best you can. You will not regret it.

I was just about to make a post like this. I hope you find an answer. I feel as though my life situation is actually pretty good right now. I can't complain. However, I feel as though I have no direction, nothing to care about. I want to care deeply about something, but I haven't found something I think is worth caring about. I want to work hard to get somewhere, but I don't know where that place is. That being said, I think I might know some things that might help you. One thing that I think you could do is read books! Sci-Fi books in particular. Reading books will help alleviate that problem of lack of experience. I mean, it's not exactly real world experience, but they will make you feel less dull and will give you something for your mind to think about. Reading books and watching (a select few high-quality) movies, these things connect you to who you really are and make you want to be a better person. Elon Musk (probably one of the most purpose-driven people in the world), when asked what he would recommend young people do who want to make the world better, is to read broadly. He says that skimming through the condensed version of the Encyclopædia Britannica is something that helped him gain a wide breadth of knowledge, and is something he recommends to other people. His other book recommendations include: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams The Lord of the Rings by J. R. R. Tolkien The "Foundation" series by Isaac Asimov My personal recommendations are: Ender's Game and Ender's Shadow by Orson Scott Card The Way of Kings by Brandon Sanderson Red Rising by Pierce Brown The Fifth Science by Exurb1a Dune by Frank Herbert Some movie recommendations: Dune (the new one) The Shawshank Redemption The Godfather (my favorite) The Godfather part II Schindler's List Inception Leo has lots of good books on his book list too. I would recommend buying it and reading anything rated 5 stars. Of course, read anything that interests you. Anything. Fiction or non-fiction. It's worth your time. Reading any one of these recommendations will help you become more who you are and more purposeful. They will help you gain what it is that you are missing. They will inspire you. They highlight the hero's journey. If reading is work for you, listen to the books. Another thing I would recommend is to care about your job. Do your best. I assure you that any job no matter what it is can be fulfilling if you put your heart into it. Be the best god damn SEO guy you can possibly be. Think of new ways you can get costumers rolling in. Dive deep into the core principals of marketing and stick to those. Find ways you can lead, help others, and take initiative. Be an inspiration to others in the field. Show your dad that you care. This doesn't have to be THE purpose of your life, but it can be A purpose, at least for a while. Another thing you could do is to take shrooms. It won't solve any of your problems, but it will remind you of what being a child is like and teach you how to love yourself again. Take like 4 grams, or however much you can take without throwing up. Make sure you have someone you TRUST COMPLETELY there when you do it. You can buy these things on the dark web for like 40 bucks, or just grow them from spores you can buy on amazon. There are extensive guides for this on the internet. Look. You don't have to know exactly the right thing to do all the time to have a purposeful life. Just do your best with what you have. I this may be a controversial opinion on this forum, but I don't think you have a life purpose. It is your choice whether or not you care about something. If you peruse something for 5 years and then decide that you don't want to do it anymore, that is not life wasted. That is life LIVED. That is how it is supposed to be. Go towards SOMETHING that feels right AT THE TIME. You don't have to grow up all at once. One day, you may find something by accident that just grabs you, and because you will not be worried about whether or not it is your actual purpose, you will peruse it; And unexpectedly, it will turn out that this is indeed your purpose. Maybe your first step forward could be living alone. This will take resourcefulness, hard work, and will throw you from your nest. This will all make you feel ALIVE. Maybe join a martial arts studio? Start playing guitar? These things helped me. IDK if they will help you. Last thing. Ditch your phone. Seriously. Get a flip phone. Your mind will say "but the utility and what if I miss out on this or that blah blah blah". Tell that voice to go find the biggest, juiciest, vainest big black cock and swallow it down to its stomach because you know it is just not worth it. You can function just fine with out it. Trust me. These things are cancer. By writing all this it has helped me answer my own question quite well. Thank you for posting this! Tell me what you think about what I said!

Girls find things creepy when your actions do not match your intentions. I.E. Looking at a girl without trying to get her number or get her on a date. Don't be paying lots of attention to a girl unless you are actually going to talk to her. When you talk to her, try to get her to a place more private, away from the rest of the people at the gym to make her feel more comfortable. Girls don't want to be seen as slutty.

Insoles will give you an advantage, obviously. Taller = better looking. Don't discount the value of looks. Although the most important thing is how you act, other things help too. Go out a couple nights with and without insoles and see what happens with each. I'm sure you'll easily come to a conclusion.

The thing about being funny is you don't have to make good jokes in order to be funny. I recommend just writing a whole bunch of jokes, it doesn't matter if they are good or not, just make a ton of them. When you are around other people, say whatever comes to your mind. It doesn't matter if it is the stupidest brain-dead joke ever conceived. People forget jokes almost immediately, but they remember the feeling. Say stupid stuff and it will get people to laugh. They will tell you "that was a terrible joke", but they will be smiling.

People here are saying it's upbringing and environment. I think that's true, but it should also be said that when you want success, you have the ability to change and do things to attain that success. As far as attitude goes, I think it's important but you can't explain everything with attitude. Attitude is determined a lot by your situation and your previous successes/failures. I would say the most important thing to do if you want success and you don't have it is to trust that life will reward you if you put in an honest effort, even if it has wronged you in the past.