Jacob Morres

my understanding of procrastination is it's like a complex phenomena. like procrastination can be caused by many factors like energy levels (from maybe sleep, diet), some form of trauma, overworking, addictions, fear of failure, lacking confidence, lacking purpose etc. and each form requires a different approach to it. i think procrastination is more like a vague term and when you look under the hood you see some varied things . thats my understanding at least so far

i hypothesize implementing some coping mechanisms might help on these days mindfulness, body awareness, breathing exercises , journaling, exercising, pursuing your values. etc. i can relate, on days where i'm not doing so well, things get very magnified for me. there are times where it is completely insignificant and then times where it's the worst thing in the world lol

Obama made a statement on the conflict yesterday if anyones interested https://barackobama.medium.com/my-statement-on-israel-and-gaza-a6c397f09a30 It’s been 17 days since Hamas launched its horrific attack against Israel, killing over 1,400 Israeli citizens, including defenseless women, children and the elderly. In the aftermath of such unspeakable brutality, the U.S. government and the American people have shared in the grief of families, prayed for the return of loved ones, and rightly declared solidarity with the Israeli people. As I stated in an earlier post, Israel has a right to defend its citizens against such wanton violence, and I fully support President Biden’s call for the United States to support our long-time ally in going after Hamas, dismantling its military capabilities, and facilitating the safe return of hundreds of hostages to their families. But even as we support Israel, we should also be clear that how Israel prosecutes this fight against Hamas matters. In particular, it matters — as President Biden has repeatedly emphasized — that Israel’s military strategy abides by international law, including those laws that seek to avoid, to every extent possible, the death or suffering of civilian populations. Upholding these values is important for its own sake — because it is morally just and reflects our belief in the inherent value of every human life. Upholding these values is also vital for building alliances and shaping international opinion — all of which are critical for Israel’s long-term security. This is an enormously difficult task. War is always tragic, and even the most carefully planned military operations often put civilians at risk. As President Biden noted during his recent visit to Israel, America itself has at times fallen short of our higher values when engaged in war, and in the aftermath of 9/11, the U.S. government wasn’t interested in heeding the advice of even our allies when it came to the steps we took to protect ourselves against Al Qaeda. Now, after the systematic massacre of Israeli citizens, a massacre that evokes some of the darkest memories of persecution against the Jewish people, it’s understandable that many Israelis have demanded that their government do whatever it takes to root out Hamas and make sure such attacks never happen again. Moreover, Hamas’ military operations are deeply embedded within Gaza — and its leadership seems to intentionally hide among civilians, thereby endangering the very people they claim to represent. Still, the world is watching closely as events in the region unfold, and any Israeli military strategy that ignores the human costs could ultimately backfire. Already, thousands of Palestinians have been killed in the bombing of Gaza, many of them children. Hundreds of thousands have been forced from their homes. The Israeli government’s decision to cut off food, water and electricity to a captive civilian population threatens not only to worsen a growing humanitarian crisis; it could further harden Palestinian attitudes for generations, erode global support for Israel, play into the hands of Israel’s enemies, and undermine long term efforts to achieve peace and stability in the region. It’s therefore important that those of us supporting Israel in its time of need encourage a strategy that can incapacitate Hamas while minimizing further civilian casualties. Israel’s recent shift to allow relief trucks into Gaza, prompted in part by the Biden administration’s behind-the-scenes diplomacy, is an encouraging step, but we need to continue to lead the international community in accelerating critical aid and supplies to an increasingly desperate Gaza population. And while the prospects of future peace may seem more distant than ever, we should call on all of the key actors in the region to engage with those Palestinian leaders and organizations that recognize Israel’s right to exist to begin articulating a viable pathway for Palestinians to achieve their legitimate aspirations for self-determination — because that is the best and perhaps only way to achieve the lasting peace and security most Israeli and Palestinian families yearn for. Finally, in dealing with what is an extraordinarily complex situation where so many people are in pain and passions are understandably running high, all of us need to do our best to put our best values, rather than our worst fears, on display. That means actively opposing anti-semitism in all its forms, everywhere. It means rejecting efforts to minimize the terrible tragedy that the Israeli people have just endured, as well as the morally-bankrupt suggestion that any cause can somehow justify the deliberate slaughter of innocent people. It means rejecting anti-Muslim, anti-Arab or anti-Palestinian sentiment. It means refusing to lump all Palestinians with Hamas or other terrorist groups. It means guarding against dehumanizing language towards the people of Gaza, or downplaying Palestinian suffering — whether in Gaza or the West Bank — as irrelevant or illegitimate. It means recognizing that Israel has every right to exist; that the Jewish people have claim to a secure homeland where they have ancient historical roots; and that there have been instances in which previous Israeli governments made meaningful efforts to resolve the dispute and provide a path for a two-state solution — efforts that were ultimately rebuffed by the other side. It means acknowledging that Palestinians have also lived in disputed territories for generations; that many of them were not only displaced when Israel was formed but continue to be forcibly displaced by a settler movement that too often has received tacit or explicit support from the Israeli government; that Palestinian leaders who’ve been willing to make concessions for a two-state solution have too often had little to show for their efforts; and that it is possible for people of good will to champion Palestinian rights and oppose certain Israeli government policies in the West Bank and Gaza without being anti-semitic. Perhaps most of all, it means we should choose not to always assume the worst in those with whom we disagree. In an age of constant rancor, trolling and misinformation on social media, at a time when so many politicians and attention seekers see an advantage in shedding heat rather than light, it may be unrealistic to expect respectful dialogue on any issue — much less on an issue with such high stakes and after so much blood has been spilled. But if we care about keeping open the possibility of peace, security and dignity for future generations of Israeli and Palestinian children — as well as for our own children — then it falls upon all of us to at least make the effort to model, in our own words and actions, the kind of world we want them to inherit. Here are links to some useful perspectives and background on the conflict:

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@Sabth Depends on what you what field you're trying looking at It's a very open-ended question Most western countries are fine I think. I'm biased toward America bc I'm american and work here can be great given you make some right steps

Damn as a brown American i hope I don't have to deal with post 9/11 type racism again

@Leo Gura fuck I hope ur wrong

Sheesh. I do have empathy for wanting revenge, as I've felt the same at times in my life But idk usually it's not the way

So is this like a 9/11 into Afghanistan approach type deal

@Girzo yeah self help is full of traps. It's best to have a need, and find a good self help book for it. Almost like finding the right screwdriver for a faulty screw. That's one pov at least its more of a means to an end

@Buck Edwards same

I think generally with people. I think if you do it alone it can definietely make things harder, a sense of community is good for the soul and also you can learn a lot from others That being said there are times where you need to be alone and certain people prefer it It depends on the person and circumstance

@Sabth check out the chatgpt4 link I posted, see if that resonates

@Sabth the scamming thing is a racial stereotype. like how a lot of people associate black people with crime, a lot of people associate scamming with people who are indian (they sometimes apply to all south asians) just be careful with that gpt4's opinion: https://chat.openai.com/share/87d51904-7585-49a8-bec6-01b31715468a

Dude is just straight going bigot mode This comment is still up Dude was a closeted white supremacist

Depends on the woman. Some will care some won't Really depends on their own maturity The example you're bringing up, sounds crazy. No empathy when you're physically sick is actually kinda crazy. I'm pretty sure even the average woman empathizes with that I def would try to communicate with her about it. Some people when communicated to about their behavior will change through awareness, even if initially toxic. But the communication needs to be skillfull

@Bobby_2021 that's a great point, conservatives tend to have a lot of exposure to society in general. Esp since rural areas, suburbs and the Bible belt tend to just generally be exposed to different types of people and are def not secluded (Sarcasm) one of the big reasons conservatives are conservatives are due to a lack of exposure to anyone else

@Leo Gura ?

Something I loved that squeex said "You're very intentional with youre time and its madebyou such a well rounded person Lud. That's what I admire about you."

Gpt4 gimme some exercises on increasing self love Absolutely! Cultivating self-love is an essential part of well-being. Here are some short morning exercises you can incorporate to help increase self-love: 1. **Mirror Talk**: Look into the mirror and compliment yourself on one thing, whether it's physical, emotional, or related to your skills or achievements. 2. **Affirmations**: Write down or recite positive affirmations. Examples include "I am enough," "I am worthy of love and joy," or "I am resilient and strong." 3. **Body Love**: Spend a minute or two gently massaging your hands, arms, or face while thinking or saying, "I love and appreciate my body." 4. **Mindful Breathing**: Close your eyes and take 10 deep breaths. As you breathe in, imagine absorbing love and positivity, and as you breathe out, visualize releasing negative self-talk and doubts. 5. **Visualization**: Imagine a bright light in your heart expanding with each breath, filling your entire body with warmth, love, and acceptance. 6. **Self-Hug**: Spend a few moments giving yourself a tight, comforting hug. 7. **Journaling**: Spend a few minutes writing down things you love about yourself. This can be about your character, things you’ve achieved, or even small things you've done recently. 8. **Celebrate Wins**: Acknowledge one small achievement or thing you did the day before, no matter how insignificant it might seem. 9. **Loving Kindness Meditation**: Think of yourself and repeat: "May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I be safe. May I live with ease." 10. **Acts of Self-Care**: Do one small act of self-care, whether it's brewing your favorite tea, using a luxurious hand lotion, or stretching for a few minutes. 11. **Boundaries Reminder**: Remind yourself of a boundary you want to maintain that day, whether it's saying "no" to an extra task, taking regular breaks, or protecting your personal time. Remember, consistency is key. Like your gratitude practice, these exercises can have a profound impact when practiced regularly over time. Adjust and choose the ones th!t resonate the most with you. == Certainly! An effective exercise tailored for enhancing feelings of self-worth and self-esteem is the **"Positive Attributes and Achievements"** reflection. Here's a step-by-step guide: ### Positive Attributes and Achievements Reflection 1. **Preparation**: - Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. - Equip yourself with a journal or some paper and a pen. 2. **List Positive Attributes**: - Write down all your positive attributes. These can be qualities related to your character, appearance, skills, or even your values. - Examples: "I am a good listener", "I am skilled in painting", "I have a warm smile", or "I am resilient". - Aim to list at least 10, but the more the better. Don't rush; take your time to genuinely reflect. 3. **List Achievements**: - Now, write down all the achievements you're proud of, both big and small. Remember, even small milestones matter. - Examples: Completing a challenging project, helping a friend in need, mastering a new recipe, or even getting through a particularly tough day. 4. **Reflection**: - Read through your lists slowly, really taking the time to let each point sink in. - For each point, remember a time when that attribute or achievement was most evident. Relive the feelings and emotions tied to those moments. 5. **Daily Affirmation**: - From your list, choose one attribute and one achievement that resonates the most with you for that day. - Formulate an affirmation combining both, e.g., "I am a skilled communicator, and I successfully led that team meeting last week." - Repeat this affirmation to yourself throughout the day, especially during moments of self-doubt. 6. **Regular Updates**: - Aim to revisit and add to your list regularly. As you grow and evolve, you'll have more attributes and achievements to acknowledge. 7. **Visual Reminder**: - Consider placing your list or affirmations where you can see them daily – a bedside table, pinned on a board near your work desk, or even as a digital reminder. ### Why This Works: By actively acknowledging and focusing on your positive attributes and achievements, you're challenging and reshaping negative beliefs about yourself. Over time, consistently reminding yourself of these positive aspects can significantly boost feelings of self-worth and self-esteem.

why not both?

im just contemplating, maybe to answer the question you could test it by pretending to be a man-hater and see what she believes lol "i fucking hate men they're just sexual abusers" lol legit though ? also i think maybe just testing for people based on their vibe and energy. if they hold strong hate and negativity that could just be the wrong place

That's a really good definition actually > to be able to spot women who are receptive to my love for them. That could be a great pillar

Good mindset + hard work = ✨️

Shifting my focus from specific mastery, to general life mastery = Rudimentary thoughts on life mastery: 1. Emotional mastery 2. Happiness 3. Productivity + efficiency