Terell Kirby

Why waste your time with girls who have boyfriends, when there are so many attractive, single women in the world?

The point of the dream, is the dream itself. Nothing is required, you can do whatever you want within the limitations of your human existence.

Very true.

Heterosexual guy here. After sex, I either feel: 1. Average sex - "meh, I'm ready for her to leave (or time for me to go)" 2. Good sex - "I wouldn't mind cuddling for a bit." 3. Great sex - "Let's move on to round 2".

Creating lasting change is difficult. In my experience, having the willingness to make a deep commitment to the change, but also being willing to forgive yourself when you fall short.

By recognizing the illusory nature of the ego. A healthy ego is one that does not exist in the first place. Have you ever contemplated that you might not be your body or your thoughts? That these are just appearances in source consciousness? Deep contemplation is key here.

What are the challenges of doing it solo, and how to overcome? Pick up buddies may not be readily available for some folks here .. at least for the time being.

The past doesn’t exist. What exists eternally is the present moment, which constantly transforms itself, bringing in new forms .. and getting rid of the old.

I typically go with whatever the girls preference is. Receiving oral with a condom on feels very different than vaginal sex with a condom. Most of the girls I’ve interacted with were comfortable doing it without a condom .. I sure as hell didn’t mind as well.

You assume girls think like guys, in which physical appearance alone is enough for them to want to have sex. But it’s not. They may be attracted to you physically and to aspect of your personality, but ultimately they want a deep emotional connection prior to being open to intimacy/sex.

@RMQualtrough sounds like you are desperately looking for excuses to not take any serious action in improving your sex life. Just be honest and admit that you are too fearful, this stuff isn’t for everyone.

@Antor8188 have you approached 1000 girls? If not, then all you’re doing is engaging in speculative BS.

Seems to me like you are getting dates, but not able to close. You mention "slight mistake", but that isn't what the girls you are talking to see it as. Not sure if you are becoming pushy/attached/clingy to girls once they show initial interest. You have to be detached throughout the entire process of seduction, all the way up until after you have sex. Sounds to me that are you getting too attached to end results which is preventing you from closing. The mind-fuck of it all is that You won't even be able to get average / below average girls if you are clingy and needy. ALL WOMEN ARE REPELLED BY NEEDY MEN.

There's no need to feel guilty about consuming alcohol. However, if it is negatively affecting your life, and the lives of others, then it is a question of relinquishing a destructive habit. A lot of people are in denial about the problems that result from their drinking. It does not sound like you've reached a bottom, but do be mindful .. as alcohol is an addictive toxin that develops high tolerance for some people.

There is nothing spiritual about this forum lol.

Probably

Do tons of research on codependency. There are many resources and support groups. You can't even begin to do effective spirituality without having a solid emotional base.

Not entirely true .. there are physiological impacts at play as well, could be genetic and/or hereditary. Alcoholism is a real thing .. a disease. So someone who doesn't want to take heroin, meth or crack is avoiding life or a religious nut? I don't think so .. This is silly .. encouraging someone to hooked on anything is just bad advice.

May want to take more pragmatic methods on the issue .. at least starting out. Have you tried therapy? I would recommend you and your wife seek marriage counseling and therapy to see if there is any chance to reconcile before making a decision to leave or stay.

Yes.

@Leo Gura how do your bar dates go when you don’t drink and the girl does? I’ve recently given up drinking alcohol, and attempting to adjust. What do you order while at the bar?

Practice makes perfect. Attraction is like building muscle at the gym .. the number of reps is directly correlated with quality of results.

Small details matter when it comes to material survival. Don't fool yourself into thinking that survival is not something you are attached to.

You are dreaming up the planet, teachers and astrologers. They are all constructions of your mind .. including “all illusory bodies”.

If you were benefiting for the capitalist system, I guarantee you would not have any of these complaints. Capitalism has its faults on a collective, geo-political level. But make sure you are not using that as an excuse not to pursue success in your personal life in terms of fulfilling your material needs. It's easy to criticize the system when you are caught in victim mentality, and taking zero responsibility.