Terell Kirby

Lol I like the simplicity of your answer, but could you make a finer distinction? Cessation itself is only one aspect of the Infinite (if we consider it the same as the mind shutting up). And that’s the frustrating part .. I’ve had significant shifts in consciousness and there tends to always be human urge to have it validated by “others”….who are also just mental constructions.

This is good advice .. highly subtle. When I first started, I was so in my head about what needed to happen and how it needed to happen when approaching girls. Then one day I said fuck it, I'm just going to enjoy being out on the scene .. if I see a pretty girl I'm interested in, I'll just say hi. But that is second to me going out and having fun for fun itself.

2008 Honda .. I'm totally satisfied lol.

Helps to see things from another's perspective, but that can be challenging. Active listening has traditionally been a good method to develop empathy.

I hope each of you on the spiritual path reach this realization. All the verbals we use to try to explain this stuff is literally useless. I don’t even know why I’m typing .. guess just to wish you all the best on your journey. Pro-Tip: when you reach a point where it’s finally realized that your spiritual guru (be it Leo or someone else you idolize) has no authority over your understanding, and that you literally birthed their very existence..you will have arrived. Be prepared to die though .. knowing that death itself is not physical, but a death to your skewed, egoic way of looking at reality.

It's hard believe you were unable to at least get clearer about your LP after taking the course. You may know in your heart what you want to do in life, but limiting beliefs and negativity are standing in your way. Most likely due to having low self esteem. My advice is to focus on the things you can change, as quick as tomorrow. This could be a behavior, mindset .. something. Get in the habit of taking action .. in this work, you have to prove to that negative voice in your head that it is not right about many things. You can only do this through taking action.

Sounds to me like you are taking pleasure in his suffering.

@bliss54 @Snader @gettoefl @Kshantivadin thanks for the responses guys. True!

Love this example. I am wondering if these stable meditative states could actually lead to physical fitness and resistance training being more enjoyable. Guess I’ll have to put it into practice to find out. Thanks for the feedback.

The more conscious you get, the less you want to participate in shallow social games. However, socialization is essential for finding a mate. Pursue your materialistic cravings if you must, but do it consciously and remember that it will never truly satisfy you. Doesn’t mean you can’t partake though.

Hmm .. may be good to acknowledge that looking at certain life situations from a God perspective may do more harm than good … in a relative sense. If you care about your relationship, I would throw all of this metaphysical stuff out of the window. You most likely will suffer once a breakup happens, unless you’ve completely transcended your attachments to your gf .. which I highly doubt.

Yes, beyond infinite Love, is infinite Love :-)

When it doubt .. take action. Make a list of things you want to improve, then come up with 2-3 immediate actions you can take for each. Nothing will change without deliberate action. You don't have to get it right the first time, just do something so you can get out of your funk. Momentum is key.

When someone expresses an opinion, just ask "can you tell me how you came to that conclusion?" Keep asking it over and over until you get to the bottom of their epistemology and worldview .. then they might be able to see as just that .. a partial worldview, not absolute Truth.

Yes, mainly through destroying your old paradigm by exposing yourself to new paradigms.

@Tudo By posting a question like this on an online forum .. that’s a pretty good hint that you’re most likely toxic and in denial.

Seems like you are making a straw-man out of what it means to be authentic .. by associating it with toxic behaviors. Being authentic is actually a highly conscious act that challenges the ego to dissolve irrational, self-centeredness through overcoming fear. It may be an authentic desire to improve one’s behavior from that of a toxic person, to a healthy person. It may be authentic to express love genuinely to a partner, friend or family member. It may be authentic to stand up for your core values and to not tolerate being bullied. These are healthy examples.

Seems like a nonsensical question..the truth is, we always know when we are being inauthentic vs authentic ..there is no set mechanism to it, rather it’s an internal feeling that everyone is familiar with. it’s like asking how can we know when we are in pain .. you know you’re in pain because you’re freakin in pain. Same thing with authenticity.

Why waste your time with girls who have boyfriends, when there are so many attractive, single women in the world?

The point of the dream, is the dream itself. Nothing is required, you can do whatever you want within the limitations of your human existence.

Very true.

Heterosexual guy here. After sex, I either feel: 1. Average sex - "meh, I'm ready for her to leave (or time for me to go)" 2. Good sex - "I wouldn't mind cuddling for a bit." 3. Great sex - "Let's move on to round 2".

Creating lasting change is difficult. In my experience, having the willingness to make a deep commitment to the change, but also being willing to forgive yourself when you fall short.

By recognizing the illusory nature of the ego. A healthy ego is one that does not exist in the first place. Have you ever contemplated that you might not be your body or your thoughts? That these are just appearances in source consciousness? Deep contemplation is key here.

What are the challenges of doing it solo, and how to overcome? Pick up buddies may not be readily available for some folks here .. at least for the time being.