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Love, but I guess that's what real heaven is

I love how you refer to incest as just Alabama lmao

Yeah absolutely That's really awesome! That's really interesting, what have you gotten from it so far?

I love the fray too. I've only really listened to the how to save a life album, but the song how to save a life is so nostalgic to me because I used to always hear it playing as a kid. That song and a bunch of other songs on that album have this really comforting and loving feel to them, and I've felt so much love and cried so much listening to them

I know Leo should sue that guy for copyright

Start by contemplating that question itself. Otherwise just watch Leo's videos on more practical topics and he will give you a lot to think about. He often offers thought experiments and questions to contemplate in those videos. Here's a video where he offers a variety of really great questions to contemplate:

@Leo Gura I wanted to share this quote with you, not sure if you've seen it already. I feel like it does a really good job of incapsulating the entire spiritual journey and the point of life, and as a result the entirety of your work and teachings. "You have no idea how hard I've looked for a gift to bring You. Nothing seemed right. What's the point of bringing gold to the gold mine, or water to the ocean. Everything I came up with was like taking spices to the Orient. It's no good giving my heart and my soul because you already have these. So I've brought you a mirror. Look at yourself and remember me.” - Rumi Through your work you're just giving everyone mirrors, or rather, I am giving myself a mirror through you

If you need someone to talk to about your situation, PM me. Just wanted to say I really respect that you're offering this Leo considering that you probably already have so many other people taking up your time managing this forum and all

That just gave me a massive mind-fuck. So you're looking through my eyes right now as my present experience is happening, and I'm looking through your eyes as your experience is happening (or so I imagine for now). The experiencer of "Tristan's life" and the experiencer of your life and everyone else's are one and the same, so there is only one experiencer - I suppose that's the Self. I've heard about that before but thinking about it in that way is crazy.

Imagine if there was some sort of healing centre you could go to for emotional issues where all it consisted of was you getting showered with God’s unconditional love, and the love was so deep and so profound that it healed you completely, and that was all you ever needed. I want to aim to create the next best thing with my work. I want any healing processes and techniques I create to be deeply rooted in existential love, and to ultimately just be a way of showering yourself with love in the places you need it. Love is really the only thing you need for any kind of healing, it's just a matter of giving it to yourself in the places you need it so that it touches you deep enough to actually create real transformation. A lot of healing techniques are already based on being loving and compassionate towards yourself but the love doesn't touch you as deeply as it needs to. That's what I'm going to figure out how to do.

I haven't gone too deep into Goggins and his story and work to really provide a solid opinion, but out of what I've seen from the content of his I've consumed, I think a lot of his lessons are really valuable, but I think a lot of the way he is comes from his upbringing and is largely a survival adaptation and an avoidance of his shadow. Because of this, his teachings aren't grounded in any solid, healthy, high-consciousness type of development, and so I think a lot of the way he is can be quite destructive and toxic, at least if you care about being high-consciousness. I think if you know how to sort the wheat from the chaff with the things he says, and refrain from going overboard and doing anything destructive with yourself, then you can definitely get a lot of value from him. I don't know if you've heard of Andy Frisella, he has a business podcast (the MFCEO), and he has quite a similar approach and attitude to Goggins. I used to listen to his podcast a lot when I was more stage orange. Now that I have grown past that, I still revisit his podcast sometimes as there is a lot of value I can get from it in terms of building a strong work-ethic and strategies for succeeding in business, but I recognize the destructive and lower-consciousness sides to him and the things that he talks about and I just ignore those things. I think if you know what is valuable and what things to ignore then you can definitely get a lot of value from people like Goggins and Andy. (They have a podcast episode together by the way.).

I relate to this a ton. I find over the past few years I dislike people in general more and more and I just want to get away from them. I think part of it is that I have gotten so deep into personal development and I have such high standards for myself, for the way I act, for the values I hold, etc. and it seems that the more I improve and develop, the more I notice the issues and toxicity in the people around me. It wouldn't be so bad if they were actively making an effort to improve themselves and took responsibility for their actions, but they don't, they just run a muck with their toxic bs, and it is just so extremely frustrating dealing with it all the time. Then everyone around me is constantly attacking me for the way I am, telling me something is wrong with me and telling me I should be more like a normal person. It's like everything I do is wrong in the average person's eyes and I can't just be free to be who I am. I just despise people more and more and want to get away from them. At this point I love being alone so much not just because I am an introvert, but because I feel free to let my guard down and be myself without anyone trying to tell me i'm wrong or get me to change. My goal is to set my life up in a way where I can minimize interaction with normal people, have some relationships with people who are similar to myself if possible, but spend most of my time alone where I'm free to be myself and do the things I love. I love alone time more than I ever have at this point in my life. I know its not sustainable to go through life despising people and wanting to get away from them this much, so I do want to work on being less reactive to the way people are and being more accepting of them, so that i'm able to be around them when I need to be, but I still fantasize of a life where I can be in my own bubble, doing personal development, spiritual work, and all the things I love without anyone trying to take it away from me. @Yarco If you're this way yourself, and you're a bit older, I'm interested to hear: how have you coped with this in your life so far and how have you set up your life to work around this?

Over the last week I got around to taking notes on some of Leo's videos i've been wanting to take notes on for a while. These videos were some practical life advice videos, such as 'expose yourself to more experience', 'how to be decisive', 'should you go to college?', the life advice for young people series and a few more. What amazes me is just how deep and nuanced the advice Leo gives in those videos is. I understand why it would be that way for spiritual topics because of how deep and complex spirituality is, but it blows me away how Leo can spend hours talking about these practical life advice topics as well, and how the content is just as deep and nuanced as anything else he talks about. The things I hear in these episodes are absolutely genius, they make me think 'holy fuck, of course, how didn't I think of that?', so much of what I hear in these episodes I've never heard from anyone else and I've never reached that level of depth thinking about these things on my own, and it blows me away that Leo can come up with all of this stuff. There is just so much detail and nuance to it. What I want to know is how do you come up with all of this @Leo Gura? It seems that your work as a whole has become this way over the past few years. Your older videos are shorter and not as deep (although still great) and now it's not just the spiritual videos that are long and deep, pretty much every video you put out, regardless of the topic is very nuanced and well thought out. I'm guessing that your answer to how you became this way is a lot of deep contemplation and really racking your mind over these topics, but I just want to hear from you any other details of how you became this way and how I can develop these abilities myself? I really want to develop my ability to think like you and be able to reach the depth of insights you share on my own, so that i'm not dependant on you spoon feeding me the answers and so i'm capable of figuring out these kinds of things myself. Over the past few years I can tell the way I think has changed a lot from watching your content, which i'm happy about, but I want to go deeper and I want to understand how you are able to come up with the depth of insights you come up with now.

I love the practical content. I feel like Leo's practical life advice is still way deeper than what most other self-help gurus or books have to offer, so there is a ton of value in it and I wouldn't want it to stop, however he already has a lot of videos on practical topics so I don't think he would need to release new episodes that often. I love the spiritual content also, and I think the balance he has now works well. It's mostly spiritual topics with the occasional practical topic.

This is something I've been working on lately. I know a lot about the things I am passionate about, but there are other areas in life that I'm not so interested in which i am very ignorant about. I want to get into the habit of learning as much as I can about anything and everything so that I can become very knowledgable and well educated in general. To do this of course requires that I develop some level of curiosity and desire to learn about these topics. Now whenever I have a question or wonder about something, I will try to search it up, get the answer and remember it, and I've noticed that as I do this more and more, it becomes really satisfying to get the answers to every little thing I wonder about, and it just makes me want to keep learning and wondering more and more. For example a few weeks I was driving over those bumps on a highway that make noise and I was wondering what they are and how they make noise. Rather than just forgetting about it, I searched it up. Turns out they're called rumble strips, and they make noise because they are small indents in the pavement which creates a sound when you drive over them. There are different types of rumble strips with names for different placements, and they can also be created in different ways (indented or raised). I feel like the more you put in an effort to wonder about things and then do the research to answer your questions, the more you will want to continue to learn and do that, because learning is actually a really fun and satisfying thing, (not just about the things you love, but about anything). Try to find positives and interesting things about the topics that bore you or that you have no curiosity about. You will eventually realize that there is something interesting in everything. Try to relate new topics to other topics you're already interested in. For example, one of the things I've started to research and learn about lately which I had no interest in before was history. Turns out history is basically a whole bunch of fascinating stories with a lot of wisdom and lessons to learn (either explicitly mentioned or you have to look for them), just like if I was consuming some personal development content, which I already love. Becoming more curious, from my experience, seems to really be about having a positive outlook on any topic and looking for what you can find interesting about something, rather than immediately dismissing whatever doesn't immediately peak your interest. Keep wondering and asking questions, keep giving yourself answers, see how satisfying and fun it is to learn, and let the passion and excitement build.

@Leo Gura okay, thanks

@TheOneReborn I'm not talking about spiritual development, I'm asking about how Leo reaches the depths of understandings he has about anything in life, specifically with more practical life advice topics. I feel like its more straightforwards with spirituality on how to gain deep understandings since you have psychedelics and spiritual practices and things like that.

@puporing That's a great share, thanks, but how do you access this higher intelligence and bring it into your day to day life? Out of the awakenings I've had, I've never really accessed any crazy levels of intelligence, or accessed universal intelligence (that I know of) so i'm not sure how to access that or bring it into my life and use it for day to day things?

What happened?

Technically God is the one here experiencing the suffering because the ego is just an illusion, but I get your point. It doesn't seem that way at all when you're an ego and you never consented to experiencing all the suffering of life, and there is no awareness that you're actually God who is wanting it

The ratio of pleasure/pain doesn't matter. It does from a human/survival perspective, but not from God's perspective. From God's perspective, all that matters is love, and because God loves everything, God wants to experience everything, so every experience is a win. Because of God's love, God wants to experience the highest highs, the lowest lows, and everything in between. Existentially speaking, there is no such thing as a bad, undesirable or negative experience. There only is from the point of view of an ego.

I remember one time I was listening to Leo's episode "what is perception?" and he was talking about exactly this. I remember I started to become conscious of it as I was listening to it, and at the time I was driving, and I remember all the sudden it was like there was just a road, but there was no one driving. There was this car moving down a road and that was it. Nobody was experiencing it. It was the coolest and most beautiful mind-fucking thing. It made me think of the idea that if a tree falls in the forest and nobody is there to hear it, does it make a sound? I realized that whenever a tree falls in a forest, and someone is there experiencing it, there is actually nobody there experiencing it, and the tree is just falling and that's it. If you think of a tree falling somewhere with you not there to experience it, and you're wondering if it makes a sound, all that exists there is an idea of a tree falling somewhere, and no tree actually ever falls anywhere unless it is experienced in your consciousness, and in that case there is no you experiencing it, there is just a tree falling. I also had a similar experience one time while meditating where I realized that there is no me here meditating, and there is no meditating happening at all, there is just consciousness. I'm sorry to hear you don't like this stuff and you almost fainted, I don't know what to tell you about that, I just relate to your experience and I find this stuff really interesting

Lose yourself, Lose yourself in this love. When you lose yourself in this love, you will find everything. Lose yourself, lose yourself. Do not fear this loss, for you will rise from the earth and embrace the endless heavens. Lose yourself, lose yourself. Escape from this earthy form, for this body is a chain and you are a prisoner. Smash through the prison wall and walk outside with the kings and princes. Lose yourself, lose yourself at the foot of the glorious King. When you lose yourself before the King, you will become the King. Lose yourself, lose yourself. Escape from the black cloud that surrounds you. Then you will see your own light as radiant as the full moon. Now enter that silence, this is the surest way to lose yourself. What is your life about anyway? Nothing but a struggle to be someone, nothing but a running from your own silence. - Rumi

My heart and God's heart are the same. My ridiculously deep desire for love over everything else is the same as God's desire for love. I understand how God feels about love, and God understands how I feel about love. Our desires are one and the same. That's why I feel such belonging and so at home with existential love, and why love touches me so deeply and causes such intense reactions within me. PS: don't take this too literally, I have not become fully conscious of God yet and so I don't fully understand God. Everything I said here is just how I feel when I become immersed in existential love, and how I react to it.