IAmReallyImportant

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  1. You seem to be ignorant. I can put myself in her shoes. If someone is vulnerable I understand it. However, the person is still responsible for her actions and how it can affect others. I also don’t want to have my boundaries crossed. So I also communicate it. Like you act like you know something about me and this gives you the right to judge. And you don’t care about how I feel. This is rightiousness.
  2. You can do the same with me. You are biased towards one perspective. You now tell me what I should do and cross my boundaries. I did not ask for it. Now you do the same.
  3. Yes. I wasnt unrespectful at all. It is respectless to accuse me for this. As I don't know her I also cannot k ow how she reacts. Especially with a false context in mind. I would be glad if people understand each other instead of being blaming. You can cross peoes boundaries also with telling others how they should behave. This is not universal.
  4. Sorry I somehow skipped what you have written and hence understood it wrong. With a false context in mind I wanted to help. And everybody can express thoughts, so you don’t have to tell me anything either. It is up to you what you make out of what people say. However, I respect everybodies boundaries.
  5. For me it looks like your contemplations are focused on the details of conditions rather than the underlying beliefs that produce unwanted feelings. If you focus on something you get more of it. However, the objective you want to focus on is feeling better or self love. So the question would be "what is in the way?". Your construction of reality which is based on beliefs. Maybe of course Bryian Katie or existential contemplation (not rumination) helps as well as treating yourself good and make a habit out of it. Like e.g. an appreciation journal. I don't know how much of this you are already doing. But it helped me a lot.
  6. Its called deflection and projection . Fact is you have a relationship with a guy who has fear of having childs with you. And you want to go to pair therapy after 4 months. Now, you want to convince me and others that you are not clingy and have high standards. I end this discussion because you act from a place of ego defend. You can answer but I will not read it.
  7. Sounds like low standards if this is enough imo
  8. How long have you known this man so that you would go to couples therapy? And did he told you that from the beginning or did it come to light later? If that's the case, it means he hid it from you and wasn't honest about an important issue. That would mean he is probably neurotic and not unlikely to cheat. And if not, then the sex wasn't good to begin with. Then it would look like a non-deep and less intimate relationship. In this case, superficial interests on both sides would be probable. In general, nobody have to help a partner to overcome his problems, even if you would help yourself the most if you did. And you don't have to have such low self-esteem that you stay in a relationship in which the partner is afraid to have children with you. If he told you he had this problem, then that's probably an excuse. If he didn't, then you are explaining his lack of interest away, which is very likely from what you wrote. From what you have written, I understand that you are showing signs of attachment and clinginess. Sounds unhealthy and neurotic to me. However, decisions always depend on ones own standards and I think self-honesty and courage are always good answers.
  9. This behaviour is in this cases uncultivated and intellectually undemanding. And in his newest videos he doesn’t offer much insights or content you already have and are aware of. I found the only thing where he seperates himself from most people is that he can transport his inspiration throughout the videos. There is nothing special on the content and it is also not a source of dense information or dense insights. That is why the videos can become so long.
  10. Do you really think what Daniel Schmachtenbergers does is more than just talk? Because, I haven't seen him doing more than talking and coming up with unrealistic concepts. Or may you enlighten me in some way? A sign of emerging humanity is the emergence of exotic sexual preferences Worse than a tree hugger.
  11. This feeling changes by information. Often times a good feeling can indicate what is the easiest thing to do. And sometimes you get along with it. But it is a dice game at the end of the day. Good feeling can also be biased and ego based in terms of e.g. doing the thing with the least effort, eating the sugar bar etc. .
  12. For survival reasons we had to be more violent. And of course if you win, it gives you this great feeling of power. It lets you feel your masculinity more intensively and how you dominate others : D Even though, without it this is still there, with violent acts it gets magnified.
  13. Didn't experience that. With money you can buy nice things and exciting experiences like animal hunts e.g. . Without much money you have less influence and opportunities or possibilities. People who don't have much money most of the time want to devalidate the importance of money and how much it can enrich life. People with much money see the advantages, However, they know that t is great and supports happiness, even though it may does not create it. Besides that, you have on average more sexual partners and are more likely to have good relationships. Money has proven to be a good argument to steal a taken partner. So better watch out.
  14. If you want an exciting life with less deepness go for money. If you want a boring life in peace go for spirituality.
  15. No arguments. In this world and age IQ is obviously an important factor for success which cannot really be learned. All these billionaires don't live in a box. They live in this world. IQ is the psychological test with the most validity so far. Nothing can be measured with 100% accuracy.
  16. Not really, there is no significant evidence. I am not talking about emotional intelligence. If you study MINT for e.g. 5 years you may earn 1-3 IQ points or something but thats it. Even this is unprobable.
  17. I have tested mine in the presence of a psychologist. It was 148. For people grown up in an academic or wealthy household the average IQ is around 120. So 130-135 is a little bit above the spectrum. And still this people think they are exceptional..
  18. Everything besides intelligence can be trained. But this requires a trigger. At the end the more intelligent one wins on average.
  19. Of course, if high IQ people are rare, then it is likely that most of them work for average IQ people. Simply because there are fewer of them and of that fraction, only a fraction are interested in doing bigger things. People usually don't dream big and have the drive to follow through. But if someone with an IQ over 140 does want to change the world, it is much more likely that he would succeed than some average person. You can still earn some money and have a family with average IQ. However, the greatest inventors and big tech CEOs usually have a very high IQ. And silicon valley tycoon CEOs probably exclusively so far.
  20. Everybody with an IQ less than 140 can go pound sand
  21. Most or probably all of the Silicon Valley tycoon CEOs have IQs over 140. Psychopaths can also empathize with others, but less on an emotional level. Psychpaths are also no bad people. There are non-psychopaths who kill their families e.g. out of jealousy or despair. People are deeply insecure and the idea of psychopaths of course enforce that, because they could hurt you and you cannot or very hard recognize it in advance.
  22. Nope, there are also a lot of billionaires who do it for money and status. Some of them do it because they need a strong purpose, other do it because they cannot take the feeling of being inferior in any way.
  23. Bullshit. Becoming a billionaire does not depend on something like psychopathy.
  24. This is a wonderful analyzation, thank you!