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@Henri I know what you mean, but sometimes it tastes like an excuse, doesn't it? And what should you do, when you remark that your relation with some family members turn to boredom because of much unspoken mess.. When everyone only tries to stay polite and speaks about platitudes.. Would you stand the boredom ? Quit them ? I tried the first, it didn't suit me, so I was about to quit them and all the "family celebrations" but, before doing so, I wanted to give it a chance.. ..and I think I was very kind in my writing to them.. a week has passed.. no answer

Hi Mohsinuddin, Interesting theory but what should be the alternative? Stay with the person? Not to accept the facts when your partner wants to leave you? For my share, I went through several breaks and I feel more alive than ever.. Sometimes it's necessary to give up, be it, relationships, paradigms, thoughts, things, everything changes. The key is : letting go, in peace. In my experience, the best is when you stay fair, all the way long even if the other doesn't.. You have the chance, first of all, in so called "bad times" to learn a lot about yourself and grow. You have the chance to meet yourself in a deeper level and you can experience that pain doesn't kill you, you don't have to resist anything, even the pein is enrichment for your life.. Take it fully.. you surely need a certain time to realign before a new begin, But, you don't have to forget anybody, you can remember every person, in love, it's ok, it's live

@Henri I didn't mind to tell what ever goes through my mind, but rather kind of things one has to speak out (carefully) in order to have a better relation. I think all the unspoken stuff poisons the contact to your friends, your loved one etc.. Don't you think so? @The Son Yes I absolutely recommand it.. even if you possibly lose a few folks arround you by practicing it..

@An actualizer@Henri First of all thanks for sharing But how could it be really different from an other meditation? They all point to the same, you can use them as support in your spiritual growth. It's more a matter of mentallity which you will prefere, don't you think so?

@Biomech I'm really impressed by your statement.. You must have done a great deal of way to see it that clearly, didn't you? Maybe you just miss the final step, maybe you have to love yourself just a little more in order to be able to accept yourself fully, the average people will follow.. they always do.. if you know what I mean.. It's the reason why they are average : no need to envy them

correction : I meant "want now" sorry my english should be better..

Fear needs thoughts, if you stay concentrated in your body, your feelings, it has no chances and if you get fearless and you will (!!) it's the paradox of this "strategy".. Nobody and nothing can stop you anymore.. You will be free even from the things you absolutely want know

@WHOAMI Don't we first have to define "face the fear"? What does it mean? What does it mean for you? For me it means stopping to ignore the feeling in my stomach, acknoledge and honor "it" and by doing so "it" doen't have any power anymore and "it" becomes a friend of mine: I feel it in me, sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker and I'm grateful for the warnings "it" gives me

you're wellcome

quit the rules we really have enough of them, surrender and stay in touch with yourself. Do you feel like mixing is good? => try it. Do you need a clock for calm down? Let one in front of you.. But take the responsability, don't let other make the decision for you. Every kind of meditation you start can be helpful.. if you observe your inner reactions in order to find the answer(s) you need Have a nice trip

Hi Pallero, It really seems that your mind is overpowering you. It's a like a severe parent, a persuasive guru, or a dictorial boss in your head which always accompanies you everywhere, isn't it ? The problem is that your mind battles again itself and so, like playing chess against yourself, so "it" becomes ever stronger. "Why?" is a good question but it still be intellectual "How passionate do I feel about what I'm doing right now?" (no passion => senseless) is less conceptual, so no battle. Do only things you feel at least acceptance for, so you can flow with your energy. (hope it makes sense?) Do you know Adyashanti, Eckhart Tolle, Gangaji? If not, you could watch some of them videos and observe how you resonate with them. I would observe my mind while staying aware that no thought is true, you don't have to take them seriously, you can play with them, discuss gently with them or go back to the source and lead them, consciously, to a funny solution. You know the phrase : Mind is a really good servant but a bad master? And.. (Adyashanti quote) enjoy yourself

Just a few words to express my gratitude: Thanks to everybody who shared his difficulties, a new vision, an idea, who tried to help in different ways and so much more.. And thank you Leo, for all the work you have done for this site in order to make an exchange possible for each one of us And of course for the inspiring videos you've made and still make

I'm absolutely by you, when you say this : and yes it's maybe hard work but an agreeable one Concerning this site. I feel like a guest here, in an enjoyable place where I'm sometimes challenged, some times amused or surprised or where I often can learn a lot, here as well as by Leo's vid... And I really thank him for all the work he has done for this. Even so I would never worship him (or any body else), believe something without experience it or buy something I don't want..

@light18 my current opinion : all and none.. In each one there were some enlightened leader who may have seen and maybe have lived the truth, after this, tried to show it their followers, who than unfortunately began to worship the leader instead to try to experiment what he said.. What do you think?

@zenny you're wellcome.. If you read the book or watch the vid., maybe you can give me a feedback, it would interess me

for me.. the diference between Belief/fantasy and Truth/reality is easy: all what you directly experience now, without labeling, judging or conceptualizing is the only truth you can live I actually doubt if it's helpful to search extern informations through videos articles whole books or other teaching Maybe they only occupy our mind and keep us away from the actual truth you should experience by staying alert

Eckart Tolle is a phenomenon he has an answer to every thing.. But yes, of course you can - we all can - It may seem to be a long way, but every step you go deeper into yourself is an amazing journey so one day you will surely wondering why you tried so hard to change something or even to attract somebody else you're already absolutely complete, you just have to notice it, this is the good new. Don't be affraid, I'm not preaching for staying alone => in this state you just aren't needy anymore, you can love and be loved without any fear

@abrakamowse it's also a lie because either you have experience the "real" reality => so you see it or you assume it by hearsay and this is worthless I'm currently reading a book about lying which is inspiring : "Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth" by Brad Blanton .. and thanks for the link, I'll check it

@abrakamowse even thought i recognize that it may work when you mention the lies we use to fool us self

@abrakamowse it surely does if you have the balls, after having recognize it, to go and tell it the folks you lied to.. It seems to easy to put it here and gratulate yourself for your sincerity or do you think, it is just the first step and the real one will follow ?

@Steelheart You've already recognized the problem fake growth: - move in a country where a lot of men aren't taller than you - search a short woman - wear high hills... and so on real growth: no comparison, no judgment, no criticism what you can reach through reading books, watching videos and practice meditation

@Berk ok.. and why do you share this?????????

@zenny I haven't see the movie, but readen the book and there are a few things which also seem suspect to me : If someone is feeling good, rich, healthy etc and want more, he still be needy, doesn't he? So if you follow the secret theory, he should hide it for the universe otherwise he may lose what he has.. Imagine you go the opposit way instead, I mean, perhaps you observe your inner life (standing in touch with your thoughts and feeling) constantly. You may discover that you don't need so much external goods to live an amazing life. You probably will feel more and more whole and than curriously attract a lot of amazing situations, people and objects, without betraying yourself because in this case, you aren't needy at all. conclusion : the real goal can only be inside yourself. So even if you go the way the secret tells you, you also have to observe your thoughts and at least it would bring you nearer to your innerself.. Hope it helps ?

When I understand the secret rightly, you have to feel good, rich, healthy etc, in order to vibrate in a certain (high) form and therefore attract the things you want.. It means, you have to feel and act in a way you haven't done until this point because if you had felt accurately you would already have what you are looking for, wouldn't you? It's the opposit of freedom in a sens you still focus on things and faking yourself telling you allready have it. Maybe it brings you a lot of material things but I agree with Leo, you won't grow spiritually speaking: You'll be to occupied focusing the way you have to feel..