WonderSeeker

Oh and if you just wind up watching the Tube on your computer, then get Cold Turkey website blocker. It blocks certain sites and makes it impossible to unlock the setting while a "work-block" is active. But that's if you really need it (it's like $40).

First, get a phone lockbox (temporary fix). Lock it away and then ask this question to yourself: What payoff do you get from watching YT? Wait for a genuine answer. Then, let go of it (root-cause fix). That gets rid of the belief---that for some reason you need to consume YouTube compulsively---at the root. Hope this helps~

Let me take your title and put a spin on it (tell me what your gut instinct advice for me would be): I'm 27 and haven't had sex. Should I lift weights? What would you tell me? "DUDE, GO MEET SOME GIRLS!!!!!!" For you, make money and get a girlfriend. Clearly you want those things. Then if you have time AFTER, meditate/do yoga. Easy.

Q: What is your goal in this podcast episode? Will it be like Curt Jaimungal, or a different flavor? As a nerdy ex-scientist I support this. Letter rip!

Did you use AI to type this? Reads a little too good lol Yeah, this isn't good. If the U.S. goes into Greenland, EU countries will pull up and it will be a bloodbath. While that's going on, what do you think Putin will do? And China? I really don't want war on U.S. soil. I know whatever happens may lead to a better outcome in the long-run; I just hate seeing innocent people terrorized because of Darth Vader in the White House and Emperor Palpatine in Israel. We really are living in a once-in-a-lifetime snapshot in history.

I'm in Korea and while it's got its problems, it beats living in the U.S. at the moment. The U.S. is a clown show right now. I am so happy to be out. Plus, I'm young and pursuing a teaching career so moving to Asia made sense for me. Those who are staying in the U.S., I ask why? Why do you assume it's the best. From personal experience I always find better relationships abroad and there are certain perks you just can't get in the U.S. Are you serious? U.S. healthcare is atrocious. Education is abysmal, and only getting worse (I am a current educator, so I know this). PFAS now in the food/water (I used to work with PFAS, it ain't good for you). Childcare and paid leave barely exist, if at all. Unions are dead. The culture overall is meh. Cost of housing shooting up. Crushing student loan debt. Side note: Americans always come off as more narcissistic on the whole than people I meet abroad. And yet, all of that is still somehow better than most of the world, assuming you escape the rat race and find a good neighborhood in a good state to live. (I haven't done that yet, so that's my personal bias). Scandinavian countries seem to have good standards from an "objective" standpoint. Only issue there is you can't build and maintain a sustainable biz for long... you'll get taxed to smithereens. But on average it seems a like a good place with awesome access to nature in places like Sweden, Finland, and Norway.

Why do you assume you're too old? What is there to grieve? At the same time, I agree dating in the west is butt-cheeks. Come to Asia for a little bit. It'll set you right

Epic share. In fact dude, you are so well-positioned I'm slightly jealous! I'm also an HSP empath. I feel everything insanely deep, and have worked all my life to live effectively in this hyper-masculine world. Had a recent inner win: realized I gotta be more patient with my development, because financial constraints have limited how high I can go at the moment. I thought I could make money bags if I crushed it at sales jobs, or found business success. Even with several months of HARD work at these things, it all made me poorer with more debt. So now I'm just combining passions (teaching + traveling). I moved from America to Korea right after getting fired from corporate. Best decision of my 20s. And now, I'm taking the slow route to financial health. All by cutting as much discretionary as possible for the next 3 years; got it all mapped out: First I'll nab the credit card debt. Then tackle the student loan beast (only in America, amirite?). Then personal development will skyrocket. But even now, getting into more Ralston and Wilber, while exploring Korea. Life's good. It's evolving. It's dynamic. And it's intelligent as fuck.

Wish I took everything less seriously. Wish I knew that the pain I felt in my teens is universal and "happy" people that appeared to "have it all" were in just as much pain as me, if not worse. Also, wish I didn't take anti-consumerism too far. I was so anti-consumerist I always asked for nothing for Christmas and demonized all business. That made me open-minded, anti-mainstream, and open to spirituality. But it came at a cost of learning how to market myself and start a biz. I thought "value isn't a real thing," therefore I have none to offer. All of that said, I'm proud of what I've done considering the hole I was in early on.

Great share. I second @mmKay: watch this to see her more raw side. 2:04:38-2:06:32 if you're low on time. I appreciate her honesty and authenticity in spite of the hate. Her New Age takes are bull-shitty. But everything else is deep, wise, and super practical. I've watched her for years alongside Actualized. Actually, she and Julien Blanc had some cool collabs in the past: I hope to attend one of her workshops someday.

Funny you mention Burly. I lived there for 2 years. Perfect example of a stage green town. I used to ride my bike past Bernie Sanders house all the time there. Actually by far my #1 city I've lived in. Phoenix is fun, but a hell-hole (except for 3 months out of the year). Boston is an absolute gem environmentally and culturally (it just has a great vibe). I imagine PNW or Denver are perfect (never been to either though). SLC is nice to visit but a lot of locals wear a platic smile and walk around like they got a tree branch up their arse. Currently I'm living in Korea, and the worst part about it is China's pollution is constantly covering the skies here. Live and learn

2 years ago Owen said he was gonna stop running free tours and move to Montana. Yet he's still touring and living in Hollywood. It's like "Dammit Owen! You were so close!"

Nice. I personally like this: And this:

Just in time! Pursuing Consciousness and The Genius of Being, by Ralston will be on my doorstep this Friday. The two will pair nicely. Thanks, @Leo Gura!

Funny you posted this as I'm re-reading it a second time currently. In terms of readability it is very challenging. 9/10 in terms of how hard it is to read and grasp. Reason being is you have to read it slowly and think of personal examples of each point from your own life. He also created his own list of vocabulary words/phrases like pendulums, balanced forces, inner/outer intention, wave of fortune, rustle of the morning stars (intuition), etc. that make it challenging. Also the book has a shitload of weird typos and grammar mistakes because, as @SimpleGuy said, the book is translated from Russian to English. But on the actual substance? I think the book is phenomenal (IF you can grasp it). It's a law of attraction book, only better. Basically it peak pragmatism, but with epistemic fine-tuning (except for occasional woo-woo stuff you gotta read past). It tells you how to set goals and achieve them from the standpoint of fully engaging while at the same time being laid back. And to avoid pendulums, or energy structures in reality that prey on your energy to serve themselves, not you. Basically Vadim Zeland's description of pendulums is a lot like Leo's description of collective ego. But what's cool is there's a lot of practical stuff about how to work in systems with pendulums and still get what you want. Talks about witnessing consciousness vs dreaming consciousness. Admits that Transurfing (his book) is just a model and not ultimate truth; he recommends you actually apply it instead of taking it on faith (that's how I know it's a well-intentioned teaching). Overall a good SD stage orange/yellow book assuming you apply it with good morals. But the author repeatedly says having negative intentions backfires in his model so really it only works from the standpoint of good mental health and honesty. Out of the 90 books I've read, It's in my top 5. If you read it, good luck! (It's 700+ pages)

I want to become more peaceful, graceful, and conscious. Also to find a chill lady to wife-up and go on erotic nature adventures with. But to be gentle on myself along the way to attaining these things. In other words, aim high, but do not rush the process. And be detached, so even if I fail, I can be at peace with whatever happens in the end.

So you want to not-want? You're still wanting...

A friend of mine just confirmed that Julien is separating from Self Mastey Co (SMC). He announced it on a coaching call today. This doesn't have to do with his spiral development per se, but it goes to show how he's matured beyond Owen.

Simplicity = Beauty , my friend Yeah exactly. I think the main point is to conform consciously.

First of all Leo, thank you for the most comprehensive explanation of this almost universal human pattern I've ever seen. It's so pervasive, it's akin to breathing air. To pay back the value, I want to briefly share my recent experience with conformity in my own life on this sub-forum. 3 weeks ago I moved from the U.S. to South Korea. Immediately I saw my mind picking up on gross and subtle signs of what this culture values and how it behaves. I laughed at your example of the Japanese handing others items with both hands instead of just one, because that's also a common custom here. Although, it's more the old generation that cares about such things, showing that the culture is evolving with time (albeit from one conformist habit to another!) In my own experience I took note of the insane beauty standards and fashion trends here. In some of the busiest parts of the city I'm living in, Daegu ( 대구), 1 in 4 people there (especially the ladies) look like they could be magazine models. Since moving here I've already spent 180,000₩ ($125) on new clothing. Granted, the clothing I replaced was 3-6 years old and starting to wear. But still I see the effect the culture has had on my mind to some degree and my desire to fit-in/embrace it, depending on which lens you use. In any case, I'll give myswlf the benefit of the doubt. My decision to go out and update my wardrobe was at least 70% conscious as I wasn't in a crazy hurry to do so. I still haven't watched K-pop or K-drama yet and don't really care if people think my style is out there (after taking Julien Blanc's TM Mentoring recently I've become much more confident and care-free in my skin). Anyways, if you've read through I'm curious... in what ways have you confirmed in recent days, weeks, or months? Cheers!

Wow dude you have tons of sexual experience. Pat on the back for that! I've had like 6 at age 27 (missed out on another 5 or so due to the "demi" factor for sure. But of course, body count is a stupid human game. Depth matters as much, if not more. So, my 6 feels like 30; and whenever I am with a new partner it's like I get the experience of 5 lays in 1 hahaha. Being an HSP has its perks (because, intensity). Anyways, it sounds like you've made quite a transformation. I too value having a beautiful space, though I've never fully actualized one as I'm constantly moving cities (I value geographic novelty pretty hardcore being in my 20s still). Now I understand why the pool feels so limited for you. There aren't many out there who value beauty. Or, they over-value overstimulation, hype, materialism, and consumerism. (Having just moved to the 3rd largest city in Korea I've noticed a huge materialist culture. So finding my ladies here will be quite a fun challenge, haha.) P.S. - The reason I call my demi-sexuality more innate is because, over the years I've taken girls home or gone to their places on several occasions and either sex didn't cross my mind, or it did, but I got confused about why my body wasn't feeling it alongside the mind. Happened when I brought a girl home from high school (parents not home). Happened after clubs in Miami (went up elevator with 2 Latinas, but lost attraction after they got in a cat-fight). Happened after a homemade dinner date with college chick at her place... sat in her bed and we looked at each other and my brain said 'yes', but my body was like "no, even though idk why." And another time in college... same thing. P.S.S. - Yeah there's a ton of watchers on here. They watch the videos as fans (or even read the forum in the same way), but don't like actually self-reflecting and sharing for some reason.

Yes, actually did some research into it the other day. I think I've had it for a long time tho. What signs are you seeing in yourself?

I've been following Julien's content deeply for 3 years. I can tell you he's distanced himself from Owen quite a bit. He actually disagrees with him often (though not by name). I had a friend go to a Julien event last year and he thanked Julien for his pickup stuff from 2012. Julien said "Glad it helped" and walked away. He has moved on from the punk he was. But MOST IMPORTANTLY, I went through Julien's 8-week Transformation Mastery (TM) program recently. It's somatic release combined with weekly calls to ask questions about trauma and the releases. I got to talk to him live on Zoom calls every week. I've talked to lots of people at SMC (formerly RSD). And by far, in terms of overall awareness, Julien is the most advanced. Owen is a loud-mouth, but also a genius in his own right (but not necessarily conscious!) What I like about Julien is he's actually done the hard work of smoothing himself out in a such a way that I'd call him high green, MAYBE Tier II. He openly allows blue, orange, and green topics to be discussed on his calls. He gives advice from many different perspectives. He also uses a scale of emotional development based off of David Hawkin's work (see attached photo). It works similar to a developmental psychology model where you go from a lower vibrational, competitive, destructive state, to more embracing, loving, conscious state. In his own work Julien cites perspectives from people of all age ranges. He is genuine on the calls and I sense no bullshit or games with him whatsoever. Whereas in the more pickup side of SMC, I've met Owen in person several times and his other coaches too. They are more salesy, sleezy, and it feels like there's some BS hiding underneath them. They weren't as lucky as Julien was to get gut-punched into green (and possibly Tier II). One of the only things that is holding him back from Tier II, is he hasn't gone into military-grade deep spiritual territory. Otherwise it does appear like he's building out conscious systems, with TM as the foundation (happiness), Purpose Process (wealth), and High-Vibe Communication (relationships). He doesn't have much to say about health, education, spirituality, or psychedelics though. He doesn't cover every base but he goes really deep with what he does know and is therefore a pretty healthy green/orange (maybe some Tier II) nonetheless. My 2 cents.

Perma-tripping, suffering, making loud clicking sounds with my mouth. Also, randomly, I can guess birthdays and ages insanely well

You must balance emptiness with fullness. You meditate to empty out bullshit and replace it with truth. But part of the truth is your human condition so you gotta satisfy that too. You said you visualized having a perfect girl, house, body, and job. But it made you miserable. Why? My guess is you might have set too many goals at once, without taking them one at a time. Or going all of them bit by bit slowly (my strategy). Another reason it might have failed is how do you know what's actually right for you? Have you experimented with different ways of living, dating, working, and so on? If so, great, you know what you want. Just some things to think about. You got this man~