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That shouldn't be too problematic to achieve. You're young, funny and intelligent!

Instagram and TikTok is where I draw the line. I find those really toxic. I actually have friends, so I'm not that desperate. My friendships are from very long ago though and we don't have too much in common anymore to say it the least. Of all the dating apps, you had to mention the one I'm banned from! Such a shame. Bumble is by far the best one. Writing is my life purpose, so I should eventually find some kind of community there, but I'm such an amateur and don't have nearly enough confidence for that yet!

You're on to something here. There's simply too many other terrible things going on in the world at the moment. The 2020’s are a pretty grim decade.

To be fair: Reddit is not the nicest place to be. Pretty much all the subs there are echo chambers with very little tolerance for different perspectives. I created my first Reddit thread the other day, which was just an honest, completely non-offensive question, and I got a lot of downvotes for no apparent reason…

"I've had some bad experiences on Reddit, so now I have a free pass to behave like a bitter and hateful asshole." And I thought I was immature…

Do you think any black-and-white thinker don't think like this? Your statement is on the same level as claiming that all black people are criminals. Grow up. Like this, you mean?:

One thing is for sure: I would choose a vegan 10 out of 10 times over anyone who is so generalizing and judgmental that they can justify to themselves writing something like this...

According to the Danish newspaper Weekendavisen, vegans - who make the greatest sacrifices for animals and our planet - are the most hated minority after drug addicts.

@Aaron p Yeah, even though the IRA were pretty terrible, the Irish have my deepest sympathies in this conflict. The British treatment of the Irish has been unreal. It makes you wonder whether things like Ian Paisley being born and Bloody Sunday happening were actually a series of unfortunate events that triggered The Troubles, or whether similar things would have happened and triggered it anyway…

Northern Ireland is the most fascinating place on earth imo. Even though I've seen amazing documentaries about it again and again, I can never understand how something like The Troubles could happen in that part of the world in such modern times. It's absolutely insane.

WOW, has this movie aged well! Adam Scott’s character is so spot on. The immaturity he represents and gets away with, is such a huge social issue in the US. Just look at what’s happened to the country since then…

I meant the debate about which gender is more shallow.

Dude, we wanna have sex with random girls we pass on the street at any time just because they look nice… This is a war we cannot win 🤣

Did you mean unattractive men here? You can't separate a man's sexiness and his behavior. They go hand in hand. Do you really think that for example autism, which I have, doesn't affect a guy's results with women? My looks are good enough to get me a lot of matches on dating apps, but I've never been popular among women IRL. I went on around 40(!!!) dates before I got laid for the first time. How do you explain this?

This is not true. You have no idea how little it takes for a woman to lose interest in you because of something you say or do. I’ve been rejected by so many women on dates that it’s honestly ridiculous. It’s also a well-known thing these days that women get «the ick» from the smallest things guys do.

@Tenebroso You actually have some good points, but those points mainly apply to people in their 20s. Remember, there’s life after your 20s too. Things change quickly then, and men and women become equally attractive.

I can confirm that Leo’s techniques work. Dedicate a year, or at least half a year, to doing his exercises every day and start looking for funniness everywhere—especially when you’re social. I did this, and the results have been amazing!

There never was a «before she made alt accounts.» She’s had several accounts and probably has been talking to herself with different accounts for as long as she’s been here. Just look at how old this account is for example: https://www.actualized.org/forum/profile/8397-tyler-robinson/

The damage one person (Preety India) can do to a forum. You almost can’t trust anybody here anymore... It’s like The Departed.

I refuse to believe it was a coincidence. I would probably have lost my spark for life too…

No, it’s Musk’s.

Inequality is the key word here. When a society becomes too unequal, too many people start living in two very different realities. That’s when you get nationalistic conservatives on one side, and progressives—more like «world citizens»—on the other. Even though the working class in for example the US has it rough, American progressives don’t really feel that bad for them, because they know that the poorest people in places like Africa or the Middle East have it way worse. The only Americans whose level of suffering might compare to the worst in those places might generally just be the trans people. Trans people are some of the most miserable people on Earth, even in Western countries.

I actually agree, even though this culture benefits me a lot — I’m really introverted, can’t dance, but I have the looks. Still, going out on a Saturday night and only sticking to your own group, like we do here, feels so sad and absurd to me. Same with walking around a city surrounded by thousands of people and never interacting with any of them, because talking to strangers is such a social taboo. It’s like we’ve been given one of the greatest privileges a human can have, but we’re not using it. There was recently an op-ed here encouraging people to talk more with strangers in their everyday lives, and it got a lot of likes. I really hope it’s the start of something!

Why? Relatively few people, daygame doesn't work and online dating has pretty much killed bars and clubs as an arena for sex/relationships. Online dating is huge in Scandinavia. This.

Your date didn’t go so well?