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Just speaking by experience. I have to acknowledge that whenever someone has power, it's much easier for them to do corrupt things. For a man if he does indeed have power, it's difficult for him not to get cocky when he's loved by many women. I Have met some genuinely good men that have lots of power and don't take advantage of women or their situation. But it's more an exception than it is a norm. I have to say thank you all those men who do have self control and don't abuse their power! And for sure it goes the other way too. When a woman is so gorgeous or impossibly beautiful. It's difficult for her to not abuse her powers by using sex. It's too tempting for most of us. Again there are exceptions. Beauty also draws so much attention. But I think it just makes it so hard for a woman to tell who actually genuinely likes her for who she is, verses just for her beauty. It might also attract a lot of unwanted attention. It almost ends up being a disadvantage for the beautiful woman in so many ways. Because a high quality woman also has to work hard and be able to genuinely introspect and be able to contemplate, do inner work within herself, learn skills... etc if she wants to attract high quality men or to have a high quality life, regardless of how beautiful she is. I think you give good advice because it's true, I don't think of the men I spend time with as a payout or "what job or career they are in??" Nor am I thinking "he's 6 foot 4, or aww he's only 5 foot 3.." Good looks do help to a degree, but I'm personally not that picky about looks or height or race or physical appearance or whatever the man might have in his net worth or what his career is. I've dated men from every social class, I genuinely just enjoy people's time and connecting with others. Men or women. So you explained and elaborated things pretty well. His personality is honestly so much more important. Now obviously if I am going to consider having kids with a man, then for sure, having more resources is better than less. Just because I'll be out of work for many months and physically more vulnerable for at least a year or two. But that's a very late stage of any relationship. I've met many men that are very well off that wanted me, but I've chosen men that had far less or almost nothing in their wallets, simply because of the connection I had with them. Man or woman, you give good advice because vibes are very important, and it's more important to be having a good time and enjoying life. Not everything is about money. Especially you are correct that now many women can make their own money. It wouldn't be about how much the man makes as the strength of his character. So if he was just given a lot of money or power but he's extremely socially uncalibrated, awkward, poorly groomed, with poor hygiene and doesn't look like "he gets it," it's far more of a turn off than a man that has no money, no power but has confidence, wit, social skills, stories to tell, and a man that's genuinely fun or interesting to be around. There are some women that do value money or power more than other women. I know some women that will only date a man if the man can pay for her complete expensive lifestyle, vacations, dining, food etc or only if the man has an expensive car. And I know some women that place almost no emphasis on money, but value other things. But yes, I would agree that it's almost never a good idea for a man to lead with his wallet! So keep coaching them

He's giving good advice. I'd say it's a good idea to at least consider what he's saying.

It all comes down to different survival needs. My two cents, men probably have to fight a lot harder to receive tangible gains and they're judged much more for what they can do, and not what they think. For a woman, our survival, our relationships depend more based on socializing and being liked.

It's never that simple. There are also some women that need to socialize less than others. Women might have more access to social gatherings, but we also desire it more. And men might have less need for it, but there's also less resources to support men. But that doesn't make men's needs any less important.

So what is considered greedy? Wikipedia says "Greed is a selfish and excessive desire for more of something, especially wealth or possessions, than is needed or deserved." But almost anyone can always use a more money, more comforts, more power etc. So isn't greed subjective? At what point is an individual just surviving and at what point is someone just being greedy? Who defines it?

Good answer that it's about wanting something that isn't yours. But some people steal because they have to feed their kids. Or they're genuinely homeless and need to eat. The wanting another guy or guy I agree with that it's greed. But reasons for stealing is very complicated.

Okay then why does all religion teach that greed is not a good thing then?

It's because Trump brainwashes people. It's the same thing as religion. Why do so many people fall for it? It might seem obvious to you, but most human beings aren't capable of asking the right questions or just don't introspect. It's just too easy for people to conform. There is an idea I just heard, if one person does it then he or she will be considered crazy, but if many people are doing the very same thing/behavior, then it is considered normalized and accepted In other words, Trump is very good at lying to himself. It's just another way that he gaslights himself, and then does it to people so well. It's no different than religion. He's a dangerous master manipulator. Just listen to his quotes. He says one thing, and then when it's convenient for him, he just twists it to his advantage. He doesn't actually care about the causes or the people he says he supports. And he will cover up by saying he's doing something good. And pretend like there's enough good in what he does to have many naive people fooled. It's like mainstream Christianity, they'll do nice things here and there, help the poor, serve food banks, enough to fool many people to go "ah Christianity sounds like it's the way!!" but then they will follow this evil book called the Bible and condemn or hate gay people. It's really unfortunate and saddens me that most human beings aren't capable of evolving much once they've reached young adulthood.

Ohhhh I respectfully disagree. yes it does matter and how a man says it too

How many percent of this forum are women? Just curious.

I feel the same way. I used to have a very rigid mind. But I'm slowly trying to realize that the more I learn the more I actually know that I don't know. You have to be comfortable not knowing. And then try to seek answers from quality people and quality material. And seek different kinds of answers and try to compare them all, and find what works for you at the time, and maybe as you grow older, someday another answer might make sense. It's complicated. But you are not alone. I struggle with the very same thing.

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That's very well written and explained. I think you nailed it.

PHD doesn't mean it's truth. How are you so sure if that's what you need? Sometimes we think we know what we need but don't.

It depends on your budget. But there's gotta be better ways to use that money to improve social skills. You can just join a group therapy session, where you can share stuff with others, and most of the other people will share stuff with you, and they are not likely to judge you. And those are free. At least you can meet people there and share your challenges, struggles etc and at least get to hear other people face their challenges. And you can improve your social skills and go from there.

Don't do it! University is not worth a life! I know it's hard. But you have other gifts, I'm sure you do!

What if the world ends before it even moves beyond modernism? I hear many people say, America for example isn't going to move past stage orange for most people. It will just stay in this stage and get worse, where the rich get richer, and more thinning capitalism etc. Also is there something beyond post modernism? And what are those things that are highest stages of cognitive development?

Awww this made me cryyyy!!! Don't go :((( I'm sorry you feel that way...

Don't look for someone equal, and don't look for one person to fulfill all your needs. Have different friends for each of your needs, and still have the guy to fulfill whatever only men can do for you. Even in the more traditional times, a wife and a husband had a community. A woman would have her friends, cousins, relatives, siblings and other people to interact with. Humans were not meant to rely on just one person for everything. For example I love talking about clothes and cats etc but the men I dated never found interest in that. That's okay, so I had my own hobbies and found communities or friends for those needs. No one is a superhuman that can fulfill every need nor will any one person be likeminded enough to fit you for everything. So if you like make up for example, then you find people that are likeminded in that way. And then if you like animals, then find someone else for that. A man, isn't some all rounded 'God' (though we wish they were).

I am sorry Leo. But shouldn't the elites be exposed? Also isn't it more disappointing that some human beings are just after more and more control and power? Causing everyone else to suffer just for vote counts, money, titles... when they already have more than enough. You also once said that if a society is at that stage of spiritual development that it makes it hard for the individuals to rise above it. But that it would quickly pull the individual up to it's level. This is not an excuse, but unfortunately, we still have to deal with reality.

Yes. A lot of illegal activity is still going on. For example, Vancouver has some of the most expensive real estate in the world. Because of the foreigners from the Pacific. In China, there is a lot of corrupt money, that many individuals have made since the 60's. If they leave their money there, their communist Government will take it from them. But if they put their money in Canada, as long as they pay taxes, their money is safe. The Government makes their cut, and then it drives the housing up so insanely that the locals born here will never be able to even afford a small condo. Yet Canada presents itself as accepting, multicultural, diverse... But most of the individuals they invite over don't even care to follow a lot of Canadian culture, and they still live in their own ghettos, creating all this segregation. Every decade since the 1960s, Canada's quality of life has decreased, and it will continue to be this way for the foreseeable future.

I am from Toronto Canada and I can say there is definitely more and more homeless here, and it seems to be noticeably worse every few months. There is not enough jobs for many of the people born and raised in Canada, and also not enough for the students that come. Increased crime rates, record debts, stagflation, record amounts of mental illness, drug abuse, inflation, lack of production etc. Our public transit system has record homeless causing trouble on it and incidents daily, more and more frequently. Our healthcare services are taking record time for waiting lists. The system is pretty broken. I have heard many of my friends say "Canada is a scam country." or "It's becoming 3rd world where many people can't even find employment, can't afford rent nor food" or "The elites are trying to kill off people" or "these days you have to commit fraud to even stay alive because of thinning capitalism" etc And it's honestly hard for me to disagree with them, And yes Leo is correct, our population is low and we aren't fucking enough hahaha. Forget about fucking... I can imagine is it very difficult to even try dating or hooking up now. There's so many people not even in the right frame of mind for that. Not to mention even affording something like Mcdonald's or fast food here is like a luxury only for the rich. So if you find reality a bit unbearable here, you are not alone. I think many people feel the same way. I am probably considered middle upper class in Toronto and even I feel like complaining I have several friends living on well over 100k a year jobs, and still require major parental support. At least there aren't wars going on. For the record, it wouldn't be fair to blame Liberals or Conservatives or any specific group/party. It's more about the overall vote count and mindset of Canadians. Even the Conservatives if they get into power, have to behave in ways that follow the attitude of the voters. So the immigration isn't going to stop just because someone else other than Trudeau comes into power. I see even many Liberals being very upset at Trudeau now. But Trudeau is not their concern. This is also why Pierre Poilievre is getting less praise now compared to Q1 of 2024 or last year. Because he's now starting to have to follow the agendas as well. Unfortunately, things are only going to get worse. Just be thankful we don't have riots yet like the UK. Canadians are still relatively peaceful!

A very power comment. Thank you Leo

A belated Happy birthday Leo!

1. Leo once gave a list of things that will not help find truth. He mentioned realism as one of them. How come realism is not Truth? Or how come realism won't find absolute Truth? Isn't Truth grounded on what's real or being realistic? 2. Dr, Orion Taraban. What stage in spiral dynamics would he be?