Sidra khan

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  4. Posted · Edited by Sidra khan

    4 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

    How long u hold a grudge is entirely upto you. It can be over in moment. Or in many lifetimes. Depends on your willingness to stop defending yourself and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

    This is the point, grudge is over in a few minutes and people take advantage of it, you are used and manipulated again and again cz you have the habbit of forgiveness and letting things go easily, some grudges needs to be permanent or long lasting cz they give you power to stick to your decision of not going in the same loop again.

    Yet you can do it in a healthy way too , not keeping the grudge and taking the right action.

  7. Posted · Edited by Sidra khan

    19 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

    But you can do that in a day, or even faster, you don't need a big retreat or smth :D

    19 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

     

    You need two years when you have a brother like mine,... equivalent to shit sitting in the toilet,, what you want to do with it? Flesh it out right? cz it's of no use.

  8. Posted · Edited by Sidra khan

    10 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

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    That's pretty much the gist of it

    I'll tell you a story of me and my brother, when I was 15 he was 13 we had a severe physical fight and we stopped talking to each other for next two years living in the same house and finally after a lot of struggle when we started talking, we never talked with even a single word of disrespect for years, let alone fighting , it was like total change of personality, why cz we got time to self reflect  so doesn't matter how sever or negative initial emotions are when you turn your back, eventually its good for self reflection specially if you already have the right understanding.

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    4 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

    I didn't get the second part

    But... I would say forgiveness is when you see all beings as perfectly guiltless and holy loved by god. It a way of overlooking their surface display of insanity and choosing to see with the eyes of love. It's about being aware in the midst of insanity and ego rampings that love is not affected in any way and turns not its back on anyone. Because when you turn your back on others, you are the one who becomes seperated from the feast

    For you what does it mean "turn your back on others" ? 

    Not talking to someone, or leaving a place or a community is turning your back? 

    Its not, it's all how you "think" of others.

     

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    2 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

    It's like when a child decides to no longer talk to her parents or best friend because she got hurt and now she decides to take revenge on them by not talking to them anymore in the attempt to hurt them.

    It can be self defense mechanism of not to go through the same hurt again.