Raze

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-H0_BlN2ac https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hpjM_NNFQw

If you had a husband, would you leave him if he lost his job and had to work at McDonald’s? You wouldn’t have married him if he worked at McDonald’s, but still you probably wouldn’t leave because you developed a bond. It’s the same. Looks may get him in the door, but a connection is developed that makes them stay.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hCKflUUrw4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Box5X0Cnvo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFdiI_OaNPI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lD1ny_Q8sKo

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-kiss-her https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWjPvcg-7Iw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuM7ZS7nodk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9yeIKMy12Y

Get ifs therapy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGy2PdVzNMU

So you want looks and good looks, men are the same, that doesn’t make you any more or less capable of love than men.

I agree, it isn’t just looks.

There are two kinds of love between partners, passionate love and companionate love. Passionate love is strong at the beginning and slowly declines and is more based on surface level things like looks. Companionate love grows slowly over time.

Record a podcast interviewing self help authors to draw in their audiences and take clips and turn them into YouTube shorts and tiktoks

https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/art_urges.pdf

https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-chasing-women-doesn’t-work-and-why-persistence-does https://www.girlschase.com/article/3-reasons-women-will-resist-you-how-artfully-persist https://www.girlschase.com/content/take-women-bed-successful-physical-escalation https://www.girlschase.com/content/escalation-windows https://www.girlschase.com/article/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness

To start, just take rejections at face value, and just ask to escalate. It can work too.

So are you quitting the channel? Your update sounds like it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOae2s8JOUE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIsy_HSHkKo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QV2NX7Ik4cI https://www.girlschase.com/content/can-you-beat-bad-boy-and-get-girl https://www.girlschase.com/comment/18124 https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-edgy-and-turn-women https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlJLLjE9_To https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YoapA4BpRU

Yes, their definition of masculinity is going to be overall slanted towards the traditional beliefs about it. If people who identify with it are correlated with better life outcomes, it is not inherently a shitty way of being. I wasn’t referring to the queer community. You can be a effeminate straight man or a very traditionally masculine gay man. I was referring to how if men learn from the queer community to be more feminine they could harm their outcomes as men who identify as less masculine seem correlated with many worse life outcomes. Hetero males are actually an underprivileged class. They are the majority of suicides, homeless, workplace deaths, homicide victims, receive substantially less in health funding, scholarships, and government aid, and are only 40% of college graduates. High income and religiosity is correlated with many positive life outcomes such as general happiness, greater relationship satisfaction, etc. Still, one’s self image is very important to one’s life and people tend to try to live up to them. Many people despite being great in their actual actions are depressed due to self hating and excessive self criticism. No, but I regularly see it recommended men move away from traditional masculinity, soften masculinity etc. without ever seeing evidence of why doing that is a good choice. In this post you suggest men should learn from the queer community because they are decades ahead in gender expression and relationships, I’ve also seen similar suggestions made about men needing to learn from women and more left leaning sources on how to express themselves and manage their emotional lives. But lgbtq people, women, and liberals report worse and declining mental health, if anything it sounds like they should learn principles of traditional masculinity such as stoicism.

“Softened masculinity” is harmful for most people. Data finds that men who identify as very masculine tend to be healthier, less depressed, and happier, then men who identify as less masculine. https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-pitfalls-and-power-of-masculinity

I don’t understand what your complaint is specifically

When you feel an urge take a cold shower

Get ifs therapy Read the righteous mind

It sounds like you have a deeper psychological phenomenon causing your motivation to enter politics to be to find justice for those you see part of yourself in

what?

Inspired by Leo’s recent blog post, I want to make a thread about sharing the best resources for having an open minded understanding as well as reducing suffering. These are some I’ve found: -The Righteous mind by Jonathan Haidt Jonathan Haidt is a social psychologist who studies morality and politics. In this book he discusses why people have different perspectives specifically in politics. Understanding why someone believes what they do can make you far more understanding of their perspective and better at communicating with them. talk with the author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SOQduoLgRw -Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny This book was more from the perspective of business, but it’s actually useful in all parts of life when it comes to communicating emotionally charged or difficult issues in general such as relationships or disagreements. talk with the author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uc3ARpccRwQ -Break through difficult emotions & Break through pain by Shinzen Young These are audio talks by American meditation teacher Shinzen Young about how to use meditation to reduce both emotional and physical suffering. talks with the author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lD1ny_Q8sKo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdulQzPqRi8 -No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz Richard Schwartz is the founder of the internal family systems model of psychology. It stipulates that human psychology functions as a combination of different “parts” reacting to each other. One foundational principle discussed here is that no part is “bad” and shouldn’t be pathologized but rather understood. talk with the author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbNlOP26KvI What do you think of these? What resources have helped you?

In one moment he says he needs to be more patient and understanding, then a few months later he says he has been far too patient and is going to be stricter and harsher. I swear this is the fourth time he’s done this. I guarantee within a year he’s going to do an update video or a new post saying the opposite.