Beginner Mind

I've been thinking about looking into it. I'm a bit shy so I figure sending a message over the internet rather than cold approach might be more up my alley. There's also dating websites like "Spiritual Singles" that allow you to connect with like-minded people, which is cool. Has anyone here had any success with online dating? Any tips?

I think it would be more loving to be more inclusive, but, it's your website so you can do as you wish.

@Mikael89 Plenty of time, dude.

@Mikael89 Don't give up. Judging by your username you were born in 1989? You're still young. Plenty of time to meet someone.

Haha. I'm not saying you should approach every girl you see walking down the street. In fact, you might not have to "approach" at all. Have you tried joining any spiritual meet-up groups, or other groups that interest you? In these settings there's a chance you'll just naturally meet someone, without even trying.

Haha. I used to say shit like this to my girlfriends all the time. Good times.

Just guessing here, but, you don't approach many women, do you? It's really not as impossible as you make it seem. Maybe you got rejected a few times and so concluded that dating is hopeless for you? But that's not true. You probably just aren't applying yourself enough.

@Mikael89 Women want you to express yourself and tell them how much you adore them. BUT, they want it to come from a certain place, a non-needy place.

Hahaha.

Yep. Reminds me of one of my past relationships. I would compliment her too much, text too much, and just generally try to inject myself into her life as much as possible. She put up with it for a few months, but eventually she gave me the boot. Agreed. Maturity and communication are also important.

@Preety_India Looks will help you get your foot in the door, but if you start displaying neediness or any other unattractive behavior, your good looks won't mean shit. She may sleep with the guy a few times, but she will never consider him as a serious long-term partner.

@28 cm unbuffed Indeed. Looks obviously play a role, but they aren't the most important thing.

One of my best friends (who is very handsome) got dumped for an ugly guy. The reason? My friend was needy and the ugly guy was not. Neediness is the death of attraction.

@Anna1 Didn't see your edit, sorry. You're right, he wasn't banned. Just urged to leave basically.

My understanding is, Leo basically told winterknight he should leave if he doesn't see things Leo's way, and then winterknight said he was thinking of leaving anyway. I didn't like it. I thought it was cool how Leo was allowing him to do his thing here, but he obviously had a change of heart at some point.

Leo was wrong to give winterknight the boot.

@Anna1 Yeah, I think you're right. I'll leave it out. Thanks for your input!

@Anna1 I'm putting my dating profile together and I'd appreciate your input on something. A few years ago I had a psychosis episode and I was thinking of including that briefly in my profile. Would that be too much information, too soon? I don't wanna weird the ladies out, but I also want to be honest and also weed out anyone who might be turned off by my medical history.

(For those who don't know, a Medium is someone who communicates with the dead.) If no individual self actually exists, and therefore no individual self persists beyond death, then who are these Mediums communicating with?

@Serotoninluv I would say there's at least one objective, universal truth: "I am", "I exist". The sense of existence cannot be denied. If there exists this one universal truth, perhaps other universal truths exist as well?

@Dimi Right, but according to the Medium they are communicating with an individual spirit... Which, according to the non-dual masters, does not exist.

@Anna1 Thanks!

Thanks for the tip but I'd rather not limit myself to just girls in my area. I've been told by two psychics that my future wife will be from a different country. Obviously nothing a psychic says is set in stone, but it's enough to make me consider dating girls from different parts of the world.

"Realization is of the fact that you are not a person... Personal entity and enlightenment cannot go together." - Nisargadatta Maharaj

Roger definitely teaches that after enlightenment the individual self remains intact, albeit with the understanding that he or she is not the one doing anything. Roger confirmed it when I e-mailed him.