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I figured it out. The issue with these people is that they don't believe in their ability to find someone compatible. Their problem isn't really with relationships, it's with incompatibility which comes with it! They don't actually believe compatibility is possible, cuz all they've seen is incompatibility. That's where the thinking of relationships being a distraction from your purpose comes from.

I'd suggest you watch more of her videos. She has an authenticity movement!

A few interesting points about India : 1. If you're stuck in a crowd that you want to cross, don't say 'Excuse me' cuz the person in front of you won't hear you. Instead, just push them aside and go ahead! They won't mind cuz that's how shit works here. If you push them aside, that's treated like an 'Excuse me'. 2. If you make eye contact with people here, they'll assume that you want to talk to them and they'll either get nervous, or start talking to you! People generally ignore each other on streets. 3. If you smile excessively, that's seen as supplicating behavior/weakness. The more of a pokerface you can have, the more people respect you! 4. Pragmatism is everything here! The more pragmatic you are, the more you'll be relatable to people here. 'Jugaad' is the Hindi slang for pragmatism here. 5. Say you're trying to talk to someone who is busy at the moment. The decent thing to do here would be to wait for them to make eye-contact with you, right? Don't do that!! Instead, interrupt what they're doing and push through what you want to say. They won't mind cuz that's how shit works here. (Of course this doesn't apply to formal situations lol) 6. People will not stop talking about their culture/religion/family here. If that's your jam, you're in good hands! 7. Talk in as literal terms as you possibly can. For example, if you're giving someone advice, the PC thing to do would be to say 'If I were in your shoes I'd do X'. If you say that, they'll say 'But you're not in my shoes! I'm in my shoes so what you're saying doesn't apply.' Instead, say 'Do X!' 8. People here are unapologetically judgemental as hell. If you're from a first-world country, you'll find this incredibly hilarious! People here love to gossip and talk behind people's backs. 9. Be prepared for tons and tons of unsolicited advice on everything!! If someone gives you advice on something, understand that they may not be qualified to know your situation and follow wisely. The way they think is 'I know something about the situation you're describing to me! This is what I know.......' (may or may not be credible) 10. Life in general is more of a grind here. Persistence is the key! This is what I can think off the top of my head! I'm sorry fellow Indians, I'm letting our secrets out.

To everyone who's freaking out about this, Trump is not the only alive human people worship here! People worship Rajinikanth, Amitabh Bachchan and other actors too. It's plain-old fanaticism taking on a religious flavor!

The best we can do about this is expand our sense of Self-Love to include them.

@Anna1 I'll tell you what I think is going on. Stage Orange has fully materialistic goals and lives fully in the physical. Love? Can you quantify love/compassion/relatability? If not, then it doesn't exist. Sex is the utility of relationships and if your goal is sex only, then the whole relationship thing adds complications to a transaction that can be very simple. Stage Orange doesn't care about forming relationships! I know, it took me a long time to realize this as I've wanted a committed relationship for most of my life. This is a case of mental models and worldviews being fully materialistic and simply tuning out emotional needs. If/when that changes, hurt from past rejections will become a lot more relevant in their relationship life. We consider 'objectification' to be this dirty word in society but the reality is, if you're really physically oriented (which is true for Stage Orange and below) all you see about a human being is a body which looks a certain way, says certain things and does certain things! You won't feel empathy at these stages.

I'm starting to wrap my head around what they're actually doing. They call it teaching, but what it really is, is indoctrination. 1. There's a lot of focus on memorization. What that means is that they want kids to blindly take on what they're saying in class and program themselves with it. They call this 'learning' when it's programming. Real learning would be happening if the minds of kids were actually expanding because of school activities. 2. The exams are standard, easy and have a low passing percentage. What this means is that they're aware, in an odd sense, that their curriculum isn't really useful and that their goal isn't really to test the abilities of their students, but rather to just put students through 12 years of indoctrination in a specific regimented environment. 3. In an odd way, religious people really like school! They see it as 'The temple of knowledge where the "teacher" is the Holy light-bearer of knowledge and is the doorway for knowledge for the students' and so on. School is a hold-over from religious indoctrination camps. 4. Giving tons of homework is a cult programming strategy, believe it or not! Keep them busy so that they don't have any time to question what's being fed to them. In fact, lets make them write out what they're programmed with so that it sticks. School doesn't care about the individual, but rather it's a tool of society to integrate kids into mainstream society. The method is to indoctrinate kids with the religious/materialistic/nationalistic/scientific worldview of mainstream society. This has an underlying assumption that the ideology of mainstream society is 'right' and 'should be taught to kids'. There's always this air of 'The "teacher" is always right' and 'Mainstream society has the one true ideology which all kids should accept blindly'. The more I look at this, the more I see that it's not the job of the school to help kids learn useful things, cuz they can't do this for all kids who have unique needs! That's the job of the kid's primary caregivers. Note : I keep putting "teacher" in quotes cuz they're teachers by the mainstream definition, not mine! When a real teacher talks their students get mind-fucked.

This really sounds like the caste system/class system to me! It's like saying 'You should marry within your caste cuz if you don't, the upper caste will feel fucked over.'

@Arcangelo Don't settle! Only women who are incompatible with you will reject you. So if someone rejects you, understand that the two of you are incompatible (for which-ever type of relationship you want). Now if you're getting attracted to incompatible women, that's your issue to work on. I'd suggest channeling your sexual energy and basically getting more creative in life in general (cuz sexual energy is creative energy). Getting to know yourself sexually also helps. People who tell you to settle have their own shadows. Understand that and don't do it!

Of course they're lying to themselves! I'm interested in what could those lies potentially be, and what is the truth?

A : 'I want a relationship so bad I can't see straight.' B : 'You don't need a relationship for the following million reasons.' Why are so many people eager to prove to each other that you don't need a relationship/relationships?

Is it passive, as in, unable to assert her boundaries, or being more and more feminine and receptive? If it's the latter, you're in good shape!

This may or may not have anything to do with what Leo is saying. But it's in the same general topic. I'm thinking about why are emotions associated with femininity, cuz men have emotions too! What I'm seeing though, is that the patriarchy makes an enemy of emotions in general. The reason for this is that the patriarchy values these things the most : productivity and child-rearing. Up until this point, emotions have only gotten in the way of efficiency! Said 'masculinity' and 'femininity' are actually patriarchially defined and have nothing to do with the polarity of masculine and feminine energy. There is an element of hardwiring and evolution, cuz if men embody the masculine and women embody the feminine, masculine energy is more forward-moving and goal oriented whereas feminine energy is more flowy, receptive, non-linearly directed. But, there's also the element of patriarchial socialization which exacerbates the dysfunctional aspects of it.

Leo said 'flirting is implicit'. I feel this is a cop out to avoid having clear communication about sex/turn-ons and be vulnerable about it. What do you think? Also, say I go and rape someone and then spring this 'Oh I thought that consent was implicit! It was so much fun for me that I wasn't paying attention to you. Sorry, too bad' would that be okay? It's not supposed to be clear, right?

Ah okay got it. Different context.

Whenever people talk about 'implicit social assumptions' it's been my experience that those assumptions are self-biased. For example, I say 'You should go and work out more' you nod your head, I may have an implicit assumption that you agree with me, when that may not be the case! So the next time if I ask you 'Hey did you start working out' and get angry with you for not meeting my expectation of you, I'm gonna say that it was implicitly assumed that you agree! Here, as far as I can see, the issue is unclarity and haziness around what exactly is going on. The solution would be to clarify things so that communication is clearer! I get that there are inexplicable energetic dynamics in flirting. But, I disagree that women are more intuitive. Being more expressive with your emotions/getting more carried away with emotions isn't being intuitive! There's very few people who actually follow their intuition and act according to it. Doing this right would require both sides to be tuned into the dynamics AND respond accordingly! If women really were more intuitive, they'd teach their sons to be more intuitive, therefore men would be more intuitive. By now, we'd be living in an intuitive conscious utopia if that were the case!

'Cult' is a big keyword here. It's really fascinating to see how an entire party is under the spell of Trump of all people! Damn if Trump can start a cult, I can too!! Come join my cult! I'll teach you how to sexually connect with each other with theory and practicals All you gotta do is give me all your property . (I'm kidding when I say this. Please don't take it seriously!) On a serious note..... fuck it I just can't be serious when Trump comes up . The guy is a walking-talking joke!

Fear of women actually comes from fear of sexuality/your sexual energy. Fear of coming across as creepy is similar, i.e. it's basically a fear of your sexual energy getting out of hand. I'm learning to channel my sexual energy and it's really helping me keep my cool around women! (Especially women I'm attracted to but I don't want to sleep with) It can also ease the whole dating thing.

Can I tell you something? The quest for Truth, or what you call spirituality is also ego! Everything you do as a human being is ego. You're always chasing something that you want. You'll see this when you start asking questions like 'Who is it that wants to awaken? Is that me? Why do I want awakening when I know it's gonna kill me?' When I look at this, this seems more like you getting confused by spirituality. Awakening is something that happens spontaneously with no cause. It really happens when some part of you has what it wants, and is still suffering. Basically, you discover that getting what you wanted didn't make you happy. Then, you surrender to your suffering and your inevitable death. But, instead of dying, you become enlightened! As a human being, you still have an ego with egoic desires. Denying your desires will not help any of your spiritual pursuits. Getting what you want is part of the grand scheme of awakening. Say you want a million dollars. You'll only know whether or not getting it will make you happy once you get it! That's when spirituality really begins. If you feel like having a family will be a hindrance to your spiritual pursuits, then either you're using spirituality to deny that you want a family, or you don't want a family. If the latter is true, then I'd re-evaluate the compatibility of your relationship and decide accordingly.

How many of yall like Trump in the sense of 'He's so bad he's actually good' kinda way? I find him funny as hell. I just can't bring myself to have any serious conversation about what he says or does!

When he'd won the last time, I'd had a few scary sleepless nights out of panic. I remember the expressions of shock on the faces of Obama and Hillary. I myself was preparing to come to the United States for grad school in Fall 2017. My friends who were also preparing, were just really scared of the consequences of this on America's immigration policy getting worse! They were seriously negatively judging American people for having elected Trump. I kid you not, they had a fear of increased racism in America cuz a racist got elected. Now that they are in America and they're living peacefully there they're seeing what's what and their fears and judgements have gone away for the most part. But I have a lot of friends with Green cards who have been scared to leave America, just in case Trump imposes a travel ban!

But LEEEEOOOOO (I had to use that phrase lol), everyone said he'd be easy to beat in 2016! Now that doesn't imply anything about 2020, but we need to bear that in mind and proceed with caution. There's serious Republicans who say stuff along the lines of 'Do I like Trump? No, I think he's stupid. Do I have a problem with him being in office? Not really, cuz I don't want someone from the other side. 'The Left' is evil and they want to destroy our God-given Western Civilization!' (Or so the evangelicals like to say lol) I know, I'm just never able to take anything Trump says/does seriously. But there's a surprisingly large number of people who think along the above described lines. Their only source of political education is Fox News and they admire Trump just cuz he's a 'billionaire who has a hot wife and daughter'. People's reasons to vote for President are weirder than we can imagine! That being said, he has tried to pull some crazy stuff like declare war on Iran needlessly. My hope is that people wake up to his reality and the Dems capitalize on this.

This sounds very Christian-esque cuz they're talking about 'Judgement days' and stuff like that.

The book says something along the lines that 'The masculine is unchanging presence with the ever-changing flow of the feminine. Therefore, the masculine seeks a state of completion, whereas the feminine seeks to express more energetically/chaotically/meaninglessly when in a state of peace'. It kinda rubbed me the wrong way. What it felt like was that he says that the feminine creates/stands for chaos and anarchy, and expects the masculine to be present with it and somehow restore peace, or something....? I always have issues when people have standards of what the Divine Masculine should/shouldn't do! What do you think he means here? What am I missing?