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@mememe Very funny. You are still assuming a duality between duality and non-duality though. I'm not!

Alright. Now that I have control over the narrative, I'm going to give you a solution. The solution is for women to actually understand the male perspective more, the male point-of-view more so that your advice is actually useful, it's not just shaming and moralization. Men need advice that's more practical and goal-oriented. A morality of 'This is right, this is wrong, this is toxic' isn't enough. That's moralization. It's not helpful. Someone or the other will lash out against it from time to time, that is a guarantee. Is that what you want? Probably not.

@Preety_India Kay fine. I'm gonna let you live with your assumption that you didn't do anything. You are declaring victory on the battle of moral superiority though, which is a false one. You're being intellectually dishonest with that but hey, I'm gonna let you live with it.

@Preety_India Kay. Next time, when you give 'advice', think a little about how it's going to impact that person. Okay?

I'm feeling really empowered, man! I'm finding a way through the bullshit to be heard. For the first time!

The old ways are the ones in which women moralize to men and try to 'fix men' into being what they want men to be. My job is to raise the issue and show discontent. Their job is to change the situation and do something different, by seeing that what they're doing isn't working to get the kind of men that they want.

Only you have the moral authority to decide what's appropriate and what's not, right?! You don't get to set all the rules. Dream away. You're constructing your own bubble-reality and deciding that it's 'assumptions' when it's reality. You're just not conscious of it! Only you have the license to impose yours, right?! You do it. All the time. Dream away. I'm changing a collective pattern here. That's the work I'm doing. I want people to see what the hell is going on here, I'm blowing the whistle on this pattern.

There's very real social patterns and social consequences at stake here. What we're doing here is we're changing trends. We're questioning old ways of doing things and doing away with those. I am making it okay to talk about stuff that others dare not utter a word about. By being the first one to do it. I really do see myself as a pioneer here!

Of course!! I'm the only superficial one. Here's everyone, judging the book by the cover when it comes to men, telling men how to behave and how to not behave like a fucking mother would. But I'm the superficial one! What this shows me about people who are willing to do this is that they are not really interested in the person they're talking to, they're interested in the person playing a character in their view of what's going on, kinda like a play. And, the moralization and reward-and-punishment is in order to make this happen.

@Preety_India Wait, so the shaming and moralizing isn't personal? Is that directed to men in general? It's not a physical threat. It's more like 'If you shame us, be prepared to be shamed in return'.

@StarStruck Man, you're regretting saying one wrong thing to her. Do you see the shitshow out here?! And the people who will whine about the one wrong thing you did.

@Preety_India When it comes to hyper-critical women like you, his loss. You are his problem now, not mine! And don't generalize all women to be like you! You are not the only woman out there. Don't you dare think that only you can indulge in shaming. Do not mess with us!! Is that understood?

@Preety_India The 'pushing away' is intentional because we will not put up with moralization. We mean to do so! There is a limit to how much criticism you can put up with. Believe me, we act very differently with women who are more loving than this. Do not generalize us because of what we reflect back to you! That's where the whole confirmation-bias of the 'man bad, woman good' ideology comes in where you start demonizing men who say one wrong thing. 'Sexist', 'misogynist', you name it.

I counter-attacked so hard that you ran from the battlefield of moral superiority!

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

Everything I'm telling you is with a lot of understanding of the female POV. I've spent a good 3 years doing that. How many years have you spent understanding the male POV? Be honest. And, if the answer to that question is zero, then your advice is self-biased. Given for manipulative purposes.

I have very good reasons to tell you to self-reflect. If you aren't doing it, in fact, you avoided the question that I asked you, that means that you're not doing it! Pretty reasonable assumption on my part. Why should I take you seriously if this is the reality about you? I want reasons.

Okay, so, never. See? Very sneaky manipulation. The assumption is that 'If a guy self-reflects, he's going to change into what he wants me to be!' What if that's not true? What if you actually can't change people and the only person you can change is yourself?!

When a guy tells you to self-reflect, how many times have you taken it seriously? Be honest.

If you're the morally superior one, only the other side has to 'self-reflect' and change into what you want them to be. You don't have to do anything! See how that works to justify your laziness in self-reflection?! That's the deep manipulation involved here.

Why are you moralizing to me about it? What's in it for you?! Ask yourself this question! You expect everyone else to self-reflect but do none yourself. That's what you have to do for moral superiority! If you're the morally superior one, only the other side has to 'self-reflect' and change into what you want them to be. You don't have to do anything! See how that works to justify your laziness in self-reflection?!

Projection. You're the one doing the blame-shifting.

Also, the fact that some people are willing to demonize and shame an entire group of people, using shaming language like 'sexist', 'misogynist' to discredit their perspective shows me that you are operating from a space of absolute good vs evil. It is a metaphysical position, that there is an 'absolute good' vs 'absolute evil', it's an 'us vs them' where you're the good ones and they're the evil ones. When you operate from that space, you are not operating from your rational mind, you are operating from your emotions, you're being emotional. Because, if you look at the reality rationally, there is no such thing as absolute good vs bad! You are operating from a space of fear. This discredits all of your opinions and all of your so-called advice. Your moralization is coming from a space of fear! You lose all credibility to us reasonable people when you do this. This is irrationality disguised as rationality. More to the point, this is cowardice! Reasonable people looking for reasonable advice legitimately shouldn't listen to you when you do that. And, all the shit you say? 'Toxic views on the opposite sex', 'acting low-value', 'resentfulness', etc. all of that is a projection. All of it. No exceptions. You're the one with 'toxic views on the opposite sex'. You're the one 'acting low-value' when you do this. You're the one acting out your 'resentfulness' when you do this! Do you think we don't see it?! We do. It's a massive projection. Most guys haven't seen through this shit. When they do, you're toast. All of this manipulation will stop working! The only thing you have going for you is that what you're doing is socially acceptable. That's gonna change pretty quickly! People are catching on to this.

I know they are! I just haven't seen you talk much about them. I could be wrong though. If I put words into your mouth, my bad!

It was a pretty intellectually arrogant generalization. Pretty neat way of invalidating the male perspective. You're just asking for it from men in return, quite frankly.