Danioover9000

@Striving for more Go do just that, be boring and say whatever to the woman, like 'Hey, you've got a cute face/hair/clothes or whatever, and I find it refreshing. Came from a party/birthday party/ whatever place?' Nice approach is to come up to her and ask 'Hi, there, do I know you from somewhere?'. She might say 'No, sorry, do I know you?'. This helps you in some ways, gives you a chance to exit the small talk later, or deepen it if she chooses, and gives her the chance to reject or accept your approach because it's so innocent. Follow up like ' Well, I've seen you before at my work place/party/holiday at some country, and I saw you doing/talking to somebody/helping somebody out, and I remember your cute hair/face/clothes from before, I'm the nerdy/jock/edgy/shy guy from before, remember?' Again, this give her two or more options, to reject you by saying 'Well, I'm sorry, I still don't know you. I'm kinda busy or something', or she might play along or actually think you're from her past encounters, and you follow up. This interaction you're leading, and you're in charge of the flow of the conversation, taking whatever conversation threads she's giving you, and anytime you want, you can still exit and ask for her number to keep in touch., or something like that.

@Striving for more Small talk about anything, like the weather or what's around you.

@Preety_India Try to contact that mod to seek clarification, and if that doesn't work, try and pm Leo, regarding say warnings. Getting a ban and resolving that might be more difficult, because it may take other users to raise this issue.

@Loving Radiance Actually that's good framing, like just say hi, small talk and exit. Make annoying people your mission by greeting and small talk at least, anything else is bonus. It's pretty automatic to me to say hi, small talk about my surroundings and weather, and exit. Key is doing this mindfully.

Like I've said, it's not enough to physically defend yourself, you'll have to be able to socially defend yourself as well, because most self-defense situations could be de-escalated within the social context. If there's preparation already in place within the education system that covers this, there's a higher chance of managing social situations better.

@Heart of Space Yes, this is what I want for societies going forward: general confidence, greater mindfulness, proper knowledge and procedure within the education system at varying degrees of complexity, and a decrease in social situations where people just freeze, or turn the cheek and ignore when some intervention, for example first aid or calling out would be enough to save a life. Also, thanks for bringing up the additional point that self-defense in the education system can make it easier for communities to self-police, and develop community policing, even increase the quality of available police officers for hire and for training as well. Despite my vision for the education system including self-defense, I do see how this vision can be distorted and corrupted for more than it's intended purpose. For example, a third world society and a dictator or elite might really like my proposal, and would happily implement it leaving out some crucial parts like mindfulness, in the aim of militarizing a country, similar the North Korea.

@Byun Sean This is what I'm trying to say to everyone: Don't make a decision having little to no experience first hand. How hard is it to get into easy mode Nofap? Or semen retention for the truth seekers out there? @Leo Gura needs to give it a try before demonizing this holy practice first.

@soos_mite_ah Yes, I meant explore your sexuality, more than just appearance. Same with different relationships and dating.

@How to be wise Obviously, of course.

@AlphaAbundance It's justified to view people like this who haven't gone through dating/sex/relationships, however we've got some people who gone years of hell with dating/sex/relationships, and on top of that their minds distort this. Do such people qualify for this belief system?

@PurpleTree It depends where you post. Mostly if you just post in your journal nobody would be too critical and bash, but posting on other sub-forums besides the journaling sub-forum, get ready to be bashed. Also, depends on how you write the topic, as a discussion or for a debate. Of course, if your making an assertion, be prepared to fight using points, reasons and gentle rebuttals. Everything here pales in comparison to being bashed face-to-face though.

@Striving for more Have you tried Nofap? It might give you extra motivation to at least greet, then question like how are you? and comment. Comments can vary, but the most effective is guessing comments/question, like 'I think you work at the hair dressers in town, and she may/may not correct, but if she does, and asks why, comment on what aspect of her appearance or behavior, be friendly about it. Or 'Do you work at the hair dressers?', or straight up say ' Are you single?' friendly tone and body language. Guessing statements/questions offer him/her the chance to correct you, harshly or lightly, and this give you the chance to follow up more, like with compliments or comments about the environment, chances to describe/tell a story. Don't forget to alternate between questions and statements.

@NoSelfSelf Confirmed this a week ago. My experiences would vary from person to person, but this did happen. Also, I've had discussions with dreams with her.

@No Self @No Self

@How to be wise It takes a certain degree of exploration to know what physical qualities are attracted to.

@Eren Eeager How's your progress so far? Any recovery?

@Heart of Space Another way of looking at efficient self defense being taught in the education system is that you have more capacity for mindfulness during stressful scenarios that can become combative or heated at best. Yes, there's a lot of conceptual frame works that need to be constructed, and best methods and practices for each person's level, but ultimately this is all leading up to having greater mindfulness ability in combative scenarios, like the one where that ex-soldier who worked hard to get himself into the army, trail and effort, failing most times, and while in his vacation tour around Europe with some buddies, he encountered and stopped a terrorist attempting to shoot up a train full of people. He was able to subdue him with some assistance. I want more people like that, trained in the education system, that is able to take necessary action when shit hits the fan out of left field, so to speak, and less people too crippled by fears and anxiety not to assist.

@Heart of Space There are safer ways of strengthening the neck, like isometrics, or band/towel assisted resistance training. It depends on the lead up to a combat situation involving weapons. For example, say you're commuting back home from work, via public bus. First, you need to detect and be aware of the situation in the bus. Any group or person exhibiting signs they are dangerous? If you had situational awareness, you'd avoid a majority of conflicts from avoiding people who're potentially dangerous. While in the bus, say a crazy homeless person, acting suspicious or grumpy, try to avoid direct eye contact, like instead look forwards, or out the window, or mess with your phone, anything to not give any excuse of said crazy person to invite you into their world. If they want and signal interest in you for whatever reason, give a 'Hay man.' or 'What's up?', in confident body language and tonality, just straight forward and factual, if they still inquire about you or why you're in the bus, simple and straight to the point ' I'm coming from work and heading home, and return to messing with your phone, while keeping them in your peripheral vision. When it comes to weapons, it depends on the situation there and the lead up to it as well, if you have a weapon yourself or not, and the other has a weapon. In most cases, maintain situational awareness to avoid accidentally created scenarios. Most cases are resolved before any need to use weapons when you're mindful of your surroundings, even socially defending yourself influences the other not to escalate the situation, weapons or not, as that looks really bad for the aggressor.

@North Sea Maybe it's because of too much sex karma that has to be burnt, and that's unique to each person pursuing spirituality, @Leo Gura is no exception to karma. You're fated to whatever amount of karma you have, and each person has different amounts, not exclusively to sexuality. Pornography keeps people's demons entertained enough not to have mass level sexual acts on the community level. I'm surprised he's not open minded enough to this, as he's done research on various spiritual methods, and some like tantric yoga and Daoism use some form of sexual transmutation. He's just being dumb for not shooting a video to clearly speak his position on this. What's the point of letting Nofap practioners here in this forum, to then troll around them and not make any videos on this movement, or any spiritual methods involving sex seriously? On the other hand, if porn is not regulated enough, we get distortions of sexuality, which some porn isn't helping, which I'm against because I've consumed porn and had enough of it. Glad I've seen beautiful people, but moving on. I don't even see a point in taking other people's opinions seriously anymore, they're all talking heads on screens, and the only thing important is if your decision is from having experience, which makes it solid. My decision to Nofap and semen retention come from too much body and mind suffering from pornography. User's experiences here can vary, yet always base it from experience. Real soon he must take this seriously

@Heart of Space Wrestling is one form of grappling arts that does vary from person to person, as you'd need to be a t a certain fitness level to train and execute some of the techniques. Main problem is the neck drills, as one wrong move nearly clicked my neck. BJJ is more people age friendly. Take downs are pretty useful in physical self-defense, but it's context sensitive as if done wrongly can hurt you more than the other person.

@Heart of Space I'm not just for physical self-defense for all people in education system to be taught, I'm more for other forms of self-defense being taught in the education system. Physical defense can only go so far, what if the other has a weapon? Makes it more dangerous to physically defend, you'd have to defend using multiple types of defenses.

@Moon This guy seems to have found a pretty good karate style for self-defense: To clarify for everyone, I'm not stopping at physical self-defense, I'm advocating for many forms of self-defense that are social, psychological, environmental, and much more. I don't know why people here think I'm mainly for physical defense, I'm for many forms of defense even non-physical ones.

@Striving for more It really depends on each person's sexuality, sexual health and relevant body/mind attachments. Since @Leo Gura admitted in his healing video he watches porn, I wouldn't be surprised if he's addicted to more porn in particular, so in this case another role modal is much better. You can practically masturbate to anything, as long as it isn't too much porn as that create dependency on porn being needed, so healthier ways of masturbating, and less frequent and around late afternoon is the ideal masturbation time. Or, you can try Nofap and saving yourself only for real women, and have more extra motivation to date and develop relationships if that's your main goal here. Or, you can try semen retention and gain significant benefits, including increase in energy, will power and elevated mood . In the semen retention state your mind and body gradually stabilize, and is useful if spirituality is your thing.

@Yoshy I can only assume your post is truthful, because it's much easier to lie than be honest. Having been practicing and experienced being social and dating, it's great because it develops assertiveness, authenticity, empathy, open-mindedness and communication abilities. Part of dating and being social is that parts of you personality is reflected in the person in the interaction. If you have other priorities, then it's fine to pursue them, but don't neglect dating or being social for too long. Currently on Nofap, so I'm not into dating at the moment.

@mmKay I've also had that issue where I get too exited in the mornings and masturbate in the mornings, so yes definitely at night if possible.