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@Lyubov It's advice, like all advice, is relative to who's listening to the advice, and who's giving it. For example, semen retention and Nofap may not work if your body is biologically female, and if your male body has lower levels of testosterone normally, or if you've suffered a severe accident or it's natural for your sex gonads to be a particular way that further sexual abstinence does not work. Similarly, the practices might work if you have compulsive addictive behaviors like over watching porn, over stimulate your penis that erectile function is reduced, or you have very high sex rate.

@Username Of course, this practice effects men more than women.

@Hotaka Thanks for the translation. This is an interesting quote, as it tells me that the teachings and past spiritual teachers, while they are dead, their essence is still with those that are seeking too, although most cases the majority have ideas and images of spiritual teachers. Update: We've went shopping today, and I went to a donut stand. As I was looking through which donuts to choose, she voiced to me that she wanted the one with the green icing and soccer decorations and chocolate filling. We'll be having that as dessert for tonight, and I'll see what she thinks about it. I've also eaten some fried noodles, 20 pieces of chopped onions, a spring roll and 5 dried tofu. She thinks the takeaway onions are a bit under done. Also, noticed that she can visualize a bigger object and had success with a green carpet's textures, it was quite fluffy in her room.

@Sempiternity It does create more interesting possibilities for growth, because as you read through some threads about this topic, parts of your psyche will be revealed to you, not entirely, but enough to identify where to grow from, the triggering parts of you. This thread does remind me of another thread about threads being locked.

@Preety_India He's giving a rough estimate of trolls being banned per week. If we had concrete, scientific ways of detecting trolls, and very specific ways of dealing with trolls, we wouldn't be having this issue in the first place. The growth curb for Actualized.org evolution towards stage green is still gonna be slow and steady. Out of curiosity, what inspired you to start this thread?

This is one example of the kind of teacher in mind for teaching various self defense styles in the education system, for all teachers to see:

@Blackhawk I still think that self-dense should be integrated into the education system. Firstly, while there are many cultural differences between the USA and other foreign country level cultures, that doesn't mean that the USA does not have cultural differences within it's own nation. The USA is comprised of 51 different states, that's at least 51 mainstream society level cultures. Take anyone state, and can keep dividing the culture to smaller cultures. We also have bigger divisions like northern states and southern states, and we can keep going bigger that we include Canada as part of North American culture. We can zoom in more smaller and include how each familial structure's styles of upbringing can alter how children /teens view self-defense, and each one may have different ways in interpreting self-defense, and some interpretations of self-defense are more detrimental than others. How can we know which self-defense methods and methodologies are correct? One way to verify the effectiveness's of different self-defense systems and martial arts systems is by including them within academia and having intellectual frameworks and multiple tests to see, and teach, other ways of defending yourself. Secondly, I'm nuts, nuts from some of my inability to defend myself, physically, socially, psychologically and emotionally from different types of conflicts, from bullying, to theft, to emotional abuse and attempted murder on my life, which I'm very lucky to survive from. My own life experiences, and seeing how other people mishandle self-defense situations, and how other people act cowardly, makes me believe that if the population is not educated well in matters of self-defense, then we'll keep on hurting each other unintentionally, physically and psychologically, which is why I believe that self-defense should be taught and integrated into the education system. Thirdly, it is necessary to some degree that self-defense should be integrated into the education system. The reason being that the repetition of learning the theories of self-defense, both physical, psychological and social self-defense trains people's subconscious minds in preparation for physical, psychological, emotional and social conflicts in advance, therefore allowing most people to enter into flow and resolving such situations in approximately the direct proportion to the conflict. For example, in a social type of self-defense, the person educated in his/her past about social self-defense will respond with social self-defense, instead of escalating the situation into a physical conflict and causing unnecessary harm. Another example, if a situation does escalate and turn violent, the person educated in self-defense will not freeze up, or flee, or fight over aggressively, instead responds appropriately. If people are not well educated in a particular field, how well would that person perform if such situations were not covered and prepared in that person's subconscious mind? Fourthly, where does corruption and escalation of violence in general come from? To me, they come from ignorance, ignorance of martial arts and self-defense, ignorance of distorted knowledge not properly taught in the mainstream about self-defense and martial arts. When a society is able to build infrastructure that facilitates martial arts and self-defense being taught in the education system, we can decrease the ignorance and distorted view we obtain from mainstream society by the following ways; teachers learn self-defense and martial arts, which allows them to later develop intellectual frameworks that can be taught as second hand knowledge to students. Then various reviews and evaluations can develop to determine, with progressing accuracy, different types and levels of self-defense and martial arts. Later, this all would influence each citizen's capability in assisting a person in need in various self-defense scenarios, which overall has a net-positive in reducing the ignorance of each community, on the social, collective level. specifically in education. I'm not interested in your individual ignorance of martial arts and self-defense, I'm more interested in impacting the world by proposing that each society can have positive contributions to their citizens by installing self-defense and martial arts as teaching programs to, once again, help the masses subconscious minds prepare for self-defense scenarios, to me has more potential. Fifthly, the hammer example only makes sense when the person has little to no foundational framework to apply the learned self-defense and martial arts technique to. When we don't have infrastructures built to teach self-defense in schools, we have more potential for con-artists that make outlandish claims, wave around fake certificates, and install cult-like behavior on their students, which then makes the students brain washed into inaccurate applications of martial arts techniques and distorted versions of self-defense that each person now keeps preaching the physical forms of it, and falsely believe that their own versions of martial arts and self-defense is the best, which makes future students and teachers ripe for beat downs like, for example MMA fighters beating up Tai chi masters. Why do we have MMA fighters beating up tai chi students and masters? Because said tai chi students and masters are not educated in their ,education system, proper martial arts/self-defense theories and applications, and different types and degrees of self defense. If these tai chi students and masters were properly taught the correct theories, then there wouldn't be events like these beat downs. Likewise, why do MMA fighters have the mentality to beat down tai chi practitioners, a fellow human being? Because fighters lack the proper theories and applications of the morals behind martial arts and self-defense, and are limited to whatever indoctrination they went throw on each martial arts school, and each MMA business bases they participate in, that influences their attitude of other traditional martial artists and fighters as just moving punching bags, little to no regard for other people. If MMA fighters are so educated in martial arts/self-defense theories and applications, then why do these fighters choose to ground and pound tai chi practitioners instead of submit them, via neck chokes, or limb submissions, or treat them with respect and humility? Sixthly, with your mindset, that my country would laugh at the idea of having self-defense integrated into the education system, is one reason why many people today, in various other countries, for example mainland China, have this myopic view of avoiding other people's plights, when such intervention could help or save a life. This mindset prolongs cases like below: Finally, I don't like it when more people don't know how to handle self-defense, martial arts, and just ignore other people's troubles when intervention could help save a life. This lack of intervention comes from the general ignorance of not knowing how to handle these types of situations, and I belief that if education systems around the world start teaching younger generations proper self-defense/martial arts theories and applications, then this would greatly reduce the myopic attitudes towards not helping other people because you simply don't know how to. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this issue.

@levani Because those places have higher risks of spreading the virus more, and some areas have lower risks of spreading the virus. Basically, you just answered yourself. Politicians are not just politicians, they are human too and have to work with whatever available information they have at the time, and sometimes they make mistakes because almost all the information is partial, and incomplete.

A great video on how culture effects martial arts, and why sometimes it's not enough to defend yourself physically. Also another reason why the education system should teach self-defense and martial arts:

Take videos of yourself, and marvel at your existential cringe-ness . Or watch cringe compilations until you desensitize to it.

@Chives99 This had almost the opposite with me, my mind goes more crazy in meditation, and much more of a struggle to keep focused.

@Javfly33 I'd try to be mindful of what I'm feeling, and let it go.

@iceprincess Have you tried it out before?

@PurpleTree I've watched that episode, and one of my porn binges in the past started after watching this. Nearly put myself in the hospital.

@AlphaAbundance This is interesting to explore here, because this is a fatal mistake that could undermine almost all progress, especially faced with many different types of rejections that it almost feels like a dark ight of the souls moment that the person could've pushed further, but instead thought it was really the end and just like that gave up and moved on to something else entirely.

@No Self I agree that more information about context is needed before making demeaning comments, ideally shouldn't be given. I tend to think that people who are/identify as asexual have slight advantage with dating.

@Keyhole I definitely think studying body language is needed in social settings because it can make conversations more efficient. However, if someone has low or lower levels of social intelligence, they'll end up having to self experiment and trial and error their way into social fluency. In these cases I'd say if you take into account all other signs, and decide to say hi to a phone user, then it's okay to interrupt, as long as your own body language, facial gestures and tone is not aggressive and more assertive/passive. I also tend to wear headphones, but no music, as my visualization is strong enough I play my own music in my head, so if I'm interrupted, I know it waaay before the other does.

@Hardkill There are a few things I disagree with Jocko here, and that's claiming that owning a gun is the ultimate form of martial arts. Yeah, owning a gun is considered the ultimate form of martial arts in the USA and nowhere else. It's such a ridiculous claim because some people don't own a gun, some countries have tighter gun regulations or owning fire arms is illegal, and only a small percentage like ex soldiers and police officers are allowed to own guns, some criminals somehow have guns, but most of the population in some countries have little access to guns. I'm feeling uncomfortable pointing this out because he's ex navy seals, he should be aware how simple his generalization is when he made such a claim. Same thing with Joe Rogan, and his gripe with different martial arts, and having some bias for MMA. I'm not too harsh on Joe as he's a bit more open minded than Jocko, but when it comes to addressing where MMA is weak and traditional martial arts is strong, he tends to not want to go deeper with deconstructing MMA's weaknesses and distracts by pointing out traditional martial art weaknesses.

@Hotaka What does that Latin phrase mean?

@Gesundheit We do need some examples of trolling behavior. In the past I was joking to some other users, but didn't even know that I was trolling and my sense of humor was different to normal people and got some warning points.

@Striving for more Go do just that, be boring and say whatever to the woman, like 'Hey, you've got a cute face/hair/clothes or whatever, and I find it refreshing. Came from a party/birthday party/ whatever place?' Nice approach is to come up to her and ask 'Hi, there, do I know you from somewhere?'. She might say 'No, sorry, do I know you?'. This helps you in some ways, gives you a chance to exit the small talk later, or deepen it if she chooses, and gives her the chance to reject or accept your approach because it's so innocent. Follow up like ' Well, I've seen you before at my work place/party/holiday at some country, and I saw you doing/talking to somebody/helping somebody out, and I remember your cute hair/face/clothes from before, I'm the nerdy/jock/edgy/shy guy from before, remember?' Again, this give her two or more options, to reject you by saying 'Well, I'm sorry, I still don't know you. I'm kinda busy or something', or she might play along or actually think you're from her past encounters, and you follow up. This interaction you're leading, and you're in charge of the flow of the conversation, taking whatever conversation threads she's giving you, and anytime you want, you can still exit and ask for her number to keep in touch., or something like that.

@Striving for more Small talk about anything, like the weather or what's around you.

@Preety_India Try to contact that mod to seek clarification, and if that doesn't work, try and pm Leo, regarding say warnings. Getting a ban and resolving that might be more difficult, because it may take other users to raise this issue.

@Loving Radiance Actually that's good framing, like just say hi, small talk and exit. Make annoying people your mission by greeting and small talk at least, anything else is bonus. It's pretty automatic to me to say hi, small talk about my surroundings and weather, and exit. Key is doing this mindfully.

Like I've said, it's not enough to physically defend yourself, you'll have to be able to socially defend yourself as well, because most self-defense situations could be de-escalated within the social context. If there's preparation already in place within the education system that covers this, there's a higher chance of managing social situations better.