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@Tim R They can offer some value in sharing their perspective on what they have experienced. That can be useful learning past mistakes and insights can occur in you when you are talking and receiving their wisdom. It's also amazing that some people could live past 100.

While anger is an emotion, and has a place in being expressed in certain contexts, it's important to let go of it as soon as possible. Anger does have adverse effects on your body when there's too much, from increased temperature, to liver damage, to seeing spots.

@Heart of Space Yes, this can be true. Enlightenment doesn't save you from cancer, or genetics, or brain chemistry such that you are born a sociopath or psychopath, so why should anyone hold high regards for the saving power of enlightenment? While it is a case that enlightenment does reduce follow up suffering, the pain is still there. How did you manage to get you coworker fired?

@WaveInTheOcean They do apply to some men that are more developed in their psyche, and not as horny as younger men. Main issue issue with this advice is it can give a pass on when you do have to work harder on attracting and building rapport with women when the context is necessary for pursuing, because if this advice is true, surely I could get away with less work and effort right? Not quite true, unless you are socially grounded and have higher natural attraction, such a guy could pull off this advice. However, when your looks are closer to average, and you don't have above average social skills, and you don't quite have a positive psychology and attitude, all you have is the following to make it more likely you land a date, and maybe a fling: sex drive, ambition, faith in yourself in making this happen no matter what, visioning, dreaming big and taking massive action. To understand the potential abuse of this advice, let's change context and talk instead about life purpose. Using this advice means I'm telling you not to pursue, think too hard and focus too hard on your life purpose, and not to take that much action on it everyday, which is the opposite of finding out what you want from life, and making it, which does take lots of work. Sounds pretty strange advice, no, that I'm telling you to give up on the point of failure, when just going over that limit a little gives success? It's like abandoning a work project, like say a book, and a month away from publishing the novel, or the manga series, you quit because there's some doubt over the success of the project, and hope the opportunity just comes to you when instead you could've given an extra effort and gone forward with that decision. Until she gives a clear no, don't give up the chase.

@Jordan Welsh This is really good if you want to go meta on a situation where you are already debating, regardless if you win or loss a debate on a meta level. Although I don't see how going meta could improve my ability to get an edge while debating?

@ilja A simple solution would be to become better at clarifying what you want, what the other wants in the exchange, and probing, and being aware of social context. If it's decided beforehand that the discussion is a debate, prepare beforehand, in a debate context. If the social context is different, like in a party, and somewhere in a conversation it's getting heated, or getting into an informal debate, you can always exit out, or go along depending on your skills of rhetoric and mindfulness.

@Jordan Welsh Yikes! You're right, despite how short the debate was, it definitely got into personal attacks on character and interrupting each other. I don't like how the debaters are sitting at arms length from each other, it felt like it could've gone into a physical fight at any moment. Rhetorically, the vegan guy was doing better than the woman. I felt I needed to help her out with dealing with his attacks. For example, he attacked her use of analogy of her personal experience with being a vegan and experiencing negatives as invalid proof to discounting Veganism, in her place I would've countered exactly the same, bringing up his personal experience and benefits, such as his weight loss from such a diet as just his story, having no validity, and bring up malnourished raw vegans as one example of going too far. Throwing in other fallacies as well. I felt like the woman was slightly better at trying to maintain neutrality in this debate and didn't come off as defensive and aggressive as the guy.

@m0hsen I'm not familiar with that work, but I'll check it out later and report what effects it had on me. My way of entering psychedelic states while astral projecting is an amalgamation of different esoteric practices involving different vibrations, from light to heavy, and some alien vibrations as well. This came about from me doing different practices, and customizing them to my particular energies, like cleansing and blessing an area, or envoking and channeling other entities. While there was some element of natural ability, for example the haunting I had decades ago, and some other paranormal events, I still had to put some work in exploring and self experimenting. There's never mostly a one size fits all, that's rare, which is why exploring is needed.

@Swarnim This is also possible, as I've reached psychedelic like states through astral projection many times, that is similar to small doses. I've also experienced dmt like fields comparable to being on a medium dose in deep sleep, so to me Bashar's claim might not be so far fetched. Probably for the normies it's far fetched, but similarly to Bashar, I'm not normal and can access other states of consciousness difficult to access normally. I think the main issue is that it's normalized in him, such that he implicitly assumes some of the people might achieve what he achieved similarly, which is more time than not not the case. Also, even though I'm a freak in nature to this, this still took some working in to access those states, and some assistance from a few entities outside my space to pull me there.

The practice does have spiritual benefits, and much more. Will power and discipline goes through the roof. Shame Leo's gonna miss out on this.

@Davo124 Figure of speech. Don't get too hung up in literal meaning.

I'd consider Bruce Lee as a good example for a stage yellow fighter/fitness/martial artist to develop into. During his time, the majority of martial artists were too stage blue, too conformist in tradition, and didn't like incorporating western fitness into their practices. It took some interest with philosophy, tons of reading, and a love for fighting and martial arts, and a bit of ambition and open mindedness, that he created his JKD system, which other organizations modelled off a bit to create MMA. As long as stage red exists as a developmental path for society to evolve through, for people to evolve through, and as long as there are lower stages of ego development, MMA isn't going extinct any time soon. It might evolve into alternative forms of entertainment and skill excellence.

@Lyubov

While back, I was in a library in college, reading a book at one of the tables, minding my own life. Three women came and sat on the table I'm at. One of them asked what book I was reading. I said poetry, without looking. The other asked if I could watch her bag. I said no thanks, while the third girl apologises for her friends talking. I realized something was wrong, and felt defensive. A teacher came by to silence noise coming from the other tables. I took this chance to place that book in the middle of the table to them, and left. Were they testing me, or what? I was minding my own business.

@Dodo About telepathic communication, I've heard they could occur anytime, even while Dreaming. I've heard it's best to use the largest sum of experiences from your upbringing and cultural spiritual practices, and bless the area or yourself, then you could sleep more at ease. What I meant with the largest sum of experiences, I mean that if your upbringing ie religious, like with Christianity, you use that to bless the area, because it's your bias. If you've brougbt up as a native American, your ego likely has thoee symbols of spirituality in that culture, so use them to bless yourself before sleeping, because that bias has many attachments in meaning that makes it easier to work with. Works similarly with channelling entities apparently. My french is rusty, and Crysty is telling me the literal translation of the phrase is 'I am leaving'. Am I correct?

@Roy Ok good to know I'm heading in the right direction. I have to thank myself for keeping up mindfulness practices in the past.

@universe Thank you for your advice. I think when the teacher arrived to silence the other groups, and the girls stopped, I now remember I felt other emotions, like relief that they shut up, but also vengeful for them making me feel insecure, fear and vulnerable, similarly to what happened in my childhood, at least what I could consciously remember. I also remembered whispering loudly to them, while I was leaving, to put back the book when they're done studying, while the teqcher was nearby. I think I was passive aggressive on my exit. I later on felt some apathy like loneliness, depression, or some form of defeat from not standing up more, although at that time I just didn't know how to stand for myself, and emotionally shut down afterwards. Is this my coping mechanism for situations like this?

@Emerald The two girls were pushy when they talked to me, and the third wasn't, and apologized to me for her friends behaviour. I also remember using the book I had, and my bag to the right of me as some sort of barrier against them. I definitely was caught off guard, and felt nervous, fear, and annoyance, so my replies and tone were defensive. Now that I think more about it, it's likely the two wanted to mess around with me, which also triggered something in me about my childhood.

@Roy Just now, I realized that I was also feeling fear mixed in with anger and annoyance while they were at the table. I didn't realize afterwards, but while I'm here I just realized fear was there as well. The apathy feelings I felt after might have helped me forget other negative emotions as well. I might consider getting hypnotherapy done as well, to bypass the depressions episodes.

@integral Because While I'm doing stuff, I don't want to be interrupted. I also don't like being teased. The combination of teasing and interruption makes me feel annoyed, and the longer those people do me, the more annoyed I get, and I might start feeling anger and worry that the situation could get worse. After all that, leaving the situation behind me, I suddenly feel depressed or some form of apathy, maybe to shovel off excess energy from that situation. Like you've said when you edited you're post just now it could be related to the far past of my childhood. I'll have to dig around and take a psychoanalysis person for this. It's honestly not a pleasant thing to go through, like I didn't do shit to invite this to me!

@integral Good for them! Except I wasn't giving any signals to invite strangers for a chit chat, nor invite teasing from strangers. I don't sit down on a table, see a stranger absorbed by his work, study, or book, and go interrupt for casual talk, or tease or whatever. Maybe the better question is how do I full proof myself to stop people from doing this to me?

@Chew211 WTF is this? Is my suffering some kind of joke? I did not ask for this situation to happen. I was reading, minding my business. Because of that, I felt less secure using the library to study notes or read books. Just thinking about it makes me feel a bit depressed. If anything, I have the exact opposite of that post.

@Bando You gave me an idea. Next time, although it's now less likely I'll ever want to be that social because of the annoyance, but next time, I have to tell myself I'll have to nail a woman who's clearly teasing me. Otherwise, I just shut down inside, and later, just leave if I can. I wasn't looking for this.