LeoX8

Hi everybody, As you read up I can't get my meat hard when is time to have sex. Particularly when I have to insert it in the vagina the system shuts down and my penis starts to melt down. For blowjobs or handjobs I have absolutely no problem at all. Hard as a rock. I also have some problems in make her orgasm, I don't know if it is the fingering technique I am using but if I keep going for some time she reaches a "barrier", as she says, and she wants me to stop. I feel sexually miserable and I really want to give to my girlfriend the very best possible, so if you have some advices, books suggestion, videos, ecc... I would be very happy to hear you. Thanks in advance

@Leo Gura I will try my best Leo, thanks again ♥️

@Consilience @Consilience @universe Thanks guys I already cut masturbating at all I use condoms only for sex, and also as I put them on I feel a certain kind of pressure in myself and again, it goes soft @Leo Gura I don't worry much about premature ejaculation, is more the fact that I would not stand up to certain standards in my head. Sometimes even the fear of not getting it hard blocks it and keeps it soft. But I'm surely working on feeling more in my body and be aware of my body (also for enjoying more the moment). Thanks for all Leo, really you are amazing @LfcCharlie4 Thanks for the advice, I will search that? Thanks to all again ♥️

@Michael569 Thanks for all the suggestions, I haven't watched porn for a very long time now and I'm meditating as well. I'm looking forward to the foreplay and relax each other because it sounds so interesting. I think my "problem" comes from a place of fear and by being too much in my mind as I go through all the process. I will certainly work on it Thanks again for all <3

@Stratos What is REALLY keeping you from letting that go? Think deeply about that and don't take that from granted. I really think that this can help you

@milii I understand you fully. It's so fucking hard, everything doesn't make any sense. But ask you this question and think deeply about the answer: "What is preventing me from creating that kind of happiness, passion and fun in my life?"

@beatlemantis I understand you but by asking yourself if you can do it or not you won't go anywere. The question you should ask yourself is: "Do I want to be better? Do I want to be happy?" I hope that this can help you in some way

@Strangeloop If you actually become a hobo, or at least you get near to become one, How would life feel?

@DMM710 Cold showers and smiling to strangers

I've been dating this girl recently and to be totally honest, I feel good with her. The problem is that I don't feel anything else... She's kind of cute but I'm not attracted to her, I don't even have the stimulus to kiss her. I do not want to continue a thing that would not lean to somewhere, but I don't know if I should continue the friendship with her (friendzone her) or to continue dating her or close all of that and forget her. Any advice? I did not have so much relationships so maybe some of you that are/were in the same situation are free to share their experience or advice Thanks in advance

@Leo Gura I guess that I don't have any excuses left... You have been pretty complete and exhaustive, thanks Leo!!

The main doubt/excuse is this: I have a fear that if I'm going to approach a girl on the bus, on the way to school or even in school or in my town, people will start say that I'm a weirdo that talks to strangers and the consequenses that this might have scares me. So, are there other places where I can go to meet new people or I should brake through my fears?

@PenguinPablo Discuss with that thought and ask yourself? "Do I really need attention/love of others to feel love? What is it that really makes me feel this way? Can i get love without relaying on others? Do I really need love from others? " Argue with yourself and start to answer those questions. When you think the answer is right, you can act based on that to find solutions

@Ryan_047 I feel your anger. It is just so non-sense: What's the point of studying if in the end i will die? Why I can't just be happy? What's the point of living anyway? Those are some questions that i used to ask myself every single day. I've arrived to a point where I just wanted to end it once and for all: I was desperate and I just wanted to end the pain and the mess in my head. Eventually, I didn't. Why? One day I was on one of my lowest points and everything didn't make sense for me, I was so desperate. I started crying out laud and shouting "WHY THE FUCK AM I THIS WAY?! I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY!" It took me a while but i finally realized that: even if it didn't make sense, even if I considered impossible, I just wanted to be happy. As soon as I surrendered to that, things started to change. This is my experience. Now it's up to you to choose: even if it's pointless, even if it's impossible, do you want to be happy? I can tell you that after that decision I worked my ass off to become a happier person, and surely it was so much difficult at first, but i guarantee you, it is totally worth it. No day has passed since I regretted that choice. It's up to you now. I trust you <3

@EvilAngel How much important is the opinion of others for you? Realize this and also the others things you feel important. Then you can decide what to "listen" to and accept the costs of doing that

@JustThinkingAloud I often have moments where I feel genuine happyness, but they don't last long (like more than 1/2 hours at the very best) Any advice?

@studentofthegame I will give you a simple (but not so easy) tecnique: imagine that one of your of parents (or even both) dies (one of your biggest fears), what will you do? Will you accept the situation and move on or you will die out of sadness? I know that this may sound provocating and I'm sorry for that, but I think that this piece of advice will help you a lot. Realize that if you want to create the extraordinary life that you want, you have to accept ( actually surrender) the fact, still hypothetical, that one of your parents has died, and if you don't accept that you won't move any further. When you understand that you can move forward, even if that happens, and you accept totally that fear in your mind, you have succesfully set free from your fear (it won't acually leave you, but you will live upon the fear) If you can do this, you will grow A LOT. I hope that this will help you, I trust you <3

I would rank my mood with a solid 7/10

@ZenAlex You are doing a great job, just continue what you are already doing. Keep questioning these episodes until you get an answer and belive in yourself and in the question itself. I know it is difficult but trust me: the satisfaction and sense of relief that you will get when you find the answer are so HIGH, that it will be TOTALLY WORTH IT!! If you just want to have positive thoughts realize that those are habits that your mind have developed, and you can change them by pushing yourself into reframing what you are thinking in a positive situation. I know that this sounds hard, but if you put in enough effort things will start to change. You can do this, I trust you <3

@RawJudah Yeah, I can understand, thanks for the advice!!

@Peo Actually I had my first success at a Night Club, but i didnt likes the way things turned out. Thanks a lot for the advice!

@Red-White-Light I would take this period of time as an opportunity for doing some inner work. Ask yourself seriously: what do I really want? It's natural to be confused after a l'ing period of hard work, but now is the best time for you to think about those things. I hope you really take this seriously. I trust you <3

@saffron I agree with what@ajasatya said. Sorry for have not mention it: it is not easy. You need a lot of courage for doing that. I personally did that at one of my lowest points in my life. It was hard to accept all of that but it ended up being so rewarding. I agree and I also think that you are seeing all of your problems at once, it is obvious that they seem too big and complex together. Try to focus on one thing at time, it will help you. Life isn't meaningless even meaninglessness is in itself a meaning, figure out what makes sense for you. If you want to go out of this situation you can't give up. Trust me and the people on this forum, we want for you only the best. But again, the decision Is yours. Think deeply about that.

@Proactive Just continue and see how much value you can get, then you can decide who to listen to. Here is some motivation and precise explanation of the entire process if you want

@saffron I've been there. Everything it's so overwhelming that nothing makes sense, but you have to choose: do you want to continue feeling this pain, inadeguacy and emptiness, or you want to be happy? Dont take this as graunted, really ask yourself and decide. It's easy to miss this point but realize that if you don't know where you want to go you will stay where you are. Take some minutes and relax: forget about possible or not, being enough or not even if it does make sense or not and ask yourself: "Do I want to be happy?" I were in a point where all of i can thought about was killing myself and who knows what would have happened if i didnt make the vow to stop feeling that pain again, to make myself happy no matter what. It was a long journey and those feelings returned frequently, only when i accepted the reasons why i felt that way my life started changing for the better, but nothing would have happened if i didnt make that decision. Once you decide to be happy you can start accept your problems and find solutions for them. Now it's up to you what to choose, I will trust your decision <3