Sunny J Gupta

@Yannik Hey man, sorry for the late reply. My best guess is that if it is not working for you, you might have too much monkey mind going on right now, and could benefit from some hatha yoga, for me Isha hatha yoga does wonders (paid programs) But while reading the Sedona method, I have invested roughly 22-26 hours so far, and I have only gotten through 1/4th of the book. This book in particular is not meant to be breezed through. You will really reap the rewards by reading, stopping at any exercise, doing the exercise, then return to the reading. Also I have a 24/7 Sedona method habit which really does the real job. I do it in the shower, while driving, while walking, while talking, before and after sleeping. Just do it as much as you can, as consciously, passionately, and enjoyably. And if you are stuck, just keep reading the book and doing the practices, you will get better and better at this over time. It takes some time to get distance from your ego-mind structure, but I can assure you this really works, and it is super powerful.

The Goal Of This Mega-Thread: Understand what your emotions are, in your direct experience. Just observing and learning about your emotions, what they are, how they work, etc. will do so much for releasing them and not letting them take control over your life. Take back control over your life. When you are so tangled up in your negative emotions, it can be hard to even get out of bed, take positive actions for your life, and have hope for life. Develop a passion for, and more and more recognizing how big and important this topic is for your life Keep it simple. Just share your best tips for understanding and releasing your emotions. I know people are suffering from attachment to their emotions, and getting into personal debates with other members in this forum is not going to help you or them gain valuable insights to solve their emotional problems. A beautiful vision: I can picture it now. Imagine how nice it would be if you and others can go on a journey to take back control over your life. Take someone who is negative about life, hopeless, have much victim mentality, doesn't take much action in their life, has many emotional problems, and move them up to a life where they have hope, can start to see the beauty in life, have many moments of joy and peace and courage, and that fuels them to pursue higher ideals of a great life. A good method for going on this journey of dealing with your emotions Study many high quality sources for handling negative emotions Explore many tools experientially to understand and release your emotions. Find 1 good tool that you can use consistently, whether that is daily, weekly, or even on a moment-to-moment basis for consistently better understanding and releasing your negative emotions. Warning: I am not perfect. I have just gotten many recent insights. No one is perfect. I am not a professional nor certified. I am not an expert by any means. Many who will comment are not experts or perfect or certified either. Why am I doing this: I have been doing meditation now for 3 years, but only in the last 12 months or so I have been cultivating a passion for understanding and releasing emotions. I would argue that aside from dealing with serious money and physical health issues, this is the next best aspect of your life to handle. Who the fuck am I? I am not much different than you. I am not trying to be superior than anyone. I am just a regular guy who has gotten real, life changing results and insights on understanding and releasing his emotions from reading many books on emotions, doing many practices for emotions, but MOST IMPORTANTLY, developing a relatively hardcore 24/7 practice to observe, release, accept, and let go of emotions over the past 2 months. Other thoughts: I don't know if I am allowed to create a mega-thread, I can just see the massive potential from this. I will be putting my insights here over time. I want a place to share my insights, and I feel like this would be a great place. I encourage you guys to do the same. Whenever you get some valuable insights please share it with us

Common mechanisms the ego-mind uses to feed negative emotions: 1. A need to control. Let go of the need for control. 2. A need for a certain outcome. Let go of the certain outcome you are attaining. 3. Resistance to what is. Allow this resistance. If you can't allow the resistance, allow that feeling of not being able to allow that resistance. Go meta, essentially. 4. A need for certainty. The ego-mind loves certainty. Let go of the need for certainty in various situations where you need to be certain. 5. Let go of trying to let go.

My best tool so far for dealing with negative emotions: The Sedona Method What is the process simplified? Simply ask these questions to yourself in this specific order. In this moment right now: What is your NOW feeling? (Identify the specific emotion you are feeling, and spend a few moments observing that feeling. Ex. Fear that my parent's won't like me if I become a musician. Identify this as just fear. That this fear is NOT you. Get some space from this emotion by seeing it as an emotion, and you are the observer of this emotion) Could you welcome/allow that feeling? (Answer yes or no. Don't overthink it. And if you can say yes, then spend a few moments actually allowing the emotion. If you said no, move on to the next question) Could you let it go? (yes or no? if yes, then let it go. Simple. If no, move to the next question) Would you let it go? (Yes or no) When? Additional tips, notes, etc. These 5 questions are for a specific emotion. This process is good because it doesn't forcefully make you go through a process where you are really uncomfortable. It feels like a very natural, yet powerful way of releasing. Maybe 3-4 times a day, take out 10 to 30 minutes and just repeat that process over and over again on any emotion you are experiencing. Don't compulsively or emotionally ask these questions. And after asking these questions, spend a few moments to a few minutes to get EXPERIENCE of where the question is leading you experientially. For ex. "Could you welcome/allow that feeling?" when you ask this question, say yes or no, and then experientially allow that feeling. It should feel like an experience and not a thinking process after asking the question. Often answering no releases the emotion. Any point when doing this questions the emotions will be released. This is simple, yet powerful. You're not getting even the full experience by just doing 1 cycle of these questions a few times a day. It should be cycle after cycle for 10 to 30 minutes straight every day. You are trying to understand your emotions, start to see how they work, etc. So you need to have consistency and be attentive for a certain duration for this to really work. You will get better over time at releasing. You will also release emotions from the bag of emotions you suppressed over the decades.

90 minutes highest. I have since stopped meditation and replaced it for yoga though lol

@dinone Have you heard of Medical Medium/Anthony Williams? He's become sensational lol even Leo is using his health strategies at this time (can't say where I heard this lol) But he has 2 main recommendations 1) Celery juice 2) Heavy metal detox smoothie

@kieranperez Bro I got the perfect thing for you to try. I did this for about 8 months straight, and found just 5 to 10 mins of this hatha yoga was better than an hour of meditation lmao It's Sadhguru's Upa yoga. Go to youtube and type in "Sadhguru yoga for love", "Sadhguru yoga for peace", and "Sadhguru yoga for joy". He has about 6 Upa yoga practices, but those 3 I found to be the most efficient and most effective. Keep in mind, with hatha yoga, you have to pay attention to the little details to get the maximum effect. So when you watch those videos, follow every little detail. The whole thing takes about 10 minutes total, so it should fit your long schedule. Good luck! hope it works

@Jordan94 I would look at the ingredients on the back, but nothing beats 16 oz of fresh celery juice

@Psyche_92 Creating a morning routine with the purpose of feeling fresh and awake is literally the best goal. What I did was experiment a lot until I found a morning routine that actually accomplishes that goal. You'll hear about what is necessary for a good routine a lot, literally everywhere. But you have to see for yourself right? So test it out and see what works for you. Test, test, test.

@123456789 I literally started this today haha I found some great apps on the app store, with tons of highly positive testimonials. The good thing about these apps, is you can enter in your personal details like your weight, goals, experience, etc. and get a personalized routine plan.

@noip After doing a lot of emotional mastery work from Leo's books for a while, I can see that these are just internal emotional issues you are facing. My suggestion is this: 1) Face it head on. That can sound a bit confusing but I mean just sit with the feeling, recognize that YOU are not the feeling, and practice allowing the feeling to be with you or letting the feelings go. It can help to sit with a journal and write your thoughts down, and realize that these are just feelings, and they are not you. 2) Sounds like you care too much about what people think. Start socializing, talking to more people, and making more/better friends.

@Aldo You're on point. I can attest from experience in both America and India. Do definitely calibrate well, and go out with some wings from the local area.

@KP_Spirituality27 Try fapping an hour before sex. Works great for me

@Manjushri I think it's fine that you miss her and feel lonely without her. Most relationships are like that. As long as the degree of loneliness is low, otherwise it will turn into an overly needy (unhealthy) relationship.

@JustThinkingAloud Not just that, but think of all the cost savings -> more free time for more important shit !!

@Giulio Bevilacqua I don't think it is "necessary" to do one thing, but yes doing One thing would be more productive, focused, and you can achieve mastery much more efficiently and effectively. But if you are not sure about what you want to do, you can dabble in all 3, get a feel for what you really like to do through direct experience, and when you are certain, pursue that. But there isn't a need to worry, because your life purpose will evolve as you walk down the path.

Considering you want to live as a hermit, and live with your mom, sounds like these are vague desires You could: 1) Create a timeline for these goals, like it's explained in Leo's Chapters and phases video 2) Get more specific about what you want, and the steps that it will take to get there. I guess you can sort of say that is in line with Buddhist teachings though

5% Blue, 45% Orange, 35% green, 15% yellow

@Fanis Keep trying Fanis! Eating healthy is fucking hard, you're not alone in this. I mean just imagine how addicted we all are. I think I heard sugar is stronger than a cocaine addiction often times. So go a little easier on yourself It's ok. It really is. Just get back on your feet and try again, but maybe try a different strategy this time. Personally, I have 5 habits around eating healthy that have been working: 1) I tell myself I can have a small unhealthy snack at the end of the day, and the other 4 habits are 4 of the 5 healthy meals I know how to make haha. I added these habits one at a time, every 30 days. It is all about the incremental changes with something like diet. When I went all in and went from a completely shit diet to a healthy one, I would be fine for months, then fall back into my own ways. But this new strategy has worked for a while now. Maybe start small this time too

@Manjushri Wow that is rough. At this point you are probably feeling overwhelmed, but definitely make a studying plan and break it down into small specific tasks, focus on one task at a time, and keep knocking them out. Also maybe pick 10 important multiple choice questions after every chapter and try to answer it and read the answer to see what the correct answer is. And since you might be low on time, consider going 80/20. What are 20% of the tasks that will give you 80% of the results. Basically focus on the core parts of the chapters. Good luck!

@Massimiliano Giudice I feel like the best thing that comes close to free coaching is a high value friend, someone who you resonate with, has already walked the path you want to walk on to guide you. Usually free coaching will lead to a paid offer after a few sessions. Or read books.

@OrpheusNovum Hmm What do you mean by magical thinking? And I have yet to try dynamic meditation, where you you recommend learning this from?

@Shiva I wish more people knew this. I made the same mistake of trying to do many habits at once, even many businesses at once, and projects at once. It just doesn't work. You look back 2 years later and don't see much change. 1 habit at a time is the way to go. 1 habit done with focus and heart will make all the difference.

@LoveandPurpose Wow this question hit me hard. I pondered this for almost half a decade being stuck in college when I knew I would never use my major, and was just forced to stay due to my parents forcing me to complete college. I don't know your exact situation, but here is what I would do if I were you. If you want to escape wage slavery, and you feel you have what it takes to do business, be independent, and navigate through inner and outer obstacles (which you should be able to, because even getting success in life has these inner and outer obstacles) Then I would definitely not go to college. It is a 4 year investment of your youth, and over $100k in debt, and you are surrounded by others who don't want to escape wage slavery. And as for high school, since you only have 3 months left, do the best you can. 3 months isn't that long, and you definitely don't want to fail. So definitely atleast pass your classes. But I remember I kept thinking, do I really need to get straight A's, and out of fear, I did. But trust me you don't need them. You are on a path where no one will give a fuck if you got A's or C's.

@jsonte I believe for more goal-oriented skills like self-esteem, marketing, etc. I would focus on one of these projects at a time, really focus, sit with one book, and go deep in that. However there are smaller habits like cooking healthy meals, exercising, visualizing, that I feel can be done alongside these more bigger projects.