JohnnyBravo

Yes victim mode is ego strengthening/maintaining. An arrogant petty tyrant in power thinks they are above and beyond everyone. Their ego is huge. They say I am an Island look how different and better I am. A depressed, victim, no-body cares about me, self pitying person (victim mode) is also the exact same thing. Its saying I am inferior to everyone and I am am island, look how broken I am. Note victim mode is not the same as suffering a real life tragedy. Viktor Frankyl was a victim, but he never went into victim mode. This his humility. Even if you get those things in your mind yoi should continue? Yes. Acknowledge the thoughts are there and its difficult, but DO YOUR BEST. At least have a try. My rule is, if you at least make effort and try every day, then that counts.

Yes! Osho explained one time a famous Zen practitioner whom strived endlessly for enlightenment. He eventually attained it. As advise, he observed people around him and he said that "If you really want enlightement then you must take this path seriously." Osho responded that THAT was where him and this monk differed. Enlightenment can be nothing BUT entertainment. The trees laugh. The cuckoos laugh. Everything is all laughing together.

@Alex14 You can if you want. She may just say yes and your Disney movie is happily done! What I would do would be ballsier. Dont ask her out. Just see what the universe does and what happens. You may find one day she just demands your phone number and wants to see you. Dont be afraid of refusing to take action. This is something culture will never advocate. But if you can learn the art, the feel, of doing less and nothing, you will find you can get things you want without effort. And then all your friends will judge you "Oh he is just lucky!" The way of the Jedi (Tao) is to do less if anything. Things naturally happen.

Please understand when you say WOMEN that there are 3 billion women on the planet. Different types. Different shapes. Different likes and beliefs. Different ideas they have abour men and their gender. Which women are you referring to? The women in your life? Ok which women in your life? Oh the girl with that arrogant guy? ok WHICH girl? ......Analyse her and her issues. Analyse the guy and his issues. Is that the kind of woman you seek? Men and women shouldnt box each other into shallow holes and say this applies to every man/woman.

Ive tried to have good regard for Teal Swan but I cannot. I dont think she is anywhere near awakened on these subjects. An intellectual telling of the audience of basic ideas, but thats it. She is georgeous on the eye. As you have said, yes, not confident in who she is. Cant take her seriously because the words she says sound so recycled spiritual jargon anyone can dig up but she credits it as her own ideas. Similar to that Aaron Doughty guy and Benhino guy. Id put them all in the same box of toys; they are cashing in and exploiting the brains of people hungry for love. Leo is at least his own element. Cult following again and again.

"but when I study my whole past , regrets and the sadness deep down run in front of my eyes.and I can't stop it" This truly will be a big excuse initially. When i say "excuse" I dont mean to dismiss your past, i mean a distraction to prevent you following your directice. Dont go into victim mode. Victim mode is ego strengthening. Pain body as Tolle would say. Because if youre feeling so miserable, who wants to study at that point? But also, even if you feel a little upset, honour your feeling but study anyway. It is just an excuse at this context.

Consistency is same as habit building. Golden rule is this: dont skip a single day, no matter the excuse. Whatever the excuse is you troubleshoot around it to do the practise you want. Hand in hand with the dont skip a day, is another golden rule: dont be perfectionist at all. Some days youll be on the money and some days you wont be. Initially, excuses will come out from nowhere. After about 30 days the excuses totally drop off. Expect excuses early on. Dont skip a day. And dont be 100% perfect about it.

A mentor said to me how life is after enlightement: "The only attitude possible to have is one of playfulness. You just watch the world spin, you watch humans dance around in all their misery, and mixed with compassion you just feel non-serious about everything." He was a student of Osho. Osho has said that seriousness is a disease on the planet. Be non serious and playful without losing your sincerity. Im not enlightened, but indeed I look at people around me and just see all the drama they cause in their life via their mind. They confuse how situations are with their thoughts, and the drama just never stops. These people even when they laugh, they laugh with restriction. They laugh from courtesy and manners, not a deep genuine laugh where they lose themselves. I believe Saghuru and Osho have also said that a pre-requesit to falling in love is a necessary embodiment to be a fool. You must be willing to be a fool in life..... And Osho has quoted that the most intelligent masters are often judged as being fools. Conscious fools are secure in their intelligence. Intellectuals are insecure with their intelligence: they must show you how smart they are.

They aren't kissing Mooji, they are kissing God Mooji is just the excuse. A mentor who was a DIRECT DISCIPLIE of Osho said the peak moment of his life was when he went to bow down and touch Oshos feet. He said doing this he was overswept with a happiness and love so real, that it was painful to experience. He was crying, weeping out of love and surprise. Osho was just an excuse. Once God gets so near pure in a human the follower is just surrendering himself to existence and this is the relevance of this ritual. But yes, to an outsider, this will look like the most pathetic and mindless behaviour. Id love to see our Bigger than life Elliot Hulse and his pro macho attitude bow down and touch the feet of a master; such a man cannot, proving the attitude of him and the attitude necessary for a humble human to be able to acknowledge someone. If I met a master, Id love this experience. Im sure this is what people did with Jesus also, the washing of the feet. It is a symbol of deep humility and knowing we are all connected and we are all in this together.

Relax about it and acknowledge youre doing this with some good intent. Dont beat yourself up. It will naturally dissolve over time with attention. "Awareness alone is curative?" This happens to many people not just specifically yourself. We do this because we want to be loved. I dont think theres anything wrong with that reasoning. But its short term and exhuasting and if you comprimise your Self then you cant relax and share who you genuinly are.

What to do? Be in the situation, leave it. Dont force anything to happen and let things unfold naturally. Dont feel pressured to take it further or 'do something' with it. Its good as it is. Let it be. You will screw it up only if you interfere forcefully or non naturally now. Good dating is about doing less, not more.

@Alex14 Its tough to talk because you are both at the stage where youre ready to move beyond talking. Talking is now unncessary and you both know it but are in the situation of school so yeah, it feels pleasurably uncomfortable.

@Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj My opinion? Hes a man with a heart of gold and a sharp brain on him. Hes got the ability to think for himself and he strings together clusters of ideas that are fresh/alternative/original to most other rubbish Psychology or self help youtube channels. Ive talked with him personally as well over the years and can vouch he is a good dude. He has given me products of his purely for free (to me personally). Good modern business man he is; back when his following wasnt as big, he would talk to you (a customer) and treat you as if you really mattered and were there. Im yet to meet a Youtube person like this, maybe apart from Scooby1961. Grannon is cool. But now he has a cult like following which I dont like. I can also tell his modern content is heavily funnelled towarda his cult fans/followers and not just for the average person. All his videos is like addressing his cult now, and give him a break because he is not aware he is doing it. I think anyone with a sudden surge in fame or status will struggle to realise that out of nowhere suddenly one day you have a cult like following. His personality has changed dramatically. Of course this will happen to anyone over a period of years. But the feeling i get is that he is really enjoying the status/fame and is also aware of the power he has with his followers unconsciously. So I think despite him actually producing quality content still, the issue is that there is an unspoken, covert belief going on that you are expected to follow or believe everything he says as FACT and true just because it is/was his own experience. Hmmm.....tough to articulate why I have lost respect for him. But there is something different to him which is really Shadowy and not clean. ......Ah I think I know what it is.... ....Hes feeling a shit ton of pressure because of his sudden rise in fame etc and because he is also exposing alot of his sincere personality on camera. I believe because of this, he feels uneasy about it somehow and is constantly trying to cover up who he is with a fake overconfident macho facade. One thing I have noticed is a constant, constant, constant reference to him being a martial arts guy. He doesn't say it to your face, but it is as if he is saying "I am really dangerous so dont fuck with me." And on the surface level I believe he is trying to sell himself to the ladies, fulfilling a dream of being this tough guy turned intellectual genius. But yes, the cult thingy is thick in the air. And you can see it based on this game he plays now titled "I am not perfect, but i am perfect enough; listen and do everything i tell you because you arent fully healed yet." Advise for him?....Id tell him he is good enough as he is, he doesnt have to be someone he is not for approval, and I would beckon he take a break for one month like our Leo has. I think he has, without his invitation or desire, invoked a lot of power all of a sudden and isnt aware what to do with the rapid imbalance. He would tell his followers to think for themseleves.....but i dont see ANY of the audience thinking for themseleves. Just laundry mat circulated psych talk only particular to his channel. Love and respect Richard. Would tell this to him in person if I had the chance. Hed probs get very defensive so Id be cautious and scared of saying this to him, because I dont think its the right time for him to hear this now. As Leo has pointed out, beware that cults are now going to be mainly online. Spartanlifecoach has now gotten to this stage.

By not shaming yourself or talking down to yourself because you have those fears. By having the courage to live the rest of the life with those fears, but consciously and with curiosity and understanding. Im not a fan facing fears like this head on, but works for some. Exposure therapy can help, but sometimes fears are core issues to do with self and your relationship with life and the world or other people. Thus, explore the core issues and awareness will naturally uncover the nastiness of the fear over months and years. Guy i knew had fear of ocean. Which is fear of the unknown. He explored himself psychologically and now can swim in the ocean without panic and worry.

Sounds good. Trust yourself, dont worry bout advise (its all mind based nonsense thats gonna steal from the purity of your art). Draw/paint for yourself, dont worry about an audience. Showcasing is fine, dont get into the number counting or paint for status game. Glad to hear you got your insight. Im sure more will trickle on from this in the year. Id also say, if you feel your direction change, dont feel guilty or like you need to 'honour' this initial burst of inspiration. Drop it when it feels tedious and you have run its course, go elsewhere if inspiration says so, and as i said if none of that then wait for God patiently. People think they need to take effort to find God and seek Him out; the reverse is truer- God is trying to find you.

1. That little kid Herman from the movie Bad Santa. 2. Hattori Hanzo 3. Kain from Kung fu (1978) 4. Bryan 5. Zeus from Disney's Hercules --

Excellent piece/post. Id extend I believe cold approach can be extended just to people in general as well as the opposite sex (yep Ive met some females that approach guys. Well done to them!). There is a shadow to beware of; cold approach can sometimes be done successfully with a big "shield of armour" or fake persona. This is about self protection because yes, cold approach is pretty much an exercise in raw exposure vulnerability to other people whom have a very easy and high chance of rejecting you. Awareness needs to be trained and not the persona. Excellent post

Semen retention totally different subject to pornography. Here you seem to be blending the two as a means to market something to your website. And nofap doesn't solve every problem in existence like your newsletter promises. You seem to be advocating that nofap is the end to all mental health issues, and the end to all inner issues and it is not. Anything that overpromises things like this is to be careful of. Having said that, qutting pornography is an issue that is significant. But for different reasons.

Yes I believe so. I am sad to say one of my all time Youtube heroes has also been into the personality cult- Richard Grannon The Spartan Life Coach....I unsubscribed from his channel after years of sincerely liking this man and his ideas because of the cult like people and vibe that emerges. It mad me sad. The group think never used to be there.....now it is. Everyone talks and thinks the same. No critical thinking welcomed. I loved Hulse in 2014 in his basement garage videos. But now his following is perverted. Goodbye Hulse and Grannon. Thankyou for our mentoring time together which is finished.

I woul add a twist Its fear of disintegration of self constructed UNworthiness and Disconnection and lack of being lovable and connected. Because if those core ideas are destroyed and you have had them since childhood, you become a person who has lost their identity. It is scary because it is abandoning the familiar even though youre moving into a better place.

@lostmedstudent I acknowledge the scariness and concern you have about the content of the dreams. But take it as a good sign. Youre waking up, and its a part of you that has been repressed. The killer part of you. Its safetly being expressed/excorted in the dream. Better than doing it in real life. Dont get too swayed by this. Respect it for the thing it is; its a purging of your cultural conditioning and evil. Get on with your day and trust it will evaporate in time. Congratulations and well done. Soon these dreams will stop.

Get off tinder and all social media. None of it is smooth. All of it is creepy. Dont think there is a smooth way to do tinder, its a messy ugly game. Go do some real pickup and talk to real life women in the real life world.

@Marinus In that case, cool, keep doing what you gotta do and at least your have clarified in yourself you are on the right path. If its feels good to you then great. Thread closed.

@Conceptually-made Greta post on surrendering. Surrender doesn't necessarily mean trying to relax or being relaxed. I like this and I understand a little more what surrender is now. And "you let go of the effort to not feel scared" is great. So you allow yourself to feel scared and uncomfortable, and on top of that, you release all the desire to try and change that uncomfortable state. I don't think I've ever done that. Felt a feeling, and then fully let go of efforts in riding the feeling or trying to prevent myself just being really naked in the feeling without the hope of it going. That is scary.

Hey @Marinus A mentor once told me, "Trying to force a connection with someone is the best way to ensure you never develop a space for that person to connect with you." This is a huge shadow trap in daygame because you are immediatly questioned why youre being so abnormally direct and forward in an environment or context or on a stranger that has never met you before, in a culture and era where the iinternet prevail and people have become more introverted and closed off..........Daygame is much, much trickier than night game from a sociological perspective. Approach, engage fully, be sensitive to the other and do not trap the girl down psychologically by implying you are there because just found her attractive (for daygame. Nightgame and daytime events is different). There is nothing wrong with indirect openers or situational openers. There is a method to their madness, and sadly some PUA just label being indirect as being someone who isnt man enough for some reason. You be indirect because you give the woman a way out if she feels she wishes to take it. You see, pickup and especially daygame is all about me me me me me me my agenda, and I can do whatever I want because its about me. This is how i have at least seen it demonstrated by PUAS. Its unnatural.this is wrong. Daygame needs to be corrected by being more sensitive to the other. Many women wont talk to you not because youre bad at daygame or a bad guy but just because its abnormal and they are not prepared for such interactions to happen. If a robber came up to you, demanding your money....maybe you can easily deal with it. Maybe you cant. But either way youre not expecting this type of social interaction to take place. So you will still respond, but there is a forceful immediacy behind it. Relationships are not built on force. So still go and daygame if you wish, but try a month of being indirect and more gentle. Still talk, but leave any sexual stuff out at least right away. You will get a sense as to which girls you can then show a sexual intent about, and which ones you can let them go on their way. 40 approaches. 4 responded well. Try 10 approaches next time and be way easier and gentler on the nature of the interaction. If she wishes to play, she will spice up the talk. Plant many seeds in life, but never force the seeds to grow.