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Hmmm... This is quite fascinating to hear. First I’ll ask: Are you absolutely certain you find this humor to be funny or could it be that you were momentarily more in touch with your wild side when you typed this? Because I’ve heard you call other versions of this exact same genre of humor “disgusting and disrespectful” What I’m getting at is I’d like you to help me understand the thought process behind a raunchy bar joke such as saying, “a ring doesn’t cover a hole” to a woman who tells you she’s married being deemed disgusting and inappropriate without any acknowledgement of the wit or humor of it, then also finding a video of a guy ripping the mic out of a news reporter’s hand to say “fuck her right in the pussy” to be hilarious without anything negative to say about that. These are both in the same realm of humor, no? Actually in terms of potential disgust people may have, the example of the guy interrupting the news segment to say that obscenity is MORE potent in its ability to disturb others than the bar joke. He’s running up to a stranger he’s never spoken to before completely out of the blue (unlike whatever rapport you may have previously built with the married woman before saying your “disrespectful” thing) he’s ripping the microphone away from her, looking straight at the camera and saying “fuck her right in the pussy”. It’s also worse because it gets exposed to millions more people than the relatively negligible amount of people who might hear a silly but raunchy bar joke. All I’m asking is, Why is one thing acceptable and even funny when another very similar yet measurably less impactful thing, isn’t? I’m making a long post here because this is the perfect example of why some of us fail socially. It blows my mind when people laugh and have a great time shooting the shit about certain types things and then suddenly blow up and get all buttmad when someone comes along with something else of the same genre of humor because they happen to take offense to it for some reason. It would be like if a group of guys who all had an irrationally intense hated of oranges were all in a social setting discussing which fruits they like. Then some girl just trying to fit in with the social atmosphere came along saying “I like oranges the best. I even had two orange trees in my front yard when I was a girl that we used to make fresh orange juice every morning.” Then all the guys are like REEEEEEEEE!! Get this stupid crazy bitch away from us!!! Reeeeeeeee SECURITY!!!! How could she have known? Obviously she can’t just ask them, “Hey, is it ok if I like oranges and I tell you about that since you guys are already talking about fruits?” Because that alone would set them off if they did hate oranges so much AND, even if they didn’t, it would still make her seem weird and insecure just for asking. Literally all she can do is roll the dice. This is why humans are so difficult and why we can’t have nice things. And why mankind deserves to get wiped out by an asteroid.

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It’s a website that uses ai to randomly generate inspirational quotes. Some of them are nonsense, some are profoundly deep and some are so relevant to you it’s concerning. Here are some ones that are surprisingly relevant to me, it’s like it knows me

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The music sounding better I wholeheartedly agree with. The other stuff too but the music is the most pronounced. Female vocals uplifting trance is my all time fav. It’s almost obe on a solid nofap streak I’d love to join you man but I’ve failed miserably before the 36 hour mark the last several times I’ve tried. I cannot take that feeling of the balls filling up like water balloons anymore. It’s become one of my only releases and one of my only enjoyable parts of life. My longest streak of all time was about 2.5 months and I was able to regularly go on 2-3 week stretches, but that was back when I had a lot going for me. Now I have well over a couple hundred images of the finest women on earth saved in my pictures and I use them almost daily, sometimes multiple times daily. That may not sound like much to a seasoned fap veteran but for me that’s quite a lot relative to how I used to be. I’m so obsessed with women and sex now it’s become my soul purpose for existence lol that is so real. But at least then you might get to have a sweet dream to go along with it? During my past nofap journeys, when I would get that feeling of being on the verge of busting in a dream, my mind still knew I was on a mission so I would automatically flex the PC muscle to prevent it. Maybe if you’re serious enough about semen retention your subconscious develops a failsafe to keep you from busting

But where exactly you draw that red line is debatable. If you look at someone’s ass, you could say you’re getting gratification out of that without their knowledge but we probably both agree that doesn’t hurt anything. Or you could imagine if someone were to get off simply from the touch of a hand. If this person went around high-fiving hotties because it gave him or her a sexual thrill, would that be a slippery slope into creepsville? I just don’t really see the harm in it other than the potential risk of injury regarding the ballbusting kink. I don’t understand how that can be. I mean you can think you’re the most awesome, sex worthy guy on the planet and still get tons of rejections. In fact those are the rejections that hurt the most. If you approach showing your 100% true self heart wide open, and girls give you the meanest rejections you’ve ever had for it, that’s a dagger straight through the heart that takes months or years to recover from if you’re lucky. Whereas if you already thought you were a worthless piece of shit, then the rejection just feels normal and expected. I would ping myself somewhere in the middle, slightly more towards the side of believing I am worthy. Some people adopt alternate personas because it’s much less painful when a different version of who you were before gets rejected. That’s also why people fetishize humiliation. It helps to cope with the emotional anguish of those god awful blowouts by turning it into something enjoyable. This is one of the added benefits of the ballbusting thing (though it’s not always caused by consciously sexualizing the thought of a woman physically assaulting you in that way out of paranoia of it happening) since one of the most dreaded possibilities in dating is accidentally creeping out or offending or pissing off a girl to the extent that she kicks you in the balls, by fetishizing that you remove whatever preexisting fear was there of that happening You’ll see parallels with that and women with rape or choking kinks or whatever

You’re right. They value it significantly more. Hence I forgot the exact number but women say yes to men at an insanely lower rate than men say yes to women on dating apps. And the main factors that make men stand out on dating apps is face and height. It is fucking IMPOSSIBLE to get a less than 200 lb girlfriend if you’re some 5’8 socially inexperienced guy in a 60k population city. And I definitely don’t blame myself for not being able to move out. I didn’t ask for this shit. It hurts me to bring weight into it because fat chicks are some of the coolest, funniest people I’ve ever met. But they aren’t very fuckable if we’re being honest. But they’re way more fun to hang out with than hot girls in my experience. Seriously, there are no chances for us. No opportunities, no connections. Nothing. What do you do in this state? Go knocking door to door in your neighborhood asking to see available women in the family? Go cold approach at malls, college campuses you don’t attend and bars/clubs where one wrong move gets you harassed by authority figures who don’t give the tiniest speck of empathy for your suicidal desperation? Go wedding crashing? Party crashing? 80 percent of this struggle would be solved if we weren’t so unfortunate to be born in a small city because god is some sick and twisted motherfucker that strokes his fat goober and gets off to the sight of us being ruthlessly tormented by seeing happy couples rubbed in our faces like taunting a starving child with delicious food, and being heavily punished for our mistakes when we goof up socially trying to climb out of our hell hole. But no. God fucking hates our miserable, suffering asses and is constantly working overtime to keep us stuck. A big city would take most of that away because social mistakes don’t carry nearly as heavy of a penalty. That’s because you can go out every night and rarely see the same people twice. Word gets around about you faster and you stick out like a sore thumb because people have less to focus on in smaller cities. NO ROOM FOR ERROR This too can be debunked by looking at the numbers. There are twice as many male virgins in the 18-29 age range than female virgins. Also compare the suicide rate between genders and that should tell you something This right here speaks volumes about the female threat detection mechanism. Women are afraid those socially inexperienced, 5/10 guys are the dangerous ones when really those kinds of guys would treat them like queens, but they aren’t attracted to them because “weirdo vibes”. Meanwhile they consistently get involved with the actual dangerous men and suffer dire consequences because of it.

Well for some of us, improving our attraction skills to get better with women IS our entire life purpose. Seems like a pretty valid one to me since sex and reproduction is and always has been the primary driving force of all physical life. That also automatically puts you in situations where upping your social skills is either a requirement or happens automatically. So everything takes care of itself.

That right there I believe is our best chance for those of us who’re so fucked up inside that healing our issues would take years of tremendously difficult shadow work to shed the neediness vibe. A much quicker way to start getting girls would be to take that already broken person you are and shape it into something that comes off as fuckable

Girls cheat quite often. Just her being in a relationship won’t necessarily stop her from hooking up with you if you do everything right, right?

Idk which part of my post set you off or what you would’ve preferred I say. Whatever the case, let’s put that behind us and bring it back to this The misogynist guys that have "success" with women are probably living in a profound shitty state of mind. If you hate what you desire, how do you feel when you get it? Your hatred of women will frustrate you even more when you eventually get the sex you desire, simply because you despise what you wish for. I'm not telling you to handle your shit because it will let you marry someone, but you won't be able to enjoy what you so desperately want in this low-consciousness state you're in. We almost had our breakthrough with this exchange. TL;DR at the bottom So you do admit it’s entirely possible to attract women without resolving your toxicity issues. That’s after you’ve repeatedly told me I need to resolve that toxicity to start seeing better dating results. Any fool can see that assholes end up with hot girlfriends all the time. Great. Then you raised a fair point that I probably wouldn’t enjoy having women if I’m still harboring feelings of ill will towards them once I finally start successfully attracting them into girlfriend status. So I pointed out how a massive chunk of that ill will comes from being rejected all the time. So that much of it would be gone once I learn how to make them start accepting me romantically. From there, whatever hard feelings are left over would be totally manageable and perhaps even curable once I start getting all that much needed sex and female pheromone. Let it be known that sex releases copious amounts of oxytocin, which is one of if not the most healing compound in the human body. Sure, it may not heal all my hard feelings towards women, but it will without a doubt get me lightyears closer to it. Last time I got a brief hug from a hot as lava coworker chick was about 4 years ago and I was in love with life and the universe for several days following. So imagine what sexual intimacy could do. Since you admit it’s totally doable to start getting girls without resolving my issues first, and I’ve pointed out how I won’t necessarily not enjoy them just because I still have some hard feelings, all I want to know now is how to go about making that happen. I know I’d be much better off in the long run if I focused on healing trauma first. But that’s incredibly difficult and I happen to be not the least bit interested in anything but getting lots of women in the quickest way possible, which we’ve come to agree is totally doable without needing to fix my toxicity.

Being a miserable asshole sitting on a mountain of gold is a far lesser form of suffering than being a miserable asshole who’s also flat broke. Same goes for having women. Most of why I hate them at the moment is because they hate me, more specifically because they refuse to get with me despite my best efforts. Not only that but they also go out of their way to complain about me when I say something wrong or lack calibration. As if lacking calibration is the same as harassment. It’s like a simple “no thank you” isn’t good enough, they also have to cause me trouble. So that much could be ameliorated by learning the outer game techniques to no longer make the mistakes that are causing them to freak out. The other reason for the bad blood comes from observing how they act in relationships. Stuff like showing pictures of their friends to their bf and demanding him to be completely honest about which ones he thinks are the hottest while promising she won’t be mad. Then getting mad when he tells the truth. Stuff like getting offended when he looks at other girls but he’s not allowed to get mad when she checks out other guys. Stuff like pointing out his personal flaws or turn offs to him then acting like he’s the devil when he returns the favor. These are highly common themes you see all across the board in normal relationships. I’ve seen countless examples of it on tiktok and yt shorts and I’ve heard real life stories of these things happening from friends who don’t suck at getting girlfriends. There seems to be a widespread imbalance of power going on. But regardless of that I’m certain I could get massive enjoyment and fulfillment out of having girlfriends because real girls have something dolls and porn doesn’t: pheromones. Their armpits, neck and undercarriage area give off loads of them. It’s the thing that makes real sex infinitely better than fapping and drives you bananas with sexual arousal. That’s what I’m missing. That and all the kinks I could finally have fulfilled everyday for weeks at a time instead of only receiving them once every 8 fucking months while I’m asleep in a dream.

Something to sniff and lick and fuck the shit out of and cuddle up with and goof off with and share moments with At the moment I love myself plenty but I’ve come to hate most others. Authenticity scares people off more than anything. Being fake af is all I can get away with anymore. As honest as the situation allows. If your bloated gf asks you if she looks fat in a dress, should you tell her the truth or no? I can’t think of a single topic I’m unwilling to talk about, try me The key difference is I’m actually willing to grind through the small talk when others expect it, unpleasant as it may be. Others are completely shut off to entertaining the weird stuff I’m interested in (usually) That’s where the golden rule is violated. It needs to work both ways. That’s just it. My interests are industrial grade normie repellant

Guys please don’t get my thread locked. I have so much more to say, I’m just not very active at the moment. Doing these threads takes a lot out of me

My curiosity with femdom stems mostly from receiving threats of attacks on my groin from girls on multiple occasions when I was in school. But also from the fact that a kick in the balls is the most likely scenario my brain can accept in which a girl would ever willingly touch me sexually. Just like But I really don’t think that comes from a place of insecurity or unworthiness. I feel worthy enough for all the mind blowing sex I could ever have. It’s just that I know THEY don’t feel the same way about me. Which makes me hate them deeply I’m also not into the whole worshipping a goddess or draining my bank account or being bullied thing, not that I have any judgment for people into those aspects of it (though the draining your bank account just for it’s own sake does seem a bit wild to me, I suppose as long as you can afford it then go right ahead. Personally, I’d suggest using that money to either invest in a doll or in person sessions. Nothing beats irl human to human contact) I just wanna know what it’s like to get kicked in the nuts by a girl, that’s it

Anything can be taken too far. If someone is spending all their money on dommes and neglecting other aspects of their life then it becomes a problem. But I don’t see anything wrong with paying to get beat up every now and then if it makes you feel good. It’s really not that much different from visiting a normal prostitute. I also forgot to ask you @kenway Yes, most obviously the bitch would be crossing ethical boundaries by kicking without consent. But if you see a girl giving free handouts, what would be so unethical about seizing the moment if that’s your thing? After all, she clearly doesn’t mind doing it in this example

That’s a big grey area. It would be difficult to accurately determine if it’s healthy to indulge or not in every case. What @gettoefl says is not entirely incorrect. For some people I think it can be quite counterproductive to spiritual or emotional development and doesn’t necessarily depend on if the fixation is rooted in trauma. As a thought experiment let’s take an extreme (and unfortunately not totally unheard of) example: A nerdy kid in Jr. high school gets lured in by his crush who leads him to believe she’s going to give him some heavenly positive attention. Soon as he gets close enough she places her hands on his shoulders and knees him in the balls perfectly smashing them both into his pubic bone with blunt force sending him straight into the single most humiliating, physically painful and traumatic experience of his life. He drops like a hot potato. The sound of several other girls laughing at his reaction echoes in his head as he drifts in and out of consciousness from the severe shock. Perhaps it even causes him to vomit. His only way to cope with such a hellish experience without killing himself or turning to opiates is to turn it into boner fuel. Once it becomes boner fuel it’s highly doubtful he’ll ever be able to fully purge the kink from his subconscious. It’s there to stay. After a number of years go by and everyone has graduated and the girl is long gone, now the question is: Is it healthy for this individual to continue seeking to relive his defining moment that at the time he had to sexualize just to survive? The answer may not be as simple as a clear yes or no, but perhaps it can be. Conversely, an individual who hasn’t experienced anything close to a nightmare of that magnitude may still develop an unhealthy relationship with his or her kink

Don’t worry. I’m most certainly not trying to rape anyone if that’s the impression you got. Though that leads me to another thing that makes this virtually impossible situation all the more discouraging: Even if the girl doesn’t tell you she’s not enjoying it during the act, it still counts as a rape in legal terms. Even if you had no way of knowing because she didn’t give you the slightest hint of resistance in the moment. Heck, she can even decide she regrets it well after the fact and still slap you with a life ruining sexual assault charge over it. See retroactive consent Thanks for calling that out. Sometimes I wonder if the way I write makes me sound pretentious or verbose. By all means if you catch me misusing a word or phrasing something weirdly, point it out I know it won’t make me happy. Just as an exercise routine or a healthy diet won’t. Sure helps though. I’m not looking for happiness, I’m looking for what I’ve missed out on all my life. I’m willing to have all the sexual experience I could ever dream of at the cost of never being happy I could say the same thing about my situation. Has a grieving mother ever been repeatedly shamed and belittled for trying to get that baby? Has she seen others have success in the exact same methods of flirting that when she does it it’s considered ‘sexual harassment’? Has she ever been having a great time expanding out of her comfort zone with the opposite sex only to be confronted by some rotten, cock sucking authority figures saying “We can’t have you bothering the men, you need to leave.” Has she experienced such overwhelming jealousy at the sight of happy couples that she wants to bash her head against a brick wall until her brain spills out onto the floor? All this in the context of having raging hormones screaming in her ear every single day of her life demanding her to experience physical intimacy and connection with another human? Absolutely not. Because if she had, she would’ve never been able to get the baby in the first place. Neither of us can fathom the other’s grief until we’ve been through it. I picked that video because it’s the closest thing I’ve seen to what I feel like at my worst. If we continue, all this comparison will amount to is a more sophisticated version of the age old “period cramps vs being kicked in the balls” pissing contest. There are too many variables at play to conclusively determine which is worse. But I’ll leave it at this saying you’ve probably heard before: It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

This guy gets it! Don’t get me wrong. I know if I gave it enough effort the stuff you’ve been saying could help me, like getting involved in community functions and taking up hobbies. But remember, you’re talking to someone whose patience and will power is at -200% at best. I’ve also tried some of that stuff and failed. Worst thing of all is my city is as good as useless opportunity-wise and I’m nowhere close to being in a position where moving out would be feasible. Your advice is also (correct me if I’m wrong) aimed towards setting me up for deep and long term relationships with a partner. All I’m interested in is short term, no strings attached relationships where I get rejuvenated by a few weeks or months at a time with fun and reasonably attractive (my standards aren’t outlandish by any means, so no problem there) girlfriends. You say I need to resolve my animosity towards women, you even say that’s the very thing that’s scaring them off. Though I know for a fact there are men just as misogynistic as I am who still manage to pull mad bitches. What’s to stop me from being one of them? What I’m saying is if those guys exist, there’s obviously some way to get good at pulling girls without having to go through the grueling process of healing traumas first.

My city barely has shit. The good news is there are two cities with about half a million population within reasonable driving distance that I could start visiting or maybe move to someday. LOL. Another comedic dimension would be to complain “Why should I have to pay for something that some guys get for free when they get caught cheating or piss off their girlfriends too much?! Those guys aren’t even the ones who want it!” There has to be some way to provoke it into happening without acting like a total lunatic. Like maybe play your cards really well by saying the right thing at the right time, or rather, wrong thing; wrong time, depending how you look at it. I’ve seen too many horror stories of guys receiving it unexpectedly or intentionally provoking it. One thing I’ve heard people have success doing is getting private dances at strip clubs and offering the stripper to knee them if she’s comfortable with it, and often times she will be. Of course this isn’t exactly free but it’s sure cheaper than traveling a long ass distance. I’m just trying to think of ideas now. The more I think about this, the more enrapturing it becomes. Obviously the biggest risk (and why paying the extra bucks for a professional is the best and safest option) is biting off a harder kick than you can chew.

Exactly. I’ve realized this quite a while ago. I don’t think it can be understated just how important it is to have those sexual experiences. Yeah and as for the domme stuff, it could be helpful to instead of feeling like ur paying to get beat up, look at it like you’re just going to see a very special prostitute, which is kind of true. Damn. I really wish it could be the best of both worlds with the silicone vs tpe decision. I’ve done quite a bit of looking into sex dolls and somehow still missed the fact that tpe feels more realistic but silicone looks more realistic Silicone also holds up better and is more durable. Damnit damnit damnit I wanted it to be both! Just look at how real that looks

I used to be that way here, now my only thing is I refuse to put myself out on the internet like name and face. I’m mostly comfortable opening up if it’s just through text. I’d say just go for it, but then again, easier said than done. I’m the king of “easier said than done.” Definitely hit me up and give me everything you got. My main concern with that is getting caught up in a sting op, so if you have a reliable source I’m all in Well that will make things tricky What else is there besides our brain and feelings? Yes I do! The healing power of female affection is not to be underestimated. Last time I got a 3 second hug from a solid 9/10 was three and a half years ago and it felt like I was on a low dose of mdma for days afterwards. And that was just dipping my foot in the hot tub. So imagine a full submersion Don’t act so surprised now. You had to have known what you were dealing with when you read the op. Btw I didn’t mean beating them up or anything serious like that, I meant more along the lines of cheating or doing anything it takes to get some action limited only by the law. That could mean putting on an act only to later reveal I’m not the kind of guy I presented as, or cheating. Both of which would probably be painful for her, but desperate times call for desperate measures. It’s really not that bad. Sure, I may not feel for others like I once did because of all the negativity they’ve cursed upon me. But I never just straight up disrespect people unless they do so to me first. Extending your empathy to what others feel and their desires is a two way street. Am I supposed to give that courtesy even when they don’t? Let’s take another look at the golden rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” You do think the golden rule is valid, do you or no? I know I do, I live by it. Now let’s say people start regularly coming up to me comfortable enough to share embarrassing stories about themselves and talk about all manner of wacky taboos like fapping and periods and farts and death and crazy fetishes and everything. Do you think I would be appalled or would I appreciate them breaking the monotony of boring ass small talk and arbitrary social norms? I think the answer is clear. Now say I start talking about that stuff with people. Does it get received well by the majority or does it get me blown out majority of the time? Also clear. Not only that but I’m apparently also being disrespectful when I act towards others the way I’d love it if they acted towards me? I’m following the golden rule as it’s commanded yet it’s not getting me good results (most of the time, some people are cool they’re just not always easy to find) The golden rule says to treat others the way you want to be treated. It doesn’t say “Treat others how you want to be treated so long as you know what you want is the same as what they want” Should it be updated? It probably sounds like I’m just trying to pick a bone again but this is actually a good point that hasn’t been addressed yet.