Emotionalmosquito

For some of us, not caring what people think can be counterproductive. When I don’t give a single fuck what people think, some people think the authenticity is awesome and wanna be around it, but the majority who don’t start bitching to authority figures about me bothering people and it actually causes problems. Could it be said that it’s important to not care what people think of you but only within certain guidelines? Like you can’t just run around saying filthy sexual stuff to everyone, but if we truly didn’t care at all what others think of us, a lot of us would be doing just that.

It’s the perfect way to activate your almonds. Just find a spot where you won’t be seen (more on that later) and expose your parts to the sun. Spread the legs for maximum gooch exposure. Should only be for no longer than a minute to start with to see how your body reacts. There’s a reason they call it where the sun don’t shine. This area is much more prone to sunburn than anywhere else so you’ll want to start slow. It feels surprisingly good once you start trying doing it. Not sure how to explain the feeling other than you never knew your balls were hungry all your life until you feed them sunlight, then they feel full for the first time. Allegedly it boosts testosterone by well over 100%. Don’t be surprised if you become erect or remarkably horny for the rest of the day. Observe your scrotum during the first sessions. It starts shifting around and warping and contorting similar to how faces and walls do after you’ve had a tab of LSD. Very fascinating to look at. You’ll notice the balls become loose and hang very low; perfect for performing a sexual Kung Fu style testicle massage, but that’s another thread. I always find the perfect angle so none of the neighbors can see. Though I have been caught twice; once by the neighbor’s daughter, (at the time I was taking a risk hoping nobody would walk over to a certain area where they could see me and I wouldn’t have any time to react, that’s exactly what happened. no cops ever showed up so I definitely lucked out there. I think the fact I immediately covered up upon making eye contact let her know it was an accident.) and once by my younger half brother. The brother bust was more funny than anything else but the neighbor was actually somewhat embarrassing. So I don’t take risks anymore. Lemme know your thoughts in the comments below and I’ll see you in the next one!

LOL! Those guys are both top tier chads. Of course the women will be warm and welcoming. They’ve got wide, masculine necks, warrior skulls, high cheekbones, sharp jawlines, almond eyes, positive canthal tilt, perfect eye spacing, thick hair AND they’re well dressed. Guys, I know personality probably plays a large role in attraction, but you’d have to be delusional to think these guys’ 10/10 looks isn’t the primary factor at play here. In both pics he literally just introduced himself a few seconds ago and the ladies already bedazzled. Are you AI generating these? You can attract with average looks or slightly below but it’s not as easy as it’s portrayed here. You’d better have an outstanding personality and present it to an exceptionally open minded girl. I fundamentally disagree. If it was that easy, sixty percent of young men wouldn’t be hard stuck singles. Consider the sheer power of the male sex drive; you know things are really bad when that many of us are giving up on dating despite being so gaht dang horny. Part of the issue is social media and smart phones are sucking peoples souls out through their eyeballs leaving us with robotic, unfriendly versions of the vibrant, free spirited human beings they’re meant to be.

I do have quite the habit of that. I do that because it is so painfully maddening to feel like I’m being fully blamed for things that I KNOW beyond any doubt aren’t ENTIRELY my fault. Some people are very shitty scumbags, others are pretty cool. Sometimes the disgusting/tasteless behavior I show (which is very benign compared to what I’d like to do) gets me a new friend group for the night, others? Ur gone! That’s why this is so confusing. How do I not think I’m worthy? I have no idea how you got that sense. Why else would I want sex and so much and think I deserve it? Because I feel worthy of it.

@Princess Arabia I’m honored to be your 4000th post Yes getting somewhere because I discovered you, like too many others, think it’s unacceptable for people to say wacky things to each other in the beginning stages of an interaction. That makes it pretty hard to be filterless or to treat others the way you want to be treated. I would love it if girls said dirty stuff to me more often and I knew I could shoot it right back at them. I’d love nothing more in the world than to be given a 100% fool proof strategy to get all the lays I want. I would seriously shoot a hollow point bullet through my foot right now in exchange for being flawless at women. I want it infinitely more than I can convey. Not “just”, but you’re right about me wanting to talk about it. It helps me get it off my chest and blow off steam. The main purpose of my being here is to get a fool proof strategy that works. Not this “be yourself” malarkey that’s getting me blown out majority of the time. The videos are to show how deep the problem truly is and why it’s so hard and unfair. Thx for watching that one btw, I figured you probably wouldn’t lol. Point of that was to show how much more easily girls get away with groping men than vice versa. The whole video can be summarized in that line where he said: “Am I wrong for calling this female out on something that if I would’ve done to her I could have been thrown in jail, possibly beaten up, possibly lost everything I’ve worked for in one night from a sexual harassment charge from a woman who would face no consequences violating me in the same way.” And thats talking physical violation of boundaries. So imagine how easy it is for them get away with cracking dirty jokes. To be fair @Israfil did say a girl got thrown out for bothering him too much. If that’s common then I suppose things are more balanced than I thought. Still, it generally gets taken far more seriously when men sexually harass women. Which brings me to my question for him: What about how @something_else got kicked out by bouncers for whispering in her hear? Is getting close in order to say something in someone’s ear grounds to remove a girl if she does it to a guy?

10/10 Yes it does. It’s the best feeling in the universe when you taste it for the first time after being so wrongfully denied the delicacy for decades. It’s total, sheer bliss to almost the highest degree second only to Samadhi If it’s such a trick, what about all the people that get helplessly addicted to it? For them it must be good enough to go chasing long term

“depressed” Didn’t you just say in the other thread? That’s great but all your progress goes to shit the very second you say something dumb or make a mistake. Which is guaranteed to happen for those of us inexperienced. Even if we’re treating her the way we’d like to be treated the whole time. Thats why we’re on eggshells all the time and why it’s so insurmountably difficult. That’s great too if you can get her to respond to you like an actual human instead of a robot. Also in the other thread you pointed out me dehumanizing women by calling them different creatures? I understand they’re humans too. I shouldn’t have called them different creatures but I absolutely stand by them being very very different. They get dehumanized because they do the same to us. I can do the most plain, friendly, non-provoking approach possible only for them to act like I’ve committed some huge crime by daring to speak to the all mighty her without permission. Happens all the time. Pardon the hateful talk in this screenshot and take note of what he’s saying

YES! That’s what I’ve been saying. So why do I keep being told the negativity I have inside is the reason I’m not having any luck?

Sex is a need, a very strong one. It may not kill you quickly like going without food but it does kill you slowly and more painfully of self destruction

Is testosterone not the key element of sex drive? Yes thank you for pointing that out. It’s also just as healthy on the vagina @Devin those undies are interesting, I could use a pair That’s true. I usually set up some towels on some chairs and an empty kiddie pool or something for privacy. Just happened to get unlucky those two times when I took a greater risk

Giving up right when we start getting somewhere? I’m shocked 😂 It’s crazy how some of you guys think I’m just trying to fight or play a charade instead of get to the bottom of an issue through discussion, as the forum is meant for. Do you really expect me to not have questions and comments about the advice I’m being given? I only sound like I’m fighting because I’ve tried lots of these things without much success. The “charade” is me trying to find out why the advice I’m given doesn’t work and what I can do differently.

If I have something I want to reply or say to someone, and I really really want to, but I decide I better not because there’s a strong probability it will be perceived as tasteless and disgusting and get me blown out or kicked out, how is that not the exact opposite of talking openly and sincerely? If you have all these things you wanna say but can’t because normies will hate your guts for it, there is no openness in that. The advice at its core always comes down to “be yourself”. That clearly isn’t working so here I am. This is the problem in a nutshell: Feel insatiably horny so go out and try to get laid get blown out and chased into hiding because I didn’t know what I was doing come here or other self improvement community. Get told it’s all my fault and I should be myself and talk openly and chill next time instead of trying to do everything perfectly Go out and do exactly that, once again, goes poorly come back and get told I wasn’t calibrated enough which made me look extremely weird to others justifying them being so unforgiving towards me So I use more calibration the next time around. All it does is put me in my head worried about accidentally saying something uncalibrated, but at least it doesn’t get me kicked out come back complaining about no girls being interested get told I need to be more filterless and speak openly with people because being in my head makes me unfun to talk to and we’re right back where we started Are you starting to see why I’m so tripped up over this? Calibration vs free expression is either a great balancing act or an outright contradiction. All I know is I’m very good at one at the cost of the other.

You mean like a house party? That would be different than an open public venue because at least at a party there’s a chance of the hosts considering both sides of the issue without bias. In a club, the women are the cash cows, the reason all the men are there and why so many drinks get sold. So they’ll do anything they can before kicking them out. If it was a public space you’re talking about then I’m glad to hear that. Even still, she was probably acting like a total unhinged freak to get herself the boot, much worse than whispering in someone’s ear or saying something uncalibrated. Right? Do average people with girlfriends and families never have mental health problems? I know it won’t solve any traumas, but neither will an exercise routine or a healthy diet. It may not solve anything fundamentally but it sure will help massively. I am sure of it. I would never under any circumstance. Being locked in a cell for ten years doesn’t sound very good. (Btw, even not being a rapist isn’t enough to fully protect you from life ruining accusations anymore) When someone craves sex as much as I do, even if they know they are aren’t a rapist, isn’t needing and wanting it so bad enough to make you come off like one? Let’s also not forget that lacking social skills alone is all it takes to make you appear as a potential threat in a woman’s brain. Because what’s so disrespectful about that? Isn’t there something we learn in this community about how social norms and things that make people offended are very subjective and vary radically between cultures? Some women actually appreciate that sort of humor. Doesn’t mean I should be punished for the crime of saying it to the wrong person. Because those are what everybody says. Saying something like that is different and unique and “unfiltered”. Notice people saying having no filter is a good thing. It makes you stand out, and in a good way for some. I’d rather say call her a lucky girl tbh, to switch things around for a change. Because they’re authentically expressing themselves with no filter, something people here say to do. I would love it if we could all stop freaking out so goddamn much about what others think and about people saying things that shatter our teeny tiny bubble of what is and isn’t appropriate. It’s called the golden rule: Treat others the way you’d like to be treated. But that goes both ways. If you think that harmless statement that in all likelihood could be found in a pg-13 movie is disgusting and tasteless, boy do I have news. There are jokes that are actually disgusting. I have some if they won’t get me warning points. Have you seen the how to get laid series? Leo says even wackier things than me and gets away with it. Go call him disgusting. Either people stop being gigantic fucking pussy ass little bitches about everything, or I’ll have to develop a much better filter and restrict the fullness of my personality to this bland, stale, cookie cutter version of reality and men and women that it sounds like you want. The murder comparison is wild. Now that we’re making crazy comparisons, you know how infuriating and disrespectful it is to women when people blame them being sexually harassed or assaulted on their choice of clothing? Same feeling for us when we get kicked out of somewhere for our choice of humor or conversational topic. Wanting to be a murderer just because they exist isn’t the same as wanting to be a filterless person because they exist One kills people, the other makes insecure people feel temporarily uneasy

I feel like all that’s gonna do is turn you into the guy on the right in this picture

Actually it may not be that simple. You know there’s a common thing where PUA masters will be very toxic and mean to the girls they pull as payback for putting them through so much misery to get to that skill level. If people (girls especially) were so good at picking up on people’s hatred towards them, shouldn’t they have not been able to attain such a high rank in the first place? This suggests misanthropy/misogyny is not necessarily an obstacle to getting good with chicks

I know this to be true with all my heart but most people who’ve had plenty of it keep telling me it’s actually not all that great once you get a taste of it, and they’re only helping us get it so that we’ll be able to see first hand that it actually isn’t everything so we can move on to the more important work. I disagree with this because there are lots of sex and bdsm addicts out there and I’m certain I’ll be one of those guys hooked and chasing it for life once (if) I finally experience it. Yes, it is completely God awful beyond words to be this miserably deprived with very little opportunity to work towards getting it, more and more with each passing year it makes me wanna

So I just looked for one. I typed in pro dommes in (my area) and it just came up with a bunch of sketchy websites and pics of women in their fifties. I clicked on one and it said “not secure” in the url bar so I noped the fuck outta there. I clicked on a different one and it was just some shitty website trying to confirm my age and info and stuff but the woman looked fairly hot. Didn’t say anything about being near my area. The ones i really want live a million lightyears away. What do?

Something tells me I’m a full half to blame for this thread being revived, at least

I wish you would’ve told me that. I’m already the undisputed, world class champion at making a fool of myself. It comes so naturally I do it by default without even trying The answer is approach. It’s absolutely harder to approach than to ice bathe. Harder to approach successfully that is. Ice baths do help you grow, but only towards getting better at taking ice baths. In my experience it does next to nothing at all for approach anxiety or making it easier to overcome other life challenges. All it is is an amazing and healthy temporary high and nothing more

My problem is how unforgiving people are about someone acting uncalibrated. If some girl gets a weird vibe from your social sloppiness, that’s very difficult to recover from because she tells others and suddenly everyone thinks they need to avoid you at all cost. When you make mistakes (which you’ll be making a whole bunch of as an inexperienced approacher) how do you mitigate the damage to your reputation?

Why? Indeed it would be. I’m fully aware of it. That’s why I strongly disagree when people say sex is just another experience at the end of the day. As if it’s not the most legendary thing in existence. If you were as completely and utterly deprived of female affection as I am and for as long as I’ve been, you just might be able to overcome that phobia Once you see in person just how good they can look I’m fully on board with bdsm being a healthy expression of sexuality. But as with anything else it can also become unhealthy. Just depends. While I have very little sexual experience to reference, I do agree that when you have one or multiple very strong kinky fantasies that get fulfilled, it makes the whole experience ten times more intense than just having vanilla sex. At least I think it would be.

Not if your city is too small and you don’t have the money or ability to get the money to move out If I understand it right, it sounds like she’s saying the reason men fail to get partners is because they’re not focused enough on what they want. That confuses me because when you get rejected by a girl, were you not focused on her? Currently yeah but it hasn’t always been that way. Even when I was in much better shape mentally and physically there were still no girls to be had

If a guy pins down a girl attempting to have his way with her so she knees him in the balls to escape safely, yes. Then it would be a well justified result of sexual abuse. But groin attacks by themselves are sexual abuse. Like when done in non-self defense scenarios such as for laughs or to get revenge over something.

Here’s an interesting bit from an article titled “Groin attacks and what you can do to protect yourself from it” from a website called “brain eggs” The way it says to protect yourself is basically just don’t piss off girls “For heterosexual boys, a late childhood or early teenage experience where there is painful stimulation of the genitals by someone from the opposite gender who seems to enjoy inflicting this sort of pain, is hypothesized to be at the source for the development of an unhealthy* fetish. A fetish that later turns these boys into men who get sexually aroused from women giving them extreme pain in the groin. (*A ballbusting fetish is unhealthy if it involves extreme pain without letting the body get used to it over the years. If initially it started out gentle and over the years it became harder, the groin tissue has likely become more resilient and can stand more impact with reduced risk of lasting damage. This sort of gradual build up is identical to the principle that also makes ‘iron groin’ training effective in the ability to withstand kicks to the groin.)” The article also makes the case that groin attacks on non-consenting victims can parallel the psychological trauma of that scene in survivors of sexual abuse. It technically is sexual abuse, just not traditionally or legally considered as such

There are still many others yes. But that “many” is smaller than its ever been in history and the numbers are still dropping rapidly. Notice the birth rates in most developed countries. The problem is way way way too big for it to purely be blamed on men not acting right. Some yes, but not all. A large chunk of it is millions of disenfranchised men like me fed the fuck up with all the bullshit and dropping out of the game because of it. But I’d still like to keep trying for a while before giving up for good. Go find some YouTube videos of “how to do xyz with a girl” and the top comments will usually be something like “Step 1: Find a girl” That’s very true but it doesn’t really apply to the pursuit of sex or temporary relationship. The sexual equivalent of that would be me going up to a girl and asking “Do you want to have sex with me.” Because likewise, my intention is having sex and it’s well known that sexual intercourse with another human can be a lot more fun than masturbation. But you clearly can’t be that straight forward about it and expect good results. Instead you have to jump through all kinds of retarded little hoops and obstacles that take years and thousands of approaches to master in order to consistently woo women to that point. There lies the problem. I think a big part of the problem this has with men and women dating wise is: Since women nowadays are being taught to regard every man that talks to them as a potential rapist or murderer, and men are being heavily heavily shamed and scorned for coming off at all creepy whatsoever whether intentionally or not, that puts us on eggshells to say the least when we try to approach a girl. That anxious, on edge feeling stemming from dreading accidentally looking creepy exudes out into the girl you’re trying to get with, entirely sabotaging the mission. The very energy you’re trying to avoid as to not give her a bad feeling about you, gives her that bad feeling about you. It’s like a self fulfilling prophecy perpetuated by both parties; guys because if they could some how stop worrying so much, they wouldn’t have that weird energy, and girls because if they’d stop inaccurately judging nervous guys as actual creeps and actual creeps as attractive gentlemen, then men wouldn’t have as much to worry about because they’d know the women could see they’re truly harmless despite the uncomfortable energy.