JustThinkingAloud

The younger we are, the less information is stored in our brains. That’s why we don’t have a problem believing in Santa when we are kids. We don’t know any better. The older we get and collect more information about the world around us, the harder it is to believe in something that contradicts our stored information.

Very funny, thank you haha I'm trying not to picture that! haha I feel naked!

I’ve always been different, I got high IQ, I love to be honest. All these keep getting me into trouble so I try not to show it. Now you have it! Most of the people find it scary, annoying, intimidating etc Wow, I can’t believe I said it, now I might be in trouble again, all your fault! Haha (weird ?!?!)

Great! Out expectations can sometimes fail us but you still had some great time. Awesome

It’s you subconscious, it’s still you. Keep persevering with changing your mind and it will happen. It does need some time to get persuaded.

You didn’t get the love you wanted/needed. I’m really sorry about that as every child should get lots of love. Luckily, you still have whole your life ahead of you and plenty of time to get the love you want. Be open to love, make it easy for people to love you, appreciate the love you get and reward it with loving back so they keep loving you. It might take some time to find the love you want and be open to it but it can be done. All the best!

You don’t have to choose one thing if it all works for you. The only thing to watch out for is that you don’t do too many things. Not only that it can be exhausting, you might not become as good at something as you could if you put all your focus into one thing.

I don’t fully understand what is your problem with your mother. What are/were the reasons for your arguments? Me and my partner grew up in dysfunctional families, it really helps knowing what the real source of the problem is. Now, when you’re older, it’s easier to look back and analyse what actually happened. Also, it’s easier to remove a problem when you understand the cause.

Define work. Focusing on something that you enjoy 100hrs a week is completely fine. I think that at Elon Musk’s level, it’s not about work, it’s about passion that he’s fully focused on, he lives his passion. Of course, it’s not sustainable if we don’t watch our physical and mental health but I think that it can be all done quite well. We can “work” while exercising, watching TV etc.

I like that. I also watch their body language to see whether they’re interested, like it etc.

It all comes out of you thinking at some stage that you’re superior because you can do something that other people can’t, it happened often enough for it to become subconscious. You’re trying to suppress it but it’s still there. Maybe try thinking that you’re great at something and that’s good. It doesn’t make you superior though. We all have a potential to be great at something, some of us realised that potential and some of us are still working on it. Nobody is superior to you either just because they can do something that you’ve never even dreamed of.

I think that men have a much stronger sex drive than we do, especially when they’re young. I think it’s a part of them that they can’t change and it’s one of their needs that needs to be satisfied for them to be happy. To take that away from you might be selfish on her part, sex is an important part of a healthy relationship.

I just knew, I was 100% sure. Even now, after 18 years, I still know. He annoys me sometimes but it never lasts long.

Each to their own, all that matters is that it makes you happy.

You can just talk to them. Say “Hi, how are you?” and see their reaction, it can tell a lot whether they are interested or not. You can tell by their body language and friendliness. If she likes you, she’ll make it easy for you to keep the conversion going.

We still are! We act, we think, we feel and that’s what makes us. Yes, the way we are can change but it takes work and only we can do that. I think that love is about respecting and valuing each others way of living. If you feel like you need to change someone then you don’t really love that person, you love the person that you want them to be. We grow and improve but that means that we become a better version of our old self not a different person.

Maybe just try to be friends with them first and see which one you like the most to take it further. When I wanted to find someone, I tried to socialise with as many people as I could to find a match.

I’d focus on the main goal to get me through it, you’re nearly there, only one more year to go. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to do things that we don’t like doing to get what we want. Every time you get miserable remind yourself that the final result will be so worth it and that it will be over soon. Good luck!

Maybe it’s because they think differently to you and that’s why it doesn’t resonate with you. And that’s completely fine, we all have different preferences, other people might find that very same post useful.

Maybe try small steps and see how it goes. You don’t have to commit to or succeed in anything when you’re doing new things and finding your feet. The theory is all good but reality can be different. You have self doubt because you’re trying to do something you haven’t done before once you start doing it, you’ll know better. Experience will make you much more confident. I hope this helps little bit

Every time I get lost, I remind myself that I want happiness for me and people around me. Let your imagination go wild and see what makes you feel good, that will give you the big picture. Then try to find practical steps that will lead you there and appreciate every progress towards it because every little progress gets you closer. I hope that helps

The more you repeat something, the stronger habit it becomes and you’ll start doing it subconsciously. So even though, it seems hard work to start with, keep repeating and you will eventually start doing it without even thinking about it and you’ll get your freedom back.

I think that it’s a natural reaction to have doubt when you’re trying to do new things. It’s a bit of a reminder to be careful. The more experience and knowledge you have, the more you’ll know whether you can do something or not.

It depends whether you think it’s an overreaction or not. If you think it is, talk yourself out of it eg it wasn’t that bad, I’m overreacting etc. If your emotions are justified then it’s a very important lesson that you need to learn from to make sure that it doesn’t happen again. The emotionality makes you remember what can happen to you again if you’re not careful or haven’t learnt how to avoid it. The bad feelings won’t be there all the time, only when they get triggered by something related to the event, eg. message from them or talking/thinking about it etc. If you’ll be getting yourself into a similar situation again in the future, the bad feelings will get triggered to remind you to be careful.

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